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Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen". |
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over a year ago
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
Yeh same here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet for a social first is my advice from my personal experience  "
Defo this, would never like to be in a situation like this. I can't say if I want to have fun with someone without meeting socially first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be very off putting when that happens. I assume it happens to most on here. And has happened to me. I was put off for a couple of weeks, but then I recovered, and began to enjoy the site again. I hope it's the same for you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this 
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously. |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
Do not have meets at your gaff. Social first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely agree with a social in a neutral place first. Mind you, just chatting on the phone beforehand can out the "no hopers". Best of luck for the next time OP |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously."
It's how I work too. Also, there is no pressure to fuck with me so if it doesn't work when I meet a guy then never mind, Next!
It's not always going to work out, don't dwell on it, learn from it and get on enjoying life |
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I think that's the problem. hormones and horniness kicks in and being single I have the luxury to invite people over. women should be more responsible of course as u don't know the dangers but I can look after myself in that respects.
If they read it so be it, they should learn from it. |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously.
It's how I work too. Also, there is no pressure to fuck with me so if it doesn't work when I meet a guy then never mind, Next!
It's not always going to work out, don't dwell on it, learn from it and get on enjoying life "
I'm not saying I just kick guys out, we just turn the meet into a social, nice chat, cup of tea, if I have any biscuits I get them out, gluten free only I'm afraid though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that's the problem. hormones and horniness kicks in and being single I have the luxury to invite people over. women should be more responsible of course as u don't know the dangers but I can look after myself in that respects.
If they read it so be it, they should learn from it."
I hope you told your meet the reason why you backed down? Hope it's not too much of a surprise for her!! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
Been there and done that! But learnt from it, put me off meeting for a few months though, and now always a first meet in public, if men don't understand that, then a meet is just never going to happen |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"I think that's the problem. hormones and horniness kicks in and being single I have the luxury to invite people over. women should be more responsible of course as u don't know the dangers but I can look after myself in that respects.
If they read it so be it, they should learn from it.
I hope you told your meet the reason why you backed down? Hope it's not too much of a surprise for her!!"
I would guess from his status that she may have underestimated how big he actually is or maybe wasn't relaxed enough to take him and he got frustrated?
Whatever the reason, his actions may end up working against him when potential meets read all this and are put off as they don't want to risk being disappointing... |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously."
. I'm the same. As to a disastrous meet as a result I am aware it may happen. But it hasn't yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah. I've been off spontaneous meets since i accidently invited a pesterer over (he was blocked but made a new profile and i didn't recognise him) and he got a bit 'not give a shit what you want' and i was left traumatised.
It put me off meeting altogether for ages but i like sex and only wanna meet trusted guys now. New guys aren't keen on socials so they can fuck off. my safety is more important than their dick, always. |
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No need for an extensive social meet, just don't meet at your place.
I find a drink coffee/beer or wine and the time it takes to drink that is enough time to be sure whether you are physically attracted or not. |
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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago
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Better to have a bad experience because your meet partner can't manage your massive cock than have someone of the opposite gender you were expecting show up 
And on that point, yes, when meets go wrong I do get put off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet for a social first is my advice from my personal experience "
The only thing with a social meet is as I'm a tv ...you will only see the male side of me outside. So it makes a social meet not a meet to show the goods off. And yes I have had one off them nightmare meets and it did put me off...I took a break from here for around 3 momths  |
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"I think that's the problem. hormones and horniness kicks in and being single I have the luxury to invite people over. women should be more responsible of course as u don't know the dangers but I can look after myself in that respects.
If they read it so be it, they should learn from it."
Whoa! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes a bad meet put me off for a long time. I'm still not sure about meeting now tbh.
Bad sex/incompatibility wouldn't put me off though. Sounds like that's all this was? Why make such a big deal out of it? The OP's status is really quite brutal.
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"God I wasn't rude or offensive about it. I do realise people are shy and vulnerable going to someone else's home you know. "
That really isn't the impression you're giving here. Your status isn't nice either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Putting "what a crap shag" in your status... brilliant... so you fucked then? What I mean to say is that. No alarm bells went off? You still fucked... then you announce to the site just how shite it was..
