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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey
So I'm liking spending some time on the forum (feeling down and really low), but surprisingly it has cheered me up slightly. 
Got a question for you guys. If you could give your younger self some advice what would it be and why?
Mine would be to stand up for myself and not take for an answer, since I've always let people walk over me leading to my current low self confidence etc.
Hope everyone's having a good evening. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey
So I'm liking spending some time on the forum (feeling down and really low), but surprisingly it has cheered me up slightly.
Got a question for you guys. If you could give your younger self some advice what would it be and why?
Mine would be to stand up for myself and not take for an answer, since I've always let people walk over me leading to my current low self confidence etc.
Hope everyone's having a good evening. X"
Don't be a twat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.
Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.
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I see what you're saying as I'm sure many men and women could relate that to bad bfs and gfs.
I like that you've highlighted the positive that came from the negative. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.
Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.
I see what you're saying as I'm sure many men and women could relate that to bad bfs and gfs.
I like that you've highlighted the positive that came from the negative. "
That's the kind of person I am I don't focus on negatives life's to short.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would pass down the wisdom of knowing all future lottery numbers  "
In trying to write a thought provoking post, completely forgot about that! ??
Yeah me too I think! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Advice to my younger self -
"Always check what's in your hand before putting it in the litter bin on the way home at 4am. Even, and I really mean this, ESPECIALLY when you're d*unk." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No advice at all.....
I can't see any value robbing myself of the option of discover who I've become through living life experiences .....
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OK that's brilliant!
I wouldn't be the person I am today if certain things hadn't happened. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Advice to my younger self -
"Always check what's in your hand before putting it in the litter bin on the way home at 4am. Even, and I really mean this, ESPECIALLY when you're d*unk.""
OK I think we've all done that -d*unk and sober sometimes ?? haha! |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
Where to start?!! So many mistakes made down the years that I'd advise myself against making, but then you have to wonder if you didn't make those mistakes what others would have been made instead, and what would be missing from your current life that wouldn't have happened without them!! And now my brain hurts and I need a lie down, so will settle for telling myself not to always be a twat!!
Mr G |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Remember boys have feelings too'
Can I ask what you mean by that? "
I'm afraid the younger me was a complete and utter gobshite where the boys were concerned. Treated many a good fella like shite and it's one of my regrets to this day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.
Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.
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So get u I was thinking the same . Grrrrrr but hindsight would be great but hey ho X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"'Remember boys have feelings too'
Can I ask what you mean by that?
I'm afraid the younger me was a complete and utter gobshite where the boys were concerned. Treated many a good fella like shite and it's one of my regrets to this day. "
Well you seem to be a lovely person now, so lessons learnt and all that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I could go back in time and give myself one piece of advice it would be go back to the hospital when my daughter was 10 year old and demamd they operated on here
You trust the doctors and surgeons but they aren't always right, knowing what I know now I'd have taken her round every hospital in the country till somebody agreed to help us |
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Mine would be, don't keep fucking that guy- he will never want you.
And, don't marry that man just because you don't think you're worthy of anyone else.
However, I do like to believe things happen for a reason. So maybe those choices are what led me to the happy life I have now.
Sassy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My God, I could. write war and piece on this and I'm a bloke.
Breathe ....
If you want kids of your own, don't get involved with a woman with kids from other guys (generalisation - my mistake)
Don't support their kids (even though you care for them) into their late 20's
Learn to pick yourself up when you feel used and abused.
Still, your life can't be any worse than mine lol
Now, where's that depression thread as I need to be on it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm hoping that when people post their advice that they realise that positives may have come from their negatives.
Hopefully put a smile on your faces and make you a little happy. |
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"Don't get married, listen to what your friends and family think about your potential husband.
Although with out that I wouldn't had my children.
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This is spot on! Wouldnt of got married and wasted all that money! Would of waited for my now partner but like you said I wouldn't have my son if did that.
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Don't Marry????
At work about 6 months back, I was sat in office with 4 of the girls at work all aged about 50-60, one was due to retire and was asked 'any regrets!'
She said she would never have married, one by one all of the others agreed...
I'd like to think that this stemmed from 1960's/70's when equality, well it hardly existed and expectations on a wife/mother/partner were ridiculously burdensome....this is just a though before I get into deep water |
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Not everyone has a soulmate. Hang on in there, because you're one of the lucky ones who will have two and for very different reasons at different times. But you already suspected this, so keep recognising the bizarre coincidences as signs that you're on the right path. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't buy a Peugeot
Damn, I'm well and truly screwed! Although, in fairness Peugeot has been one of the more reliable makes in my opinion "
I loved my S16, shame it was fucked by 50,000 miles.
Wouldn't touch another pug, and I've owned three of them. I was massively tempted by the 208 GTI though. |
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"nothing... because my younger self was an obnoxious little cunt that sure as hell wouldn't listen to any advice whatsoever... "
I am still a stupid cunt but at least it's begining to dawn on me a little. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only one thing.....go ahead with the dream of travel at 18
Was talked out of it by my well meaning Dad and I wish I had gone...even now
I jacked in my job at 30 and went then but wish I had done it at 18 |
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Live, laugh and love ... only you can decide what makes you happy and only you can get yourself there! Don't hesitate towards what could be and learn from your mistakes! Life is yours so live for today and not for tomorrow.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not everyone has a soulmate. Hang on in there, because you're one of the lucky ones who will have two and for very different reasons at different times. But you already suspected this, so keep recognising the bizarre coincidences as signs that you're on the right path."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wear sunscreen.
i see what you did there
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI"
Everyone should listen to that every week from the age of 18.
Wise words indeed. |
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By *i1971Man
over a year ago
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"Tell ur parents you love them and don't take them for granted, I lost both of mine in my early 20's x"
Likewuse
Also...
Don't marry young - irrespective of how mature you feel at the time
Live life for you, not how others want you to live it
Look to the future and don't let the past influence your future |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
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Mine would be to stand up for myself, since I've always let people walk over me leading to my current low self confidence etc."
Help people open there eyes to what is really happening, not just let them see what they want to see.
Don't forget about yourself |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I wouldn't really change anything as it is that journey that has made me the me I am now. But...
1) Stop listening to your mad family calling you fat at a size 8;
2) The first time you swallow all those pills tell someone and get some help;
3) When the surgeon suggests a hysterectomy at 21 say yes;
4) When you find him jealously reading your teenage diaries walk out and don't look back.
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By *iaFlashCouple
over a year ago
walsall |
Honestly think i would just tell my 14 year old self
"whatever figures you buy, keep them in the damn boxes unless damaged then swap/refund"
The ones i did take out are now worth double/triple the value
Flash |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I would tell my younger self to live alot because I was way too good and nothing wrong with getting married if if you got the right person x
Mrs M |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
Advice to self at various times up to around mid 30s:
1. Go to uni sooner, not later
2. Look in the mirror with appreciation not disgust - you'll never look this good again
3. Believe that when people speak to you it's probably because they like you and not because you're a charity case or a bet
4. Tell your dad you love him and see him more before it's too late
5. Save wisely, don't fritter
6. Don't give proven bastards second chances
7. Don't beat yourself up about your sexual self
8. Take every opportunity to travel before kids
Ms G
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