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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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Have to say iam pretty open my friend told me about this site and well I love it. It is funny how many people seem to ask or want to talk about it. My friends know I go swinging my tattoo artist and piercing guy know ied never tell people from work or my bother yet I told my dad after he asked how was my week end and lots of go on tell me after I said he does not want to know lol. I guess my question is how do you feel about others knowing you enjoy swinging if so who would you be ok with knowing and who not? |
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over a year ago
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some things about me people just dont need to know - i love the feeling i have going into work with that huge inner grin thing going on and no bugger knows why |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"We keep it to ourselves, not because of shame but for the sake of our own privacy. Our sex lives our private unless shared umongst who we meet.-M"
very well I under stand for clps or single ladies it will be different eg kids or work or family and friends. I guess I don't have much to lose if any one found out. I am a single guy no kids live with a house mate who works all the time I work nights so iam never around in day light and if anything I don't care long as my mother did not know I don't care lol
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"some things about me people just dont need to know - i love the feeling i have going into work with that huge inner grin thing going on and no bugger knows why "
have to say that when I hear guys at work talking about nights out and spending x and x on trying to pull and such but I also get a grin when a lady msges at work and know that no one else knows what filth she is saying to me
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"some things about me people just dont need to know - i love the feeling i have going into work with that huge inner grin thing going on and no bugger knows why have to say that when I hear guys at work talking about nights out and spending x and x on trying to pull and such but I also get a grin when a lady msges at work and know that no one else knows what filth she is saying to me "
See IMHO what you've written here makes it sound less like a consideration of openness vs discretion, and more of a gateway to one-upmanship over others. |
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"some things about me people just dont need to know - i love the feeling i have going into work with that huge inner grin thing going on and no bugger knows why have to say that when I hear guys at work talking about nights out and spending x and x on trying to pull and such but I also get a grin when a lady msges at work and know that no one else knows what filth she is saying to me
See IMHO what you've written here makes it sound less like a consideration of openness vs discretion, and more of a gateway to one-upmanship over others."
nothing to do with one upmanship - at all - just a secret we have thats ours and not for all to know about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would consider it unprofessional and juvenile if I heard anyone discussing their sex life at work. And I've never seen any reason to discuss my sex life with my friemds either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The closest friends I can trust, some of those know I dabble in the swinging world, though because I seldom have sex through here I don't really have much to say. It does spark curiosity though for sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't advertise the fact I'm on here, but it's no big secret, I hid for years and was ashamed of being into bdsm, but hey, it's my life, and if other people have a problem with it, it's their problem, not mine, if they are so ignorant as to think that I'm into something that advocates violence towards women, then they either need to get educated ir get the fuck out if my life, I've got no time for morons |
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"We keep it to ourselves, not because of shame but for the sake of our own privacy. Our sex lives our private unless shared umongst who we meet.-M"
This for me too. It's called "private" life for a reason. |
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"We keep it to ourselves, not because of shame but for the sake of our own privacy. Our sex lives our private unless shared umongst who we meet.-Mvery well I under stand for clps or single ladies it will be different eg kids or work or family and friends. I guess I don't have much to lose if any one found out. I am a single guy no kids live with a house mate who works all the time I work nights so iam never around in day light and if anything I don't care long as my mother did not know I don't care lol "
I think you're missing the point a bit. Regardless, not everyone has the desire to share the minutiae of their lives with all and sundry. |
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"some things about me people just dont need to know - i love the feeling i have going into work with that huge inner grin thing going on and no bugger knows why have to say that when I hear guys at work talking about nights out and spending x and x on trying to pull and such but I also get a grin when a lady msges at work and know that no one else knows what filth she is saying to me
See IMHO what you've written here makes it sound less like a consideration of openness vs discretion, and more of a gateway to one-upmanship over others.
