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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this? |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"You don't need to show them"
wouldn't that look worse though if it said on the side verified by whatever but say 3 or 4 men people would definitely be suspicious if I hide them surely. I like to show my verifications to show my character and perhaps entice ladies or couples  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen people pull straight men up on the forums for being straight and having verifications from men and tvs. There are some very stupid people on here. |
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?"
Maybe we are biased because we are a bi couple, but would these same couples and single ladies not assume you had male friends on the scene? Do they not realise that some veris are social. If you have veris from a couple, and the male is straight, surely it could follow that he isn't necessarily, if you use that logic. Some people are just too uptight, and that would put us off meeting them .... not you, OP, as we don't know you, but those who look at others' veris like that ... in my opinion |
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over a year ago
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I have two verifications; one from a woman,one from a tv. I've never touched the woman's gebitals and the tv was not a tv when we met. People have made assumptions based on two verifications. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"You don't need to show them wouldn't that look worse though if it said on the side verified by whatever but say 3 or 4 men people would definitely be suspicious if I hide them surely. I like to show my verifications to show my character and perhaps entice ladies or couples "
You don't need to show the summary either.
It wouldn't bother me. I might be more likely to read a veri from a guy to a guy just to check he is actually looking for women, but I have seen many social guy - guy veris. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
Maybe we are biased because we are a bi couple, but would these same couples and single ladies not assume you had male friends on the scene? Do they not realise that some veris are social. If you have veris from a couple, and the male is straight, surely it could follow that he isn't necessarily, if you use that logic. Some people are just too uptight, and that would put us off meeting them .... not you, OP, as we don't know you, but those who look at others' veris like that ... in my opinion"
yeah I appreciate that but some people just assume don't they an I don't want ruin any chances by giving a wrong impression or people think I'm being deceptive, I don't even add as friends keep all my filters on. |
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Personally I don't think you should be so concerned about what other people think. From what I remember you have said you get lots of action at clubs, so why be bothered about putting people on here off ... fabs is actually a tiny part of the scene, many of us get lots more meets from clubs and other people we have met. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't think you should be so concerned about what other people think. From what I remember you have said you get lots of action at clubs, so why be bothered about putting people on here off ... fabs is actually a tiny part of the scene, many of us get lots more meets from clubs and other people we have met."
yeah I do alright in clubs but would like more meets off here aswell, just wanted a general consensus on it see what couples and single ladies think. I don't wanna come across as rude either when making new friends an they will ask me why and ill explain and I think they believe im worrying too much about it aswell.
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have two verifications; one from a woman,one from a tv. I've never touched the woman's gebitals and the tv was not a tv when we met. People have made assumptions based on two verifications. "
yeah that's what I'm saying people would see verified by a few men or whatever and automatically jump to a conclusion an not even read the veris or whatever that's why I've been adamant about not wanting any.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I wouldn't worry what others thought, I don't show verifications and I've got none from guys, but on my old profile there were a few from the same blokes I'd met at socials or the single male half of a couple etc. What would you do if you received one, as you can't choose to accept them etc? |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yeah I wouldn't worry what others thought, I don't show verifications and I've got none from guys, but on my old profile there were a few from the same blokes I'd met at socials or the single male half of a couple etc. What would you do if you received one, as you can't choose to accept them etc?"
well I was thinking about this because usually they ask if I want 1 but if I got 1 I would probly block the user or ask admin to remove it. That is drastic I know and would look bad but it's all about how you are perceived on here.
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"Yeah I wouldn't worry what others thought, I don't show verifications and I've got none from guys, but on my old profile there were a few from the same blokes I'd met at socials or the single male half of a couple etc. What would you do if you received one, as you can't choose to accept them etc? well I was thinking about this because usually they ask if I want 1 but if I got 1 I would probly block the user or ask admin to remove it. That is drastic I know and would look bad but it's all about how you are perceived on here."
I think it looks worse if you are stressing about it on here. Luckily hardly anyone on the site worries about the forums |
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To be honest if i saw a straight guy with a verification from a guy saying something like "met at a social had a good chat and laugh" id think this person is good at socializing and not "just" there for the women. But it depends who you want to attract. If you want to attract judgemental people without the ability to read a verification then dont have them |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yeah I wouldn't worry what others thought, I don't show verifications and I've got none from guys, but on my old profile there were a few from the same blokes I'd met at socials or the single male half of a couple etc. What would you do if you received one, as you can't choose to accept them etc? well I was thinking about this because usually they ask if I want 1 but if I got 1 I would probly block the user or ask admin to remove it. That is drastic I know and would look bad but it's all about how you are perceived on here.
