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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xx"
yeah but am not married to them. |
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I'm curious to know why suddenly after (I'm presuming) years of marriage, him coming out and admitting his sexuality can cause you to instantly tell him to leave.
He's still the same person after all. |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
Well I hope your ex-husband is in a happy relationship now. |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
this is probably the reason why few if any would admit it.. |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
I couldn't leave my husband if he told me he was bi. Being a bi woman myself why should it be any different for him. I can see why so many men do hide it because they could be perfectly happy but just need to edeplore this and their whole lives turned upside down. It not something I would be gloating over... |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
Not really any incentive to admit it then was there  |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
I wonder how many WOMEN are also in same boat.....?
I'm one for starters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
probably the same amount that would admit to cheating on their wives with other women
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
You sound lovely. I reckon he got the better outcome, hope he found happiness in the end. |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
You sound lovely. I reckon he got the better outcome, hope he found happiness in the end."
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xx"
I'm guessing it's because he didn't leave her a verification. 
What a wonderfully tolerant, loving, sympathetic and understanding individual.  |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
Why did you tell him to leave ?
I hope he's having lots of fun in life now  |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
. I love mr more than the world, he is my everything and I love everything about him, if this was us, for me it would just be a new part of him to get to know and love, I believe with are so close that he would never need to worry about telling me anything, least of all something that is so huge and would serve to be a huge part of his life |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
Why did you tell him to leave ?
I hope he's having lots of fun in life now "
I suspect he is and that's the cause of such bitterness, hes found happiness and contentment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xx
I'm guessing it's because he didn't leave her a verification.
What a wonderfully tolerant, loving, sympathetic and understanding individual. "
I know, you've read the profile too then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sadly I think a lot of women would do this. From what you are saying it was merely because he was honest enough about his sexuality. There was no great affair or incident. It's as if you were thinking that you were going to lose him so reacted first to save face.
I would much rather any partner of mine told me his was bi (I find it quite hot) as I cannot compete there and so have no insecurity. Much better than him telling me he prefers every other women to me- thin, short, blonde, perky boobs......
I hope that he is really happy and that somewhere down the line you manage to find happiness too as right now you come across as very bitter and blunt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the right approach would have been to talk to him first and try to understand how he feels and what its all about with him. It quite likely must have been quite a shock for him to have it all in the open. You may not have liked it, but surely being open enough to talk with him about it should have been the right thing to do.? What if the situation was reversed? |
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"What a lovely woman you are OP.
I don't think this thread is going the way you would have liked  "
I suppose it would depend on whether he was cheating on her or suggesting that he wanted to?
I would assume that the reason that a bloke would come out and admit to his wife that he was bi, is that he wanted to fulfil the other part of his sexuality.
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
Why did you tell him to leave ?
I hope he's having lots of fun in life now I suspect he is and that's the cause of such bitterness, hes found happiness and contentment"
Yep |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xx
I'm guessing it's because he didn't leave her a verification.
What a wonderfully tolerant, loving, sympathetic and understanding individual.
I know, you've read the profile too then "
I've just the profile.....
Tis a bit 'blunt' and oddly unverified! Maybe they're all now blocked? |
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I am surprised but pleased that people have pointed out the arbitary dismissal of the OP's husband as harsh simply because he admitted he was bi. There seems to be sympathy for the poor man.
What is interesting is if she had said he cheated on her (e.g. because she refused him sex) most people would have applauded her. Is this a double standard? 
I see the OP has not returned to her post. Perhaps it did not go as she expected? |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xx
I'm guessing it's because he didn't leave her a verification.
What a wonderfully tolerant, loving, sympathetic and understanding individual.
I know, you've read the profile too then
I've just the profile.....
Tis a bit 'blunt' and oddly unverified! Maybe they're all now blocked? "
Haha God you make me giggle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave."
Did you find out because he was cheating, may I ask? If so I imagine that was very painful for you.
