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Do you message first or prefer to be messaged?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I haven't messaged first yet. Had filters off and received messages. I'm wondering if you find it more successful in finding what you want if you do the searching and send messages out. Guess you're more in control then. If that makes sense. |
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"I haven't messaged first yet. Had filters off and received messages. I'm wondering if you find it more successful in finding what you want if you do the searching and send messages out. Guess you're more in control then. If that makes sense. "
It's always nice to be approached by others and told "I Fancy You"...
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Mine depends who I am looking for - if a couple or male I tend to be messaged first and reply either way but if I am looking for a single fem I tend to do the searching myself and message first 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty much never message first, if I'm on fab it's usually replying to people or talking bollocks on the forum.
When we do go out clubbing we just post a meet and if anyone replies then great, if not we go along regardless.
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I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others"
Oh those poor poor females. Gotta feel sorry for them!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others"
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing  |
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
Oh those poor poor females. Gotta feel sorry for them! "
You said it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing "
If, on the rare occasion, i find someone flirty on the forum that i wouldn't mind continuing with, i will message them to take it out of the forum. Why would not many women do that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think women or indeed couples need to send messages first as their inbox is kept quite busy anyway, but as other have said, it would be very quiet indeed if us singles guys didn't send out any messages, and indeed it would be quiet for the women and couples too who are looking for single guys.
I do send messages out but not for a while now as I've messaged everyone within my travel distance that I thought might be interested in meeting me, and as predicted, no replies   |
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing "
I use the forums for fun have done for years now as many can tell you. Being flerty is just my way of having a laugh and I'm the same if it's a complete stunner or Nora batty. What I say on here means nothing as I've always said what I say in private does. Any meets I get off this site is just a bonus and they really don't matter 1 way or another |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing
If, on the rare occasion, i find someone flirty on the forum that i wouldn't mind continuing with, i will message them to take it out of the forum. Why would not many women do that?"
This is usually the reason I message first as I don't search for men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've not sent the first message in a very long time, I'm happy to chat shit on the forums and if anything develops then great. I think that getting a reaction from a first message is pure luck, even if you meet all the criteria it might be a bad day for them or they might misinterpret the tone of your message or they may just miss you altogether.
I'd much rather develop a rapport over a topic and then chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I message first, I wouldn't get any messages if I didn't! Suits me perfectly.
Inbox is that way. Just saying  "
Mine is because of my age filters, if I took them off then I would get messages without having to send any. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't message men first, with regards to meeting etc as my availability is so crappy I don't want to be accused of being a tease.
However, I have sent a message to a male regular on the forums, but not in a "I want you way", it was just because I like the way he responds, even on heated debates etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hardly ever message because I know Im not what most women want.
I do sometimes message people from the forums if Im impressed by how they have argued their case or seen that they appear upset.
Tbh I think the forums are the best
part of fab for me...sadly lol |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
I receive more than I send, 
when I first joined I sent far more than I received,
over time the way I use the site and its tools has changed, if a profile really interests me I'll send a message why wouldn't you, worst that can happen message delete or no thanks .  |
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"I message first, I wouldn't get any messages if I didn't! Suits me perfectly.
Inbox is that way. Just saying
Mine is because of my age filters, if I took them off then I would get messages without having to send any."
I know I know a few that do it. Just thought I'd put the bat signal up |
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As a bloke I message lots but most of my meets come from being messaged first - so feel free to message away ladies - I guess ladies have their pick from hundreds whereas if they are looking and I fit their bill then there is more chance of something happening |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
We're more far more successful sending first messages ourselves.
If we just sat back and waited to see who contacted us, we'd never have met anyone. We've never been flooded with messages, even with all filters off and when our proper profile text was on show.
Strangely, we get more interest since we removed our profile text and put, we're not looking for new people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never resieved a message forst unless its off creepy old men or couples and women telling me that I am too young to be on here, yet they meet with 18 year old girls |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're more far more successful sending first messages ourselves.
If we just sat back and waited to see who contacted us, we'd never have met anyone. We've never been flooded with messages, even with all filters off and when our proper profile text was on show.