Takes two to tango.... |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
stick to sucking your own cock problem sorted |
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"Putting "what a crap shag" in your status... brilliant... so you fucked then? What I mean to say is that. No alarm bells went off? You still fucked... then you announce to the site just how shite it was..
Takes two to tango...."
just read the status so can only agree..
no need OP for such as that, a bit of respect for others goes a long way.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going to offer advice but then saw your status update & thought I'm not qualified to answer on the basis of I don't like XXL cocks, of any variety...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was going to offer advice but then saw your status update & thought I'm not qualified to answer on the basis of I don't like XXL cocks, of any variety......"
lololololololol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"God I wasn't rude or offensive about it. I do realise people are shy and vulnerable going to someone else's home you know.
That really isn't the impression you're giving here. Your status isn't nice either.
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I'm sorry, but it's really not nice to have a status put up like that. I hope in a way that you have blocked the person you've met, so they don't have to read that. I know a thick skin is needed on this site. I've had a crap shag in the past, but I'd never dream of humiliating someone by posting it on my profile. |
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"No matter what the circumstances if it isn't going to work you Should always feel you can say "hold on, this isn't working for me".
Top tip, when the horn strikes think twice  "
haha agreed, or grab the fleshlight |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"God I wasn't rude or offensive about it. I do realise people are shy and vulnerable going to someone else's home you know.
That really isn't the impression you're giving here. Your status isn't nice either.
I'm sorry, but it's really not nice to have a status put up like that. I hope in a way that you have blocked the person you've met, so they don't have to read that. I know a thick skin is needed on this site. I've had a crap shag in the past, but I'd never dream of humiliating someone by posting it on my profile."
I have had crap shags not from this site though mainly from randoms in clubs but it has t been often
Though I don't know if I am a crap shag or not lol |
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Tell you what would put me off for life, going to a guys house, shag then log on to see your status.
How downright disrespectful. All the poor woman seems to have done is not meet your expectations and yet you just used her cause you where horny. |
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"Tell you what would put me off for life, going to a guys house, shag then log on to see your status.
How downright disrespectful. All the poor woman seems to have done is not meet your expectations and yet you just used her cause you where horny."
I think it was a man he met |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"God I wasn't rude or offensive about it. I do realise people are shy and vulnerable going to someone else's home you know.
That really isn't the impression you're giving here. Your status isn't nice either.
I'm sorry, but it's really not nice to have a status put up like that. I hope in a way that you have blocked the person you've met, so they don't have to read that. I know a thick skin is needed on this site. I've had a crap shag in the past, but I'd never dream of humiliating someone by posting it on my profile.
I have had crap shags not from this site though mainly from randoms in clubs but it has t been often
Though I don't know if I am a crap shag or not lol"
And I'm sure you'd rather not find out from someone's profile status, for all to see!!! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Tell you what would put me off for life, going to a guys house, shag then log on to see your status.
How downright disrespectful. All the poor woman seems to have done is not meet your expectations and yet you just used her cause you where horny. I think it was a man he met"
With a bigger cock than him maybe? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't do spontaneous meets from here and I don't do socials if I can help it. Not had a terrible meet yet. The worse one was my fault for eating before fucking. |
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over a year ago
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"hehe I love it, look at the all the forum bullies giving it large....lol
I do ok regardless of my updated status ;p"
I don't think it's bullying is it though. You've been disrespectful to someone haven't you,and that isn't very nice of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't do spontaneous meets from here and I don't do socials if I can help it. Not had a terrible meet yet. The worse one was my fault for eating before fucking. "
Already TMI |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Putting "what a crap shag" in your status... brilliant... so you fucked then? What I mean to say is that. No alarm bells went off? You still fucked... then you announce to the site just how shite it was..
Takes two to tango....
just read the status so can only agree..
no need OP for such as that, a bit of respect for others goes a long way.."
i was thinking when did having a meet and the success off that meet only come down to one person...
theres me thinking "well doesn't it take two...................."
so you weren't compatible... thats not all just down to one person!
so yes.... the status is rather cringeworthy...... |
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"Tell you what would put me off for life, going to a guys house, shag then log on to see your status.
