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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I got one of them funeral plans ,not being morbid but you have to think about these things.They have given me an Undertaker that is so short staffed he pays the taxi drivers across the road to help him carry the coffins out of the parlour,so i rang them and they wont change it ,not very dignified at all.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got one of them funeral plans ,not being morbid but you have to think about these things.They have given me an Undertaker that is so short staffed he pays the taxi drivers across the road to help him carry the coffins out of the parlour,so i rang them and they wont change it ,not very dignified at all. "
You won't know who carries your coffin  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I got one of them funeral plans ,not being morbid but you have to think about these things.They have given me an Undertaker that is so short staffed he pays the taxi drivers across the road to help him carry the coffins out of the parlour,so i rang them and they wont change it ,not very dignified at all.
You won't know who carries your coffin "
I know but they might drop me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got one of them funeral plans ,not being morbid but you have to think about these things.They have given me an Undertaker that is so short staffed he pays the taxi drivers across the road to help him carry the coffins out of the parlour,so i rang them and they wont change it ,not very dignified at all.
You won't know who carries your coffin I know but they might drop me "
So could anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got one of them funeral plans ,not being morbid but you have to think about these things.They have given me an Undertaker that is so short staffed he pays the taxi drivers across the road to help him carry the coffins out of the parlour,so i rang them and they wont change it ,not very dignified at all.
You won't know who carries your coffin I know but they might drop me "
As a serious answer OP whoever organises your funeral can sort friends or family to act as pall bearers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It is a bit naff when you pay all that money for a funeral,and they are very expensive,surely you should get a good service,i dont want taxi drivers carrying me,what next the bin men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most funeral directors have arrangements like this for pall bearers. It's nothing to do with being shirt staffed. And people that work shifts that leave them available during the day are perfect for the role.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a bit naff when you pay all that money for a funeral,and they are very expensive,surely you should get a good service,i dont want taxi drivers carrying me,what next the bin men "
As long as they are dressed appropriately what dies it actually matter what their full time job is?
If it bothers you thst much can you not arrange for family or friends to be pall bearers? |
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"It is a bit naff when you pay all that money for a funeral,and they are very expensive,surely you should get a good service,i dont want taxi drivers carrying me,what next the bin men "
There really is no need to spend a small fortune on a funeral but it depends what you want.
My lot know that when my body has been carved up by students, I'm going to be buried in a field with a tree planted on the top. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst. |
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst. "
Sod that! |
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst. "
What! That's a fortune! Why not put that money away somewhere else? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She said help him carry the coffins out of the parlour. Which makes me wonder who carries them out at the church or crematorium. "
ive asked myself that to ,goodness knows , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst. "
It's not like saying that at all. Why does a part time employee who also works as a taxi driver equate to a bad service? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst.
What! That's a fortune! Why not put that money away somewhere else?"
Ive got it somewhere else but just thought a plan would be better,as a decent funeral can cost a few grand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a bit naff when you pay all that money for a funeral,and they are very expensive,surely you should get a good service,i dont want taxi drivers carrying me,what next the bin men "
God forbid you might end up in the blue bin  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst.
What! That's a fortune! Why not put that money away somewhere else?"
It's a big money industry. You never see a poor funeral director. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst.
It's not like saying that at all. Why does a part time employee who also works as a taxi driver equate to a bad service? "
The taxi drivers dont work in the parlour,they work as taxi drivers across the road,they just help him out,he pay's them 4 quid each |
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"I got one of them funeral plans ,not being morbid but you have to think about these things.They have given me an Undertaker that is so short staffed he pays the taxi drivers across the road to help him carry the coffins out of the parlour,so i rang them and they wont change it ,not very dignified at all. "
My ex keeps asking me what my funeral arrangements are as he's already paid for his. I'm 55 ffs!!!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thomas Davis is nearer to me ,why couldn't i have them ,instead they fob me off to a cowboy Undertaker anyway ive cancelled and lost what ive payed in |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As your funeral is clear important to you did you not think to research local funeral directors before entering in to a contract with one? "
yes i did |
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off ."
6K?
Do you know that there is no legal requirement for all that ceremony and cars? |
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By *horltzMan
over a year ago
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"It is a bit naff when you pay all that money for a funeral,and they are very expensive,surely you should get a good service,i dont want taxi drivers carrying me,what next the bin men "
Bin men will only take you if you are in the correct coloured coffin on the organised collection day , as long as it's left at the end of your driveway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm hoping someone sticks me in a rowing boat and sets it on fire. Always wanted a Viking funeral. "
I'll sort it for you.
Set up a standing order to my bank account, £37 a month, guaranteed no taxi drivers.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a bit naff when you pay all that money for a funeral,and they are very expensive,surely you should get a good service,i dont want taxi drivers carrying me,what next the bin men
Bin men will only take you if you are in the correct coloured coffin on the organised collection day , as long as it's left at the end of your driveway"
And you're in the recycling bin  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It does bother me when I'm paying 37 pounds a month ,you pay for a service and expect a good service,its like the taxi drivers saying,we havent got any cabs available but we can get you to the station in a Hearst. "
It's been like that as long as I can remember. They use part time staff like fireman police and any one else really. They are trained up in the work that's required of them.
I recently went to a funeral and ended up chatting to retired police officer I used to know.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off ."
Pam I've just laid my father to rest and is cost about 5 grand. The funeral directors were pushing us for the money before he was even cold, I hate the bastards, wish I could name and shame on here. Then there's the church, vicar wants his cut at every step of the way, can only have certain colour and size stone in his graveyard, it's all a rip off.
