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Do you get as much attention offline?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have done pretty well online over the years. Where I have met some great people... I've noticed now when I go out , the only reason a hot 25 year old approaches me is for the reasons.

1) they want a drink

2) they want a light

3) they want cigarette

Now when I'm online that same 25 year old would approach me for sex..

Am I the only one experiencing this?

Online King , offline pauper

I know women/couples get 100's messages on this site.

How do you fair in your vanilla partying life?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always done OK. Surprising as I'm introverted and played second fiddle to an extrovert brother growing up. Comfortable in my skin now though, by and large, and that seems to be a more attractive quality with age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heels get the attention, seems that the sound of a stiletto can turn heads lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I don't get hundreds of men throwing themselves at me and begging for sex, but I've never HAD to find sex online. It's just the most convenient way and saves leading men on, if it were the weekend then a bar would be easier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never get any attention offline. If I'm honest dont get that much online either!! It's cool though. I like pratting around in the forums.

Don't get me wrong I get the occasional meet.

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By *o30Woman over a year ago

Lincoln

No attention offline, no attention online so I'm all good

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I've met some great guys out of Fab, and then they've either joined or admitted they're on here anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I don't get as much attention offline. Don't get me wrong, I've been approached and eyed by guys, but the number of guys who will ask for sex here but not in person is staggering.

Not to mention that I'm fully aware that I'm pretty average for a 27 year old woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

None off line

Some online. Not always the right attention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't go out much but still manage to "pull". I just choose not to x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i dont get at least 40 guys walking up to me each day telling me how gorgeous i am. If i was just simply looking for sex no problem but im not

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow I thought it was just me... I need to stay out of clubs.. I've become that creepy old guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always have attracted the wrong type of people both on and off line.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

I should have a degree in pulling women

i find it easier in real life than on here. Anything online is so superficial but can also be deceptive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Always have attracted the wrong type of people both on and off line.

Ohh so the bi men bother you at the pub also?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get plenty of attention in the big wide world but I'm not looking for sex out there. I don't go out with my friends to look for someone to go home with and I'm not looking for a boyfriend,so I don't take numbers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get attention offline but don't take it further than flirting. Prefer online attention for kinky uncomplicated fun just

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get little very little attention on here and no attention off here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hardly anyone would approach anyone offline asking for sex it's seen as rude and disrespectful unless maybe in a night club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Online or offline, I get little attention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get loads of attention on here and off here too .

But I don't go out to look for a fella so it falls on deaf ears unless I've had a drinkie then maybe snogs lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can walk in a pub and the whole place will just stare openly at my tits. Never get approached unless by a pissed up 20 something who chances his luck with a grope.

Pfft only a really determined guy could take them on anyway hehe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, all my attention/sex meets are from the cyber world

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

My tits get attention when out on the town not me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't get men showing me their cock and saying fancy a fuck in public like they seem to think is OK to do online, but I seem to do alright when out on the town

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably about the same, but that's only because I'm an unsociable human at the minute, as I can't be bothered to go in chat and not letting people message me. Pretty similar to when I go out, give of some sort of vibe that allows people to know

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hardly anyone would approach anyone offline asking for sex it's seen as rude and disrespectful unless maybe in a night club"

Bollocks .... I will pull out my cock at any venue and ask a woman fancy a fuck. If it's good enough for fab. It's good enough for the real world....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I should have a degree in pulling women

i find it easier in real life than on here. Anything online is so superficial but can also be deceptive.

Does this involve roofies and chloroform

no just charm and confidence "

What's that .... I just like to use my batton and hit them over the head like a true caveman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't get men showing me their cock and saying fancy a fuck in public like they seem to think is OK to do online, but I seem to do alright when out on the town "

What pub are you going to this weekend?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can walk in a pub and the whole place will just stare openly at my tits. Never get approached unless by a pissed up 20 something who chances his luck with a grope.