I came out to my lady as bi and then soon after as trans. I hadn't cheated on her with anyone and she helped me explore and grow to the butterfly you see today.  |
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Coming out a bisexual (or gay even) takes alot of strength kf you feel it may not go down well. I know myself that I didn't feel right when I wasn't open. I felt like I was pretending to be what people expected. So huge respect for the OP's ex-husband and shame on you for leaving him because he trusted you enough to show who he really was inside |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What a lovely woman you are OP.
I don't think this thread is going the way you would have liked "
you took the words right out of my mouth, totally agree |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xxyeah but am not married to them."
I must admit; it can't be easy being married to me. |
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"I am surprised but pleased that people have pointed out the arbitary dismissal of the OP's husband as harsh simply because he admitted he was bi. There seems to be sympathy for the poor man.
What is interesting is if she had said he cheated on her (e.g. because she refused him sex) most people would have applauded her. Is this a double standard?
I see the OP has not returned to her post. Perhaps it did not go as she expected? "
There is a world of difference between sharing a sexual preference and cheating. If the sexual preference means you are wholly at odds and having discussed it you came to the conclusion that it was irreconcilable, then I can understand why people would part ways but the OP was seemingly saying that he said that he was bi so she shut him down and chucked him out. So two very different situations as reactions which will account for the different reactions here in my opinion. |
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"I am surprised but pleased that people have pointed out the arbitary dismissal of the OP's husband as harsh simply because he admitted he was bi. There seems to be sympathy for the poor man.
What is interesting is if she had said he cheated on her (e.g. because she refused him sex) most people would have applauded her. Is this a double standard?
I see the OP has not returned to her post. Perhaps it did not go as she expected?
There is a world of difference between sharing a sexual preference and cheating. If the sexual preference means you are wholly at odds and having discussed it you came to the conclusion that it was irreconcilable, then I can understand why people would part ways but the OP was seemingly saying that he said that he was bi so she shut him down and chucked him out. So two very different situations as reactions which will account for the different reactions here in my opinion."
At the moment, all we know is that he came out as bi. No other imformation other than that. If he was cheating on her with other men and then came out as bi, I think the OP would have mentioned this to us aswell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I remember you telling what happened with your ex. It's not really my business,but I would suggest some counselling as you seem to be dwelling on it.
If my husband told me he was gay,I would assume he was telling me so he could leave-gay men aren't into women right?
If he said he was bi I would ask if he's seeing men or just felt he needed to get it off his chest. If he was seeing someone I would be very upset because he was cheating on me,regardless of the gender of the person. We would have a talk about it and go from there; I can't say whether I would leave him or not. |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
Well I hope your ex-husband is in a happy relationship now."
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"Sadly I think a lot of women would do this. From what you are saying it was merely because he was honest enough about his sexuality. There was no great affair or incident. It's as if you were thinking that you were going to lose him so reacted first to save face.
I would much rather any partner of mine told me his was bi (I find it quite hot) as I cannot compete there and so have no insecurity. Much better than him telling me he prefers every other women to me- thin, short, blonde, perky boobs......
I hope that he is really happy and that somewhere down the line you manage to find happiness too as right now you come across as very bitter and blunt."
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By (user no longer on site)
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So those who was just prepared to tell their wives have probably just decided maybe they shouldn't incase they get the same reaction. Bit pointless telling us really. That was a private matter between man and wife!!!! |
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You say something like this on a site full of bisexuals. And you say you'd meet TVs and bi men bevause you aint married to them? Im sorry, but to me, that's a bit hypocritical |
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"You say something like this on a site full of bisexuals. And you say you'd meet TVs and bi men bevause you aint married to them? Im sorry, but to me, that's a bit hypocritical"
agreed. Those bi men could also have wives who may think the same way. Yet it's OK cos he's not her husband lol.
