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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It always has been
Maybe you've already met everyone whose criteria you meet ?"
Maybe but it'd just not fun. Even chatting to people isn't what is used to be. Probably time to call it a day!
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over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically? |
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically? "
Works for me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically? "
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not everyone can meet at the drop of a hat, especially couples who have children and need to find childcare...or singles for that matter...
I have to plan my meets in advance for this very reason and its always been that way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth."
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is??? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"not everyone can meet at the drop of a hat, especially couples who have children and need to find childcare...or singles for that matter...
I have to plan my meets in advance for this very reason and its always been that way "
That's what I mean. I'm not complaining about the perceived lack of meets. All the joy is seeping away from it is all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
Wheres your sense of humour op...we dont have rules ,just bowl up and smash the lasses pasty.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is??? "
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....Wheres your sense of humour op...we dont have rules ,just bowl up and smash the lasses pasty...."
Yeah well I always thought that you have more fun up north! Way to stuck up down here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?"
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....Wheres your sense of humour op...we dont have rules ,just bowl up and smash the lasses pasty...."
If there's no rules he might prefer the tradesmans... |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
Works well for me...
surprisingly well...
But I don't have the belief that every lady will want to shag me senseless, or accommodate at their's.
happy fabbing to you OP, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle... "
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle...
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days!"
I think there's a market for speed swinging... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not everyone can meet at the drop of a hat, especially couples who have children and need to find childcare...or singles for that matter...
I have to plan my meets in advance for this very reason and its always been that way
That's what I mean. I'm not complaining about the perceived lack of meets. All the joy is seeping away from it is all."
so change your expectations then...or lower them then maybe you might get lucky  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle...
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days!
I think there's a market for speed swinging... "
Are you saying I only last for a couple of minutes?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle...
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days!
I think there's a market for speed swinging...
Are you saying I only last for a couple of minutes? "
Minutes! What's your secret? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle...
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days!
I think there's a market for speed swinging...
Are you saying I only last for a couple of minutes?
Minutes! What's your secret? "
A cork! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've only been here 8 months!
The 'old days' are a lot older than that and if you stick around long enough you know that the more things change, the more they stay the same."
Well I have been here longer. I left and came back so all in all been on here for a few years. Not everyone is having the same experience it seems which is great. Probably just me and probably means I should just quit and save myself a load of time etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle...
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days!
I think there's a market for speed swinging...
Are you saying I only last for a couple of minutes?
Minutes! What's your secret?
A cork!"
You must use that de-sensitising lube. Mrs Mixed actually prefers a 15 second pump to an hour of love making, she says it's better to 'get it over with' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
So you'd prefer funny people with lower standards basically?
Well that's misinterpreting what I said and putting words in my mouth.
OK, it's just that the opposite of having rules is a free for all that could get very awkward and the opposite of expectations is???
I'm not saying people shouldn't have certain 'rules' as everyone does but a lot of profiles are lists of 'don'ts' and little else. All in all it leads to a very negative experience. It's supposed to be fun after all, right?
You've got a point there. Most profiles make for pretty negative reading but it's obvious why that is and I'm stumped for ideas to reverse the cycle...
Yeah true. I understand why too. It's like it's starting to eat itself a bit. Shame really as it used to be a laugh and now it has people like me moaning and going on about the good old days!
I think there's a market for speed swinging...
Are you saying I only last for a couple of minutes?
Minutes! What's your secret?
A cork!
You must use that de-sensitising lube. Mrs Mixed actually prefers a 15 second pump to an hour of love making, she says it's better to 'get it over with' "
Well who are us men to argue? |
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
We've had great laughs on here |
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
Well this post is a barrel of laughs.....expecting, nay demanding a discussion  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
Well this post is a barrel of laughs.....expecting, nay demanding a discussion "
Thanks for your input then. |
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"You could always quit whinging and do something about it
Thanks for the sage advice
You'll find it was quite thymely.
I liked my herb joke anyway. "
it was very funny. Perhaps thats why you do so well |
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
Nah, Fab is awesome, parties, clubs, socials and meets coming at us left, right and centre.
Guess you just have to know how to use it to get the best out of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At the risk of repeating myself ad nauseam on these kind of threads:
Rule 1 for getting meets on Fabs: Don't be a dickhead.
2) If you are not getting meets: see 1. "
Where does it say anything about meets or lack thereof? |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
You can't change others behavour only yours ... If you're not enjoying it change something.
I'm having fun, laughs and every so often. Frolics a plenty as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the risk of repeating myself ad nauseam on these kind of threads:
Rule 1 for getting meets on Fabs: Don't be a dickhead.
2) If you are not getting meets: see 1.
Where does it say anything about meets or lack thereof? "
On your status  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....
Nah, Fab is awesome, parties, clubs, socials and meets coming at us left, right and centre.