Pfft only a really determined guy could take them on anyway hehe "

I suggest you hide a knife in your titts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get far more attention off line than i do on here. I think its probably that in my area theres not much of what im looking for or im not what theyre looking for. I still enjoy my time here though

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Offline when I used to go out I used to get looks, but men are weird up here that they don't approach, but would walk into lampposts (that happened about 5 years ago)

Today I got a wolf whistle (when walking over a crossing) then I promptly made an arse out of myself and tripped over big style

, he then passed me and waved, I had no choice but to wave back

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Yes and it's a source of embarrassment to me and annoyance in my missus. :/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get 100's of men asking to shag me when I'm in asda and that but if I wanted to pull on a night out in a nightclub or bar I could. Just don't get the chance to see the contents of a guys pants like I can on here.

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By *asokittyWoman over a year ago

Nr Worksop

God no.

Either because I really am unattractive or because I don't put myself out there at all for fear of rejection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do alright on here and I do alright in the real world too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get way more attention in real life than I do on here, but then I'm not wearing kinky butlers hat of magnificent manhood all the time in real life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do get chatted up and flirted with on nights out but I have to remember on here I can flirt back, in real life I can't lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I probably talk to women more on here than in the real world.

But then I don't tend to go to pubs and bars looking to pull, but to have a few drinks with my friends and catch up so the situation doesn't really arise.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I don't get 100's of men asking to shag me when I'm in asda and that but if I wanted to pull on a night out in a nightclub or bar I could. Just don't get the chance to see the contents of a guys pants like I can on here. "

You crack me up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have more attention in real life .But that's probably same for most people I suppose as then you know what your getting when it's in the flesh. Looks first obviously then personality and body language kicks in.

I dont take Cyber land seriously as it's just fantasy play for alot of people.

And that's cool as everyone is here for their own reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got asked out the other week. First time in years i thought he was trying to sell me something qhen he asked for my number.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get plenty of attention and compliments in the real world, but when I'm out it's always with vanilla friends and I have absolutely no inclination to flirt with guys, swap numbers or take things further - I also make sure I come across as unapproachable.

I probably get less attention on Fab as I don't display many public pics and rarely post meets or statuses for attention

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"I can walk in a pub and the whole place will just stare openly at my tits. Never get approached unless by a pissed up 20 something who chances his luck with a grope.

Pfft only a really determined guy could take them on anyway hehe "

You forgot to mention the sexy arse to.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Offline when I used to go out I used to get looks, but men are weird up here that they don't approach, but would walk into lampposts (that happened about 5 years ago)

Today I got a wolf whistle (when walking over a crossing) then I promptly made an arse out of myself and tripped over big style

, he then passed me and waved, I had no choice but to wave back

Come down to Liverpool, we generally avoid lampposts her, even when we see a very hot woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly the same in real life as online.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

neither

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have little joy in 'real life'

Lots if attention online. It's easier to get my personality across online, I find people are so quick to judge by looks that I don't get a chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surprisingly I do ok in real life

I get asked out semi regular

I think it's my job, I get to know lots of people

I was in Wolverhampton the other week and a guy started walking beside me, noticed him keep looking but I carried on walking then he just came out with "do you fancy a drink"

Hard to believe I agree but true

I never accept though

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"I have little joy in 'real life'

Lots if attention online. It's easier to get my personality across online, I find people are so quick to judge by looks that I don't get a chance

Look more than fine to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very little offline. I'm quite shy in person. Girls around my age don't seem all that interested in me either.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

In relation to the amount of times I go out 'on the pull' compared to the amount of time I spend Fabing I'd say I do better in the real world but actually get more from here.

Over all I'm a happy bunny with the amount of sex I manage to get

but more is always better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get more luck on here and in swingers clubs, than I do in normal nightclubs. Strange I know.

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By *carlet_heavenWoman over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

I get lots of the wrong attention whether off or online

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

I get no attention offline. I never have done. And I get virtually no attention online also. I love chatting to women, I think I'm easy to be around and they often seem to enjoy my company but it never goes any further. It all baffles me

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By *ay BrowerMan over a year ago

Oldham

I have no problems getting attention and sex offline.

