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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some men and women are aesthetically beautiful and I can think wow. Yet recently I've been drawn to minds more sexually and physically they can be not my type. Yet I still think pwoar. Can a mental attraction outweigh physical for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me no, no matter how nice a guy is if I don't find him physically attractive I couldn't have sex with him, but the same goes the other way round I couldn't have sex with a nice looking guy if there was no mental attraction, need a good balance of the two |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not for me no, no matter how nice a guy is if I don't find him physically attractive I couldn't have sex with him, but the same goes the other way round I couldn't have sex with a nice looking guy if there was no mental attraction, need a good balance of the two "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there has to be some sort of physical attraction but the mental attraction is far more interesting than purely physical at the end of the day their has to be connection |
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Its a mix of both those things , though a mental attraction can lead to so.much more delightful things.its a meeting of minds , the best alchemy leads to the best chemistry  |
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"It used to be a lot more about physical for me but lately definitely more about mentality"
Spot on! There needs to be a physical attraction, obviously, but I find that secondary to a mental attraction. If you don't like the other person as a person then there's no point. |
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Elements of the two. Has to be a mental attraction, a connection. Someone I can have a chat and a giggle with. Has to be able to hold my attention during recovery breaks lol. "Come to bed" eyes and a sexy bum also help  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think both are important but depending on the person and my mood their weighting changes, so some Guys i meet are more physically stimulating than mentally and vice versa. That is what is so wonderful about fab...the variety means i don't have to always want the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not for me no, no matter how nice a guy is if I don't find him physically attractive I couldn't have sex with him, but the same goes the other way round I couldn't have sex with a nice looking guy if there was no mental attraction, need a good balance of the two
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a mix of both those things , though a mental attraction can lead to so.much more delightful things.its a meeting of minds , the best alchemy leads to the best chemistry "
I like the word 'alchemy' so much more than 'chemistry'. The former suggests the mystery and magic of real attraction, whilst the latter smacks of the formulaic (x+y=wow!). I have met people who were at first 'not for me' who during the course of coffee became 'yessss, now, please..'. Alchemy, yes. Always a wonderful surprise, making gold. |
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"Its a mix of both those things , though a mental attraction can lead to so.much more delightful things.its a meeting of minds , the best alchemy leads to the best chemistry I like the word 'alchemy' so much more than 'chemistry'. The former suggests the mystery and magic of real attraction, whilst the latter smacks of the formulaic (x+y=wow!). I have met people who were at first 'not for me' who during the course of coffee became 'yessss, now, please..'. Alchemy, yes. Always a wonderful surprise, making gold. "
Yes I had one of those off a dating site lol, he was so enthusiastic and persistent I finally agreed to dinner and half way through, WHACK it hit me!
We went for a walk and had an hour of passionate snogging, he was a fabulous kisser lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can see someone with a plain face on initial look but the moment they interest me their whole face changes, lights up and has character"
This for me too. And it works in reverse too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless there's a mental attraction for me there is no physical attraction. There might be an aesthetic appreciation without it but it's not remotely sexual unless I like them as them."
This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some men and women are aesthetically beautiful and I can think wow. Yet recently I've been drawn to minds more sexually and physically they can be not my type. Yet I still think pwoar. Can a mental attraction outweigh physical for you? "
No. It can't outweigh it, but it isn't something I compartmentalise because you take the person as a whole.
Some people can increase or decrease in their attractiveness to me though in the sense that I could get on really well with them on the Internet but feel no chemistry when we meet, and vice versa x |
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