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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.  |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I take the majority of the compliments on here with a big pinch of salt. However when I give them I mean them.
In real life it's always lovely to recieve a compliment. It's still not easy for me to just accept them though.
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"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile. "
Hello Jo,
Sincerity .... matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Off the people who matter to me yes they are invaluble. Off my peer group on fab yes they also matter. Off other fab members n Joe public it depends on the context. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I see something worth complimenting, I compliment. I appreciate any I get. I think it can brighten someone's day a little. I don't do false compliments though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.
Hello Jo,
Sincerity .... matters. "
Hiyer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.
Hello Jo,
Doh not me ...hang my head in shame and walk away quickly
Sincerity .... matters.
Hiyer "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.
Hello Jo,
Doh not me ...hang my head in shame and walk away quickly
Sincerity .... matters.
Hiyer "
Pants cant do that right either
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always remember a time when I was running a retail business which was obviously turnover driven . The business owner would see me every month and we would go over the figures , and as the business grew he would tell me how well I was doing which was a major factor in driving me .
Anyway after a few years he went away , missed a monthly meeting and when he saw me for the next one he was a bit stand offish despite a major upturn in figures . I felt totally deflated so rang him a week later and asked him why he hadn't mentioned it . He told me that one day he may not be around to compliment me on my performance , and it was time for me to be self motivated . I was 25 at the time and didn't full get it , but here I am now 30 years later running my own successful business . Best thing that ever happened to me !
But on a superficial level , a well meant compliment is nice to give and receive . |
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I like to think that I don't need them but there's probably a deep human need for them at some level. No man is an island. We're social creatures and lack of human social nourishment when young leads to potential disorders.
I give them and also like to say what my deep feelings are, rather than something that leaves others guessing or wondering what the ulterior motive really is.
Always a pleasure to receive. Like fab 'straight' there are also fab 'compliments', with their own meanings. |
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"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile.
Hello Jo,
Doh not me ...hang my head in shame and walk away quickly
Sincerity .... matters.
Hiyer
Pants cant do that right either
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Well keep trying! Gotta be something you can do right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I take the majority of the compliments on here with a big pinch of salt. However when I give them I mean them.
In real life it's always lovely to recieve a compliment. It's still not easy for me to just accept them though.
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 same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On here, compliments are not often given freely. There is nearly always an agenda behind them.
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This. I don't tend to compliment guys because they seem to lose interest when I do. No clue why?
And I don't tend to believe compliments if they are given to me. But a part of me lies to myself and pretends it's true on here, cos let's face it, you don't get many compliments in the real world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Compliments from Marc are important to me, yes. If he stopped complimenting me I think my self-esteem would diminish a bit.
When people other than Marc compliment me, it's nice but I wouldn't say it's "important" to me. On fab it's a completely different story because compliments are usually complete bull shit.
I don't like people who can't take a compliment, though. It can get annoying when I genuinely compliment someone and they feel like they just have to disagree with me. I was reading a book on Englishness that said this is a common trait of English people. It's drives me crazy. |
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"Compliments from Marc are important to me, yes. If he stopped complimenting me I think my self-esteem would diminish a bit.
When people other than Marc compliment me, it's nice but I wouldn't say it's "important" to me. On fab it's a completely different story because compliments are usually complete bull shit.
I don't like people who can't take a compliment, though. It can get annoying when I genuinely compliment someone and they feel like they just have to disagree with me. I was reading a book on Englishness that said this is a common trait of English people. It's drives me crazy. "
Cough....... I can help you there Courtney. It is true. If you say to an English woman. ' I love your dress!' they will reply .... 'Oh ..this old thing. Had it years. Bought it for buttons in Primark. Worn to death now.... uhmmm ermmmm thanks. You can have it if you want. .......
That's cos... English people were brought up to consider it CRASS to make personal remarks about others and therefore never learned how to behave socially when someone does.... other than wanting to punch their lights out that is.. or run. |
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"I don't like people who can't take a compliment, though. It can get annoying when I genuinely compliment someone and they feel like they just have to disagree with me. I was reading a book on Englishness that said this is a common trait of English people. It's drives me crazy. "
What, this old trait? I've had it for years, handed down by my parents, almost used it to death now, I could teach you how to do it if you like...
Run, Granny!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me no.
But ill happily give a compliment if I think something is worth it.
I personally don't like cheap lip service.
