For the purpose of this thread i mean relationship as in romantic relationship. If someone asked you how many relationships have you been in do you have a criteria you base it on or do you class just being with someone as a relationship |
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"No I've seen people but not been in a fully committed relationship, I've been in 4 committed relationships  so what criteria would it have to meet for you to class it as committed relationship"
Someone that you plan a future I guess I've seen people (had dates) and stuff but it hasn't turned into anything and fizzled out. |
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I'd say both marriages were sort of committed and anyone id seen for more than a month, of which there were 4 others. I don't count one offs, viewed by cam or winks  |
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I guess being emotionally involved with someone would be my baseline, but that would normally mean in-love and exclusive to me.
I would say have been in 6 significant relationships, and committed to them all for the duration, but only fully committed myself 'forever' once, to my husband. |
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"I'd say both marriages were sort of committed and anyone id seen for more than a month, of which there were 4 others. I don't count one offs, viewed by cam or winks "
thats interesting as part of the criteria id use is a time span but i use a year |
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I'd say just the one.
My criteria is that we perceive ourselves as being in a committed relationship. We were serious about building a future together. And there was a mutual understanding of our relationship status (linked to my first criterion).
Although I've only gone out with two other guys ever, one for a single date and one for two dates, so there isn't much to compare my one "relationship" with anyway. |
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"I'd say just the one.
My criteria is that we perceive ourselves as being in a committed relationship. We were serious about building a future together. And there was a mutual understanding of our relationship status (linked to my first criterion).
Although I've only gone out with two other guys ever, one for a single date and one for two dates, so there isn't much to compare my one "relationship" with anyway."
thats courtney for explaining yours so well |
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I class a relationship as being with someone and imagining growing old with them, and that being the plan, best laid plans though eh!
By this criteria, I've been in 4 relationships, I was more into it than she was on each occasion, I was married to someone for 13 years and one day she told me that she was very sorry but she never loved me, she just wanted to be with someone so she could change her living situation, where as I thought that it was the greatest love story ever told.
I've always been Mr punch bag, emotionally anyway, oh except for wife no 2 who did actually like to assault me.
If I do get into a relationship again (I might now that I know that I'm a saviour of lost souls) it will be with someone who has her shit together, and has reduced her emotional baggage to one small carry on, any more than that and I will use the exits, here, here, and here.
I guess the criteria for kinky butlers significant other is someone who wont rely on me so much, that she has to stay with me just for her life to work or have any meaning, I want to be the fudge sundae of her life not the whole meal, strong independent women only for me, no more emotional cripples.
Wow, that all came out easy lol
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If om with someone for a period of time ie 6 months + and in that time we have seen alot of each other in our available spare time and always look forward to being together again then I'd class that as a strong relationship.
If I'm seeing someone as and when we feel like it and don't really miss them being with me then that to me is just something casual.
Both are equally enjoyable but just on different levels for me personally. |
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