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Cheated on or not

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

OK my girlfriend told me a few years ago that although she loves me her ex will always be the love of her life and I'll be honest it didn't really bother me that much cause she said they would never be getting back together ( she is in Ireland and him in England). Then one night while having sex she calls out his name, she is always saying his name in her sleep and one night when she was d*unk apologised for being with two other guys. She says that she has never cheated on me but I'm sure she has just wondering what other people think

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

She doesn't sound like a keeper

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"She doesn't sound like a keeper "

Yeah but the sex is pretty good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was still in love with my ex for the first year i was with my current pqrtner. It happens but if its been a while probably best to move on xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would you stay with someone who sees you as an also-ran?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

does it matter if she has or not, you are on here looking for others . so it seems to me she can also do as she wants,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why settle for being someones sexond best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

She has helped me get over some pretty rough stuff and I guess I'm thinking I owe her a second chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im presuming she knows your on here then..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have a single male profile on here?

Why don't you just tell her and both have each other and other people together?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?"

Only came here after she said about the two guys

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Have you cheated on her I wonder...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If that was a relationship I was in, I wouldn't be thinking twice about what I'd do. I'd be leaving asap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As your on here tbf op don't think it matters either way. It's not like you just came on to ask a question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So, while you're giving her that second chance, you're scouting around yourself?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you cheated on her I wonder..."

Not yet. Joined here as a revenge sort of thing. Just didn't work out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys"

well that shows you dont really love her then if its just one big tit for tat playground type game..

end it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys"

That makes it ok then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you cheated on her I wonder...

Not yet. Joined here as a revenge sort of thing. Just didn't work out"

What could possibly be wrong with this relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How about you delete your profile, and have a real conversation with her about trust and mutual respect.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"OK my girlfriend told me a few years ago that although she loves me her ex will always be the love of her life and I'll be honest it didn't really bother me that much cause she said they would never be getting back together ( she is in Ireland and him in England). Then one night while having sex she calls out his name, she is always saying his name in her sleep and one night when she was d*unk apologised for being with two other guys. She says that she has never cheated on me but I'm sure she has just wondering what other people think"

Are you not here for the purpose of sex therefore cheating?

She sounds like she's not over her ex so your choice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So, while you're giving her that second chance, you're scouting around yourself?"

Haven't given her a second chance yet. And like I said joining here was meant to be a sort of revenge thing. " if you can cheat why can't I " thing. It just didn't pan out that wsy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like you both deserve each other....so either put up or move on and be honest with each other .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you cheated on her I wonder...

Not yet. Joined here as a revenge sort of thing. Just didn't work out

What could possibly be wrong with this relationship

Never said it was a good relationship just my one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, while you're giving her that second chance, you're scouting around yourself?

Haven't given her a second chance yet. And like I said joining here was meant to be a sort of revenge thing. " if you can cheat why can't I " thing. It just didn't pan out that wsy"

Your 35, your not a teenager, surely you must know this relationship is over

If your on here for 'revenge' because you feel she has cheated on you do you really need telling there's nothing left here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The next time you have sex with her, make sure you say her ex's name out loud.

When she questions you, just say you promised him you wouldn't talk about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, neither of you sound happy.

Sounds like your relationship is a zero sum game.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The next time you have sex with her, make sure you say her ex's name out loud.

When she questions you, just say you promised him you wouldn't talk about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys"

But you dont know she has. And even if she has does that give you a free pass to sleep with two people? Im not judging you here cause im a cheat. But i think you honestlyknow this isnt right for eiter of you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

double standards....

there has been a lot of that on here recently

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

No it doesn't. I joined to get back at her but it didn't happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I think.....you are on here as a single guy....and you question if she is cheating?

Run that by me again??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

No it doesn't. I joined to get back at her but it didn't happen. "

Here's a thought

If you only want to get back at her, just tell her you've shagged somebody else, she'll never know you haven't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I think.....you are on here as a single guy....and you question if she is cheating?

Run that by me again??"

Yes, but that doesn't count because he can't get a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Personally I think.....you are on here as a single guy....and you question if she is cheating?