Prefer it to come from the heart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not important for me. I spent 30 years with a man who only once said I looked nice and once said he thought I had beautiful eyes. That was when he realised I was going to leave. Compliments don't make me feel better about myself,I don't care what others think of me. |
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I love compliments, i love being complimented on things that are not obvious. I love getting compliments with no alterior motive. My favourites are from people who you know are not free with.
The ridiculous over the top compliments on here make me smile, smile at the fact they really think im going to go for that shit.
Im free with my compliments cause when i pay a compliment im just telling the truth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Compliments from Marc are important to me, yes. If he stopped complimenting me I think my self-esteem would diminish a bit.
When people other than Marc compliment me, it's nice but I wouldn't say it's "important" to me. On fab it's a completely different story because compliments are usually complete bull shit.
I don't like people who can't take a compliment, though. It can get annoying when I genuinely compliment someone and they feel like they just have to disagree with me. I was reading a book on Englishness that said this is a common trait of English people. It's drives me crazy.
Cough....... I can help you there Courtney. It is true. If you say to an English woman. ' I love your dress!' they will reply .... 'Oh ..this old thing. Had it years. Bought it for buttons in Primark. Worn to death now.... uhmmm ermmmm thanks. You can have it if you want. .......
That's cos... English people were brought up to consider it CRASS to make personal remarks about others and therefore never learned how to behave socially when someone does.... other than wanting to punch their lights out that is.. or run. "
I hate it. It makes me feel like they want to be convinced that my compliment is true. If I say "oh your dress is nice," and a woman responds with "No, its just your average dress," what the hell am I supposed to say back? "Actually, yeah you're right, it's just an average dress, never mind"??? Meh. A simple "thanks" never killed anyone. |
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"I hate it. It makes me feel like they want to be convinced that my compliment is true. If I say "oh your dress is nice," and a woman responds with "No, its just your average dress," what the hell am I supposed to say back? "Actually, yeah you're right, it's just an average dress, never mind"??? Meh. A simple "thanks" never killed anyone. "
To this day I still haven't found a way to deal with "Pleased to meet you" I just panic.
Self-deprecation is fine up to a point, the problem comes when, as a nation, it becomes "Tall poppy syndrome" and we start trying to pull down anyone who achieves a modicum of success
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By (user no longer on site)
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Compliments are really important to me, not the I'll say anything to try and get in your knickers compliments, but genuine heartfelt ones like being told I'm good at my job, that kind of thing. If hubby compliments me I feel like I could take on the world. Maybe I'm just needy |
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Unexpected compliments are nice - I like it when a total stranger compliments my dancing or my riding. And compliments from the ones you love are important too. I don't often give them - so they are worth a lot when I do, though I regularly affirm in other ways.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Paying others compliments was proven a long time ago to affect your own confidence positively.
Something i always taught on my confidence course "
How/ why does that work? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get embarrassed if complimented as I'm not used to it. I get lots of comments from strangers about my height, often quite bitchy and unpleasant, so it's always nice to receive a genuine compliment from folk. |
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"I get embarrassed if complimented as I'm not used to it. I get lots of comments from strangers about my height, often quite bitchy and unpleasant, so it's always nice to receive a genuine compliment from folk."
Ok I don't get it what's wrong with your height ? Oh and by the way lovely leggs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like complimemts about me personally
I like them when they are about my work, kids etc
But I would rather people not make compliments about me as a person they make me feel uncomfortable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't like complimemts about me personally
I like them when they are about my work, kids etc
But I would rather people not make compliments about me as a person they make me feel uncomfortable "
And I know you and think your a lovely real caring woman .I would say that about you. x |
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"I take the majority of the compliments on here with a big pinch of salt. However when I give them I mean them.
In real life it's always lovely to recieve a compliment. It's still not easy for me to just accept them though.
same here"
same here |
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"I don't like complimemts about me personally
I like them when they are about my work, kids etc
But I would rather people not make compliments about me as a person they make me feel uncomfortable "
I like what I can see of your tattoos is that OK  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are compliments Important to you.? In life and on here or don't you care.? Was saying on This Morning Lack of compliments lead to low confidence. I give them and get them at times its lovely and makes me smile. "
not from a bunch of strangers on here, no...
but they are nice to recieve from people I know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I see someone wearing a beautiful dress or their perfume smells lovely or someone does a good job i like to compliment them...i love to see someone smile and it's just nice to be nice, and even nicer to be appreciated. I never expect a return and the positive effect it has on them and me is worth more than gold |
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