nothing to do with one upmanship - at all - just a secret we have thats ours and not for all to know about"
I don't think he meant you. |
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We never discuss this part of our life with anybody but the people we meet from here or at clubs, we don't discuss any of our sex life with anybody else. I have to say that we're a bit wary of people who do discuss with friends because we value our discretion and if they're talking about swinging and we meet them they will be talking about us. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one |
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"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one "
You haven't offended me  . I wish we lived in a world where we could all talk openly about legal and consensual sex without judgement but that isn't even possible on here |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one
You haven't offended me . I wish we lived in a world where we could all talk openly about legal and consensual sex without judgement but that isn't even possible on here "
well thank you and glad I did not and yes that would be great maybe I just have more open friends and such in my group guys girls stra8t gay and trans |
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"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one
You haven't offended me . I wish we lived in a world where we could all talk openly about legal and consensual sex without judgement but that isn't even possible on here well thank you and glad I did not and yes that would be great maybe I just have more open friends and such in my group guys girls stra8t gay and trans "
Possibly and you are considerably younger than us |
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over a year ago
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I have to agree with the majority. The only people who know what I get upto in my 'private' life are those I meet.
It's private for a reason, not because I am ashamed but because I don't need all and sundry to know. More importantly the people I meet wouldn't like it. Its called discretion. |
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"Have to say iam pretty open my friend told me about this site and well I love it. It is funny how many people seem to ask or want to talk about it. My friends know I go swinging my tattoo artist and piercing guy know ied never tell people from work or my bother yet I told my dad after he asked how was my week end and lots of go on tell me after I said he does not want to know lol. I guess my question is how do you feel about others knowing you enjoy swinging if so who would you be ok with knowing and who not? "
I'm curious when you say 'go swinging' what do.you mean?
In all honesty there is a world of difference between a young single man looking g in line for meets to couples who meet other couples or single women that love greedy girl nights or have multiple meets. Because society will judge the single male far less negatively than the other 2 scenarios |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
my friends know, my parents know i date non exclusively..they arent stupid, they know that includes sex, my eldest two know i go to clubs and swing and my younger two know i go out to parties and stay over and when i get together with mums for coffee/ tea on playdates from school..sometimes they ask how is my love life..i get a twinkle when i ask innocently "which one?"...havent had a bad reaction yet, but thats down to the quality of my friends id say and the fact i dont pretend to be something im not in general..they just think its part of me and they love me for it..they are awesome x |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one
You haven't offended me . I wish we lived in a world where we could all talk openly about legal and consensual sex without judgement but that isn't even possible on here well thank you and glad I did not and yes that would be great maybe I just have more open friends and such in my group guys girls stra8t gay and trans
Possibly and you are considerably younger than us "
maybe and oh well nothing wrong with taking is there? |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Two of our friends know what ee do. However they're both very open minded and we had a threesome with one of them anyway"
well nothing wrong with that long a you are happy and enjoy your self's been offered a 3some with my friend still thinking on it lol
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Only people who have been in our bed need to know what goes on in there, that is as true for when it's just L and me, or a 10 person orgy."
sounds fine with me ied never go around telling any one only them who know me and are close to me
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have to agree with the majority. The only people who know what I get upto in my 'private' life are those I meet.
It's private for a reason, not because I am ashamed but because I don't need all and sundry to know. More importantly the people I meet wouldn't like it. Its called discretion."
fully under stand I would never talk about any one who I knew was not ok with it if anything when talking about a club I talk more about the looks and feel of a club then what happens up stairs |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"My friends know about it, some are curious although not interested in trying it themselves "
same I have friends that know and don't mind what I do but just say it is not their thing and that's that each to their own
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Have to say iam pretty open my friend told me about this site and well I love it. It is funny how many people seem to ask or want to talk about it. My friends know I go swinging my tattoo artist and piercing guy know ied never tell people from work or my bother yet I told my dad after he asked how was my week end and lots of go on tell me after I said he does not want to know lol. I guess my question is how do you feel about others knowing you enjoy swinging if so who would you be ok with knowing and who not?
I'm curious when you say 'go swinging' what do.you mean?