Guess you just have to know how to use it to get the best out of it. "
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"At the risk of repeating myself ad nauseam on these kind of threads:
Rule 1 for getting meets on Fabs: Don't be a dickhead.
2) If you are not getting meets: see 1.
Where does it say anything about meets or lack thereof? "
in your status |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At the risk of repeating myself ad nauseam on these kind of threads:
Rule 1 for getting meets on Fabs: Don't be a dickhead.
2) If you are not getting meets: see 1.
Where does it say anything about meets or lack thereof?
On your status "
Fair point but it's not what I'm talking about. I've never had loads of meets but always had a laugh regardless. Anyways, I'm calling time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At the risk of repeating myself ad nauseam on these kind of threads:
Rule 1 for getting meets on Fabs: Don't be a dickhead.
2) If you are not getting meets: see 1.
Where does it say anything about meets or lack thereof? in your status"
Not in the post, genius! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It has its ups and downs.
In the last couple of weeks, I've had a difficult, one-sided, week-long conversation with a good-looking but very bored-sounding crank from St Helens who thew a total strop for no good reason after a week of chatting and promptly unfriended me.
Then again I also got chatting to an unfeasibly attractive young Welsh lady, which led to a mind-blowingly enjoyable meet within a few days and we're still exchanging messages, photos and the odd video, and planning our next meet.
I'd call that a definite win! If only they were all as good as that! |
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
I think the point is, if you take note and obey those rules, meet their expectations and have a sense of humour, then this place is the Shangri La of meeting people socially and sexually. Imagine the site is a tool - one has to work out how to use it to get the best from it. |
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FAB is only a tool to be used . You can give people a hammer
some will do nowt with it as can't be bothered making any effort and it's just boring
Others will hit their finger with it complain it hurts and do same again .Then keep doing exact same thing keep whinging and exspecting something different to happen and are shocked when it doesn't .
Then there are those who take time, put thought and research and imagination and use it to make something incredible.
All had the same hammer, the out come is dictated by their own efforts and not by the tool given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"FAB is only a tool to be used . You can give people a hammer
some will do nowt with it as can't be bothered making any effort and it's just boring
Others will hit their finger with it complain it hurts and do same again .Then keep doing exact same thing keep whinging and exspecting something different to happen and are shocked when it doesn't .
Then there are those who take time, put thought and research and imagination and use it to make something incredible.
All had the same hammer, the out come is dictated by their own efforts and not by the tool given."
If I had a hammer
I'd hammer in the moring
I'd hammer in the evening
I'd hammer all day long |
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"FAB is only a tool to be used . You can give people a hammer
some will do nowt with it as can't be bothered making any effort and it's just boring
Others will hit their finger with it complain it hurts and do same again .Then keep doing exact same thing keep whinging and exspecting something different to happen and are shocked when it doesn't .
Then there are those who take time, put thought and research and imagination and use it to make something incredible.
All had the same hammer, the out come is dictated by their own efforts and not by the tool given.
If I had a hammer
I'd hammer in the moring
I'd hammer in the evening
I'd hammer all day long "
you got to be old to remember that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last few months have been amazing for us . It's always been good on fab , but recently it's gotten even better than we imagined it could .
We had times when we thought our reputation had damaged our opportunities to meet ..... Then all of a sudden , it all went crazy and we are turning meets down as we don't have the time to fit them all in !
Fab and the people on here are fantastic .
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Tch did I miss all the fun ... again!?
Who's gone UNLOS on us now!? "
(Reads opening post. Thinks it's probably not someone she knows. Checks hotlist to be on the safe side. All accounted for)
I neither know, nor care.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"FAB is only a tool to be used . You can give people a hammer
some will do nowt with it as can't be bothered making any effort and it's just boring
Others will hit their finger with it complain it hurts and do same again .Then keep doing exact same thing keep whinging and exspecting something different to happen and are shocked when it doesn't .
Then there are those who take time, put thought and research and imagination and use it to make something incredible.
All had the same hammer, the out come is dictated by their own efforts and not by the tool given."
I've got a hammer  xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss....Fabs gone to the dogs!!"
kiora; i'll be your dog, i'll be your dog
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"Is it just me or is Fabs going down the pan these days? It used to be fun but now it's just full of people with rules, expectations and no sense of humour. Discuss...."
We want to swing the way WE want to swing including when, where, and with who.
Sadly there are quite a few who think that because we are on here we are available 24/7 and will drop everything because they want a meet. We wont.
We have never, and will never, swing at home and we find the whole meet in a bar back for a shag routine uncomfortable and clinical. It is not the way WE want to swing.
There are some fabulous sexy people on here who we would love to meet (OK they may or may not want to meet us but hey ho that's life) but there are also some we wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.
That is why we have rules.
Expectations? Because of our location we don't meet many people from here so expectations are zero.
Sense of humour? That is for others to decide.
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I'm a damn high standard and at least an average expectation 