Run that by me again??"

Haven't cheated.... Yet. And I probably won't. But I do understand where you are coming from. I just wanted to know if it sounds to other people that she cheated or am I being paranoid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Actually I take that back. Talking to people on here probably is considered cheating, so I guess I have cheated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I think.....you are on here as a single guy....and you question if she is cheating?

Run that by me again??

Haven't cheated.... Yet. And I probably won't. But I do understand where you are coming from. I just wanted to know if it sounds to other people that she cheated or am I being paranoid. "

It sounds as if you don't trust her, but then, given that she's told you that she would rather be with someone else, that's hardly surprising.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm in no way perfect or anywhere even close to it. And I'd say im pretty lucky to have a girlfriend. I was just looking for opinions and I got them so thank you all

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Only you know how you feel about it all.I probably wouldnt like to be 2nd best to someone else though .Miss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm in no way perfect or anywhere even close to it. And I'd say im pretty lucky to have a girlfriend. I was just looking for opinions and I got them so thank you all"

Nobody is perfect, but we all deserve a relationship where we are valued and respected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Only you know how you feel about it all.I probably wouldnt like to be 2nd best to someone else though .Miss."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in no way perfect or anywhere even close to it. And I'd say im pretty lucky to have a girlfriend. I was just looking for opinions and I got them so thank you all

Nobody is perfect, but we all deserve a relationship where we are valued and respected. "

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'm in no way perfect or anywhere even close to it. And I'd say im pretty lucky to have a girlfriend. I was just looking for opinions and I got them so thank you all

Nobody is perfect, but we all deserve a relationship where we are valued and respected. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If my partner told me another woman was the love of his life & always would be , called out her name during sex etc etc I'd be feeling pretty crap about my life & relationship.

Doesn't sound like a match made in heaven & I would seriously think twice about continuing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If my partner told me another woman was the love of his life & always would be , called out her name during sex etc etc I'd be feeling pretty crap about my life & relationship.

Doesn't sound like a match made in heaven & I would seriously think twice about continuing it.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple over a year ago

notts

Sounds like it would make a damn fine episode on Jeremy Kyle

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sounds like it would make a damn fine episode on Jeremy Kyle"

No it wouldn't! Our teeth are too good lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if the relationship is making you miserable more than happy then it's time to get out the vodka and Chaka Khan and become 1. Literally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"if the relationship is making you miserable more than happy then it's time to get out the vodka and Chaka Khan and become 1. Literally."

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By *ir jizalotMan over a year ago

Liverpool

That's a brave profile for a single guy with some very interesting interests.

Think you should bite the bullet and both be honest with each other and while your about that mention her in your profile you make the rest of us lads look bad pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That's a brave profile for a single guy with some very interesting interests.

Think you should bite the bullet and both be honest with each other and while your about that mention her in your profile you make the rest of us lads look bad pal."

I always say I have a girlfriend when I chat to people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are just being paranoid. She has problems obviously still hung up on a guy who left her.

If you want to make it work, talk more forgive each others pasts and look where the future may be.

If not stay here, but please read the myriad of existing posts on making a good profie, and first messages before posting the same questions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You are just being paranoid. She has problems obviously still hung up on a guy who left her.

If you want to make it work, talk more forgive each others pasts and look where the future may be.

If not stay here, but please read the myriad of existing posts on making a good profie, and first messages before posting the same questions."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Take each day as it comes. Only you can negotiate the terms of your relationship and know what you need.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Take each day as it comes. Only you can negotiate the terms of your relationship and know what you need."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys"

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something!

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Have you cheated on her I wonder...

Not yet. Joined here as a revenge sort of thing. Just didn't work out"

Fidelity is a state of mind, not a lack of opportunity.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"How about you delete your profile, and have a real conversation with her about trust and mutual respect."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pulls up a chair and watches the fun with a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Pulls up a chair and watches the fun with a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're curious on whether she has cheated on you? And you're on here?

I'm not judging like others have but why are you worried about her cheating on you when you're clearly out to do the same?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You're curious on whether she has cheated on you? And you're on here?

