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Do you lose interest after you've shagged someone a few times?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff. "
And this 
I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.
There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely not, I can't have sex with someone more than a few times because I'll end up having feelings for them. "
same reason ive got my '3 meet rule' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This 3 meet or one meet rule etc that some women have has actually suprised me a bit.
But makes sense in a way though and I can understand the reasoning etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nope. if i'm gonna lose interest it'll be after the first fuck, maybe even before that.
some guys i get bored of but not many. usually the sex gets better with repeat meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I find with a regular partner, trust can be built, and you can then explore more things and lower the boundaries as time progresses.. Its the one off's I find boring. |
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Ultimately swinging is about enhancing what we already have adding a little bit extra , we don't need or want regular meets ..... We have love and trust from each other ... We also have a two meet rule ...
There will of course always be exceptions to rules if want we are wanting to try things that require a little trust e.g playing with a couple and after wishing we had tried this with them ...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.
Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well.  "
Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me I've been fucking my fuck buddy for 6-7 years now
We know where we both stand and it helps gain trust and push boundaries plus I'm addicted to him lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. It just gets better. It's stressful meeting a new person. I can relax and look forward to what I know is going to be a good time. Plus trying new things along the way. I've been meeting some of the guys I see for around 3 years now. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I find sex gets better each time you meet. You find out what each other likes, there is a level of trust which makes me relax a bit more. I wouldn't let anyone tie me up on the first meet for example, that would happen further down the line if he enjoyed that to!  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Several factors really. How good is he at shagging. How good is he at oral. How much he fits my criteria for easy on the eye. If he doesn't say anything remotely offensive during the meet. The distance we are from each other. And the most important: if I fit his criteria re the above.
I don't overthink re-meets though. If it happens it happens, It usually doesn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's why I think it's important to read someone's profile, and chat for a little. One's who seem to be looking for one off's I avoid like the plague. But that's only me. So many are on this site for different reasons. Whether it be fwb's, couples or one night stands etc... The ones I've met are luckily very like minded, and suited to my preferences. I choose very carefully haha |
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I find if I meet a lady a few times d sex just gets better n better d more u meet . I like to meet ladies for a good while not really into one nite stands cos they can b a failure r u can have a very nice time . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone."
Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the person.
A regular fuckbuddy with no emotional entanglement can be great as with repeat meets can get better and better with familiarity, trust and experimentation. Definitely more likey to try new things and push boundaries with someone I know and trust.
However if there's little to no spark with someone interest is easily lost and repeat meets aren't likely.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's rare for me to find someone I don't lose interest in sexually after a few shags.
Is it the same for any of you ?
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Yes.
It is rare, but not impossible. I hope! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.
Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets "
Me too. Honest.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no, rather it allows the building of trust; which is key to quite a few of the activities I enjoy with others .
They are definitely not things I would be comfortable doing with someone I didn't know, straight out of the gate.
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"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.
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I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.
There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more."
Oooo what are they?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.
Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets
Me too. Honest. "
Now I just keep all the good stuff to myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.
Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets
Me too. Honest.
Now I just keep all the good stuff to myself "
Better you are just 'bursting' with it then!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends if we click and continue to do so sexually.
I've met people who I've thought I'd never lose interest in but have for various reasons, am sure the feeling was mutual too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.
And this
I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.
There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more.
Oooo what are they? "
Due to my reasons for not doing them I'd rather not discuss it in a public forum, or really with nobody else apart from the people that I choose to meet... |
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"Absolutely not, trust and knowing someone massively increase it, especially on the less vanilla stuff.
And this
I like gentle air play and being spanked, but would I trust someone to know my boundaries and pain threshold when they barely know me in an emotionally physical way? Would I bollocks.
There's one or two sexual acts - that would seem normal to other people - that I'll only do with someone after we've gotten to know each other a bit more.
Oooo what are they?
Due to my reasons for not doing them I'd rather not discuss it in a public forum, or really with nobody else apart from the people that I choose to meet... "
Fair enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find that the more I meet with someone the more fun it gets. There are certain things I wouldn't do on a 1st meet but will do when I've built up a bit of trust etc with someone.
Yep I used to save all the good stuff up for later meets
Me too. Honest.
Now I just keep all the good stuff to myself
Better you are just 'bursting' with it then! "
One day I'll pop  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.
Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well. "
ha ha well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some people fool themselves that they've lost interest when really another meet wasn't an option.
Yes and some people fool themselves about a lot of other things as well. "
Like what? |
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