On here it's completely the opposite.

I do find it difficult flirting, chatting up, having a laugh etc via text

The women/couples : single men ratio doesn't help on here

People are also very much on guard when online and treat everyone with caution

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get no attention offline. I never have done. And I get virtually no attention online also. I love chatting to women, I think I'm easy to be around and they often seem to enjoy my company but it never goes any further. It all baffles me

Do you go out wearing those socks?

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By *iss AdventureWoman over a year ago

Wonderland

From those that know me off line I get lots of attention but I work in a make dominated environment so it's not surprising, but i'm no prude or shrinking violet so I give as good as I get and its all in good fun.

On a day to day basis though, I don't walk around with my bum out, or wearing corsets and heels so in that respect i get more attention on Fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Surprisingly I do ok in real life

I get asked out semi regular

I think it's my job, I get to know lots of people

I was in Wolverhampton the other week and a guy started walking beside me, noticed him keep looking but I carried on walking then he just came out with "do you fancy a drink"

Hard to believe I agree but true

I never accept though "

Was he good looking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"From those that know me off line I get lots of attention but I work in a make dominated environment so it's not surprising, but i'm no prude or shrinking violet so I give as good as I get and its all in good fun.

On a day to day basis though, I don't walk around with my bum out, or wearing corsets and heels so in that respect i get more attention on Fab"

Would you fancy a coffee social? And make sure you wear panties.... Long story but I might need them later

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"I get lots of the wrong attention whether off or online

I can't help myself. I just had to give you some more 'wrong' attention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get loads of attention in real life and here, I'm 51, and I don't know why, think it's my big tits and great personality. And I ooze sex so I've been told, oh dear life is hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Offline when I used to go out I used to get looks, but men are weird up here that they don't approach, but would walk into lampposts (that happened about 5 years ago)

Today I got a wolf whistle (when walking over a crossing) then I promptly made an arse out of myself and tripped over big style

, he then passed me and waved, I had no choice but to wave back

He didn't try to help a damsel in distress?

Never trust men in kilts

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I get loads of attention in real life and here, I'm 51, and I don't know why, think it's my big tits and great personality. And I ooze sex so I've been told, oh dear life is hard

I'm not hating the game , I'm just hating the playa

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get a little bit of attention online and virtually nothing off line.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Offline, none at all for a few years now. Online very very rarely, I most commonly have to make a first move to get any attention. But things change when you perceiver

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't been approached for years! People look (less now that I have a pixie cut instead of long hair) but they never ask me out. I must give a 'fuck off' vibe or something. The attention I got on my singles profile freaked me out at first, until I realized that it's the same for all women on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get asked to go blind dates with friends of friends all the time. I prefer casual fun though. I have slept with two mates mums though. One on here and one away from here.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When I'm out it's with my 'normal' friends generally for a gossip and some food. I work with lots of guys so it tends to get flirty at times. But that's it

I get way more attention on line

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The older I get the more attention I seem to get. Perhaps that's just being less comfortable in my skin, or maybe that's bollox and I just started looking around me and noticing more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Online yes...on Fab not much as its often too short, but have some quality that's regulars. Offline I don't look for it....keep a separate life of sin

Those 3 point that OP listed might be them sussing you out. A lot can be gleaned in how one responds to some very simple questions.

I've been told by a few of my meets that it only took 5 seconds to know whether it was purely social of it they wanted more....I think many women know what I'm saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I get asked to go blind dates with friends of friends all the time. I prefer casual fun though. I have slept with two mates mums though. One on here and one away from here."

I thought there were rules against hooking up family members of friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not looking for attention offline but I do receive it, will generally be men of a similar age though, either through business or socialising in a bar / restaurant.

Online it's a free for all attention wise but I know it is what it is, I ain't that delusional!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Online yes...on Fab not much as its often too short, but have some quality that's regulars. Offline I don't look for it....keep a separate life of sin

Those 3 point that OP listed might be them sussing you out. A lot can be gleaned in how one responds to some very simple questions.