How downright disrespectful. All the poor woman seems to have done is not meet your expectations and yet you just used her cause you where horny. I think it was a man he met"
well guy whatever sex its terrible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"boring....next?"
yes you do come cross as very boring actually, heres a thought maybe the person you either decided was a no go or did actually shag wasn't as enamoured by your performance as you were yourself
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"Tell you what would put me off for life, going to a guys house, shag then log on to see your status.
How downright disrespectful. All the poor woman seems to have done is not meet your expectations and yet you just used her cause you where horny. I think it was a man he metwell guy whatever sex its terrible"
And look at your status! Rubbing it in to all the poor man u fans lol |
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"I don't do spontaneous meets from here and I don't do socials if I can help it. Not had a terrible meet yet. The worse one was my fault for eating before fucking.
Already TMI "
I don't want you to elaborate on that at all hahaha |
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"hehe I love it, look at the all the forum bullies giving it large....lol
I do ok regardless of my updated status ;p"
Maybe you did who knows how well in the future or maybe someone will meet you to give you a dose of your own medicine.
Great believer in karma .. |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen".stick to sucking your own cock problem sorted"
*chortles* |
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"hehe I love it, look at the all the forum bullies giving it large....lol
I do ok regardless of my updated status ;p"
You are being bullied? Your post claims "nope not going to happen" your status then humiliates an unknown user by claiming they are a "crap shag".... how would you know they are a crap shag if "nope not going to happen"..... I am confused. Or did you just fuck someone; post in your status that they were a crap shag and then go on to post in an open forum that you had a bad meet and you didn't fuck....
You are the bully here; your post implies it and your status confirms it.... somewhere out there someone feels pretty shit and you are compounding that.... |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
we all progress and develop through fault.. Just rethink and adapt for your next meet |
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Fast or slow meets could all be epic fails but as long as we take full responsibility for our results, I'd not stop meeting.
Preparation, filtering, communication and learning from your experience is where it's at. Club meets can be quick, with fallbacks too. Be flexible and explore options. Plus fbs as staple sex diet sustenance. |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen". we all progress and develop through fault.. Just rethink and adapt for your next meet"
couldn't agree more pal. Socials the way forward I think |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen". we all progress and develop through fault.. Just rethink and adapt for your next meet
couldn't agree more pal. Socials the way forward I think "
will you be able to find out at social if the person can take xl cocks or will be a crap shag? |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen". we all progress and develop through fault.. Just rethink and adapt for your next meet
couldn't agree more pal. Socials the way forward I think
will you be able to find out at social if the person can take xl cocks or will be a crap shag?"
That was my point too |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen". we all progress and develop through fault.. Just rethink and adapt for your next meet
couldn't agree more pal. Socials the way forward I think will you be able to find out at social if the person can take xl cocks or will be a crap shag?"
I think in this case the social might have benefited the other person more. |
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In my experience the only time I'd struggle with a really huge cock is when the foreplay is shite and I'm barely aroused. Maybe the other person just wasn't into it either.
Or maybe he didn't meet at all and concocted a rather poor an inconsistent story as an opportunity to brag about his big cock.
Whatever the explanation, I doubt this thread is working in the OPs favour! |
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"In my experience the only time I'd struggle with a really huge cock is when the foreplay is shite and I'm barely aroused. Maybe the other person just wasn't into it either.
Or maybe he didn't meet at all and concocted a rather poor an inconsistent story as an opportunity to brag about his big cock.
Whatever the explanation, I doubt this thread is working in the OPs favour! "
well he def comes across as a big cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Wow! Anyone else thinking that there's another person tonight thinking exactly the same thing?
Bet they weren't overly impressed with you either op. What a tool. |
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"Putting "what a crap shag" in your status... brilliant... so you fucked then? What I mean to say is that. No alarm bells went off? You still fucked... then you announce to the site just how shite it was..
Takes two to tango...."
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen". we all progress and develop through fault.. Just rethink and adapt for your next meet"
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"In my experience the only time I'd struggle with a really huge cock is when the foreplay is shite and I'm barely aroused "
Exactly my thought. Methinks the lady doth protest too much - this looks more like a pre-emptive strike, I wonder what the truth of the matter is.  |
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"hehe I love it, look at the all the forum bullies giving it large....lol
I do ok regardless of my updated status ;p"
What the... I have seen people use status updates to have a dig at others and constantly moaning about something. This is first time I seen status update combined with a forum thread!
