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Hello Fab world!
am I missing something of my profile?
I'm in here for sex just like everyone else but I like to meet up first for a social then go from there.
lately I've been messaging women and just asking to get to know them nothing too upfront and I never get a reply.
I came on this site as a friend told me about it and I love sex but what could I be doing wrong?
I'm verified on a meet and webcam by two different women so I can't be fake like everyone is calling me.
can I have help to make my messages more successful?
Thank you
Louis x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your status, maybe.
A lot of women on this site have kids, you make it sound on your status that having them is an inconvenience to you meeting. At least that's what I see.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your status, maybe.
A lot of women on this site have kids, you make it sound on your status that having them is an inconvenience to you meeting. At least that's what I see.
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Totally agree with this. I never got further than reading the status.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm thinking probably your status at the moment!!
Try to remember, this site has loads more guys than women so women get to be very choosy about who they meet.
Your profile is fair and I like your pics, so I would definitely go on a social with you, but that's just me!!! Not all women like muscles and tats. We all have our preferences, and we can't all be attractive to everyone.
You have to grow a thick skin on here, take it with a pinch of salt and send some more messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
Perhaps they can see that you don't really get the whole "swinging" thing?
And it annoys you when women prefer to meet other men than you? Really? I think you might need to grow up a bit... |
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
Your profile states ypu can be a bit specific. So why can't women?
Or are you more pissed they'll meet men who you think look fatter, uglier, less fit than you? |
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"it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
Ah that's right. It's a sex website so because a female is on here surely she HAS to meet you. Never thought that you're not some peoples type? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
Do you think you have some sort of divine right, just because a woman fucks someone else doesn't mean they also have to fuck you. I'd say it's your attitude that causing your problems. Maybe you'd be better off on dialashag.com |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have to grow a thick skin on here, take it with a pinch of salt and send some more messages"
Yep, patience, it doesn't happen straight away...in the mean time enjoy the site
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your status, maybe.
A lot of women on this site have kids, you make it sound on your status that having them is an inconvenience to you meeting. At least that's what I see.
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.......and you will meet couples. ...."depending on the attitude of the male"? ...maybe you need to rethink that one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
Arrogance isn't attractive and secondly you can't use the forums to bypass someone's filters by asking them to message you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me
Arrogance isn't attractive and secondly you can't use the forums to bypass someone's filters by asking them to message you"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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can I have help to make my messages more successful?
Thank you
Louis x"
Just takes time to gain trust, respect & friendship, plenty chat both here and in chat room
hope it works out well
what weight do you bench? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yoire good looking and obviously take care of your self but you come across a bit prickish with that status. It maybe a sex site and youll tick the majority of the boxes but personality is a big one and atm youre coming across like you dont have much of one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
Wow  how entitled are you? |
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Personally Louis, I think you've totally missed the point of swinging.
You want to meet women who don't "fuck around", presumably so they can "fuck around" with you. That suggests that you're looking for some kind of exclusivity, maybe that is something better suited to a dating site rather than a swinging site?
On the other hand, your photo's are excellent, you look like an underwear model and you haven't made the mistake of including loads of cock pics.
Your status.... that's certainly something that wont help your cause. I would certainly delete is as quickly as possible. One simple "Fab Guideline" is that negativity is never a good thing. The person who you're cross with won't read your status and change their mind, but others will read it and think "this guy isn't emotionally mature enough for this site".
There are also a couple of things in your profile which annoy me slightly.
Firstly, why mention your job ??? if you don't want to tell people what you do, then don't tell them.... don't however tell them that you're not telling them, it just confuses them.
Secondly... "ABIT" isn't a word, obviously what you mean is "A BIT" (two words) but that little error makes you seem a little dim.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"drop me an inbox babe
and I mean is why do girls come on this site and want to date. it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me"
People use this site for whatever reason they wish...
You seem to be using it as a sex site, others use it as a dating site and still others use it as a swingers site! However they use it though is really none of your business so no need to spit your dummy out  |
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I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on |
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on"
Well don't get hung up over it, just move on and chat with new potential meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on"
So a woman shouldn't meet someone else when she's been taking to you? |
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on"
Ahhh, well problem solved.. block her and on to the next |
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
So a woman shouldn't meet someone else when she's been taking to you? "
I really don't think he's saying that at all. But if someone kept telling you they want to meet, then letting you down... but then getting veri for meeting others...wouldn't you be a bit naffed off?? I would.
Ok, we only have the OP word for that and sometimes things do happen where people have to cancel...but if it's every time from what he's saying... Then she seems to be a messer.
Or.... Is that ok coz it's a woman doing it?  |
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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
Ahhh, well problem solved.. block her and on to the next"
Dude... this is a classic case of your talking to another Dude who's getting his rocks off.. Have you ever really seen her ?? |
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
So a woman shouldn't meet someone else when she's been taking to you?
I really don't think he's saying that at all. But if someone kept telling you they want to meet, then letting you down... but then getting veri for meeting others...wouldn't you be a bit naffed off?? I would.
Ok, we only have the OP word for that and sometimes things do happen where people have to cancel...but if it's every time from what he's saying... Then she seems to be a messer.
Or.... Is that ok coz it's a woman doing it? "
She was due to meet him, Rescheduled and in between those 2 dates met someone else is what he said. I can't see what is wrong with that. It would be different if she'd met someone the day she cancelled his meet |
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
Ahhh, well problem solved.. block her and on to the next
Dude... this is a classic case of your talking to another Dude who's getting his rocks off.. Have you ever really seen her ??"
True, no I haven't...but I'm a firm believer in no one's ever worth that much trouble and angst, ever
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
So a woman shouldn't meet someone else when she's been taking to you?