In all honesty there is a world of difference between a young single man looking g in line for meets to couples who meet other couples or single women that love greedy girl nights or have multiple meets. Because society will judge the single male far less negatively than the other 2 scenarios "
well when I say iam going to a night or a club what it means for me is iam going to see who's in there have a drink or 2 have a chat and well if anything happens it happens if not no bother long as I enjoyed my night and yes I can see how it is different for a single male to clps or ladies and sad to say that's how the world is as much as it shoulnt be |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"my friends know, my parents know i date non exclusively..they arent stupid, they know that includes sex, my eldest two know i go to clubs and swing and my younger two know i go out to parties and stay over and when i get together with mums for coffee/ tea on playdates from school..sometimes they ask how is my love life..i get a twinkle when i ask innocently "which one?"...havent had a bad reaction yet, but thats down to the quality of my friends id say and the fact i dont pretend to be something im not in general..they just think its part of me and they love me for it..they are awesome x "
that's how I feel about it been how I am as I have said people that know me know what iam like and if they judge let em makes no bother me glad you have such great friends
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me I like the feeling that nobody needs to know our business , I'm a private person & I love the feeling coming to parties or socials known we have a little secret lol.
Missus S |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"my friends know, my parents know i date non exclusively..they arent stupid, they know that includes sex, my eldest two know i go to clubs and swing and my younger two know i go out to parties and stay over and when i get together with mums for coffee/ tea on playdates from school..sometimes they ask how is my love life..i get a twinkle when i ask innocently "which one?"...havent had a bad reaction yet, but thats down to the quality of my friends id say and the fact i dont pretend to be something im not in general..they just think its part of me and they love me for it..they are awesome x that's how I feel about it been how I am as I have said people that know me know what iam like and if they judge let em makes no bother me glad you have such great friends "
thank you. i dont discuss who, just to make that clear...but my choice in lifestyle isn't a secret x
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"For me I like the feeling that nobody needs to know our business , I'm a private person & I love the feeling coming to parties or socials known we have a little secret lol.
Missus S "
I too do feel a bit of a buzz but it more when iam dressed up all smart looking at others on the train loving they have no idea where I am going  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have to say iam pretty open my friend told me about this site and well I love it. It is funny how many people seem to ask or want to talk about it. My friends know I go swinging my tattoo artist and piercing guy know ied never tell people from work or my bother yet I told my dad after he asked how was my week end and lots of go on tell me after I said he does not want to know lol. I guess my question is how do you feel about others knowing you enjoy swinging if so who would you be ok with knowing and who not? "
I'm not a swinger |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"my friends know, my parents know i date non exclusively..they arent stupid, they know that includes sex, my eldest two know i go to clubs and swing and my younger two know i go out to parties and stay over and when i get together with mums for coffee/ tea on playdates from school..sometimes they ask how is my love life..i get a twinkle when i ask innocently "which one?"...havent had a bad reaction yet, but thats down to the quality of my friends id say and the fact i dont pretend to be something im not in general..they just think its part of me and they love me for it..they are awesome x that's how I feel about it been how I am as I have said people that know me know what iam like and if they judge let em makes no bother me glad you have such great friends thank you. i dont discuss who, just to make that clear...but my choice in lifestyle isn't a secret x"
oh same I would never tell any one WHO I meet or even where but they know how I am and what I enjoy
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Have to say iam pretty open my friend told me about this site and well I love it. It is funny how many people seem to ask or want to talk about it. My friends know I go swinging my tattoo artist and piercing guy know ied never tell people from work or my bother yet I told my dad after he asked how was my week end and lots of go on tell me after I said he does not want to know lol. I guess my question is how do you feel about others knowing you enjoy swinging if so who would you be ok with knowing and who not?
I'm not a swinger "
just enjoy meeting people I guess? |
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"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one
You haven't offended me . I wish we lived in a world where we could all talk openly about legal and consensual sex without judgement but that isn't even possible on here well thank you and glad I did not and yes that would be great maybe I just have more open friends and such in my group guys girls stra8t gay and trans
Possibly and you are considerably younger than us maybe and oh well nothing wrong with taking is there? "
Nope. What I meant was that possibly your generation is more open. |
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"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one "
You didn't offend me. There are things I don't feel the need to share, how much money I have in the bank, how much I weigh, how many times a day I open my bowels etc. My sex life falls into that category.