OP, the meet may not have gone the way you liked and you probably got frustrated because your time was wasted. So you decided to post things online... which I am sure you will realise has made it much worse then it was.
Remember you had an equal say in the meet and it was at your place. You should have taken charge of the situation instead of taking your pants off 
I am sure your a really popular guy and can get meets so most of the good advice in this thread is pointless to you... but prehaps you can come up with a more better status update. That does not hurt someone's feelings...
You know it makes sense
Always try to keep it light hearted fun. Now I am late and missed a few mins on what Leicester is doing today... grrrrrr !!
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LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best |
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best "
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography... |
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography... "
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky |
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography...
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky "
Mmmm... and the book I've written is called Liber Umbra.
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography...
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky
Mmmm... and the book I've written is called Liber Umbra.
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You wrote a book of shadows? |
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography...
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky
Mmmm... and the book I've written is called Liber Umbra.
You wrote a book of shadows? "
It's called the Book of Shade, yes
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over a year ago
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography...
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky
Mmmm... and the book I've written is called Liber Umbra.
You wrote a book of shadows?
It's called the Book of Shade, yes
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Sounds like one of the dodgy testaments left out of the bible... "what the Messiah got up to on his gap year and how I bore witness, Shade - the forgotten disciple" |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"If you think someone "not being able to take an XL cock" is a crap shag, then you must not be that great if you think having an XL is all you need"
This gets my vote.
Why would a bad meet put you off for LIFE? Get some perspective.
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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Op, nature of it alongside profile is a bit hmmmmmm
Modern times make you laugh if it is all real. Mature children having private meets then heading to forums to blow off about them when things dont go their way lmfao.
How swinging has changed  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?"
Well, I've now been put off having a spontaneous meet with you. Not sure if that counts as common though. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
Well, I've now been put off having a spontaneous meet with you. Not sure if that counts as common though."
I think it's the prevailing sentiment of the thread so that may make it common. |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
Retirement Village |
Read through the thread and not really sure what to say
OP bad meets happen spontaneous or not.
You say it went bad but not why it was bad but it does work both ways and maybe it was bad for them too.
Personally i would not invite anyone back to my place without chatting and social first (& being a man doing this does not make you any less vulnerable than a woman).
As for a thread about it i'd suggest remaining quiet. Sometimes silence is the best option. Whomever they are, good or bad, dont deserve this really do they? Put yourself in their shoes, you wouldnt like reading such a thread about you would you?
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography...
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky
Mmmm... and the book I've written is called Liber Umbra.
You wrote a book of shadows?
It's called the Book of Shade, yes
Sounds like one of the dodgy testaments left out of the bible... "what the Messiah got up to on his gap year and how I bore witness, Shade - the forgotten disciple" "
Nah, it's a book about Burning Man - part snapshots, part guidebook, part illuminated manuscript. It's probably the one thing I'd save in the event of a fire.
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over a year ago
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"People seem to assume the meet is at fault ......... and that it was a 'she'.
It was the host who called things off...
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I assumed no such thing...especially after reading his status |
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"LOL - no!
It's part of the rich tapestry of fucking around... You take the rough with the smooch, learn from your mistakes and keep on keeping on.
But. Spontaneous meets are the ones that can go tits up... And provide the best stories.
All the best
Please tell me "the rich tapestry of fucking around" is the title of your autobiography...
I forgot to add - always meet in public. I don't like you, you think I'm a serial killer... walk away, no hard feelings.
Once that person is in your house and you don't like the look of them, then it's tricky
Mmmm... and the book I've written is called Liber Umbra.
You wrote a book of shadows?
It's called the Book of Shade, yes
Sounds like one of the dodgy testaments left out of the bible... "what the Messiah got up to on his gap year and how I bore witness, Shade - the forgotten disciple"
Nah, it's a book about Burning Man - part snapshots, part guidebook, part illuminated manuscript. It's probably the one thing I'd save in the event of a fire.
