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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
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you saying you been catfished? surely your attracted by the pictures to meet but they are not living upto your expectations? A=always B= be C= closing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh dear so no sexual chemistry at all ? "
Very rare I get that chemistry thing going on. But when it happens obviously it's great.
But unfortunately doesn't seem to happen often. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I don't meet that often and don't tend to do socials so only meet those I am cerebrally attracted to through messages and chatting first. The physical chemistry has never not followed from that, or maybe I am just lucky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear so no sexual chemistry at all ?
Very rare I get that chemistry thing going on. But when it happens obviously it's great.
But unfortunately doesn't seem to happen often."
Same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh dear so no sexual chemistry at all ?
Very rare I get that chemistry thing going on. But when it happens obviously it's great.
But unfortunately doesn't seem to happen often.
Same. "
Does it bother you ?
Or do you just accept it's just the way it is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear so no sexual chemistry at all ?
Very rare I get that chemistry thing going on. But when it happens obviously it's great.
But unfortunately doesn't seem to happen often.
Same.
Does it bother you ?
Or do you just accept it's just the way it is?"
No it doesn't bother me anymore. It used to. It's more fun when I find people I like. 
Does it bother you? |
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Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something. "
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh dear so no sexual chemistry at all ?
Very rare I get that chemistry thing going on. But when it happens obviously it's great.
But unfortunately doesn't seem to happen often.
Same.
Does it bother you ?
Or do you just accept it's just the way it is?
No it doesn't bother me anymore. It used to. It's more fun when I find people I like.
Does it bother you?"
It did at first but now I suppose I've got used to it.
But like you when I do meet someone and click on all levels with the chemistry thing going on then it's worth all that waiting for.  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something.
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?"
Because I just can't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh dear so no sexual chemistry at all ?
Very rare I get that chemistry thing going on. But when it happens obviously it's great.
But unfortunately doesn't seem to happen often.
Same.
Does it bother you ?
Or do you just accept it's just the way it is?
No it doesn't bother me anymore. It used to. It's more fun when I find people I like.
Does it bother you?
It did at first but now I suppose I've got used to it.
But like you when I do meet someone and click on all levels with the chemistry thing going on then it's worth all that waiting for. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't meet that often and don't tend to do socials so only meet those I am cerebrally attracted to through messages and chatting first. The physical chemistry has never not followed from that, or maybe I am just lucky."
This sums it up perfectly for me too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something.
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?
Because I just can't. "
I can't either.
I don't have the need or desire to fuck someone I don't find sexually attractive. |
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"You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
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If and when I just wanted nsa sex with hot tottie I'd be fine, lots of fit guys on here I fancy, but increasingly I am after more depth and a deeper connection, and yes, that's harder to find.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the guys I have met I have liked enough to have sex with, obviously there have been meets that have ended up just being a drink, you can't like everybody and not everybody you meet is going to like you, but over all I've had more good meets than bad
But I guess women on here have more to choose from so the success rate will be higher |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something.
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?
Because I just can't.
I can't either.
I don't have the need or desire to fuck someone I don't find sexually attractive. "
I had a nice social meet with someone the other week but when he asked if I would like to meet again the answer was no, because I didn't have any sexual chemistry with him. Sometimes you need to meet the person as pictures can be subjective or sometimes they send just half a pic or slightly out of focus.
So I have decided to try other avenues for now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something.
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?
Because I just can't.
I can't either.
I don't have the need or desire to fuck someone I don't find sexually attractive.
I had a nice social meet with someone the other week but when he asked if I would like to meet again the answer was no, because I didn't have any sexual chemistry with him. Sometimes you need to meet the person as pictures can be subjective or sometimes they send just half a pic or slightly out of focus.
So I have decided to try other avenues for now. "
I can't know if chemistry is there via the Internet or a telephone call.
The only way I can know for sure is when I meet that person in the flesh. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something.
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?
Because I just can't.
I can't either.
I don't have the need or desire to fuck someone I don't find sexually attractive.