I think it looks worse if you are stressing about it on here. Luckily hardly anyone on the site worries about the forums"
I'm not stressing just wanted thoughts on it. I don't want people I meet thinking I'm being rude or perhaps homophobic when they would be making a nice gesture giving a good verification but I decline because of thought of how it could be conceived. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"To be honest if i saw a straight guy with a verification from a guy saying something like "met at a social had a good chat and laugh" id think this person is good at socializing and not "just" there for the women. But it depends who you want to attract. If you want to attract judgemental people without the ability to read a verification then dont have them"
yeah and I could have a few of them good at making friends in just in the back of my mind of how it would look on here that's all.
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"To be honest if i saw a straight guy with a verification from a guy saying something like "met at a social had a good chat and laugh" id think this person is good at socializing and not "just" there for the women. But it depends who you want to attract. If you want to attract judgemental people without the ability to read a verification then dont have them yeah and I could have a few of them good at making friends in just in the back of my mind of how it would look on here that's all."
but look to who? Surely you want to attract people that dont careless
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?"
I am new to this and I get hit on my men who block men from sending a message only to get a message ask me to play. All are straight. So I have come to the conclusion that all men on here have played with another guy and do, they are so scared of telling anyone.Most that block messages also have male friends who are TV's If men are meeting men in frocks for fun, they are not straight. QED |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"Why would you want to fuck someone who believes you're gay if you met a man even if the verification is social only? They'd be a bit too dim for me. "
yeah what I'm saying is if they saw just the side where ut shows veris that might not even give you a chance
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yeah I wouldn't worry what others thought, I don't show verifications and I've got none from guys, but on my old profile there were a few from the same blokes I'd met at socials or the single male half of a couple etc. What would you do if you received one, as you can't choose to accept them etc? well I was thinking about this because usually they ask if I want 1 but if I got 1 I would probly block the user or ask admin to remove it. That is drastic I know and would look bad but it's all about how you are perceived on here.
I think it looks worse if you are stressing about it on here. Luckily hardly anyone on the site worries about the forums I'm not stressing just wanted thoughts on it. I don't want people I meet thinking I'm being rude or perhaps homophobic when they would be making a nice gesture giving a good verification but I decline because of thought of how it could be conceived.
Well, you do come across as homophobic. he comes across as something not sure what, obsesessed? Not comfortable with himself and his own sexuality?"
again mistaken I'm very comfortable in my sexuality I think my verifications testify that Im just a worrier I guess try thinking of possible outcomes and how they could affect me. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I am new to this and I get hit on my men who block men from sending a message only to get a message ask me to play. All are straight. So I have come to the conclusion that all men on here have played with another guy and do, they are so scared of telling anyone.Most that block messages also have male friends who are TV's If men are meeting men in frocks for fun, they are not straight. QED"
yeah I personally agree meeting tvs for sex is not straight but wrong to assume all men on here have played with other men though. I'm not scared just don't anything that could be detrimental for potential meets. |
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I am new to this and I get hit on my men who block men from sending a message only to get a message ask me to play. All are straight. So I have come to the conclusion that all men on here have played with another guy and do, they are so scared of telling anyone.Most that block messages also have male friends who are TV's If men are meeting men in frocks for fun, they are not straight. QED yeah I personally agree meeting tvs for sex is not straight but wrong to assume all men on here have played with other men though. I'm not scared just don't anything that could be detrimental for potential meets."
But is not honest and I have seen profile which show they have only men TV etc, so although they say straight they are not, but honest with whome they meet. Think you like to meet with someone who is hiding a fact from you. It is not being nasty I am only pointing out the obvious, it is then for the people who are meeting to make a judgement based on fact, not on hidden facts.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honest if i saw a straight guy with a verification from a guy saying something like "met at a social had a good chat and laugh" id think this person is good at socializing and not "just" there for the women. But it depends who you want to attract. If you want to attract judgemental people without the ability to read a verification then dont have them yeah and I could have a few of them good at making friends in just in the back of my mind of how it would look on here that's all."
we are giving you our thoughts, it seems your mind set is more fixed than anyone elses..lighten up...and breathe...you do what makes you happy on here, its your profile..people will like it or not, people will meet you or not, the most important thing is that you feel comfortable, because that way your genuine personality comes through anyway...and things change over time you may not care as much about veris and who gives them to you..if people are that analytical over your verification's, maybe their just not your sort of people..youll find out one way or another x
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I don't know why some of you are having a go at the OP. He doesn't want to minimise his chances of a shag by people thinking he's gay, it's that simple.
