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WHY do some people read a message and then mark it as unread!!??
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"Is it too hard to say something short and sharp like.."like your message will respond later"?"
Yes, it is;
Some people may have 20.+ messages like that: or perhaps they are still considering it.
If you keep stressing about it, you will only feel worse......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I don't want to reply at that very minute and I don't want mardy follow up messages asking me why I haven't replied at that very minute.
Or because I won't want to reply full stop.
Or it's because some single men watch their sent messages like hawks and throw hissy fits about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have.."
I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho  |
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"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have.."
ok the only way i can see you can tell if its been opened and marked is if your refreshing the profile constantly
Now thats odd |
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"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..
I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho "
thats what i dont get |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..
I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho "
That is a fair arguement, Lol, but I have noticed, and I got to say,I would much prefer a no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just thinks its a little odd to say or look like you haven't done something when you have..
I find it odd that someone would even notice a message has been read and unmarked never mind a thread about it. But hey ho
That is a fair arguement, Lol, but I have noticed, and I got to say,I would much prefer a no thanks"
For me it can be it is a message I want to respond to but don't have the time, I'll just save it for later if it's something quick like a thanks but no thanks it would just be just that then deleted. Your thinking way too much into it. I've never used the saved messages Barr to save details of a organised social details. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cause i clicked by mistake. Because it deserves a proper repky later. Or because i intend to delete when thr sender is less likely to notice and have a pop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do it loads. Means we ar coming back to it. More to the point, if the sender is watching it for an instantaneous reply, then I think he/she is going to be pushy and not for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not just delete it..and if they continue to bug you, block them."
i do block people if i'm not interested and they message me too much but i try not to because i don't want a big blocklist.
no point inconstantly deleting messages every minute though and messages are coming every minute, sometimes a few, sometimes nothing for a while but it's just not convenient to delete every single thing. i used to go through my inbox and take my time reading everything, deleting everything i wanted to delete, then reply to the people i wanted to chat to. used to take me an hour or two to get through my inbox so now i don't.
i check my inbox from time to time, am constantly in it if chatting. otherwise i unread anything i am not interested in and leave it. sometimes i leave it because i intend to reply later, sometimes i just don't want the sender to know i've read and ignored it.
everyone uses this site the way they want to in a way that suits them. if they don't reply take it as not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's been a couple of occasions when I've deleted sent messages that haven't been opened. Then get a response ages later. By that time I've forgotten what I said in the message. So I've deleted their reply.  |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Because I don't want to reply at that very minute and I don't want mardy follow up messages asking me why I haven't replied at that very minute.
Or because I won't want to reply full stop.
Or it's because some single men watch their sent messages like hawks and throw hissy fits about them."
I do it as sometimes I am at work and don't have time to reply so read mark unread and reply when away from work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message"
I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message
I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??"
True, I've translated that into can't be arsed |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"They can save it, then they won't lose it"
Only site supporters can 'save' received messages. Non-site supporters will often 'mark as unread', so that they can use the 'delete all read' button to clear the dross out of their inboxes. Assume it's a compliment, more often than not - they don't think your message is dross! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message
3. To annoy the paranoid"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message
I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??
True, I've translated that into can't be arsed "
If i couldn't be arsed i would open the message then ignore it. That's "can't be arsed"!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message"
Majority said to respond when they have time. You sound well para! |
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Sometimes timing, sometimes trying to think of a response
Sometimes easier to leave as marked unread
So you don't get the usual stroppy well you read why haven't you responded answered by me saying I was responding to other messages followed by the block. |
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"Please tell me why"
Because we can. Some people are very needy and want a reply straight away. I don't always have time for message tennis, so marking it as unread gives me the option of chatting at a later time.
Katie. |
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And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read. "
(It's after threads like this that I only read and mark as unread if the sender hasn't got their blue-dot showing)
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read.
(It's after threads like this that I only read and mark as unread if the sender hasn't got their blue-dot showing)
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I haven't got a blue dot |
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"Some interesting responses so far...which when boiled down come to two categories..
1. Cant be arsed to respond
2. Dont want them to know that I have read their message
I think most people actually said they were leaving it so they could return to it later.....or was i reading a different thread??
True, I've translated that into can't be arsed "
well there you go thats how you translate it. I mark as unread when i want to think about what i want to say. So bugger a with cant be arsed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people have to open post every day questioning how others use the site?? "
Because if they don't ask they won't know. 
I like threads like this. It's interesting. |
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And to save the moaners messaging about not having a reply once it's been read.
(It's after threads like this that I only read and mark as unread if the sender hasn't got their blue-dot showing)
I haven't got a blue dot "
You would if you pm'd me  |
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