I don't discuss anything of any importance with people who discuss every aspect of their lives. If they can't be discreet about their own lives they won't be about mine! |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one
You didn't offend me. There are things I don't feel the need to share, how much money I have in the bank, how much I weigh, how many times a day I open my bowels etc. My sex life falls into that category.
I don't discuss anything of any importance with people who discuss every aspect of their lives. If they can't be discreet about their own lives they won't be about mine! "
well I am glad I did not and I know what you mean maybe iam too open for me own good but as I have said when it comes to others I could never say a word about them as it is their life and how they live it has nothing to do with me. |
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"my friends know, my parents know i date non exclusively..they arent stupid, they know that includes sex, my eldest two know i go to clubs and swing and my younger two know i go out to parties and stay over and when i get together with mums for coffee/ tea on playdates from school..sometimes they ask how is my love life..i get a twinkle when i ask innocently "which one?"...havent had a bad reaction yet, but thats down to the quality of my friends id say and the fact i dont pretend to be something im not in general..they just think its part of me and they love me for it..they are awesome x "
Forgive if I'm wrong, but it seems to me that you think those of us who are discrete and wish to keep our private and family life separate are pretending to be something were not. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"It seems it is only me that is so open about it all and not bothered if others know ( up to a limit).I never go to deep in to it or EVER talk about others.I fully understand some like to keep it to their self's and nothing wrong with that at all it was more of a fun post to see how if any other people have taken it is all.sorry if offended any one
You haven't offended me . I wish we lived in a world where we could all talk openly about legal and consensual sex without judgement but that isn't even possible on here well thank you and glad I did not and yes that would be great maybe I just have more open friends and such in my group guys girls stra8t gay and trans
Possibly and you are considerably younger than us maybe and oh well nothing wrong with taking is there?
Nope. What I meant was that possibly your generation is more open. "
maybe so to much tv and sugar lol |
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I keep my private life private.
I don't need it getting round town, not so much for myself but more my children. They don't need to fight my battles if one of their classmates got wind of what I get up to at the wekends and started with "your mums a dirty whore who fucks everyone". |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"I keep my private life private.
I don't need it getting round town, not so much for myself but more my children. They don't need to fight my battles if one of their classmates got wind of what I get up to at the wekends and started with "your mums a dirty whore who fucks everyone"."
oh iam with you their guess I am ok for that been single with no kids lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Apart from you buggers on here, no one knows what I get up to.
I like keeping it compartmentalized from Family, friends and work colleagues. "
I can get that their are some I would not really want knowing but a lot I would not care if they did each to their own mate |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"my friends know, my parents know i date non exclusively..they arent stupid, they know that includes sex, my eldest two know i go to clubs and swing and my younger two know i go out to parties and stay over and when i get together with mums for coffee/ tea on playdates from school..sometimes they ask how is my love life..i get a twinkle when i ask innocently "which one?"...havent had a bad reaction yet, but thats down to the quality of my friends id say and the fact i dont pretend to be something im not in general..they just think its part of me and they love me for it..they are awesome x
Forgive if I'm wrong, but it seems to me that you think those of us who are discrete and wish to keep our private and family life separate are pretending to be something were not."
no that a twist on what i said.. i said i am this way i didnt not imply anyone else had to be like me
but then i dont think how many times i open my bowels a day is important but people still know i shit..right?
what i classify in my life as important and what others do cant be entirely different, it doesnt make us wrong, and it doesnt automatically make us indiscreet people.. however as a safety measure i do tell people where im going to go out, but then i expect the same from my kids, they dont hide they are meeting people or where they are going..and neither do i. do what you want, ill respect it, dont expect me to adopt it though x |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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Just to say to every one who has posted none of us are wrong we all do things different ways and how I see it long as we all have fun are safe and happy and no one is been hurt then great only been here a few weeks but have to say met some great people. But I have one thing to say why are you not all at work Hmmmmm?  or should you be working and just been bad and playing on fab lol |
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We keep it away from family and work colleagues . But if we were away fro home and got chatting and the subject came up . I would not be ashamed to mention it . The wife did and it led to an encounter . I think swinging is more widespread than people think . I know of three work colleagues , two guys and one couple at the plant where I work , we have played with one of the guys . And the wife has two couples at her company and she has played at work with one of the husbands  |
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Being involved in the swinging scene is not like being a freemason or something similar, I don't understand why some think it's a special privelege.
