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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I've had the experience of 1 and out friendship still isn't the same.
From the start of last year everything was a joke, numerous pow wows and get togethers with the other bridesmaids to supposedly discuss how we'd want our hair and things but was just told we all had to have our hair the same. We were 4 adult bridesmaids, 2 of us dark thick hair with olive skin colouring, the other one very blonde and very pale and the other one was black with Afro hair yet she wanted us all to have out hair all scraped back off our face in a high bun sort of style. Totally not flattering for my round face and the other girls ha their own issues. She wanted us all to have the same make up including lipstick and eyeshadow, again wouldn't listen or care that we all had different skin tone and wouldn't all suit the same colours, then the bridesmaid dresses which were handmade but did nothing for our shapes, I'm 5'2 the other girl was 5 foot, another one of us 5'5 and another 5'9 the dresses were mid length which done nothing for my figure, they were long sleeve with sheer lace embroidery and made my arms look huge, the dress made my shoulders look broad and I've never looked like I had broad shoulders cos in quite slight, this was the same for all of us. We just all looked awful on the day, me and my best friend were crying on the morning cos we looked and felt so shit. That was the actual wedding, the lead up to it she wanted 3 hen parties that my friend and I had to arrange, uk one here in wales, Newcastle and a long weekend in Marbella, didn't give a fuck that me an my friend both have children and not that much money, well not money to spend on long weekends in Marbella. The bride pouted and stripped when we first said we couldn't go to Marbella, said we had to cos we were bridesmaids. I remember having the Marbella holiday beginning of August, the wedding at the end of August my child going back to school September so needed all new uniform, shoes, coat, bag etc, then had my child's birthday to buy for in October along with presents and arrange and pay for a party, then had Xmas in December.
It's really taken a toll on my friend and I, neither of us can be arsed to speak to or see our friend (the bridzilla) avoid her calls, hardly ever text back. It's like just fuck off, I'm still trying to sort my finances from last year, I just see her as a bill now not a friend. Totally ruined our friendship and if I was asked to be a bridesmaid again I'd tell them to go fuck themselves.
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Usually end up divorced within 2 years as once the wedding is over they've got nothing.