I've been told by a few of my meets that it only took 5 seconds to know whether it was purely social of it they wanted more....I think many women know what I'm saying."

No they are not sussing me out. They just want a drink or Fag

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've been told by a few of my meets that it only took 5 seconds to know whether it was purely social of it they wanted more....I think many women know what I'm saying."

Less, to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get approached at all offline...but i think being married and all means i don't go looking....i don't get approached much on here either....More than the real world but not so that I don't have to work for it...i guess I'm not a natural peacock (or female equivalent

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get no attention offline, but then again I don't actually look like this in real life, I look like a harassed, slightly loony nerd girl in yoga pants

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since being on the forum I have learned how to repel attention quite effectively. I had no need to learn that skill in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not looking for attention offline but I do receive it, will generally be men of a similar age though, either through business or socialising in a bar / restaurant.

Online it's a free for all attention wise but I know it is what it is, I ain't that delusional! "

Good for you

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By *ali 69Man over a year ago

jersey

In the real world I wear more clothes and get far less attention . Then again it's colder in the real world, in more ways than one .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't even have them approach me in real life

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By *razedcatMan over a year ago

London / Herts

Unless I'm incredibly ignorant, I get ZERO attention offline. But that may just be because I never have time to frequent places where attention is more freely passed around...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm far more successful in real life. I'm guessing that means:

a) My photos are unrepresentative and don't do my astonishing good looks justice.

b) My profile doesn't reflect my vibrant and compelling personality.

c) I'm not vying for someone's attention amongst a hungry mob of thousands of desperate single males.

Hmmm, maybe it is just (c).....

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think you need taking in hand Howi!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I get lots of attention offline as a dancer, or sometimes when I ride, but I am not looking to pull when I am doing either, so I leave that for online!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i get plenty of attention when i go out but only coz i have kids and it'll be someone whose kids know my kids.

i don't go out much. last time i wet out for a drink was on my birthday last year and i did get chatted up by a married guy and a local rapper asked me to keep an eye on his phone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do better offline than on. But that's partly because people can see my face offline!

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I get asked to go blind dates with friends of friends all the time. I prefer casual fun though. I have slept with two mates mums though. One on here and one away from here."

You have slept with two of your mates mums! and your user name is 'genuinely thoughtful'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get any attention offline lmao

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i hide in hoodies and dress down so i dont get attention.

if i go into town with friends dressed up, to dance, i get loads of men who are d*unk kneeing at my feet and trying to get into my personal space...i hate it, so dont go out very often, it tests my patience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Always have attracted the wrong type of people both on and off line.

Ohh so the bi men bother you at the pub also?

You know it

them and others too

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By *ficouldMan over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

On line and the real world are two very different places.

Although since being online I think I notice things more, so I'm going to say more in the real world than on line.

Here I'm just another one of the male avatars who occasionally gets noticed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nowadays I dont get much either way haha. I used to do alright off line in my hometown though

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By *reakShow90Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Online I get none but oddly offline I do better in clubs and pubs do get a few girls talking to me and such might not pull but at lest they wanna talk more then what I get on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Purely dependent on where I am... Night out then yeah I'll turn some heads but generally in everyday life I get none. Maybe on some rare occasion but that comes once a year, if that lol

Online though... That's a different story. However, I have never let the attention get to me or have given any weight to what people I met online say. If I don't get the attention otherwise then I just assume that people lie online

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By *woOfaKindCouple over a year ago

Lancaster area

Very interesting topic!

My wife gets a pretty decent amount of attention. She never tries to be noticed, but quite a few older gents look at her. They'll try to start random conversations with her and such. She gets attention from both white and black guys.

As for me, I get a fair amount of smiles from ladies of all ages, Peurto Rican in particular, but not really any flirting. Where I used to live in Maryland, I was all but invisible, so being here in Pennsylvania (where my ethnicity means nothing to most women) has been a treat!

-JD

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

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