Anybody can get involved and my definition of swinging is probably different to many others.
I really will never understand why anybody would want their family or close friends to know what they get up to in private.
It does come across as boasting and they possible think they're superior sexually than others, that's ridiculous.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Just to say to every one who has posted none of us are wrong we all do things different ways and how I see it long as we all have fun are safe and happy and no one is been hurt then great only been here a few weeks but have to say met some great people. But I have one thing to say why are you not all at work Hmmmmm? or should you be working and just been bad and playing on fab lol "
self employed. i should be writing bt i am not..oh well  |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Assumptions again...
Some of us are Shift Workers and today is one of my days off.... not everyone is a Monday to Friday 9-5
That's why I'm on here  "
well same here I work nights soo I guess I will let you off lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"We keep it away from family and work colleagues . But if we were away fro home and got chatting and the subject came up . I would not be ashamed to mention it . The wife did and it led to an encounter . I think swinging is more widespread than people think . I know of three work colleagues , two guys and one couple at the plant where I work , we have played with one of the guys . And the wife has two couples at her company and she has played at work with one of the husbands "
wow don't know if I could play with people I work with but fair play mate long as your happy then it's all good |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Being involved in the swinging scene is not like being a freemason or something similar, I don't understand why some think it's a special privelege.
Anybody can get involved and my definition of swinging is probably different to many others.
I really will never understand why anybody would want their family or close friends to know what they get up to in private.
It does come across as boasting and they possible think they're superior sexually than others, that's ridiculous.
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well I don't hide much from my close friends and it's odd me and my dad act like mates more then father and son but with the boasting thing I never saw it like that I would never say iam superior sexually then any one just a normal guy nothing worth showing off about I do hope you did not feel I was boasting as I was not and don't fine it some thing I would want to do |
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I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow! 
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet."
thank you was getting a bit of a hostle feeling myself but don't wish to upset any one  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Being involved in the swinging scene is not like being a freemason or something similar, I don't understand why some think it's a special privelege.
Anybody can get involved and my definition of swinging is probably different to many others.
I really will never understand why anybody would want their family or close friends to know what they get up to in private.
It does come across as boasting and they possible think they're superior sexually than others, that's ridiculous.
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because what i do or say affects others including secrets and lies..they cause far more drama then the truth being honest..if you think or feel its boasting..and oonly you mentioned 'sexually superior' i dont even know what that means, let alone the definition of it..so its a concept you believe in, doesnt mean it exists for everyone else...how you read things is your mind set, doesnt mean like everything else, that others join you in that premise x |
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"Just to say to every one who has posted none of us are wrong we all do things different ways and how I see it long as we all have fun are safe and happy and no one is been hurt then great only been here a few weeks but have to say met some great people. But I have one thing to say why are you not all at work Hmmmmm? or should you be working and just been bad and playing on fab lol "
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"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet
Thank you was getting a bit of a hostle feeling myself but don't wish to upset any one "
If people want to keep everything to themselves that's fair enough and absolutely their choice. Just as it is those of us who choose to tell friends. I don't judge anyone for their choices and don't like people who do.
There isn't just one way to do things, someone's way might not be my way, and that's ok.
Also, as a female there's a security aspect to consider. If I'm meeting a guy alone, then C feels more comfortable if I've informed a friend where I'm going and that I'll message at a certain time to confirm I'm home.
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"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet."
but it's OK to imply that anyone who prefers discretion is rude and snobby.
