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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sub in the bedroom but only to Master... meets I'm not submissive to,but I don't dominate men. Does that make sense.??
I like a man to be a man in my eyes... but doesn't mean he's in charge...
I could not physically dominate, and a man submitting to me would make me laugh.
Katie. X |
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am sub myself but i find that a guy messaging me about 'domming' me kind of puts me off lol
a lot of guys think its just about calling you names doing things hard and face fucking etc when its not its actually more subtle than that (ok sometmes the hard stuff comes ino play but its not all of it lol)
as soon as someone finds out i am sub they tend to change towards me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"am sub myself but i find that a guy messaging me about 'domming' me kind of puts me off lol
as soon as someone finds out i am sub they tend to change towards me "
I find the same.... get messages asking to be dominated... but if they read my profile... they will see I am never dominated by others.
I also find people suddenly think I'm a doormat... when they know I'm submissive.
Katie x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what do u like to be in the bedroom dom or sub ???
for me i love to be dom i really find it hard to be sub !! "
id love to be a sub but its so hard to break me down and tame me  |
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"I'm sub in the bedroom but only to Master... meets I'm not submissive to,but I don't dominate men. Does that make sense.??
I like a man to be a man in my eyes... but doesn't mean he's in charge...
I could not physically dominate, and a man submitting to me would make me laugh.
Katie. X "
What katie said,submissive is what i am,but but outside of my relationship with _wayman no one pushes me around.
There is a very good quote of a friends about Dom/sub relationships...
"Without your Dominance i could not submit,without your submission i could not Dominate,in this we are equals."
Pretty much sums up my _iews . |
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"what do u like to be in the bedroom dom or sub ???
for me i love to be dom i really find it hard to be sub !!
id love to be a sub but its so hard to break me down and tame me "
The best Doms would find that attractive,doormats are not sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am very dominant in everyday life, but a complete doormat in the bedroom, love to be ordered around by him, better still would be for a girl to boss me around (I WISH) x |
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"I am very dominant in everyday life, but a complete doormat in the bedroom, love to be ordered around by him, better still would be for a girl to boss me around (I WISH) x"
sub does not equal doormat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am very dominant in everyday life, but a complete doormat in the bedroom, love to be ordered around by him, better still would be for a girl to boss me around (I WISH) x
sub does not equal doormat "
Each to their own, works for me x |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"im not either to be honest
I do like asservive men in the bed room but i wouldnt say i like dom men, i think theres a difference lol "
Is there? Assertiveness is a component of being dominant, but I think the reason why I find the doormat analogy unhelpful is because, for me, directing proceedings, being sub is a very physically demanding experience, quite the opposite of lying there and having someone wipe their feet on you... |
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"im not either to be honest
I do like asservive men in the bed room but i wouldnt say i like dom men, i think theres a difference lol
Is there? Assertiveness is a component of being dominant, but I think the reason why I find the doormat analogy unhelpful is because, for me, directing proceedings, being sub is a very physically demanding experience, quite the opposite of lying there and having someone wipe their feet on you..."
Oh but having you wipe your feet on me is quite an experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Submissive for sure. I tried the Domme thing but I'm shit at it. In my head I think I'll be really good at it but I'm really not!  "
Not sure it works when your giggling... or thats what I found.. lol
Katie.x |
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"Submissive for sure. I tried the Domme thing but I'm shit at it. In my head I think I'll be really good at it but I'm really not!
Not sure it works when your giggling... or thats what I found.. lol
Katie.x"
i have never tried it because i am sure i would either apologise or giggle  |
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"Submissive for sure. I tried the Domme thing but I'm shit at it. In my head I think I'll be really good at it but I'm really not! "
i've tried it to but i am too nice and feel a bit silly lol
me and a good friend from here try to take it in turns but we are both too nice for it really. |
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"Submissive for sure. I tried the Domme thing but I'm shit at it. In my head I think I'll be really good at it but I'm really not!
Not sure it works when your giggling... or thats what I found.. lol
Katie.x"
I wasn't giggling at the time!
It does something for me in my head but it just doesn't really do much for in reality.
I prefer my imagination! |
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I think it would be really helpful if fab could add some extra "interests" categories for this.
Often I see "spanking" or "SM" on someone's profile, but it's really difficult to work out whether they like to top or bottom or both -- unless they state it in the profile of course.
It does make a difference to some folks I guess.
For my part, I'm neither really sub nor dom. I'm a masochist mainly, but with an epicurean need to explore all sorts of things. I like domme women, but I prefer not to sub to them.
So, yeah... there's not many women out there who are into that... sadly!  |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"Submissive for sure. I tried the Domme thing but I'm shit at it. In my head I think I'll be really good at it but I'm really not!
Not sure it works when your giggling... or thats what I found.. lol
Katie.x"
It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
I think any dom should be able to take a sideways look at themselves and wonder if they're a bit silly - it's no more than a reality check. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
I think any dom should be able to take a sideways look at themselves and wonder if they're a bit silly - it's no more than a reality check."
trust me there are times Master can not do what we are meant to be doing because something funny somehow came up.. and we are laughing to much to carry on... its very good for the soul..
Katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
Equally, on occasion, its hard to take some people's serious approach to BDSM seriously. "
First person other than MAster that tried spanking me.. I had to not giggle.. it was not good..
Also I once found myself laughing at someone I should of been serious too.. I just couldnt help myself.. its just the whole package made me think of something from a carry on movie..
Katie. x |
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
Equally, on occasion, its hard to take some people's serious approach to BDSM seriously.
First person other than MAster that tried spanking me.. I had to not giggle.. it was not good..
Also I once found myself laughing at someone I should of been serious too.. I just couldnt help myself.. its just the whole package made me think of something from a carry on movie..
Katie. x"
It's not really people I'm with that I have trouble with... I don't do the whole D/s thing very often... it needs trust so with the one person I do that with I know that if I laugh it's cool.
However, sometimes I see stuff in the chatrooms that just makes me cringe. I'm not getting the whole submissive (read doormat) thing because it's not the way I am. I look at the whole Ma'am and Sir thing to every tom, dick and harry that appears in the chatroom and it just makes me roll my eyes. I realise some people like it an that's fair enough... I just think it's a bit OTT.
I'm never going to be someone I'm not for some 'scene' ettiquette that I don't believe in. |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
Equally, on occasion, its hard to take some people's serious approach to BDSM seriously. "
Completely agree - it's what I call Dungeons and Dragons with added sex that makes me laugh uncontrollably. |
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
Equally, on occasion, its hard to take some people's serious approach to BDSM seriously.
Completely agree - it's what I call Dungeons and Dragons with added sex that makes me laugh uncontrollably. "
This one quite agrees with Y/you both |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
Equally, on occasion, its hard to take some people's serious approach to BDSM seriously.
Completely agree - it's what I call Dungeons and Dragons with added sex that makes me laugh uncontrollably.
This one quite agrees with Y/you both "
I didn't know you stammered... |
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It can be hard to take some people's approach to BDSM seriously, too.
Equally, on occasion, its hard to take some people's serious approach to BDSM seriously.
Completely agree - it's what I call Dungeons and Dragons with added sex that makes me laugh uncontrollably.
This one quite agrees with Y/you both
I didn't know you stammered..."
It's hard to speak clearly when gagged  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am just me....which means I am usually the one in control lol.
Hate the term Dom/Domme/Sub....just naturally Dominant in all aspects of my life and that includes sexually.
That doesnt mean I am going to unleash alsorts on them, it just means I know what I like, how I like it and dont have a problem sharing or showing the person I am with....and yes some of those things I like are kinky and would fall into the catagory of BDSM lol.
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