If he's having sex with a woman and she turns out to be homophobic will he not continue? Doubtful. I'd be very surprised if it was more than a tiny percentage of straight men that would turn a woman down because she was considered to be homophobic.
I've declined to give unverified straight men I've spoken to in a club a verification and explained it will hurt their chances. We don't live in an enlightened utopia and many will be blind to the word "social" and read "arse bandit". |
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"I don't know why some of you are having a go at the OP. He doesn't want to minimise his chances of a shag by people thinking he's gay, it's that simple.
If he's having sex with a woman and she turns out to be homophobic will he not continue? Doubtful. I'd be very surprised if it was more than a tiny percentage of straight men that would turn a woman down because she was considered to be homophobic.
I've declined to give unverified straight men I've spoken to in a club a verification and explained it will hurt their chances. We don't live in an enlightened utopia and many will be blind to the word "social" and read "arse bandit"."
Personally I was initially giving the OP my opinion and I think a lot of others were ... but he doesn't want to hear it, so I think he may actually be having a go at the bi people here by saying their opinions aren't valid. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"I don't know why some of you are having a go at the OP. He doesn't want to minimise his chances of a shag by people thinking he's gay, it's that simple.
If he's having sex with a woman and she turns out to be homophobic will he not continue? Doubtful. I'd be very surprised if it was more than a tiny percentage of straight men that would turn a woman down because she was considered to be homophobic.
I've declined to give unverified straight men I've spoken to in a club a verification and explained it will hurt their chances. We don't live in an enlightened utopia and many will be blind to the word "social" and read "arse bandit"."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will judge you if you say you're straight and you have a verification from a man. You can do your best to not get verified by men or you can just not care what those people who would judge you for it think. It's up to you.
When we show our verifications we sometimes get messages from single guys we've turned down saying that they must be too straight for us because we have social veris from bi guys. I like getting those messages because it tells me exactly why I will turn them down the next time they message. I won't meet people who care about the type of person who verifies us.
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"Well im a straight female and couldnt give a fuck who someones verifications are from plus your assuming where all judgemental, stupid and incapable of reading"
Maybe you have bi tendencies but don't know it??  |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"Well im a straight female and couldnt give a fuck who someones verifications are from plus your assuming where all judgemental, stupid and incapable of reading"
the amount if single men on here people will just glance at a profile if they saw that on the side it could automatically ruin chances in my opinion that's what I'm saying.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I'm just not sure why the OP has asked for opinions when every opinion that says 'It's not a big deal' he disagrees with. If the OP thinks that not declining veris from single guys might affect his chances, then that's what he should do.
I have many veris from single women, but I am not bi. I haven't noticed them affecting my chances with the opposite sex. |
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Op you have 19 verifications on show ...you really don't need anymore to prove that you're the guy in the photo ...which is what a verification is all about surely x |
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"Well im a straight female and couldnt give a fuck who someones verifications are from plus your assuming where all judgemental, stupid and incapable of reading the amount if single men on here people will just glance at a profile if they saw that on the side it could automatically ruin chances in my opinion that's what I'm saying."
I don't think anyone is going to change your opinion, OP. You are listening to the people who endorse it and ignoring those who suggest looking at it another way. Good luck with your search. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"People will judge you if you say you're straight and you have a verification from a man. You can do your best to not get verified by men or you can just not care what those people who would judge you for it think. It's up to you.
When we show our verifications we sometimes get messages from single guys we've turned down saying that they must be too straight for us because we have social veris from bi guys. I like getting those messages because it tells me exactly why I will turn them down the next time they message. I won't meet people who care about the type of person who verifies us.
-Courtney "
I think ill just stick to what I have been doing just feel a bit harsh that's all when I said I don't want 1 from a man or give a veri to a man who isn't verified. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"People will judge you if you say you're straight and you have a verification from a man. You can do your best to not get verified by men or you can just not care what those people who would judge you for it think. It's up to you.