We're all different it doesn't mean we're better or worse because of it. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet
Thank you was getting a bit of a hostle feeling myself but don't wish to upset any one
If people want to keep everything to themselves that's fair enough and absolutely their choice. Just as it is those of us who choose to tell friends. I don't judge anyone for their choices and don't like people who do.
There isn't just one way to do things, someone's way might not be my way, and that's ok.
Also, as a female there's a security aspect to consider. If I'm meeting a guy alone, then C feels more comfortable if I've informed a friend where I'm going and that I'll message at a certain time to confirm I'm home.
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yeah iam the same if me and female friend went out or if she went on her own ied wan her to tell me or some one but yes every one is more then in their right to do things their own way long as it's safe fun and every one is happy |
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"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet.
but it's OK to imply that anyone who prefers discretion is rude and snobby.
We're all different it doesn't mean we're better or worse because of it."
That wasn't what I said. However comments like "we don't tell anyone, it's called discretion" implies a tone of snobbishness. And that's rude. |
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over a year ago
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most of my friends know about my lifestyle and have asked questions about it, but keep everything to myself.
They either think I am a perve, mad, or very lucky.
And the usual one is how can you get your dick out in front of loads of other guys lol.
I have been in this lifestyle since 2006 on and off and absolutely love it in all it's forms and varieties.
However if people want to keep it private that's perfectly fine.
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"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet.
but it's OK to imply that anyone who prefers discretion is rude and snobby.
We're all different it doesn't mean we're better or worse because of it.
That wasn't what I said. However comments like "we don't tell anyone, it's called discretion" implies a tone of snobbishness. And that's rude."
Yes I have to agree with you on that point, my fault for misinterpreting. |
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"I notice there's a lot of comment here regarding not saying a word to anyone because of discretion, thereby implying that those of us who have told people what we do are not discreet. That's not true.
My friends know what I do, and other than perhaps saying "oh I tried this last weekend and it was interesting/not for me", I don't mention names or any details. I don't give people a blow by blow!
It's a bit rude (and snobby) to imply that we're indiscreet.
but it's OK to imply that anyone who prefers discretion is rude and snobby.
We're all different it doesn't mean we're better or worse because of it.
That wasn't what I said. However comments like "we don't tell anyone, it's called discretion" implies a tone of snobbishness. And that's rude.
Yes I have to agree with you on that point, my fault for misinterpreting. "
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"most of my friends know about my lifestyle and have asked questions about it, but keep everything to myself.
They either think I am a perve, mad, or very lucky.
And the usual one is how can you get your dick out in front of loads of other guys lol.
I have been in this lifestyle since 2006 on and off and absolutely love it in all it's forms and varieties.
However if people want to keep it private that's perfectly fine.
Just my opinion "
Iam with you there mate you are a purv and mad lol (joking)but iam with you my friends as but they don't get much and your opinion is more then welcome mate |
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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago
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"We keep it to ourselves, not because of shame but for the sake of our own privacy. Our sex lives our private unless shared umongst who we meet.-M
This for me too. It's called "private" life for a reason. "
same here no ones knows but us and out meets and friends at xtasia |
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I've done it twice, with mixed results.
The first was a woman, a very good friend, who kinda idolised me. I made the point that I'm not the person she thinks I am - she asked is that because of my sexuality? I said, that's the tip of the iceberg! 4 hrs and a couple of bottled of voddy later she was crying in a pool on her sitting room floor. :/
The second was a man, also a very good friend. He thought it was hilarious and started a 3-day bender. :/
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Swinging is a choice to satisfy a sexual need/ desires. Our spiritual,mental needs stand over these momentanous desires that is why this is the reason to keep them discreet, as they vanish and there is no long term reason. Being happy for moment from physical satisfaction is great, but more important to be happy after in long term and only your spirituality is far more superiour and fills your heart and soul not just momentum.  |
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It happened by accident we played at club and found out at later date . We both work for different company's within a big company we see each other at club all the time , proper swingers are very descrete amongst each other we have even attended a party with the couple . But not played so we are all fine about it ?? |
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