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"You say something like this on a site full of bisexuals. And you say you'd meet TVs and bi men bevause you aint married to them? Im sorry, but to me, that's a bit hypocritical.
agreed. Those bi men could also have wives who may think the same way. Yet it's OK cos he's not her husband lol. "
Coming out is a huge form of trust. She broke said trust by kicking him out. If he had been sleeping with men, I can understand that but leaving him just because he's bi, but still sleeping with bi men? Now thats just wrong |
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
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"Coming out a bisexual (or gay even) takes alot of strength kf you feel it may not go down well. I know myself that I didn't feel right when I wasn't open. I felt like I was pretending to be what people expected. So huge respect for the OP's ex-husband and shame on you for leaving him because he trusted you enough to show who he really was inside"
this post says it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm curious to know why suddenly after (I'm presuming) years of marriage, him coming out and admitting his sexuality can cause you to instantly tell him to leave.
He's still the same person after all. "
It's called years of deceit I would assume? |
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"You say something like this on a site full of bisexuals. And you say you'd meet TVs and bi men bevause you aint married to them? Im sorry, but to me, that's a bit hypocritical.
agreed. Those bi men could also have wives who may think the same way. Yet it's OK cos he's not her husband lol.
Coming out is a huge form of trust. She broke said trust by kicking him out. If he had been sleeping with men, I can understand that but leaving him just because he's bi, but still sleeping with bi men? Now thats just wrong"
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"Coming out a bisexual (or gay even) takes alot of strength kf you feel it may not go down well. I know myself that I didn't feel right when I wasn't open. I felt like I was pretending to be what people expected. So huge respect for the OP's ex-husband and shame on you for leaving him because he trusted you enough to show who he really was inside
this post says it all"
It also hurts me that a lot of bisexual men say they are straight just to get meets on here. Do not hide! There is nothing wrong with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I haven't read your profile only what you posted on your thread and I am sorry that you ended the marriage.
As a partnership we should grow together and go though the journey of every day life together as a united front
Your reaction was from someone who wants to control and stunt and reject your husbands very nature.
You have learnt you are intolerant to change and rejected a man that you had married.
I hope you are both happier but I would say he is probably happier by being the person he wants to be . Also start practicing what you preach it's not nice and rightly you come across a uncaring hypocrite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think he's got the better end of the deal
Now to be honest, I can see from your profile how demanding you are.
So maybe before you publicly try to shame him
For his sexuality you should take a long hard look at yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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After 17 years of marriage, I admitted to my wife that I have some bi feelings, she never kicked me out though!
Maybe because we have a loving relationship, it has made us stronger than ever before too. |
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At the moment, all we know is that he came out as bi. No other imformation other than that. If he was cheating on her with other men and then came out as bi, I think the OP would have mentioned this to us aswell"
She has before - I seem to remember he had an affair with a man during the marriage and is now living with him.
The OP is obviously very hurt and I think the other ladies are right - OP you need some help or councilling to get over this and move on, it is making you bitter. |
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"You say something like this on a site full of bisexuals. And you say you'd meet TVs and bi men bevause you aint married to them? Im sorry, but to me, that's a bit hypocritical.
agreed. Those bi men could also have wives who may think the same way. Yet it's OK cos he's not her husband lol.
Coming out is a huge form of trust. She broke said trust by kicking him out. If he had been sleeping with men, I can understand that but leaving him just because he's bi, but still sleeping with bi men? Now thats just wrong"
According to her,on a previous thread he was having an affair with a man. |
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"You say something like this on a site full of bisexuals. And you say you'd meet TVs and bi men bevause you aint married to them? Im sorry, but to me, that's a bit hypocritical.
agreed. Those bi men could also have wives who may think the same way. Yet it's OK cos he's not her husband lol.
