On average between everyone you message back and forth with, which is the most success in getting an actual face to face meet?
For example you contact them first vs them contacting you first?
Which of those scenarios results in meets more often? |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"We've had far better success with those we've initiated contact with.
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Should add, we get turned down loads or messages deleted too. It's still far more successful for us than sitting back waiting. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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its who get s the sledgehammer out on the forums as my message filters are on..im a bit dim when it comes to flirting and just being friendly and sociable, so i tend to stick with they are being friendly and sociable...i go to clubs so they are always 'meets'...some you meet some you dont..some its a timing thing...both but i feel because i wait and contact when im pretty sure theres an interest, thats successful..however not sure that balances out my block list, from when i had my filters off  |
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over a year ago
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"I've been turned down fewer times than I have turned others down, but I only send messages to people whose criteria I fit in the first place. "
Unless that ratio includes single figures, I'm surprised by that to be fair.
I never message really, so technically I have just about scraped the ratio the other way around but I'm sure if I went looking I'd soon be sent packing |
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"I've been turned down fewer times than I have turned others down, but I only send messages to people whose criteria I fit in the first place. "
This !!!
I'd only message someone whose criteria I felt I could match. Generally though I have quite a successful time doing so.
Approx : 75% I've requested to meet have gone ahead or are in planning.
Approx : 25% of those looking to meet me have happened. Since I'm a fussy basnitch 
But that being said those who meet my criteria and have contacted me have so far 100%!! Either have met with or am in planning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been turned down fewer times than I have turned others down, but I only send messages to people whose criteria I fit in the first place.
Unless that ratio includes single figures, I'm surprised by that to be fair.
I never message really, so technically I have just about scraped the ratio the other way around but I'm sure if I went looking I'd soon be sent packing "
Reasons I've been turned down include being too tall, too fat and too married. People who didn't have their preference for any of those things on their profiles or I wouldn't have messaged them in the first place.
But when I have filters open I'll get messages from who totally don't fit what I had described I was looking for - so I reject more of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been turned down fewer times than I have turned others down, but I only send messages to people whose criteria I fit in the first place.
Unless that ratio includes single figures, I'm surprised by that to be fair.
I never message really, so technically I have just about scraped the ratio the other way around but I'm sure if I went looking I'd soon be sent packing
Reasons I've been turned down include being too tall, too fat and too married. People who didn't have their preference for any of those things on their profiles or I wouldn't have messaged them in the first place.
But when I have filters open I'll get messages from who totally don't fit what I had described I was looking for - so I reject more of them. "
Count yourself lucky! I rarely even get given a reason!  |
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Not so much this profile because we don't have pics up and very few veris yet but our other straight pro file gets bombarded with messages mostly never materialise to meets! But when we contact most our meets are arranged like this!
Now we should rephrase the question to couples only reason is guys always message first so ratio of guys contacting couples first or vice versa would be schewd! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been turned down fewer times than I have turned others down, but I only send messages to people whose criteria I fit in the first place.
Unless that ratio includes single figures, I'm surprised by that to be fair.
I never message really, so technically I have just about scraped the ratio the other way around but I'm sure if I went looking I'd soon be sent packing
Reasons I've been turned down include being too tall, too fat and too married. People who didn't have their preference for any of those things on their profiles or I wouldn't have messaged them in the first place.
But when I have filters open I'll get messages from who totally don't fit what I had described I was looking for - so I reject more of them.
Count yourself lucky! I rarely even get given a reason! "
Maybe men are more inclined to give a reason why. I don't tend to myself, and don't particularly want a reason back - a no thanks or a simple delete does the job just as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've turned down over 90% of people asking me for a meet on here, I've spoken to many and met a few and it's about 50-50 who suggedted it first . I mostly meet at clubs as it's better for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Count yourself lucky! I rarely even get given a reason!
Maybe men are more inclined to give a reason why. I don't tend to myself, and don't particularly want a reason back - a no thanks or a simple delete does the job just as well. "
Fair point I suppose. I find it helps to at least get an idea why, rather than just a delete. I see so many statuses from women saying they're just going to delete all because there's too many in their inbox. If my message gets deleted by someone I'm not sure whether to bother trying again or to just leave them be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Count yourself lucky! I rarely even get given a reason!
Maybe men are more inclined to give a reason why. I don't tend to myself, and don't particularly want a reason back - a no thanks or a simple delete does the job just as well.
Fair point I suppose. I find it helps to at least get an idea why, rather than just a delete. I see so many statuses from women saying they're just going to delete all because there's too many in their inbox. If my message gets deleted by someone I'm not sure whether to bother trying again or to just leave them be. "
Yeah, I don't always wholly believe those statuses. I think they just don't want to look like a bitch for deleting people's messages, but actually they just want to delete them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't message first so I don't have to take the rejection.
I messaged someone once. If they haven't replied yet that's not rejection is it?  "
Unsurprisingly I'm sure, I don't understand? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't message first so I don't have to take the rejection.
Would you like one of my individualised not cut n pasted and not at all generic messages with your name in it, sent? "
Hang on, I thought we were engaged anyway? |
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
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"I don't message first so I don't have to take the rejection.
Would you like one of my individualised not cut n pasted and not at all generic messages with your name in it, sent?
Hang on, I thought we were engaged anyway? "
So it's not cheating if they don't reply?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so much this profile because we don't have pics up and very few veris yet but our other straight pro file gets bombarded with messages mostly never materialise to meets! But when we contact most our meets are arranged like this!
Now we should rephrase the question to couples only reason is guys always message first so ratio of guys contacting couples first or vice versa would be schewd!"
Guys don't contact us - but then they're blocked as we aren't looking for them. EVER!
As for the percentage - pretty even.
All the chats we're having have a provisional timescale so happy enough  |
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