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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The phrase 'jog on'.
When a profile justifies figure by referencing being 'a real woman'.
There are plenty of things, but these two leap out."
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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Couples and single ladies assuming that all single guys are the same desperate needy and will fuck anything etc. They don't read your profile assume you will do stuff your not comfortable doing just to sleep with there Mrs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell us more "
Not sure if serious... 
Anyway:
Profiles that can neither accommodate nor travel, yet want to meet. Presumably in the ether.
Overstating features that could be considered unflattering. I understand a woman saying 'I've had a few kids', but when it starts reading like Wilfred Owen tackling the post-natal form it's a bit much.
One that I understand but sometimes have a thin skin with is the Mission Impossible styled 'Messages will self-destruct if you don't include the secret phrase elsewhere in this profile. Changed into Wingdings'. Sometimes, particularly with a longer profile, it's natural to check against yays and nays and make your mind up that it's worth saying hi without reading in full. If you've respect enough for tone and nuance you know a profile isn't going to take a last minute detour right off the love cliff.
Enough rambling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm regulary told by lots of single guys on here there treated with contempt and suspicion by females and couples who think the fab world is soley in their hands and just think to myself thank fuck I'm gay lol x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell us more
Not sure if serious...
Anyway:
Profiles that can neither accommodate nor travel, yet want to meet. Presumably in the ether.
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I can't leave my local area, I'm not prepared to travel to Cornwall or Scotland or even an hour away really so I don't travel. It doesn't mean I can't leave my house and meet in a local bar/pub.
I also don't have meets at my home. I'm happy to sort out a hotel room though.
So I don't travel, and I don't accommodate. What would you expect me to put? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell us more
Not sure if serious...
Anyway:
Profiles that can neither accommodate nor travel, yet want to meet. Presumably in the ether.
Overstating features that could be considered unflattering. I understand a woman saying 'I've had a few kids', but when it starts reading like Wilfred Owen tackling the post-natal form it's a bit much.
One that I understand but sometimes have a thin skin with is the Mission Impossible styled 'Messages will self-destruct if you don't include the secret phrase elsewhere in this profile. Changed into Wingdings'. Sometimes, particularly with a longer profile, it's natural to check against yays and nays and make your mind up that it's worth saying hi without reading in full. If you've respect enough for tone and nuance you know a profile isn't going to take a last minute detour right off the love cliff.
Enough rambling."
Thank you. I was serious |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell us more
Not sure if serious...
Anyway:
Profiles that can neither accommodate nor travel, yet want to meet. Presumably in the ether.
I can't leave my local area, I'm not prepared to travel to Cornwall or Scotland or even an hour away really so I don't travel. It doesn't mean I can't leave my house and meet in a local bar/pub.
I also don't have meets at my home. I'm happy to sort out a hotel room though.
So I don't travel, and I don't accommodate. What would you expect me to put?"
I can see how it can be confusing to someone. I put can travel and tell people who are too far away that I don't travel that far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also don't have meets at my home. I'm happy to sort out a hotel room though.
So I don't travel, and I don't accommodate. What would you expect me to put?"
If you're happy to sort out a hotel room then 'Can travel'. Unless you're Sybil Fawlty I suppose.
I understand what you're saying though. I just see being able to travel to a hotel as being able to travel. |
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attitude you know the one you can tell within a few seconds of reading a profile(not all like this). usually with something like
ATTENTION GUYS FOR THE LAST TIME!
just comes pf very cartmann in south park "respect my authorityyyy"
after having strange meetings in clubs with a small minority of nutty couples it just isnt worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couples and single ladies assuming that all single guys are the same desperate needy and will fuck anything etc. They don't read your profile assume you will do stuff your not comfortable doing just to sleep with there Mrs. "
The few Women I have met isn't just down to my ugly mug, I have preferences as well 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also don't have meets at my home. I'm happy to sort out a hotel room though.
So I don't travel, and I don't accommodate. What would you expect me to put?
If you're happy to sort out a hotel room then 'Can travel'. Unless you're Sybil Fawlty I suppose.
I understand what you're saying though. I just see being able to travel to a hotel as being able to travel."
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"It seems 'singleguys' put off a lot of other demographics...
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There are currently 21,000 people on site. I'm guessing at least half of these are single men.
The people who moan must get what, half a dozen messages they don't like a day? At most?
So what's that 0.05%?
So the problem is not singleguys, it's just some people's misguided perception of them, often exacerbated by those people not taking advantage of the site's features properly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love single men.
I wouldn't be on Fab if there were no single men on here "
Exactly! Just wish there were more actual real single men not men with unaware birds at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love single men.
I wouldn't be on Fab if there were no single men on here
Exactly! Just wish there were more actual real single men not men with unaware birds at home. "
I like the ones who can accommodate |
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"I love single men.
I wouldn't be on Fab if there were no single men on here
Exactly! Just wish there were more actual real single men not men with unaware birds at home.
I like the ones who can accommodate "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell us more
Not sure if serious...
Anyway:
Profiles that can neither accommodate nor travel, yet want to meet. Presumably in the ether.
Overstating features that could be considered unflattering. I understand a woman saying 'I've had a few kids', but when it starts reading like Wilfred Owen tackling the post-natal form it's a bit much.
One that I understand but sometimes have a thin skin with is the Mission Impossible styled 'Messages will self-destruct if you don't include the secret phrase elsewhere in this profile. Changed into Wingdings'. Sometimes, particularly with a longer profile, it's natural to check against yays and nays and make your mind up that it's worth saying hi without reading in full. If you've respect enough for tone and nuance you know a profile isn't going to take a last minute detour right off the love cliff.