When we show our verifications we sometimes get messages from single guys we've turned down saying that they must be too straight for us because we have social veris from bi guys. I like getting those messages because it tells me exactly why I will turn them down the next time they message. I won't meet people who care about the type of person who verifies us.
-Courtney I think ill just stick to what I have been doing just feel a bit harsh that's all when I said I don't want 1 from a man or give a veri to a man who isn't verified."
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"I have many veris from single women, but I am not bi. I haven't noticed them affecting my chances with the opposite sex."
Knowing your forum persona I'm going to presume, hopefully correctly, that you are joking and not genuinely comparing a bi female's treatment with that of a bi male. |
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"People will judge you if you say you're straight and you have a verification from a man. You can do your best to not get verified by men or you can just not care what those people who would judge you for it think. It's up to you.
When we show our verifications we sometimes get messages from single guys we've turned down saying that they must be too straight for us because we have social veris from bi guys. I like getting those messages because it tells me exactly why I will turn them down the next time they message. I won't meet people who care about the type of person who verifies us.
-Courtney I think ill just stick to what I have been doing just feel a bit harsh that's all when I said I don't want 1 from a man or give a veri to a man who isn't verified."
It's up to you what you do, obviously. And it will give you more options. But I must say, in my opinion, I find it sad when people are so easily willing to play to the prejudices of others just for sex. I'm not suprised, but I'm saddened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?"
They might think you're rude for asking them not to veri. If they know you they will understand. If they don't know you, then just don't give a shit what they think!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have two verifications; one from a woman,one from a tv. I've never touched the woman's gebitals and the tv was not a tv when we met. People have made assumptions based on two verifications. yeah that's what I'm saying people would see verified by a few men or whatever and automatically jump to a conclusion an not even read the veris or whatever that's why I've been adamant about not wanting any."
Your profile,you run it how is best for you. I see it as another filter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just not sure why the OP has asked for opinions when every opinion that says 'It's not a big deal' he disagrees with. If the OP thinks that not declining veris from single guys might affect his chances, then that's what he should do.
I have many veris from single women, but I am not bi. I haven't noticed them affecting my chances with the opposite sex."
When someone asks for an opinion do they have to have their minds changed? Or can they take on board others' opinions but not change theirs? |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't see it as homophobic or an obsession. It's a perfectly acceptable way of reasoning to me. "
I agree with this, but sensibly OP if you had 2 veri from couples and 20 from men, I would think your preference for meets was males. If you have an occasional male veri, people can read it and think you are a sociable chap.
If ladies were put off because you had a couple of veris from fellas, they presumably cannot read and have no common sense ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have the right to decide if you don't want a veri off a guy. You are doing it so as not to put some women off, not because you are homophobic. I'm sure you've explained this, and I'm sure they understand. It's your profile, and if you don't want to be verified by men you have met in a social setting, that's entirely your choice and nobody else's. I know some women may jump to conclusions. I personally wouldn't be put off, but I can understand your concern that others may be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't see it as homophobic or an obsession. It's a perfectly acceptable way of reasoning to me.
I agree with this, but sensibly OP if you had 2 veri from couples and 20 from men, I would think your preference for meets was males. If you have an occasional male veri, people can read it and think you are a sociable chap.
If ladies were put off because you had a couple of veris from fellas, they presumably cannot read and have no common sense !"
The people I'd be inclined to meet would be the ones who bothered to read the verifications and didn't jump to conclusions. |
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"I've seen people pull straight men up on the forums for being straight and having verifications from men and tvs. There are some very stupid people on here. "
This!
People meet at clubs/socials, doesn't mean it's a play meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not even worth discussing imho
If the choices I make (in the context of expressing my sexual self), put others off me, then I honestly couldn't care less.
I am far more interested in meeting those that aren't put off.
The day I feel like I have 'list out' (for whatever reason) is the day my boots get hung up.
