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Couples that allow each other to play alone
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"Just throwing this out there other than condoms a must what other rules do you insist on."
We don't insist on anything....we have discussed at length what we want and don't want - this is respected by the other at all times as this is for our mutual pleasure  |
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We all always tell each other what we are doing/who we are meeting beforehand, there as been occasions where me or Kim are in an immediate situation & we ring each other.
We don't mind what the other person gets up to but when its secretly done it becomes unfaithful. |
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over a year ago
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Hi there
My girlfriend is looking to play with a lady for the first time 
She says it can only be with someone we both do not know soooo here's asking all you lovely lady's whom must be very clean to even be considered
My girlfriend has massive values so please be nice !!!
Dx Kx
K is short so prefer someone whom is not too tall maybe 5'6" max and not too large, just our preference
Thank you for reading please reply with photos, not pussy or cock we all know what they look like |
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"We like seeing photos of the fun after it has happend. But not a must. Main thing is honesty, we are happy to play solo but we always tell the other half about it after words. "
Where we are filming all the time for work this is something we don't do when swinging as its great to put the camera down for a change, the photo thing got us into porn & swinging in the first place so i know where you are coming from guys. |
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"I think allow is an interesting choice of word"
I say I'm allowed to play alone, because I don't know how else to word it? In the same way I'd say I was allowed to slap someone round the face in a play? It doesn't mean that person owns me. Just that they gave permission for me to do something that in other circumstances would have been very painful for them.
Our rules have relaxed as we've gone along. Mainly now I would never have a secret meet or even secret conversation with someone behind my husband's back. His main rule is "inclusion" in whatever format we agree at the time.
Whether that's rules he wants me to follow, or taking photos or being there during a meet. Or even that he simply gets hot sex before and/or after the meet.
I did video for him once (in fact he was filming it) and it was very sexy. Still watch it now!
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By (user no longer on site)
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We both play alone. We have strict rules, agreed upon and the same for both of us, No bareback is top of it. Its a non negotiation thing and if it stops a meet it stops it, safety is no accident |
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"These are all reasonable. Too many people still consider it cheating of even if the other half knows and allows  "
Who considers it cheating?  My husband wants me to be a "hotwife" and it was his idea?
(I just so happen to like it.  ) |
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"These are all reasonable. Too many people still consider it cheating of even if the other half knows and allows "
Can't see how it's cheating if the other half knows, but some people do have some funny ideas on here  |
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"Just throwing this out there other than condoms a must what other rules do you insist on."
There are not rules, more how we play in any situation being solo or as a couple
Safe sex and honesty always with everyone involved, that includes whom we are playing with. We tell eachother who we are meeting and where for safety reasons. If either of us feels not comfortable with the meet, we would cancel.
It's all for good fun otherwise there is no point
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I've never swung as a couple so I don't know how applicable any opinions that I might provide could be, but I've had a similar conversation with a swinging friend before and I think my views helped them.
I suggested making your OH as much a part of the meet as possible - even if they won't be there! Such as, picking out underwear & clothes to wear on the meet together, or picking out props to use on the meet together. It's still something to enjoy as a couple, so maybe having photos from the meet taken back to the partner, or "enjoying" the memories together between the couple at a later date? It'd probably help to have a mutual respect & friendship between all three parties too, and communication, openness & honesty too - make sure that all three people absolutely want it to happen, have all considered any repercussions and are all comfortable with it.
As I said - I can't provide an opinion from experience, but those are the aspects I'd personally pay attention to. |
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I film all my meets so hubby and I can watch them back together!
Obviously this is on my profile and one of the first things I ask once we start chatting Xx |
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"What puts me off meeting men from a couple is being discussed afterwards. Discretion is forgotten about in those circumstances. "
My wife videos her meets, we discuss them and watch the video together.
All she wants to know from mine is if I had a good time.
I think that's quite common among couples that play separately from what I've seen. |
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"I think allow is an interesting choice of word
I say I'm allowed to play alone, because I don't know how else to word it? In the same way I'd say I was allowed to slap someone round the face in a play? It doesn't mean that person owns me. Just that they gave permission for me to do something that in other circumstances would have been very painful for them.
Our rules have relaxed as we've gone along. Mainly now I would never have a secret meet or even secret conversation with someone behind my husband's back. His main rule is "inclusion" in whatever format we agree at the time.
Whether that's rules he wants me to follow, or taking photos or being there during a meet. Or even that he simply gets hot sex before and/or after the meet.
I did video for him once (in fact he was filming it) and it was very sexy. Still watch it now!
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I was being a bit of a pedant about the word, but I understand what you mean. I think it depends how you come to swinging that changes how you approach playing apart. |
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