Coming out is a huge form of trust. She broke said trust by kicking him out. If he had been sleeping with men, I can understand that but leaving him just because he's bi, but still sleeping with bi men? Now thats just wrong
According to her,on a previous thread he was having an affair with a man. "
Well if he was having an affair with a man or woman then I would have done the same. X but not if he just told me he was bi x |
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Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives. |
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"Coming out a bisexual (or gay even) takes alot of strength kf you feel it may not go down well. I know myself that I didn't feel right when I wasn't open. I felt like I was pretending to be what people expected. So huge respect for the OP's ex-husband and shame on you for leaving him because he trusted you enough to show who he really was inside
this post says it all
It also hurts me that a lot of bisexual men say they are straight just to get meets on here. Do not hide! There is nothing wrong with you"
Therein lies the problem. Men lie about their sexuality. He lied to her and had an affair with a man. Having a bisexual partner is one thing,being used as an alternative or to cover up the fact you are gay is another. Things are changing for the good now and more men don't hide their sexuality.
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives."
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"Coming out a bisexual (or gay even) takes alot of strength kf you feel it may not go down well. I know myself that I didn't feel right when I wasn't open. I felt like I was pretending to be what people expected. So huge respect for the OP's ex-husband and shame on you for leaving him because he trusted you enough to show who he really was inside
this post says it all
It also hurts me that a lot of bisexual men say they are straight just to get meets on here. Do not hide! There is nothing wrong with you
Therein lies the problem. Men lie about their sexuality. He lied to her and had an affair with a man. Having a bisexual partner is one thing,being used as an alternative or to cover up the fact you are gay is another. Things are changing for the good now and more men don't hide their sexuality.
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then go out and meet married bisexual men, seems a bit like revenge |
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"How many guys on fab who are bi or gay and are married wud dare admit to their wives. Mine didnt and when i found out i instantly told him to leave.
May I ask why...
You meet tvs and bi men now though...
Xxyeah but am not married to them."
Was it because he was bi you chucked him or because he couldn't be honest enough to tell you? |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives."
. I agree, this was never about cheating, this thread was started about his sexuality, it's sad he had affairs and she felt they had to end the marriage but surely that would be the same if it was with a man or a woman, an affair after all is still an affair, and this thread did not start with the suggestion of hurt because of affairs Mrs blue eyes |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives.. I agree, this was never about cheating, this thread was started about his sexuality, it's sad he had affairs and she felt they had to end the marriage but surely that would be the same if it was with a man or a woman, an affair after all is still an affair, and this thread did not start with the suggestion of hurt because of affairs Mrs blue eyes "
No it's not about cheating but one goes in hand with the other in this case, if he's bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he's meeting men behind her back
Now wether your tollorant towards his sexuality of not surely finding out your husband has been playing away is going to hurt
Or is it a case of thinking, oh that's OK if you have been cheating on me I understand you couldn't tell me |
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"No it's not about cheating but one goes in hand with the other in this case, if he's bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he's meeting men behind her back "
Why? Before we were looking at swinging I fancied all kinds of girls, but I never acted on it. Was working in Grimsby once and had a very very very attractive girl put it on a plate for me. I told my wife of it, I also told her I found the girl very attractive.
Having an attraction does not equal infidelity. |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives.. I agree, this was never about cheating, this thread was started about his sexuality, it's sad he had affairs and she felt they had to end the marriage but surely that would be the same if it was with a man or a woman, an affair after all is still an affair, and this thread did not start with the suggestion of hurt because of affairs Mrs blue eyes
No it's not about cheating but one goes in hand with the other in this case, if he's bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he's meeting men behind her back
Now wether your tollorant towards his sexuality of not surely finding out your husband has been playing away is going to hurt
Or is it a case of thinking, oh that's OK if you have been cheating on me I understand you couldn't tell me "
. I was suggesting that I would understand her being hurt by the cheating, but she didn't start this as a my husband cheated thread, I was saying that surely a cheating partner is a cheating partner regardless of which sex they are cheating with, I don't believe she has to understand his cheating because he was gay or bi, and I'm not sure that it's fair to say that because he is bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he would be sleeping with people behind her back, I am sure lots of people have tendencies or feelings this doesn't automatically mean they will act upon them and cheat |
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I think we might be missing the point here.
