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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are all attractive to someone...we're all unattractive to someone gotta be some chemistry very important for good sex in my opinion. Intelligence is a big turn on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will only behave and act in a courteous manner - gentleman.
Confidence is something I need to work on, as I think there were strikes going on in the Looks Dept when I was born! ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse. "
It is not one or the other. Life is like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality i know its not an option but im awakwards like that "
Bless you for that.
I'm not exactly blessed with good looks, certainly not in the conventional sense. And I'm not the most confident. But the confidence I do have comes from me being or at least trying to be a good, decent person. Oh and I'm adorable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse. "
If i look at their face and don't instantly want to snog them then it doesn't matter how confident they are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone was really good looking with zero confidence I wouldn't be interested. If they were really confident but not attractive to me I also wouldn't be interested.
I can't really see these attributes as mutually exclusive. It depends on the blend. Someone doesn't have to be totally confident and super attractive, but they need a good mix of both.
That's how I see it, anyway. ![](/icons/s/cool.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse.
If i look at their face and don't instantly want to snog them then it doesn't matter how confident they are"
Well that's pretty much me bolloxed then!
Mr zero looks or confidence.
I am funny though, well I think I am anyway. ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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"There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance!
That's bollocks mate."
Is it ?
I'd suggest I sit directly on that line and depending upon perspective I'm seen as either often as both by differing people from my same words or attitude
Of course I'm usually pretty confident in things I arrogantly know I'm good at ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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"There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance!
That's bollocks mate.
Is it ?
I'd suggest I sit directly on that line and depending upon perspective I'm seen as either often as both by differing people from my same words or attitude
Of course I'm usually pretty confident in things I arrogantly know I'm good at "
Oh and I'm a hotty pin up too xxx ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago
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Well, I'm average looking at the very best, and I also have low self esteem. It can be quite intimidating to be in a room full of confident, better looking guys who can get a rock hard-on at a seconds notice.
Since my wife is an Anglophile, I would completely fade into the background if we ever visited the UK!
That said, I tend to rely on humor. It actually works sometimes.
-JD
Sooooo....I tend to rely on humor. |
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I (male half) have a face like a bag of spanners but do very well indeed (all false modesty set aside) through a strong sense of self confidence.
I think quoted in another thread recently:
Arrogance is thinking your better than everyone else.
Confidence is thinking no one else is better than you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so. "
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different. "
The one where I look like cousin IT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT"
yeah. that one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one."
Well, if that does it for you ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago
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As far as what I am attracted to, 'looks' will always be my knee jerk reaction, but in the end, INTELLIGENCE wins every time.
There is nothing sexier to me than a woman who is somewhat attractive, but who has no clue that she's attractive. INTELLIGENCE with a smattering of low self esteem and a slight touch of quirkiness. Just....wooowww!!!
-JD |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you "
don't hide your face too much though. ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though. "
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) "
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though."
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny"
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that."
If I find that person you can come to the wedding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding."
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding? ![](/icons/s/lol.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding? "
I wouldn't have it any other way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way"
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse. "
Simples a normal man can win me over with with his confidence. A great looking guy can bore me Looks are nothing in comparison to personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha."
I wouldn't buy your hat just yet![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha.
I wouldn't buy your hat just yet "
don't need a hat, i got wigs...aw i get what you mean now.
i'm gonna send my wedding theme idea to be trade marked, in case anyone pinches it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha.
I wouldn't buy your hat just yet
don't need a hat, i got wigs...aw i get what you mean now.
i'm gonna send my wedding theme idea to be trade marked, in case anyone pinches it."
I'd be impressed if anyone pinches it. I'd be impressed if anyone else thinks of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha.
I wouldn't buy your hat just yet
don't need a hat, i got wigs...aw i get what you mean now.
i'm gonna send my wedding theme idea to be trade marked, in case anyone pinches it.
I'd be impressed if anyone pinches it. I'd be impressed if anyone else thinks of it"
anyone who saw your pic will have thought of that idea.
think i'd best get to bed, might have a busy day tomorrow.
night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha.
I wouldn't buy your hat just yet
don't need a hat, i got wigs...aw i get what you mean now.
i'm gonna send my wedding theme idea to be trade marked, in case anyone pinches it.
I'd be impressed if anyone pinches it. I'd be impressed if anyone else thinks of it
anyone who saw your pic will have thought of that idea.
think i'd best get to bed, might have a busy day tomorrow.
night."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"looks. i like shy guys with issues.
do you have issues?
Oh you have no idea.
sounds promising.
Well, I'm glad you think so.
it was that hair/glasses pic that made me know you were different.
The one where I look like cousin IT
yeah. that one.
Well, if that does it for you
don't hide your face too much though.
But I thought that was why you liked that picture ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif)
well yeah i do like it because it's funny. i don't have a cousin it fetish though.
I hope someone does. Just because it would be really funny
i was tempted for a minute but then i came back to my senses.
but take pics of you find someone into that.
If I find that person you can come to the wedding.
can we all wear hair over our faces and glasses for this wedding?
I wouldn't have it any other way
you're awesome.
just need to marry you off now, haha.
I wouldn't buy your hat just yet
don't need a hat, i got wigs...aw i get what you mean now.
i'm gonna send my wedding theme idea to be trade marked, in case anyone pinches it.
I'd be impressed if anyone pinches it. I'd be impressed if anyone else thinks of it
anyone who saw your pic will have thought of that idea.
think i'd best get to bed, might have a busy day tomorrow.
night.
Goodnight, maybe we can hijack another thread soon x"
i'd like that. ![](/icons/thumb_up.png) |
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"I love confidence in a man
Confident and tall... Perfection "
This! I find people with low self esteem off putting and tiring. I don't have the time, patience or wherewithal to be massaging egos.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse.
If i look at their face and don't instantly want to snog them then it doesn't matter how confident they are
Well that's pretty much me bolloxed then!
Mr zero looks or confidence.
I am funny though, well I think I am anyway. "
Absolute poppycock! We've met you. Funny, intelligent, and good looking. Both of you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What do people, mainly ladies think is a better attribute to have?
Obviously if you have both that's great.
But not everyone is blessed with the looks, and some of us are not super confident.
And frankly pretending to be is worse.
If i look at their face and don't instantly want to snog them then it doesn't matter how confident they are
Well that's pretty much me bolloxed then!
Mr zero looks or confidence.
I am funny though, well I think I am anyway.
Absolute poppycock! We've met you. Funny, intelligent, and good looking. Both of you! "
Thank you very much
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By (user no longer on site)
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We are both confident people and we like to think that comes across when people meet us as for looks then we're not arrogant enough to think we're stunners that is down to the individual if they find us attractive we think that personality and sense of humour are more attractive traits then looks alone |
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