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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do you do when you have been in a relationship for years,and a partner says ,I dont love you anymore I'm leaving,yet you still love them,how do you cope. |
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over a year ago
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I think it would be very difficult, I don't know what I would feel if Marc ever said that to me. It would crush me emotionally.
But as for what I'd do - I would pick myself up and move on. I wouldn't want them to be with me if they didn't want to be and I wouldn't want to be with them if they didn't want to be with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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finance is important but shouldnt affect your friends decision on what to do.
i was in a relationship for 6 years we had children together after 4 years the sex just wasnt the same it felt akward even. in the end i had to tell her i didnt love her anymore it was hard and ended in both of us crying but now we get on better than ever as friends (weve known eachother since schoool) |
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"Its happened to my friend ,she still loved him ,but now faces financial ruin  "
If they are on good terms still then can't he help your friend until she's gotten a job and back on her own two feet? If they were together for a long time and he did once love her I can't imagine he'd want to leave her in ruins. But I don't know them, of course. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its happened to my friend ,she still loved him ,but now faces financial ruin so is it about the finances and him leaving rather than the reason why?"
no not at all ,like i said she still loves him.That is just one thing she has to take into consideration. |
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"I wouldn't want them to be with me if they didn't want to be and I wouldn't want to be with them if they didn't want to be with me. "
Try saying that fast!
But OP that is devastating. A good solicitor will assert her rights and recover monies for sure x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its happened to my friend ,she still loved him ,but now faces financial ruin "
she does what everyone does in the same situation rebuild her life, get debt advice if needed. its not the end of the world. millions of people have encountered this and survived. staying with someone you don't want to be with because of finances is very shallow imo, money isn't the be all and end all. and yes I was left destitute and with nothing but the clothes on my back, homeless, jobless and managed to rebuild my life, it was tough but I did it and she can too if she has to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats happened with me 6 years ago after 5 years relationship one night when im back from work my ex just tell she move coz she love different boy and what i can do?now its a good friends and shes little boy love me lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I developed a drug problem. I wouldn't recommend that."
And i turned to alcohol in times of great stress. Not recommended either.
I hope you're straight now. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Because it happened just a few days ago ,she just dosent stop crying try to talk to her as much as i can,but shes ringing and texting him all the time and he's getting angrier,he's says he's not coming back but in her head she still thinks he will. |
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Happened to me in my last relationship, we still love each other but whatever we had wasnt enough. I fought to make it work for months but to no avail now ive dusted myself down and im getting on and im feeling good about myself and things.
A good counsellor helps massively too especially directly after the fallout. It helps you process the thoughts and emotions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because it happened just a few days ago ,she just dosent stop crying try to talk to her as much as i can,but shes ringing and texting him all the time and he's getting angrier,he's says he's not coming back but in her head she still thinks he will."
if he had any sense he would change his phone number and don't get her a way to contact him till the dust settles then they can sit down and discuss it like adults. it might seem cruel but it would be doing her a favour in the long run. shes too emotional and reacting instead of acting on the situation.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because it happened just a few days ago ,she just dosent stop crying try to talk to her as much as i can,but shes ringing and texting him all the time and he's getting angrier,he's says he's not coming back but in her head she still thinks he will. if he had any sense he would change his phone number and don't get her a way to contact him till the dust settles then they can sit down and discuss it like adults. it might seem cruel but it would be doing her a favour in the long run. shes too emotional and reacting instead of acting on the situation."
He wont change his number as children are involved .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I developed a drug problem. I wouldn't recommend that.
And i turned to alcohol in times of great stress. Not recommended either.
I hope you're straight now. Xx"
I very happily am. I hope you are too. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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she won't start getting over him until she faces the reality that he's not coming back and she can't change his mind about it.
leave her to it for a while, give her time for everything to sink in. she's just in the denial stage of grief and it's nothing to worry about.
only intervene if you feel you have to. and so what if he's getting angry, he must have sprung this on her and she had no idea it was coming. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"she won't start getting over him until she faces the reality that he's not coming back and she can't change his mind about it.
leave her to it for a while, give her time for everything to sink in. she's just in the denial stage of grief and it's nothing to worry about.
only intervene if you feel you have to. and so what if he's getting angry, he must have sprung this on her and she had no idea it was coming."
Agreed, not much to be don until she comes to terms with the facts first. Support and guidance but she shouldn't be trying to contact him, that will only get him pissed of and will make things more difficult in th long run. Even though he may be an arse for leaving suddenly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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At the minute shes in an emotional thinking phase and is really making irrational and emotional decision based on how she feels and no doubt the thought of losing him is scaring her.
She really needs to sit down an think that if this person doesnt love me do i want to be in a relationship with him? No. She will in time come round and stop thinking emotionally and will start to think rationally about the situation and move on. In the mean time be there for her but also be a friend and be honest with her, im sure however hard it may be to hear she will appreciate it. |
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"Happened to me in my last relationship, we still love each other but whatever we had wasnt enough. I fought to make it work for months but to no avail now ive dusted myself down and im getting on and im feeling good about myself and things.
A good counsellor helps massively too especially directly after the fallout. It helps you process the thoughts and emotions "
I'm single woooo just waving at u from over here  |
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"What do you do when you have been in a relationship for years,and a partner says ,I dont love you anymore I'm leaving,yet you still love them,how do you cope."
I had it the other way round, I life my then wife because I had fallen out of love with her, I tried my best and didn't say anything for years, carried on as if everything was normal but inside it wasn't and got to the point I had to leave
Yes I felt like the biggest bastard but I felt it wasn't fair on either of us living a lie
She is now re married and has two children which she would have never had had with me so I feel it worked out for the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happened to me in my last relationship, we still love each other but whatever we had wasnt enough. I fought to make it work for months but to no avail now ive dusted myself down and im getting on and im feeling good about myself and things.
A good counsellor helps massively too especially directly after the fallout. It helps you process the thoughts and emotions
I'm single woooo just waving at u from over here "
Wellllll hello there |
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