Approaching others through this medium, should be a stroll in the park, not a teeter through a minefield frightened to put a foot wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't need to show them wouldn't that look worse though if it said on the side verified by whatever but say 3 or 4 men people would definitely be suspicious if I hide them surely. I like to show my verifications to show my character and perhaps entice ladies or couples "
I tend to hide my verifications because it's my business who I've met. |
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"You don't need to show them wouldn't that look worse though if it said on the side verified by whatever but say 3 or 4 men people would definitely be suspicious if I hide them surely. I like to show my verifications to show my character and perhaps entice ladies or couples
I tend to hide my verifications because it's my business who I've met. "
well that goes onto another topic if a woman is verified on here it doesn't really matter what the verifications say men will still want to meet them. Whereas a single guy people want to know if you are a nice guy and can perform in the bedroom etc. as there are so many too choose from they want a single guy who is almost guaranteed to give them what they want. |
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"Yeah I wouldn't worry what others thought, I don't show verifications and I've got none from guys, but on my old profile there were a few from the same blokes I'd met at socials or the single male half of a couple etc. What would you do if you received one, as you can't choose to accept them etc? well I was thinking about this because usually they ask if I want 1 but if I got 1 I would probly block the user or ask admin to remove it. That is drastic I know and would look bad but it's all about how you are perceived on here.
I think it looks worse if you are stressing about it on here. Luckily hardly anyone on the site worries about the forums I'm not stressing just wanted thoughts on it. I don't want people I meet thinking I'm being rude or perhaps homophobic when they would be making a nice gesture giving a good verification but I decline because of thought of how it could be conceived.
Well, you do come across as homophobic. see you are mistaken made several friends with bisexual guys and knew gay fellas I don't judge or just about how it could affect me.
You know, OP, some people won't meet bi men. Some people won't meet straight men (us included). Some people won't meet unverified men. Some will.
The very fact that you are worried by the issue shows that you are homophobic. Yes, yes, we always hear the, "But some of my best friends are ..." rubbish.
Get into the 21st century. It is fun. well I'm not trying to come across as homophobic because I'm not whatever you may think. This generally happens people going off topic on here just wanted thoughts and opinions on it to get a general idea as I had a discussion about it with another straight single guy last night. I think opinions from bisexual couples or people who like bi men or whatever aren't really relevant either to be honest as that is not the demographic I'm seeking for thoughts and opinions.
Ah, and there it is ... because this implies that bi couples and people who like bi men are 'a race apart' ... we play straight too, we have valid opinions and jobs and pay taxes ... if you met me in the street, I am not sure you would even be able to tell that I am bi. So, why would my opinion be less worthy, if anything, because we know lots of people on the scene and converse with them, even straight ones, without playing, you could well say we actually have a very valid opinion, and not just us, any other couple. Bi men and bi couples could give you their experience of couples and if they get turned down for being bi (we haven't ever, to my knowledge, but then I am not that bothered). What many posters have said is that it depends on if the person who notices your verifications being open minded and non judgemental .... that matters more than their sexuality or preferences. "
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OP, some of your veris are from couples and one says you were involved in some ffmmm or thereabouts. Some may take that as you playing with men as well as women so if you're OK showing that veri, I don't know why you wouldn't show a social veri from a single straight guy. |
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"OP, some of your veris are from couples and one says you were involved in some ffmmm or thereabouts. Some may take that as you playing with men as well as women so if you're OK showing that veri, I don't know why you wouldn't show a social veri from a single straight guy."
see there you go my point exactly which certainly wasn't the case, i could easily have 6 or 7 friendly veris from single straight guys and i just thought that wouldn't look good.
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"Not even worth discussing imho
If the choices I make (in the context of expressing my sexual self), put others off me, then I honestly couldn't care less.
I am far more interested in meeting those that aren't put off.
The day I feel like I have 'list out' (for whatever reason) is the day my boots get hung up.
Approaching others through this medium, should be a stroll in the park, not a teeter through a minefield frightened to put a foot wrong."
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"You don't need to show them wouldn't that look worse though if it said on the side verified by whatever but say 3 or 4 men people would definitely be suspicious if I hide them surely. I like to show my verifications to show my character and perhaps entice ladies or couples
Not necessarily... I find the OMG he was amazing blah blah blah verifications a turn off, as I do profiles that day " you won't be disappointed " (yawn!)
I'll meet someone based on my gut instinct from chatting to them and from their pics.
But always go for a social first because I feel it's important for both concerned. Sometimes people look nothing like their pics or face to face there's just no connection.
Anyway I'm waffling...
I tend to hide my verifications because it's my business who I've met. well that goes onto another topic if a woman is verified on here it doesn't really matter what the verifications say men will still want to meet them. Whereas a single guy people want to know if you are a nice guy and can perform in the bedroom etc. as there are so many too choose from they want a single guy who is almost guaranteed to give them what they want."
