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How long? Chat to social or play meet?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you spend ages chatting then do a social ? Or straight to play maybe?
My new thinking is social in pretty quick or you can spend yonks nattering on, then social think: no. Or might think:yes, wish we'd met sooner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my meets are a social with view to playing that night
Being a single women I always meet in public first for a drink and a chat, I would never go straight to a strangers home or hotel room, but if we get on i like to play that meet
I'm not really into purely socials, if I meet somebody for a drink and we don't play that meet the chances are we never will
I see no point at all in going to the trouble of meeting somebody, getting along and going home to arrange another play date, if I have spent time chatting and flirting with you and its obvious we have a mutual attraction I want you now not two week on Wednesday  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Massive variation..... Has taken several messages and a couple of weeks.
Has also taken one message each way....play meet 30 mins after first message.
Both equally successful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How long it takes from chatting to meeting depends on when we are both free, not usually to long I'm not into long drawn out message ping ponging I get bored of people pretty quick, so if I've been talking to somebody for a couple of weeks and above and we haven't met I tend to stop messaging as its not going anywhere |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All my meets are a social with view to playing that night
Being a single women I always meet in public first for a drink and a chat, I would never go straight to a strangers home or hotel room, but if we get on i like to play that meet
I'm not really into purely socials, if I meet somebody for a drink and we don't play that meet the chances are we never will
I see no point at all in going to the trouble of meeting somebody, getting along and going home to arrange another play date, if I have spent time chatting and flirting with you and its obvious we have a mutual attraction I want you now not two week on Wednesday "
I think if someone has travelled it would be different, but I like a pure social first. For me it builds the tension more but I'm not the norm. But I do it quicker now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All my meets are a social with view to playing that night
Being a single women I always meet in public first for a drink and a chat, I would never go straight to a strangers home or hotel room, but if we get on i like to play that meet
I'm not really into purely socials, if I meet somebody for a drink and we don't play that meet the chances are we never will
I see no point at all in going to the trouble of meeting somebody, getting along and going home to arrange another play date, if I have spent time chatting and flirting with you and its obvious we have a mutual attraction I want you now not two week on Wednesday
I think if someone has travelled it would be different, but I like a pure social first. For me it builds the tension more but I'm not the norm. But I do it quicker now. "
I only tend to do one off meets so I'm not really bothered about building friendships etc
That does not mean I'll fuck anybody though I still need mental and physical attraction but I can gage that over a couple of drinks  |
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"All my meets are a social with view to playing that night
Being a single women I always meet in public first for a drink and a chat, I would never go straight to a strangers home or hotel room, but if we get on i like to play that meet
I'm not really into purely socials, if I meet somebody for a drink and we don't play that meet the chances are we never will
I see no point at all in going to the trouble of meeting somebody, getting along and going home to arrange another play date, if I have spent time chatting and flirting with you and its obvious we have a mutual attraction I want you now not two week on Wednesday "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i'm pushing for socials asap so i'm not chatting for ages with wankers, not arsed about fucking anyone though. well i'd love some good sex but not rushing into anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I get bought a bag of crisps with a drink It would be rude not to have a fumble afterwards surely  "
Kin 'ell what would I get for a bag of chips and a vimto?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I get bought a bag of crisps with a drink It would be rude not to have a fumble afterwards surely
Kin 'ell what would I get for a bag of chips and a vimto? "
And a battered sausage? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I get bought a bag of crisps with a drink It would be rude not to have a fumble afterwards surely
Kin 'ell what would I get for a bag of chips and a vimto?
And a battered sausage?"
If he gets lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually a week of chat then meet. Any longer and I get bored. I want to meet in person and see if we get on; otherwise chatting online is a waste of our time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We generally like to get to meet pretty quickly, I lose interest after a while if chatting online but can talk for hours face to face. I also find people can come across badly online or alot better than they actually are, where as in real life it gives you a chance to see if you actually get on with them rather than their online persona.
Social to play. Can be same night, can be weeks/months in some cases it has been years if we meet at a party and don't get a chance to play!
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By *red438Man
over a year ago
Weston-super-Mare |
"Do you spend ages chatting then do a social ? Or straight to play maybe?
My new thinking is social in pretty quick or you can spend yonks nattering on, then social think: no. Or might think:yes, wish we'd met sooner.
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Gender bias,
I find that guys want to go straight from messaging to play,
Women slow down, build over time with a social.
Both have there merits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm gonna stick to doing what I've always done and that's meet someone socially within hours or a day of first contact. Having recently spent best part of a month texting and talking on the phone to someone only to be blown off when it came to meeting, I won't make that mistake again. Can't shake the rejection feeling off now, haven't slept, feel sick. I don't take rejection well and with each one I experience as I get older the worse it seems to feel. So now it's back to quick socials where I haven't invested any time in that person before meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a mild interview process followed by a Skype session? Probably takes between 2 to 3 weeks to meet me x"
Interview process lmao.
Not that the attention on Fab goes to anybodys head or anything 
Yeh if someone told me I was being subjected to an interview process I'd be making the decision on their behalf, ie computer says no |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm gonna stick to doing what I've always done and that's meet someone socially within hours or a day of first contact. Having recently spent best part of a month texting and talking on the phone to someone only to be blown off when it came to meeting, I won't make that mistake again. Can't shake the rejection feeling off now, haven't slept, feel sick. I don't take rejection well and with each one I experience as I get older the worse it seems to feel. So now it's back to quick socials where I haven't invested any time in that person before meeting. "
Don't take it to heart. It's crap but next time might go far better. |
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By *red438Man
over a year ago
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"I'm gonna stick to doing what I've always done and that's meet someone socially within hours or a day of first contact. Having recently spent best part of a month texting and talking on the phone to someone only to be blown off when it came to meeting, I won't make that mistake again. Can't shake the rejection feeling off now, haven't slept, feel sick. I don't take rejection well and with each one I experience as I get older the worse it seems to feel. So now it's back to quick socials where I haven't invested any time in that person before meeting. "
So even a woman as beautiful as you can experience feelings of rejection.
It's not so much that I'm surprised, it's more that I can relate to your experience.
We are not always going to be everyone's cup of tea, some prefer coffee.
Rejection can be painful, especially depending on how it's done. Being asked to send a face pic then being blocked, ouch!! Being sent a polite thanks but no thanks and maybe best wishes tagged on takes alot of the sting away.
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