The OP stated that she found out that he was bi/gay, not that he told her.
How many of us on the scene, would actually embrace are partners if we also found out that he/she was playing away,
I'm sure a few days ago on another thread the OP stated that she welcomes bi/tv men.
Infidelity is the same in vanilla world as in our world.
Just saying! |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives.. I agree, this was never about cheating, this thread was started about his sexuality, it's sad he had affairs and she felt they had to end the marriage but surely that would be the same if it was with a man or a woman, an affair after all is still an affair, and this thread did not start with the suggestion of hurt because of affairs Mrs blue eyes
No it's not about cheating but one goes in hand with the other in this case, if he's bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he's meeting men behind her back
Now wether your tollorant towards his sexuality of not surely finding out your husband has been playing away is going to hurt
Or is it a case of thinking, oh that's OK if you have been cheating on me I understand you couldn't tell me "
Did he cheat or did he just tell his wife he likes cock? Plenty of men out there, and women I imagine, are gay/bi and not sure how they feel about it.
I guess it took a lot of courage to tell his WIFE, life partner, soul mate, best friend, his biggest secret and to have it thrown back at him is pretty callous.
How do the vows go...
'for better or worse...'
He probably saw it as better to tell her, keeping secrets is a terrible thing. She thought it was worse, but missed the point completely...
He's better off without her for sure... |
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"I think we might be missing the point here.
The OP stated that she found out that he was bi/gay, not that he told her.
How many of us on the scene, would actually embrace are partners if we also found out that he/she was playing away,
I'm sure a few days ago on another thread the OP stated that she welcomes bi/tv men.
Infidelity is the same in vanilla world as in our world.
Just saying!"
youre right infidelity is the same no matter what sex you are but its hypocritical to decry someone for doing it when the person themselves meet married bisexual men |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives.. I agree, this was never about cheating, this thread was started about his sexuality, it's sad he had affairs and she felt they had to end the marriage but surely that would be the same if it was with a man or a woman, an affair after all is still an affair, and this thread did not start with the suggestion of hurt because of affairs Mrs blue eyes
No it's not about cheating but one goes in hand with the other in this case, if he's bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he's meeting men behind her back
Now wether your tollorant towards his sexuality of not surely finding out your husband has been playing away is going to hurt
Or is it a case of thinking, oh that's OK if you have been cheating on me I understand you couldn't tell me
Did he cheat or did he just tell his wife he likes cock? Plenty of men out there, and women I imagine, are gay/bi and not sure how they feel about it.
I guess it took a lot of courage to tell his WIFE, life partner, soul mate, best friend, his biggest secret and to have it thrown back at him is pretty callous.
How do the vows go...
'for better or worse...'
He probably saw it as better to tell her, keeping secrets is a terrible thing. She thought it was worse, but missed the point completely...
He's better off without her for sure..."
He didn't tell her anything, read her first post she said he didn't tell her he was bi she found out, the only way she could have found out that he was bi if he didn't tell her was by her finding out he had been meeting somebody surely?
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives.. I agree, this was never about cheating, this thread was started about his sexuality, it's sad he had affairs and she felt they had to end the marriage but surely that would be the same if it was with a man or a woman, an affair after all is still an affair, and this thread did not start with the suggestion of hurt because of affairs Mrs blue eyes
No it's not about cheating but one goes in hand with the other in this case, if he's bi and not telling her then it stands to reason he's meeting men behind her back
Now wether your tollorant towards his sexuality of not surely finding out your husband has been playing away is going to hurt
Or is it a case of thinking, oh that's OK if you have been cheating on me I understand you couldn't tell me
Did he cheat or did he just tell his wife he likes cock? Plenty of men out there, and women I imagine, are gay/bi and not sure how they feel about it.