Enough rambling."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its that whole thing about 'hate the player not the game'. Peoples agendas and criteria all come into fore. Typically its not one things that puts me off any specific individual - its s sense you get from them, a culmination of little (or big things).
In fact the reason my profile is hidden is because someones negative actions (toward me) had a negative impact (on me, personally) and Im taking time to reassess my approach and outlook.
I wonder if more people did the same (be sure in their own needs and desires and expectations) it would lead to less angst over what people write / demand in profiles and messages and the simple acceptance that they clearly don't have a meeting of minds over common ground.
Or maybe Im just rambling! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loads of things put me off. Crap tattoos and poor grammar are right up there along with gynaecological pics which resemble poorly assembled Doner kebabs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What puts me off....
1. Ranty profiles about single men
2. Ranty profiles saying everyone else is shit
3. Status messages attacking other members
4. Bareback
5. Dirty laundry in pictures (  )
6. Hoop Jumping Requirement
7. No pics on profile
8. Status messages "lamppost pissing"
9. Obvious Princesses
10. Couples profiles without pics of fellas (even though I am straight, this does annoy me... don't know why)
11. Text Speak
12. People that create long lists about what puts them off (  )
Genuinely surprised I get a meet every now and then.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its that whole thing about 'hate the player not the game'. Peoples agendas and criteria all come into fore. Typically its not one things that puts me off any specific individual - its s sense you get from them, a culmination of little (or big things).
In fact the reason my profile is hidden is because someones negative actions (toward me) had a negative impact (on me, personally) and Im taking time to reassess my approach and outlook.
I wonder if more people did the same (be sure in their own needs and desires and expectations) it would lead to less angst over what people write / demand in profiles and messages and the simple acceptance that they clearly don't have a meeting of minds over common ground.
Or maybe Im just rambling! "
It makes sense but I'd suggest continuing on as usual and having fun. That would undoubtedly annoy them more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I also don't have meets at my home. I'm happy to sort out a hotel room though.
So I don't travel, and I don't accommodate. What would you expect me to put?
If you're happy to sort out a hotel room then 'Can travel'. Unless you're Sybil Fawlty I suppose.
I understand what you're saying though. I just see being able to travel to a hotel as being able to travel."
Well technically that means I can accom and travel.
I see "travel" as meaning "outside their immediate area" because unless you're severely obese and can't fit through your front door, or chained to your bed, or you have a desperate fear of the outside, you're gonna be able to get to a hotel. Who would ever really tick "no travel"?
When people say they enjoy travelling or are going travelling, it never occurs to me that they mean just down the road to the nearest hotel.
I know it looks weird in the face of it but it makes sense to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1. Couple profiles where it seems there are some jealousy issues.
2. Ranty statuses about people they've met. Doesn't make me want to be the next meet and the next status but one.
3. Living far too far away while being hot. So inconsiderate this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting thread
For the record I like single men who don't conform & jump through hoopsthis is great always hearing what puts women and couples off"
I'm talking about myself not other women or couples.
I'm trying to be postive & encourage men to stand by their convictions & don't feel they have to conform if they don't want too.
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"If a women messages me and is really forward in first few messages without me made to do any work lol
I basiclly go shy  "
Ha, I hear that. A lot of single chaps go very shy when I initiate. Maybe they're accustomed to being the hunter, not the prey.
(Though I'm fully aware I scare the shit out of many) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate reading the terms " Very good looking " or " former model " in a profile.
Also when a couple messages me as a single guy and asks me to bring a girl with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm regulary told by lots of single guys on here there treated with contempt and suspicion by females and couples who think the fab world is soley in their hands and just think to myself thank fuck I'm gay lol x "
i net a couple socially.. They later texted me about half 11 at night, wantingu to meet me after having not 1, cut 2 meets that went wrong. No way .. 3rd. Best option?! Was insulted and said no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couples and single ladies assuming that all single guys are the same desperate needy and will fuck anything etc. They don't read your profile assume you will do stuff your not comfortable doing just to sleep with there Mrs. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A very forceful, almost aggressive profile going to enormous lengths to show how fiercely independent its owner is...
...only to be amended within days to read ***OWNED BY DINGBAT69*** (or somesuch). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a women messages me and is really forward in first few messages without me made to do any work lol
I basiclly go shy
lol those moments when you feel like prey"
Haha it's so disarming - I've not gotten over that feeling in years hah, resigned to believe it'll be there to the end of my days lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"attitude you know the one you can tell within a few seconds of reading a profile(not all like this). usually with something like
ATTENTION GUYS FOR THE LAST TIME!
just comes pf very cartmann in south park "respect my authorityyyy"
after having strange meetings in clubs with a small minority of nutty couples it just isnt worth it. "
...am I the only one who read this in Cartman's voice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What annoys me is women and couples that assume that every guy on here is desperate for a shag.
Also, some of the profiles are off putting with abusive language etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the profile is specific in what the lady or couple want or don't want then that's fine by me. If I think I am not for them then I won't message.
The bit that puts me off from sending messages is where the profile asks for a polite hello introduction and when you do there's just an instant delete. I know I'm not every lady or couples cup of tea (I'm a rocker, I wear black shirts with spiky writing and have long hair) but a simple thanks fella but you're not for me/us would be welcome as s polite response to a polite message.
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