I'm not judging like others have but why are you worried about her cheating on you when you're clearly out to do the same?"

I joined here in revenge. Just couldn't do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're curious on whether she has cheated on you? And you're on here?

I'm not judging like others have but why are you worried about her cheating on you when you're clearly out to do the same?

I joined here in revenge. Just couldn't do it"

It's only revenge if she is aware you're here though, otherwise she's clueless so her feeling won't be altered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You're curious on whether she has cheated on you? And you're on here?

I'm not judging like others have but why are you worried about her cheating on you when you're clearly out to do the same?

I joined here in revenge. Just couldn't do it

It's only revenge if she is aware you're here though, otherwise she's clueless so her feeling won't be altered."

Never thought of tjat

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something! "

While I do have mental health issues I dint see how that comes into play here

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By *ir jizalotMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"That's a brave profile for a single guy with some very interesting interests.

Think you should bite the bullet and both be honest with each other and while your about that mention her in your profile you make the rest of us lads look bad pal.

I always say I have a girlfriend when I chat to people"

Any takers on this???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lego is the answer to your problems.You either build bridges together or build a wall.

The choice is yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lego is the answer to your problems.You either build bridges together or build a wall.

The choice is yours."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What are you giving her a second choice for?

You said she told you she hasn't cheated.

And the ex thing sounds like unrequited love now.

I don't think she has done anything wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What are you giving her a second choice for?

You said she told you she hasn't cheated.

And the ex thing sounds like unrequited love now.

I don't think she has done anything wrong. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Read that back, remind yourself that you are on here presumably looking to cheat and then ask yourself what is the point? You clearly aren't happy, can you honestly see that changing while still in this relationship?

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

You joined for revenge, how old are you 10

the relationship is going no where if you can't act or communicate like adults

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You joined for revenge, how old are you 10

the relationship is going no where if you can't act or communicate like adults "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're curious on whether she has cheated on you? And you're on here?

I'm not judging like others have but why are you worried about her cheating on you when you're clearly out to do the same?

I joined here in revenge. Just couldn't do it

It's only revenge if she is aware you're here though, otherwise she's clueless so her feeling won't be altered."

True, but it feels like revenge in his head so that quantifies the thought process.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something!

While I do have mental health issues I dint see how that comes into play here"

You've asked for opinions, whilst doing so don't feel you have to justify or disclose your health issues to a bunch of random strangers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pot

Kettle....!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Pot

Kettle....!!!!"

Black

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something!

While I do have mental health issues I dint see how that comes into play here

You've asked for opinions, whilst doing so don't feel you have to justify or disclose your health issues to a bunch of random strangers."

Just asked if people thought she cheated or not. But opinions ate good

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something!

While I do have mental health issues I dint see how that comes into play here

You've asked for opinions, whilst doing so don't feel you have to justify or disclose your health issues to a bunch of random strangers.

Just asked if people thought she cheated or not. But opinions ate good"

Oh and I tell everyone I'm nuts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something!

While I do have mental health issues I dint see how that comes into play here

You've asked for opinions, whilst doing so don't feel you have to justify or disclose your health issues to a bunch of random strangers.

Just asked if people thought she cheated or not. But opinions ate good

Oh and I tell everyone I'm nuts"

Ah okay, carry on then

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Pot

Kettle....!!!!"

Dinner time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually though op does it matter your not happy if your looking to cheat?

Only came here after she said about the two guys

Two wrongs don't make a fucking right! You're all screwed up in your thinking. You need to hit the gym or something!

While I do have mental health issues I dint see how that comes into play here

You've asked for opinions, whilst doing so don't feel you have to justify or disclose your health issues to a bunch of random strangers.

Just asked if people thought she cheated or not. But opinions ate good

Oh and I tell everyone I'm nuts

Ah okay, carry on then

Why thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Pot

Kettle....!!!!

Dinner time!"

Tea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hang on, aren't you cheating on her right now! Double standards me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hang on, aren't you cheating on her right now! Double standards me thinks. "

Yes Vincent you thinks right

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