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"OP, some of your veris are from couples and one says you were involved in some ffmmm or thereabouts. Some may take that as you playing with men as well as women so if you're OK showing that veri, I don't know why you wouldn't show a social veri from a single straight guy. see there you go my point exactly which certainly wasn't the case, i could easily have 6 or 7 friendly veris from single straight guys and i just thought that wouldn't look good."
My point was if you're ok showing that then why not show a veri from a single guy?
There will always be something that will put some people off. It could be the number of veris for example, not who the veris are from.
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You could be a club owner getting a veri from happy customers who are 100% intelligible in what they write and some stupid people would assume it was a lie.
Would you want to meet stupid or narrow people anyway?
I think the biggest benefit is going from no veris to having any. Once you're beyond that then it adds less to help you.
I've met and verified a few people socially or those who've come to my parties. It's frustrating to think that many of us may be wasting some effort. I'll always emphasise if someone is reliable and good socially and I'd recommend them. I'd probably not write a veri for someone if I was less than certain that I'd introduce them to others socially and it could come back to haunt me or others could be fooled into trusting them.
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?"
I'm not your mate blondey! 
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over a year ago
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then? "
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over a year ago
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then?
hahahahah!! Threatened by a ginger?! "
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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right I'm going out so wont be on here so only people who believe there opinion is relevant to this thread contribute please. Everybody else looking for controversy, going off topic or trying to antagonise me do 1. |
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then?
hahahahah!! Threatened by a ginger?! haha now i'm offended i'm clearly dark blonde should have gone specsavers fella "
im the ginger you tool hahahah |
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then?
hahahahah!! Threatened by a ginger?! haha now i'm offended i'm clearly dark blonde should have gone specsavers fella "
Offended???What's wrong with bloody ginger???? |
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?"
I think after reading these forums there are people about who think you are gay/ bi if you have a bi/gay friend so it doesn't surprise me that they would think you were sleeping with men if you had a veri from men. I am just surprised that people on this thread can't accept this happens.
I think you should run your profile how you think fit, and if that means refusing veri's from single men then do that
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then?
hahahahah!! Threatened by a ginger?! haha now i'm offended i'm clearly dark blonde should have gone specsavers fella
Offended???What's wrong with bloody ginger???? "
Nooo he thought i called him ginger! He musy have forgotten about my vibrant locks
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then?
hahahahah!! Threatened by a ginger?! haha now i'm offended i'm clearly dark blonde should have gone specsavers fella
Offended???What's wrong with bloody ginger????
Nooo he thought i called him ginger! He musy have forgotten about my vibrant locks
Gingers fucking rule "
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I'm not your mate blondey!
haha a rival then?
hahahahah!! Threatened by a ginger?! haha now i'm offended i'm clearly dark blonde should have gone specsavers fella
Offended???What's wrong with bloody ginger????
Nooo he thought i called him ginger! He musy have forgotten about my vibrant locks
Gingers fucking rule
Lol. Love ginger! "
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Ive got a verrie off a very good purely platonic female friend and the amount of guys and some women that ask to meet us both for a 3sum is laughable as we both clearly say that we are straight
some people just assume in here |
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If I see a guys profile has a veri from a man it doesn't automatically put me off but if you have a veri from a man and your profile says straight I would look to see if the veri was displayed so I could see if it was a social meet or an experimental one but that's just me. |
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?"
Do what your comfortable with.
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By *r.Blonde OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've not got any and chose to keep it this way although I have made friends with several single guys and they say oh I will give you a veri but I ask them not to. I was told for a straight man you don't want any veris off men as some couples or single ladies will just assume that you aren't straight even if the veri was just a friendly 1 which is all it ever would be in my case. I don't know whether I come across as rude asking for them not too, What are peoples thoughts on this?
I think after reading these forums there are people about who think you are gay/ bi if you have a bi/gay friend so it doesn't surprise me that they would think you were sleeping with men if you had a veri from men. I am just surprised that people on this thread can't accept this happens.
I think you should run your profile how you think fit, and if that means refusing veri's from single men then do that
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Thank you there is people who see the big picture, it's just a shame that it would be interpreted that way by some people and that's what has put me off doing it. |
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over a year ago
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"Ive got a verrie off a very good purely platonic female friend and the amount of guys and some women that ask to meet us both for a 3sum is laughable as we both clearly say that we are straight
some people just assume in here"
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I think you're right. If you have straight on your profile and have a veri from a bi man then you'll look like a bi man whos also a liar and sneak and a fraud.......and who wants that!
