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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We all know you lovely ladies receive 1,239 messages an hour off us guys, and it's difficult to wade through them all..but if one is well mannered, well constructed and polite, surely its not too much to ask for a polite response?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In your dreams ...and i try to reply to all my messages ...and even try to reply to the lost ones which fall behind  "
that's because you are lovely and considerate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one."
I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always reply to polite messages, manners cost nothing - don't get many messages at all (4 on Sunday ha ha).
u will be inundated now  "
That would be amazing ...but i very much doubt it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one.I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess "
Nothing to do with manners, just accept it as a straight 'no, I'm not interested' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one.I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess "
Then there's no problem then. Those that don't reply aren't ill- mannered they probably just can't be doing with the "but why?" responses. It's just easier all round to ignore. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always reply to polite messages, manners cost nothing - don't get many messages at all (4 on Sunday ha ha).
u will be inundated now
That would be amazing ...but i very much doubt it "
never say never.  |
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I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says?? |
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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago
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I havnt the time to reply to all messages, i only reply to guys i interested in
Accept this fact that fems dont have the time to reply to messages...an its not us fems are rude an ill mannered
We are inundated with messages an its impossible to reply to every message
Accept this an move on. Its not the end of the world. Or anything to get upset over..simply move on an dont let it bother you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one.I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess "
Mannered enough to rsvp to every bit of junk mail that's posted through your door each day? Really?
No,I didn't think so.
No reply,is not interested and is mentioned in the site faqs for a reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one.I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess
Mannered enough to rsvp to every bit of junk mail that's posted through your door each day? Really?
No,I didn't think so.
No reply,is not interested and is mentioned in the site faqs for a reason."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one.I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess
Mannered enough to rsvp to every bit of junk mail that's posted through your door each day? Really?
No,I didn't think so.
No reply,is not interested and is mentioned in the site faqs for a reason. "
Love you're new avatar vara |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one.I'm happy. Just well mannered as well I guess
Mannered enough to rsvp to every bit of junk mail that's posted through your door each day? Really?
No,I didn't think so.
No reply,is not interested and is mentioned in the site faqs for a reason.
Love you're new avatar vara "
Thanks ive just had a swap abput xx |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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Well yesterday evening I wanted a few hours break from site - wanted to do something vanilla
Came back to 10 unread messages - I did scan read first few lines to see if anything urgent and then replied latter |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well yesterday evening I wanted a few hours break from site - wanted to do something vanilla
Came back to 10 unread messages - I did scan read first few lines to see if anything urgent and then replied latter "
you're a good man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all know you lovely ladies receive 1,239 messages an hour off us guys, and it's difficult to wade through them all..but if one is well mannered, well constructed and polite, surely its not too much to ask for a polite response? "
I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all know you lovely ladies receive 1,239 messages an hour off us guys, and it's difficult to wade through them all..but if one is well mannered, well constructed and polite, surely its not too much to ask for a polite response? "
I sometimes get polite, well mannered messages but they are missing a key element that I ask for in my profile. I say I will delete any messages without this key element yet I feel guilty deleting the message  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had 20 to catch up on from yesterxay evening. I replied to most but qhen i saw a cock avatar and someone who didnt live close i just deleted. Honestly there wasting their time so im doing them a favour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says?? "
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all know you lovely ladies receive 1,239 messages an hour off us guys, and it's difficult to wade through them all..but if one is well mannered, well constructed and polite, surely its not too much to ask for a polite response? "
Yes these women are terrible... I've been sending out multiple cock pics and fancy a fuck messages . I even put those dumb code words in. And do you think these women would have manners and send a polite no thank you?
No straight to the trash..... So classless |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We all know you lovely ladies receive 1,239 messages an hour off us guys, and it's difficult to wade through them all..but if one is well mannered, well constructed and polite, surely its not too much to ask for a polite response? We should all go on strike!!
Yes these women are terrible... I've been sending out multiple cock pics and fancy a fuck messages . I even put those dumb code words in. And do you think these women would have manners and send a polite no thank you?
No straight to the trash..... So classless "
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says??
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx"
Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't get many message ato all really maybe 2 or 3 a day in less in talking to someone... but I always reply with a sorry if in not interested. Unless they do on and on after I have said in motion interested then I just stopped message x
Mrs p xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says??
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx
Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?"
If you're not meeting why dont you block all guys and you're problem will be solved? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says??
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx
Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?"
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says??
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx
Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?