Strangely, we get more interest since we removed our profile text and put, we're not looking for new people. "
And we didn't message you because you weren't looking for new people  going to stop reading profiles and just message anyway now incase it's a double bluff lol |
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"We're more far more successful sending first messages ourselves.
If we just sat back and waited to see who contacted us, we'd never have met anyone. We've never been flooded with messages, even with all filters off and when our proper profile text was on show.
Strangely, we get more interest since we removed our profile text and put, we're not looking for new people. "
Did I just hear a penny drop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never message first... (unless it's a forum thing).
How's the head this morning "
Sore... and I am too afraid to look in my sent box.... (I may have broken the rule about not messaging first... eek!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't do much searching and messaging myself. I prefer to put a bit more thought into it. Had some message me first, and some good chats with forumites. Happy enough with the amounts of contact I'm getting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing
If, on the rare occasion, i find someone flirty on the forum that i wouldn't mind continuing with, i will message them to take it out of the forum. Why would not many women do that?"
This 
Most of my chatting on here starts from the Forums and I often message first....messaged that Bladey first once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single guy on here, it would be awfully quiet if I didn't message first!! Lol
Saying that, I still get some messages that I haven't instigated "
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"We're more far more successful sending first messages ourselves.
If we just sat back and waited to see who contacted us, we'd never have met anyone. We've never been flooded with messages, even with all filters off and when our proper profile text was on show.
Strangely, we get more interest since we removed our profile text and put, we're not looking for new people.
And we didn't message you because you weren't looking for new people going to stop reading profiles and just message anyway now incase it's a double bluff lol "
We don't count forumites, they're a special bunch. Lol
When we have more regular free time and start looking for new people again. Thinking of trying 'not looking or meeting at all. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"We're more far more successful sending first messages ourselves.
If we just sat back and waited to see who contacted us, we'd never have met anyone. We've never been flooded with messages, even with all filters off and when our proper profile text was on show.
Strangely, we get more interest since we removed our profile text and put, we're not looking for new people.
Did I just hear a penny drop "
No that was my knickers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am surprised at the number of guys that are worried that if they don't message first they won't get any meetings..
I took the stance that so many status messages and profiles in my area bitched about shit messages I would let them come find me (if they wanted too).
I also don't get rejected (woot), people that message me have normally seen face/body/cock and therefore want to meet... and I can laugh at all the "single men send idiot message" threads.
To each their own I guess, and I am sure that I miss a few by not being proactive. But such is life.. a life without drama |
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing
If, on the rare occasion, i find someone flirty on the forum that i wouldn't mind continuing with, i will message them to take it out of the forum. Why would not many women do that?
This
Most of my chatting on here starts from the Forums and I often message first....messaged that Bladey first once "
Yep she did and we are still good friends from it although miles have prevented a meet as yet it will happen 1 day |
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"We're more far more successful sending first messages ourselves.
If we just sat back and waited to see who contacted us, we'd never have met anyone. We've never been flooded with messages, even with all filters off and when our proper profile text was on show.
Strangely, we get more interest since we removed our profile text and put, we're not looking for new people.
Did I just hear a penny drop
No that was my knickers. "
Hahaha top come back. Hmmmm now how does that line go oh yes fancy a fuck |
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The thing I don't get is why do most of you lady's think it's right that the bloke should make the 1st move. It's 2016 ffs woman up all we need to no is if there's interest we have no problem taking the load there after |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't ever msg 1st unless it's something to do with the forum. I refuse to be yet another single bloke on here mailing some poor female trying to get my cock wet it's sad as Fuck and I'm worth more than that. If somebody is interested in me we are supposed to be liberated people so they can just as easily msg me then I'm not pestering them like the 100s of others
I see a lot of men use the forums to flirt with women ... But how many women would think 'oh, this is going well... I should message him' ? Not many I'm guessing
If, on the rare occasion, i find someone flirty on the forum that i wouldn't mind continuing with, i will message them to take it out of the forum. Why would not many women do that?"
Doing this right now, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The men that I've met or who I've built up a good friendship with are always ones who I've noticed in here and I've always been the first to message them. I wouldn't sit on my arse and wait for someone who interests me on here to have that brilliant psychic moment and message me first  |
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