I had a nice social meet with someone the other week but when he asked if I would like to meet again the answer was no, because I didn't have any sexual chemistry with him. Sometimes you need to meet the person as pictures can be subjective or sometimes they send just half a pic or slightly out of focus.
So I have decided to try other avenues for now.
I can't know if chemistry is there via the Internet or a telephone call.
The only way I can know for sure is when I meet that person in the flesh. "
Your right, you can't |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not quite the same thing and not fab, mostly because people don't have the time or interest. But when chatting, flirting, preparing etc personalities, chemistry, humour all seem to mesh perfectly, on the same wave length and your looking forward to the night as a whole, and something just doesn't quite fit so it all crumbles away.
I guess it should be physical or mental or something.
I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?
Because I just can't.
I can't either.
I don't have the need or desire to fuck someone I don't find sexually attractive.
I had a nice social meet with someone the other week but when he asked if I would like to meet again the answer was no, because I didn't have any sexual chemistry with him. Sometimes you need to meet the person as pictures can be subjective or sometimes they send just half a pic or slightly out of focus.
So I have decided to try other avenues for now.
I can't know if chemistry is there via the Internet or a telephone call.
The only way I can know for sure is when I meet that person in the flesh.
Your right, you can't "
What other avenues are you trying ? You don't have to divulge if you wish to keep it private obviously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
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Have you ever thought about trying a forum social or club and then you can potentially meet a few different people on the night to see if anyone there catches more of your attention, if you know any of those who you are physically attracted to are attending? Just an idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I found the lazier I feel the less chemistry I feel. I have an extremely hot regular partner who is not happy that we haven't seen each other for a while. I'm not feeling energetic at the moment so I have no desire to meet him. Some days I want him,some days I don't. |
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The example I gave hasn't happened on fab, it were more a real life thing.
If the conditions are just a fuck, then it's purely a physical thing, that works for me too, to scratch an itch but generally a little trust and humour makes the whole thing that much more satisfying.
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I don't see why people put such high expectations on someone from here. It's rarely more than a fuck. Why not enjoy it for that?"
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
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I have had occasions where the chemistry on the Internet has been so overwhelming that it doesn't Matter what they look like, the sex will be awesome.
Getting rarer these days |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
Have you ever thought about trying a forum social or club and then you can potentially meet a few different people on the night to see if anyone there catches more of your attention, if you know any of those who you are physically attracted to are attending? Just an idea."
Yes I have and do but still find it elusive and very rare for me.
Refreshing to find out that some other people in here have experienced the same too though.
Means I'm not totally alone in experiencing this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I found the lazier I feel the less chemistry I feel. I have an extremely hot regular partner who is not happy that we haven't seen each other for a while. I'm not feeling energetic at the moment so I have no desire to meet him. Some days I want him,some days I don't. "
I totally get that feeling |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"I have had occasions where the chemistry on the Internet has been so overwhelming that it doesn't Matter what they look like, the sex will be awesome.
Getting rarer these days "
I get this if I like like someone then it's amazing regardless of their looks.... Almost as if inside them is super sexy and that works for me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A chap turning down a shag because of the sexual chemistry not being right?  "
Yes in just the same way a woman would turn down a shag if the chemistry isn't there.
Just because we happen to be of the male species it doesn't mean we all fuck anything willing even if it's offered on a plate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it keeps happening then its you."
Yes your correct.
I just don't find sexual chemistry with many people.
But I don't do find it a problem as it's just the way things are. |
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I guess I'm quite lucky in that I can generally tell if I'm going to be physically attracted to them from photos. And that's all I need to fuck someone.... I never do socials really, and I've only left 3 meets without fucking, and that was when they didn't really look like their photos.
Hope you find someone soon, OP.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't fuck anyone I don't fancy, I've tried in the past & it's an epic fail.
I do find it harder to click with people now, the heart pounding, sexual adrenalin rush is few & far between at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't fuck anyone I don't fancy, I've tried in the past & it's an epic fail.
I do find it harder to click with people now, the heart pounding, sexual adrenalin rush is few & far between at the moment."