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I would save a thimble... can't really explain why; well I can, it's actually the key to my "if the house burns down and you are left with nothing" vault....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't do spontaneous meets from here and I don't do socials if I can help it. Not had a terrible meet yet. The worse one was my fault for eating before fucking.
Already TMI "
It was only an attack of indigestion |
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We had our first meet after only been members to Feb for not even a week pretty rushed and late call but been night owls we wasn't fazed. 
We started chatting / small talk and suddenly it hit us ,they were wizzed up pin eyed!! So straight away chez went quite and out of kindness offered them a brew an sent them on there way!!!. We have taken a step back and now cautious of who we meet makes sense ehh?? X.. (bad grammar I know it's 3:30am haha x.. :-* |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
Why was he crap? |
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"Had a disaster meet today. And although the person was all over me I couldn't help but say "no, it's not going to happen".
I fear it's now put me off future spontaneous meets off here. Is this common?
I think from now on it's meet somewhere neutral instead of back to my gaff. That way it's less harsh when I have to say "it's not gonna happen"."
Why I always meet for a social first after a disastrous meet. He was a lovely man but at least 15 stones fatter than the photo he sent me...and 15 years older.
We had planned a weekend away. I had a meeting at a naval base and he offered to pick me up.
His personal hygiene left a lot to be desired and he was offended when I said I wanted separate rooms in the hotel and I'd take the train back.
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously."
I talked on the phone for ages. We got on like a house on fire and I couldn't wait to meet him. I was away on business and he offered to pick me up and we'd stay in a hotel on the south coast.
Nothing like his pictures, no sexual chemistry on my part...awfexperience. |
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously.
I talked on the phone for ages. We got on like a house on fire and I couldn't wait to meet him. I was away on business and he offered to pick me up and we'd stay in a hotel on the south coast.
Nothing like his pictures, no sexual chemistry on my part...awfexperience. "
I also would never be reliant on someone else for lifts etc. Always a Hotel that they book. I'll pay half but i can still walk away if it turns out they were trying to pull a fast one.
I'm not saying my way is great for everyone just that it seems to work for me. In 4 years I've never got it wrong about someone. I guess that's where my skill lies, however I'm fully aware that i can't be right all the time and that keeps me on my toes.
Just providing a different perspective to balance things out really, as normally everyone says social first only otherwise you are jeopardizing your safety etc etc etc. I'm just saying that there are some of us where socials are just as much hassle to organise as a proper meet, and hopefully reassuring some in that position that, providing you do the groundwork and have your bs monitor finally tuned, and you do things your way, a social isn't the be all and end all. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"God I wasn't rude or offensive about it. I do realise people are shy and vulnerable going to someone else's home you know. "
But you wrote 'what a crap shag' on your status. How is that not rude? |
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"I seriously hope your meet doesn't read this
But as an aside i disagree with the other posters about having a social first. I've never had one and have never had a disaster. I do however, chat extensively before even agreeing to meet and wouldn't meet spontaneously.
I talked on the phone for ages. We got on like a house on fire and I couldn't wait to meet him. I was away on business and he offered to pick me up and we'd stay in a hotel on the south coast.
Nothing like his pictures, no sexual chemistry on my part...awfexperience.
I also would never be reliant on someone else for lifts etc. Always a Hotel that they book. I'll pay half but i can still walk away if it turns out they were trying to pull a fast one.
I'm not saying my way is great for everyone just that it seems to work for me. In 4 years I've never got it wrong about someone. I guess that's where my skill lies, however I'm fully aware that i can't be right all the time and that keeps me on my toes.
Just providing a different perspective to balance things out really, as normally everyone says social first only otherwise you are jeopardizing your safety etc etc etc. I'm just saying that there are some of us where socials are just as much hassle to organise as a proper meet, and hopefully reassuring some in that position that, providing you do the groundwork and have your bs monitor finally tuned, and you do things your way, a social isn't the be all and end all."
This was 10 years ago. I look back and at the things I used to do!
In seven years on Fab though not had a timewaster etc. Not every meet has been mind blowing but there were two people in the room, so chalked it up to experience. |
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