I guess it took a lot of courage to tell his WIFE, life partner, soul mate, best friend, his biggest secret and to have it thrown back at him is pretty callous.
How do the vows go...
'for better or worse...'
He probably saw it as better to tell her, keeping secrets is a terrible thing. She thought it was worse, but missed the point completely...
He's better off without her for sure..."
According to her he was having an affair and is now with the man,in a relationship. He should have told her before they were married or before he started sleeping with someone else. I don't know if her problem is with him being bi or gay,maybe it's because he kept it a secret. |
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"I think we might be missing the point here.
The OP stated that she found out that he was bi/gay, not that he told her.
How many of us on the scene, would actually embrace are partners if we also found out that he/she was playing away,
I'm sure a few days ago on another thread the OP stated that she welcomes bi/tv men.
Infidelity is the same in vanilla world as in our world.
Just saying!"
And if he is gay it shits all over his relationship with her. |
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"I think we might be missing the point here.
The OP stated that she found out that he was bi/gay, not that he told her.
How many of us on the scene, would actually embrace are partners if we also found out that he/she was playing away,
I'm sure a few days ago on another thread the OP stated that she welcomes bi/tv men.
Infidelity is the same in vanilla world as in our world.
Just saying!
And if he is gay it shits all over his relationship with her. "
. Why if he is gay!!! Surely it's crap regardless of who he cheated with? And how would it be possible to know if he has always had gay/ bi tendencies, it could be that he started to feel something for someone albeit male in the same way if he started to feel something for a female, and he acted upon it, the act is the crap bit, not the the which sex it was with |
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If a woman wants / expects or believes she is in a marriage with a straight guy , then finds out he's bi and he has affairs behind her back with guys , then I don't blame her at all . |
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This is why not many men come out I'm bi but would never tell anyone I've done a few things with men I do prefer women all day but every now and then why not a man if horny at time I bet 9/10 men would do something that's why a lot of men on here message trying to meet same day because most men are horny every day well I am and when you are you would try and meet who ever is about free at the time man of women for him to tell you I take my hat off to him I don't think I could do that |
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"If a woman wants / expects or believes she is in a marriage with a straight guy , then finds out he's bi and he has affairs behind her back with guys , then I don't blame her at all ."
I agree
I would have no problem at all if I found out my partner was bi,I love bi guys so this situation probably wouldn't happen to me as any guy I was with I assum would be OK telling me they were bi knowing how much they turn me on
However
If I did ever find out they were bi and meeting guys behind my back I'm sorry but that would be the end of that relationship
Not because he was bi but because there would obviously be no trust or respect that he didn't feel he could tell me and at the end of the day be it man or woman cheating is cheating, I wouldn't tollorant a partner fucking women behind my back so why should I men
I would tell them they were bloody fools first though for not telling me and probably wish them well as you can't choose your sexuality but I still couldn't be with a guy who was cheating on me sorry |
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"This is why not many men come out I'm bi but would never tell anyone I've done a few things with men I do prefer women all day but every now and then why not a man if horny at time I bet 9/10 men would do something that's why a lot of men on here message trying to meet same day because most men are horny every day well I am and when you are you would try and meet who ever is about free at the time man of women for him to tell you I take my hat off to him I don't think I could do that "
Wouldn't want to start a relationship by being honest and with someone who is ok with you being bi,if you intend to meet men while you're with her?
Your past is your business,however your present is hers too. |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives."
Exactly this^^
And as the OP hasn't come back everything else including the cheating aspect is pure speculation..... |
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"Well this thread she spoke of admitting he was gay or bi, to which she promptly disposed of him.
That's all the information was to hand, and all I'm going on.
Cheating is another issue whether it's with a man or a woman.
The topic she's discussing is that of sexuality and men being able to divulge that to their wives.
Exactly this^^
And as the OP hasn't come back everything else including the cheating aspect is pure speculation....."
No she did put up a thread about it some weeks ago, a couple of us clearly remember the details. |
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