Was they sympathy fucks do you think? When you had a meet/date and a nice time etc you felt obligated to do the dirty deed even though you wasn't really sexually attracted to them the way you know you should have been etc? |
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I'm particularly thorough with my selection proces, so have vastly reduced the percentage of people who were dead ends. At clubs you have a much bigger choice of people to choose from too.
What volumes are we talking op? Tens, hundreds? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't fuck anyone I don't fancy, I've tried in the past & it's an epic fail.
I do find it harder to click with people now, the heart pounding, sexual adrenalin rush is few & far between at the moment.
Was they sympathy fucks do you think? When you had a meet/date and a nice time etc you felt obligated to do the dirty deed even though you wasn't really sexually attracted to them the way you know you should have been etc?"
I probably wouldn't have worded it quite like that but yes two were. The other one was when I was trying to kickstart my mojo, needless to say it didn't work. |
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The older I get the more picky I become. I find that if I go outside of that I just don't enjoy myself as much.
In a nutshell I find emotional intelligence very attractive now. Having a great body and face just isn't enough. |
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"You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
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. I set realistic expectations and do my research before meeting. The person whom I am meeting is not going to be a life long partner . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The older I get the more picky I become. I find that if I go outside of that I just don't enjoy myself as much.
In a nutshell I find emotional intelligence very attractive now. Having a great body and face just isn't enough."
Bingo |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You go on dates or meets etc and you find the person attractive good fun and have a great time in their company but you rarely fancy them sexually.
I personally can't fuck someone I don't fancy no matter how much I was gagging for a fuck.
So my % rate of meets = fucks are very low.
Anyone else experience this ?
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Why would anyone want to fuck someone they don't fancy. Sounds normal to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm particularly thorough with my selection proces, so have vastly reduced the percentage of people who were dead ends. At clubs you have a much bigger choice of people to choose from too.
What volumes are we talking op? Tens, hundreds? "
I'm talking since I first started sexual activity so into the hundreds. I obviously in my younger years when I was young and daft and didn't know any better I used to fuck people I didn't really find attractive never mind having the elusive chemistry thing going on. A fuck was a fuck in my youth.
But as the years have passed I've realised I don't need or want to just fuck because it's available.
I'm looking for more than that.
I'm looking for the chemistry or what ever you wish to call it.
And this is what I have realised has been rare to find throughout my life.
But everyone is different and it's just the way it is.
I'm more selective now and happy to wait for the right chemistry with people as personally I've found its worth the wait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm particularly thorough with my selection proces, so have vastly reduced the percentage of people who were dead ends. At clubs you have a much bigger choice of people to choose from too.
What volumes are we talking op? Tens, hundreds?
I'm talking since I first started sexual activity so into the hundreds. I obviously in my younger years when I was young and daft and didn't know any better I used to fuck people I didn't really find attractive never mind having the elusive chemistry thing going on. A fuck was a fuck in my youth.
But as the years have passed I've realised I don't need or want to just fuck because it's available.
I'm looking for more than that.
I'm looking for the chemistry or what ever you wish to call it.
And this is what I have realised has been rare to find throughout my life.
But everyone is different and it's just the way it is.
I'm more selective now and happy to wait for the right chemistry with people as personally I've found its worth the wait. "
It's obviously different for us as a couple .
We find enough of a connection or chemistry with loads of people on here and enjoy every sexual experience |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I am with you completely on this one. I go to lots of clubs, parties and socials and enjoy the scene so very much.
But as far as actually meeting somebody that I want to get intimate with it does happen, but really not very often.
I need, even just for that brief time, some kind of sexual and mental connection. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am with you completely on this one. I go to lots of clubs, parties and socials and enjoy the scene so very much.
But as far as actually meeting somebody that I want to get intimate with it does happen, but really not very often.
I need, even just for that brief time, some kind of sexual and mental connection. "
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Im not after notches on my bed post ... never have
I find people attractive if they have manners , interest me , and articulate individuals ....
I wouldnt have sex for the sake of it ever .... I dont understand the nsa part ....especially if you want a regular friend with benefits
Im not a piece of meat ... im a person with feelings and so I expect to be treated with respect |
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