I really don't think he's saying that at all. But if someone kept telling you they want to meet, then letting you down... but then getting veri for meeting others...wouldn't you be a bit naffed off?? I would.
Ok, we only have the OP word for that and sometimes things do happen where people have to cancel...but if it's every time from what he's saying... Then she seems to be a messer.
Or.... Is that ok coz it's a woman doing it?
She was due to meet him, Rescheduled and in between those 2 dates met someone else is what he said. I can't see what is wrong with that. It would be different if she'd met someone the day she cancelled his meet"
'Multiple occasions' she has bailed on him after arranging. Once - yes.... Keep doing it - no. |
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
Ahhh, well problem solved.. block her and on to the next
Dude... this is a classic case of your talking to another Dude who's getting his rocks off.. Have you ever really seen her ??
True, no I haven't...but I'm a firm believer in no one's ever worth that much trouble and angst, ever
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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from your status update I have a feeling you'd be all about the drama. Coming at you / coming from you & for me that's not appealing.
on a plus note your avatar is hot! |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"It's your status for me.
Regardless of the details and what you meant by it, it comes off a certain way. Not for me.
-Courtney "
Same here. Thought the profile was very good but the 'revenge' type statuses always come across as classless and bitter. We all get knock backs, they're part and parcel of fab, shrug them off and carry on, so much fun to be had if you're not putting potential meets off, your status has already done that. On a positive note though your profile will appeal to many so give it a bit more time we'd say and it's not a bad idea to come to the forums for opinions. You'll get many varied responses which can only help you get to grips with this place more quickly, a smart move in our book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your stays would be an instant delete.
Add in the attitude in here and the line "attitude of the male" would see you bounced down the road if it ever got to a social!
Grow up
Grow a little more skin
Think about what you say/write
As someone else pointed out - this is a swingers site and you've got no idea of the way it works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"from your status update I have a feeling you'd be all about the drama. Coming at you / coming from you & for me that's not appealing.
on a plus note your avatar is hot!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on
So a woman shouldn't meet someone else when she's been taking to you?
I really don't think he's saying that at all. But if someone kept telling you they want to meet, then letting you down... but then getting veri for meeting others...wouldn't you be a bit naffed off?? I would.
Ok, we only have the OP word for that and sometimes things do happen where people have to cancel...but if it's every time from what he's saying... Then she seems to be a messer.
Or.... Is that ok coz it's a woman doing it?
She was due to meet him, Rescheduled and in between those 2 dates met someone else is what he said. I can't see what is wrong with that. It would be different if she'd met someone the day she cancelled his meet
'Multiple occasions' she has bailed on him after arranging. Once - yes.... Keep doing it - no."
Given how long he's been on the site I'm not convicted by the word multiple |
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"It's your status for me.
Regardless of the details and what you meant by it, it comes off a certain way. Not for me.
-Courtney
Same here. Thought the profile was very good but the 'revenge' type statuses always come across as classless and bitter. We all get knock backs, they're part and parcel of fab, shrug them off and carry on, so much fun to be had if you're not putting potential meets off, your status has already done that. On a positive note though your profile will appeal to many so give it a bit more time we'd say and it's not a bad idea to come to the forums for opinions. You'll get many varied responses which can only help you get to grips with this place more quickly, a smart move in our book. "
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"it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me
Aww bless 
Yes to be honest you do come over a little immature. Your profile wouldn't attract me."
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"I think everyone has taken my status the wrong way.
I meant it as I will talk to a women get to know her and arrange a meet for just a drink or food something to see if attraction is there in person.
we chat all day everyday majority time she tells me she likes me. Multiple occasions I have been bailed on last minute for meets and she comes up with terrible excuses. and I accept it and arrange another meet a few days later but during that time she got fucked n a car by a random guy. that's what I mean I don't have a problem with women sleeping with men and I understand a lot more men so women can be picky. but when women tell you one thing and do the other is what I based status on"
What 'terrible excuses'? Unable to meet because of the children? People do have a life outside of fab. 
And her status could be from a meet weeks back, but only just done recently, or could have been someone she's been talking to for a while and only just been able to meet.
Your profile pic and general text is good, but drop the whiney status. For most women, it's more than just a good body, but attitude, maturity and how you present yourself also counts! |
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"it's a sex website and it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me
Ah that's right. It's a sex website so because a female is on here surely she HAS to meet you. Never thought that you're not some peoples type? "
The women on here aren't on there backs constantly waiting for the next man to hop on m8, I get plenty of meets and you won't see me moaning about the site or any of the people who don't want to meet me |
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"it anjoys me when a girl will fuck other guys but not meet me
Aww bless
Yes to be honest you do come over a little immature. Your profile wouldn't attract me.
I hope that was't aimed at me because I can take rejection from the town with a twisty spire "
We're very unique I'll have you know,not like that cloud cuckoo place,common as anything  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she keeps cancelling on you but is meeting other guys then maybe she's not that interested. Move on and find someone who wants to meet?
And yeah I know you're pissed off, but maybe tweak your profile text and change your status to something happier. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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The squinty photo is a bit weird. I'm not 'down with the kids' so not sure if its normal for that to be a thing. The rest of the pics are great.
Sounds like you're misunderstanding the site. If you chat to a woman and they give you the run around, move on and chat to another woman. There is a large swinging population in your area so put some effort it. there's also a pretty regular social in Newcastle, so maybe immerse yourself in the actual social scene.
This is not Tinder. You can't log in and expect to get someone dropping their pants for you. Its a swinger site, where you MAY (if you are lucky) find someone who wants just sex and move on, but you'll still have to work for it. I know I do, and I'm a single woman! |
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