They've got you by the bollox though. Death and taxes........a certainty in life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off .Pam I've just laid my father to rest and is cost about 5 grand. The funeral directors were pushing us for the money before he was even cold, I hate the bastards, wish I could name and shame on here. Then there's the church, vicar wants his cut at every step of the way, can only have certain colour and size stone in his graveyard, it's all a rip off.
They've got you by the bollox though. Death and taxes........a certainty in life. "
I know exactly how you feel,to them its just money,but to us who lose someone its heart breaking,and we want to give them a good send off,but it does cost a fortune hun |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off .
6K?
Do you know that there is no legal requirement for all that ceremony and cars?"
yes but had no choice ,had to have the best for him,with certain people at his funeral i had to do it proper and full on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off .Pam I've just laid my father to rest and is cost about 5 grand. The funeral directors were pushing us for the money before he was even cold, I hate the bastards, wish I could name and shame on here. Then there's the church, vicar wants his cut at every step of the way, can only have certain colour and size stone in his graveyard, it's all a rip off.
They've got you by the bollox though. Death and taxes........a certainty in life. "
Assuming that the funeral was within a few weeks of their death at what point should they have been speaking to you about the cost? I know it might seem callous but they are businesses and not charities |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Seriously is this all you have to worry about?.
If you were to die at home a private ambulance would come to collect you its all done very professionally.
If you were to die in hospital is mortuary staff who would collect you once you body has been washed and wrapped.
And at the funeral home they would remove your body and take to the chapel.
You need to remember your body is only a carrier for your spirit once your spirit has left your body it's nothing.
Not like a carton of milk it's the inside that matters not what it comes in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Seriously is this all you have to worry about?.
If you were to die at home a private ambulance would come to collect you its all done very professionally.
If you were to die in hospital is mortuary staff who would collect you once you body has been washed and wrapped.
And at the funeral home they would remove your body and take to the chapel.
You need to remember your body is only a carrier for your spirit once your spirit has left your body it's nothing.
Not like a carton of milk it's the inside that matters not what it comes in. "
well that's another story ,when i was on my ward and porters were on strike it wasn't that professional at all,because they didnt worry who was alive or dead. |
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"I'm hoping someone sticks me in a rowing boat and sets it on fire. Always wanted a Viking funeral.
On the local duck pond?
You got it "
My mum has already enquired about being burnt on a canal boat here and she got a swift fuck off but you can have it done in Denmark |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously is this all you have to worry about?.
If you were to die at home a private ambulance would come to collect you its all done very professionally.
If you were to die in hospital is mortuary staff who would collect you once you body has been washed and wrapped.
And at the funeral home they would remove your body and take to the chapel.
You need to remember your body is only a carrier for your spirit once your spirit has left your body it's nothing.
Not like a carton of milk it's the inside that matters not what it comes in. well that's another story ,when i was on my ward and porters were on strike it wasn't that professional at all,because they didnt worry who was alive or dead. "
You have had bad experiences which is clouding your judgement I think.
Not everyone treats people that way a person weather dead or alive I feel deserves to be treated the same way and at work this is just what I do.
I don't care what happens when I'm dead my only request my organs are to be donated to help and possibly save others lives once that's done they could chuck me to the Sharks for all I care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm hoping someone sticks me in a rowing boat and sets it on fire. Always wanted a Viking funeral.
On the local duck pond?
You got it
My mum has already enquired about being burnt on a canal boat here and she got a swift fuck off but you can have it done in Denmark "
I spend enough time in Denmark to end up kicking the bucket there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off .Pam I've just laid my father to rest and is cost about 5 grand. The funeral directors were pushing us for the money before he was even cold, I hate the bastards, wish I could name and shame on here. Then there's the church, vicar wants his cut at every step of the way, can only have certain colour and size stone in his graveyard, it's all a rip off.
They've got you by the bollox though. Death and taxes........a certainty in life.
Assuming that the funeral was within a few weeks of their death at what point should they have been speaking to you about the cost? I know it might seem callous but they are businesses and not charities"
Point taken. But this is the ONLY business that requires utmost human compassion, and plenty of time given to its clients. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mate who's an ex copper is a pallbearer. I'll have a word with him and see if he'll do mate's rates 
Paul bearer was the undertakers manager."
That's only just clicked in my head!! After all these years, amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Six grand my fathers funeral cost and that was ten years ago ,then they want more for a head stone or a plaque ,so i put him on my window sill and that's where he's staying,its a rip off .Pam I've just laid my father to rest and is cost about 5 grand. The funeral directors were pushing us for the money before he was even cold, I hate the bastards, wish I could name and shame on here. Then there's the church, vicar wants his cut at every step of the way, can only have certain colour and size stone in his graveyard, it's all a rip off.
They've got you by the bollox though. Death and taxes........a certainty in life.
Assuming that the funeral was within a few weeks of their death at what point should they have been speaking to you about the cost? I know it might seem callous but they are businesses and not charitiesPoint taken. But this is the ONLY business that requires utmost human compassion, and plenty of time given to its clients. "
But if your dad had been dead a couple of weeks and they hadn't booked a date for the funeral because they didn't want to speak to you about payment you'd be annoyed about that. It's a no win situation when it comes down to discussing cost and payment. If it's a cremation the funeral directors have a little more scope as they can simply hold on to the ashes if the bill isn't settled but if it's a burial then they have very little scope.
It's crap but there are plenty of people that book funerals with no intention of paying |
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