If you're not meeting why dont you block all guys and you're problem will be solved?"
Because I have people that I do chat to that are not on my friends list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get many messages so the assumption that all ladies are knee deep in them is a complete fallacy.
No response on here means not interested. It even says that in the FAQs. Accept that and your experience will be a happier one."
I don't take it personally when I fail to receive a reply. I just assume that I am not their cup of tea.
Other than your profile saying that you aren't in at the mo', I can't think why you haven't got much mail!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?"
Classic!.....i won't reply to messages but the OP must respond to my post |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?
Classic!.....i won't reply to messages but the OP must respond to my post "
which I duly did |
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Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?
Classic!.....i won't reply to messages but the OP must respond to my post "
Not at all. He is saying people are rude for not replying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to try and reply to messages I received but gave up when it became like a full time job.
I'm here to have fun not to do admin, I also have it quite clearly spelt out on my profile that i'm not meeting anyone new.
I'll skim though my inbox & occasionally send back 'no thank you' messages which usually generates more mail.
Viscious circle really as & I can see it from a mans point of view too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Replying negatively opens up discussion for abuse. It's not worth the effort of risking it. "
Well said .
It's nearly always a why not , or an effort to continue the conversation .
One never wants to be rude , so not replying is the best way . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says??
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx
Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?
If you're not meeting why dont you block all guys and you're problem will be solved?"
I don't block anyone because I like chatting on here with people I've met via the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Replying negatively opens up discussion for abuse. It's not worth the effort of risking it.
Well said .
It's nearly always a why not , or an effort to continue the conversation .
One never wants to be rude , so not replying is the best way ."
I don't find this. When I send a Sorry I'm not interested reply I get a thanks for replying message and that's it. Maybe they're relieved I said no  |
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"We all know you lovely ladies receive 1,239 messages an hour off us guys, and it's difficult to wade through them all..but if one is well mannered, well constructed and polite, surely its not too much to ask for a polite response? "
I consider myself exceptionally polite so regret not answering most of the messeges we get.
We travel a lot and attract messeges from areas we are passing through as well as local and just General messeges.
Usually we only meet in specific days when we are away so although messeges may be from people we would be very interested in at the right time and place, they may not be suitable right now.
So how do we reply?
A polite thanks but your not what we are looking for gets a "why not?" from 50% and outright abuse from maybe 10%.
An honest reply telling them they are what we are looking for but not right now or not in the area invites a whole series of messeges offering to travel anywhere, book hotels, arrange future dates, swap numbers, Skype, etc,etc.
This might seem OK from the occasional person but right now we have 162 unread messeges from people I glanced at who do fit our criteria. If I answers them all saying we are interested but not right now we would several hundreds replies from these people in the next day or two.
"We are interested but busy at the moment, we will be in touch" does not work. It invites a daily request to see if we are interested yet.
So in spite of all the comments about it being bad manners not to reply and it only takes a minute and so on, the reality is it is just not practical or possible to answer all replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people dont want to reply ..they do not have to ..its in the rules ... and if the rules says you dont have to ...i am sticking with those rules .... i like rules |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't care less any more about getting a reply,Christ I even get ignored from people I'm allegedly friends with.
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This is what i do.
Twat message ignored
Profile not read ignored.
Good, decent mesaages get answered and if i think theyve put somethought into it i compliment them on that (even if they are not for me) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If people dont want to reply ..they do not have to ..its in the rules ... and if the rules says you dont have to ...i am sticking with those rules .... i like rules "
You're just too good Jo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If people dont want to reply ..they do not have to ..its in the rules ... and if the rules says you dont have to ...i am sticking with those rules .... i like rules
You're just too good Jo! "
Nooooo i just like rules |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had more messages in the past 2 weeks than in the past year.....and my profile clearly states I'm not meeting at the moment.
Should I reply to all those people who quite clearly have not bothered to read or have ignored and just chanced there hand??
Is it not ok for me to consider them rude and bad mannered that they have completely ignored what my profile says??
I have my own profile and the amount of messages is ridiculous. It clearly states in my profile to only message if you want to meet and that I haven't got time for endless messages. I've also put that I will delete messages if they clearly haven't read my profile and I have if that is the case. Xx
Not sure why the OP is happy to reply to everyone else's posts but mine...?
If you're not meeting why dont you block all guys and you're problem will be solved?
Because I have people that I do chat to that are not on my friends list. "
If you delete everything ('men') off your Looking For list it takes you off the searches and reduces mail. |
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