No its not rude to expect someone to not lie on your behalf. |
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So let me get this right ... you are constructing your profile in such a manner that it does not reflect your own thoughts and mindset, but purely so as to not be ruled out by those that put two and two together and get five ? |
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over a year ago
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"So let me get this right ... you are constructing your profile in such a manner that it does not reflect your own thoughts and mindset, but purely so as to not be ruled out by those that put two and two together and get five ?"
to a certain extent yes and I'm aware that isn't ideal but I just like to think moves ahead of possible scenarios.
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"So let me get this right ... you are constructing your profile in such a manner that it does not reflect your own thoughts and mindset, but purely so as to not be ruled out by those that put two and two together and get five ? to a certain extent yes and I'm aware that isn't ideal but I just like to think moves ahead of possible scenarios."
I can't speak for others, but I'd like to think I am meeting the real person behind the profile, not a contrived version of them put together to appeal to a broader audience.
It just seems easier that way.
Whatever you are doing appears to work for you and those you meet though and, I guess, that should remain the salient point for us all. |
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over a year ago
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"So let me get this right ... you are constructing your profile in such a manner that it does not reflect your own thoughts and mindset, but purely so as to not be ruled out by those that put two and two together and get five ? to a certain extent yes and I'm aware that isn't ideal but I just like to think moves ahead of possible scenarios.
I can't speak for others, but I'd like to think I am meeting the real person behind the profile, not a contrived version of them put together to appeal to a broader audience.
It just seems easier that way.
Whatever you are doing appears to work for you and those you meet though and, I guess, that should remain the salient point for us all."
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I've got veris from men, most of them are from socials. I don't care what people think so I don't care what erroneous conclusion they come too. I don't want sex with stupid and judgemental people so by not contacting me, they do me a favour. |
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"I have a veri from a TV but it was from the ledgend that is Tinatitz so it's allowed. yeah but you don't display it"
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"So let me get this right ... you are constructing your profile in such a manner that it does not reflect your own thoughts and mindset, but purely so as to not be ruled out by those that put two and two together and get five ? to a certain extent yes and I'm aware that isn't ideal but I just like to think moves ahead of possible scenarios.
I can't speak for others, but I'd like to think I am meeting the real person behind the profile, not a contrived version of them put together to appeal to a broader audience.
It just seems easier that way.
Whatever you are doing appears to work for you and those you meet though and, I guess, that should remain the salient point for us all. yeah I think it's just the way single men can be perceived on here it can give you a bit of paranoia."
It's quite interesting to see the opposing viewpoints.
For one guy (you), the way single guys are perceived makes you 'paranoid' and causes you to (over)think your every move and approach in an attempt to broaden your appeal.
For another guy (me), it makes me go the other way and resist conformity, in the process perhaps narrowing my appeal but, providing me with the knowledge that there are some folks here that will take me as I come.
I don't think there's a right or a wrong way, we just 'do' what works for us
You have way more veris than me but then again, you have 'youth' and good looks on your side and meeting a wide variety of people is evidently more important to you than it is to me. |
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over a year ago
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"So let me get this right ... you are constructing your profile in such a manner that it does not reflect your own thoughts and mindset, but purely so as to not be ruled out by those that put two and two together and get five ? to a certain extent yes and I'm aware that isn't ideal but I just like to think moves ahead of possible scenarios.
I can't speak for others, but I'd like to think I am meeting the real person behind the profile, not a contrived version of them put together to appeal to a broader audience.
It just seems easier that way.
Whatever you are doing appears to work for you and those you meet though and, I guess, that should remain the salient point for us all. yeah I think it's just the way single men can be perceived on here it can give you a bit of paranoia.
It's quite interesting to see the opposing viewpoints.
For one guy (you), the way single guys are perceived makes you 'paranoid' and causes you to (over)think your every move and approach in an attempt to broaden your appeal.
For another guy (me), it makes me go the other way and resist conformity, in the process perhaps narrowing my appeal but, providing me with the knowledge that there are some folks here that will take me as I come.
I don't think there's a right or a wrong way, we just 'do' what works for us
You have way more veris than me but then again, you have 'youth' and good looks on your side and meeting a wide variety of people is evidently more important to you than it is to me."
yeah it is interesting, i'm just looking to have a good time and will do things that I think will help me in the long run to achieve that. It's a bit selfish I know that but just the way I am to a degree. |
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