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10mins writing a message and no reply!?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!? "
My wife on her single profile got a 70 paragraph message once, yes 70 we counted them.
Written just for her. Took him several days. It was not wanted nor was it asked for.
The guy got upset because I think he sort of expected for that amount of effort he deserved something. She didn't find him in any way attractive and a 70 paragraph opener is just weird anyway.
If the local pizza shop put a 70 page flyer through my door am I more likely to order a pizza from them 'because they put the effort in'?
I don't want their pizza, I don't phone them to tell them I don't want their pizza.
Don't expect or demand a reply and you'll be less disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Might only be witty to you though.
How things sound in your head not necessarily come over well in text. Especially to a stranger who doesn't know you or your style of humour |
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You don't have to say much in a personalised and well crafted message. I very rarely initiate meet type messages so it makes my fab experience good fun almost all the time. Don't look at if they've been read either. Fire and forget. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!?
Type faster  "
Lolololol
Seriously, if she reads the message and checks your profile and doesn't like something on it, a reply is a "sorry not interested" on Fab.
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!? "
Well done for taking the time for writing a personalised message. Sadly you were not what the lady was looking for on this occasion .
You spent 5 mins writing a post about it, and look at all the people checking you out !
You might have more success chatting in the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's called the art of bullshit. I've picked up a grade A in that because I've worked in pubs for over 11 years now and you get so much banter flying over the bar. But a 70 paragraph message is just plain weird. Fair enough put effort into your messages but that is just too much. "Click"...deleted lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Op: you can cut n paste mine.
"Gizzashagyabitch" 
Tried that it doesn't work "
Even if you add their name and put whatever shitty saying or word in the subject bar?  |
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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago
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If we get a message that has had some effort we will reply, but if its just a fancy meeting tonight and no face pic then we rarely do as the sender hasnt read our profile so why would we bother to reply, its a bit like cold calling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even though I've never been inundated with messages as some women are, I wouldn't bother reading long messages, the information in it should be on the profile and a message longer than the profile, is a turn off. The profile is like a shop window and interests me more than a message does |
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
on the road to nowhere in particular |
"Op: you can cut n paste mine.
"Gizzashagyabitch"
Tried that it doesn't work
I beg to differ. Worked the first time I used it.  "
gizzashagyaNASTYbitch works better for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!? "
Don't you just hate it when guys come across as entitled to women's time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd keep it short & snappy with a good 1st line.
I can usually tell from the above, coupled with the user name & avatar whether I'll read / reply or just delete. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!?
Well done for taking the time for writing a personalised message. Sadly you were not what the lady was looking for on this occasion .
You spent 5 mins writing a post about it, and look at all the people checking you out !
You might have more success chatting in the forums "
This  and Knitter kisses  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why i just say hey hows it going.
Ive found if they find you attractive even if thier profile says "no one liners" you'll get a reply to even a "hi x" messgae.
If they dont find you attractive tou wont get a reply to a message that would shame Shakespeare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Effort put in brings rewards.
If we can see they've read our profile properly, get our humour (you're screwed if you don't) and generally are relaxed then we'll read it properly in return and respond.
But 70 paragraphs? 
I know we're immortal but FFS - even we don't have that much time... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!?
Don't you just hate it when guys come across as entitled to women's time?"
Woman's time is like a fine luxury watch; enjoy it briefly and then put it back in its box |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isn't anyone else desperate to know what the **** someone could write about for 70 paragraphs?
What on earth did he talk about? 
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Can't say here but PM me and I'll let you know |
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It doesn't matter how good the message is, if they aren't your type then it's a no reply. We have the type of guy we want to meet listed in our profile. But probably one in 50 messages meet that criteria . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit I did used to feel a bit bad when someone wrote a long message for me to reply with 'No thankyou' "
I used too in the beginning as well, over the years though I got over it as I know what I like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found most people look at the photos then the profile content to see if they think they would like to take things any further with the person who's sent the message.
I don't think writing an essay or just a few good well scripted lines would make much difference to be honest.
They either like your photos and profile content or the don't ?
I just stick to being true to myself and message someone I think I'd be compatible with just like I'd approach someone in a bar or club etc.
Seems to work ok for me that way anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can message people first on this site .... who knew?
OP it happens, people have choice. You chose to compose a message that took you a little thought; the recipient chose to ignore it... |
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"Even though I've never been inundated with messages as some women are, I wouldn't bother reading long messages, the information in it should be on the profile and a message longer than the profile, is a turn off. The profile is like a shop window and interests me more than a message does"
...nice profile well written with some nice sexy pics works so much better than a long message that looks like it could be a copy and paste job... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't you hate it when you put loads of effort into a well written and witty message; then you get no reply!!? "
Almost as much as when I spend time on getting my profile just right but the content of the messages received shows they haven't read a word of it.
Life is full of disappointment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women think they are entitled to a well thought out message but the men sending them aren't entitled to a no thank you in reply. I wouldn't want to meet those kind of self-entitled women if I were a man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My wife on her single profile got a 70 paragraph message once, yes 70 we counted them."
Damn... sorry that was supposed to be 69 paragraphs, I really shouldn't have included the one about the improbability drive... no wonder you didn't answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women think they are entitled to a well thought out message but the men sending them aren't entitled to a no thank you in reply. I wouldn't want to meet those kind of self-entitled women if I were a man. "
Over demanding female profiles are a 'skip to the next' for a lot of men too. It's the female equivalent of getting a 'up to much?' message from a bloke lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My wife on her single profile got a 70 paragraph message once, yes 70 we counted them.
Damn... sorry that was supposed to be 69 paragraphs, I really shouldn't have included the one about the improbability drive... no wonder you didn't answer "
She thought it was probably too improbable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when we receive a long message we tend to think it's a copy and paste sent to every couple and single fem on fab as it usually is , however we do take time to read it and reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do women pretend that if you send a good message it could lead somewhere? If they have a look at your pics and don't like what they see it doesn't matter if you're Shakespeare reincarnated, you won't get a response. |
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