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Won't meet/date non drinkers??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Non smokers not wanting to meet/date smokers I can understand for obvious reasons.
But drinkers not wanting to meet non drinkers?
Can't understand the reasoning behind that one myself ?
Any ideas on this?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?"
If someone needs to have a few drinks to enjoy themselves then I'd be very wary of meeting them. Yes, we may have a drink when out but it's very rare if at a club or meeting others socially. Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?"
I understand it....some non drinkers can be a bit..... Opinionated about how evil alcohol is. It would depend on the person but i wouldn't feel comfortable and certainly wouldn't enjoy a glass of wine with someone sipping on their water looking down their nose at me. This is an extreme example but it does happen so i can fully understand why some would choose not to meet non drinkers if part of their meets is enjoying a drink together as well as the Sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i need a sleep or something, read that totally wrong.
they probably can't socialise without drinking and don't enjoy meeting sober people, coz i find it boring the other way round and don't enjoy meeting people who drink and can relate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?"
Never come across this , and we've had quite a few meets . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i need a sleep or something, read that totally wrong.
they probably can't socialise without drinking and don't enjoy meeting sober people, coz i find it boring the other way round and don't enjoy meeting people who drink and can relate."
Yep. That's the attitude i meant. Why do some non-drinkers assume that people that drink always have to get pissed to have a good time? Many people like to relax with A drink. Singular. Just the one without being made to feel like an alcoholic! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i need a sleep or something, read that totally wrong.
they probably can't socialise without drinking and don't enjoy meeting sober people, coz i find it boring the other way round and don't enjoy meeting people who drink and can relate.
Yep. That's the attitude i meant. Why do some non-drinkers assume that people that drink always have to get pissed to have a good time? Many people like to relax with A drink. Singular. Just the one without being made to feel like an alcoholic!"
This is what I can't understand?
I don't drink or smoke but it doesn't bother me in the slightest if people I'm socialising with enjoy a drink and smoke.
But then again I'm pretty easy going believe it or not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i need a sleep or something, read that totally wrong.
they probably can't socialise without drinking and don't enjoy meeting sober people, coz i find it boring the other way round and don't enjoy meeting people who drink and can relate.
Yep. That's the attitude i meant. Why do some non-drinkers assume that people that drink always have to get pissed to have a good time? Many people like to relax with A drink. Singular. Just the one without being made to feel like an alcoholic!"
i didn't say anyone was d*unk. but even if someone has one drink i still can't relax around people who need alcohol, plus don't like the smell of them either. why would is socialise with someone who smells awful to me?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?"
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx "
Well done love keep it up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends which flavour of non drinker it is.. I know people who are allergic to alcohol, ex alcoholics. Some people just dont like the taste. Or they could be muslim. Big difference from the 'anti drink' faction.
From a personal point of view I would be less inclined to meet someone if lots of alcohol was involved..but I like to be in control of myself and I find after more than a couple I lose some sensation with sex.
If I am going to enjoy somebody I should want to do it stone cold sober |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i need a sleep or something, read that totally wrong.
they probably can't socialise without drinking and don't enjoy meeting sober people, coz i find it boring the other way round and don't enjoy meeting people who drink and can relate.
Yep. That's the attitude i meant. Why do some non-drinkers assume that people that drink always have to get pissed to have a good time? Many people like to relax with A drink. Singular. Just the one without being made to feel like an alcoholic!
This is what I can't understand?
I don't drink or smoke but it doesn't bother me in the slightest if people I'm socialising with enjoy a drink and smoke.
But then again I'm pretty easy going believe it or not "
That's why I'm trying to explaining to you a possible reason. Many non drinkers are very judgemental about people who drink and assume they need to get pissed to be able to socialise. You see this attitude time and again on the forum. So i can understand why some would choose not to bother meeting those that could potentially have that attitude. It's just another filter and i really don't get why you don't understand that or even why you have the need to understand it?
Anyway. I could be completely wrong anyway I was just trying to provide a possible reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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From my point of view im not bothered about people drinking around me but I would be nervous about falling off the wagon or being incouraged to drink. This has already happened by some "friends" xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx
Well done love keep it up "
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx "
i don't enjoy that environment either. feels weird sitting with drinkers when you're not having one, probably because other people point out you're not drinking and you should be, lol.
hope you keep up with the cutting down.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?"
Polite way of saying "youre not for me".
Although tea totalers are much like vegans and seem to never shut up about it.
Winder if you could play spot the non drinker like spot the vegan |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx
i don't enjoy that environment either. feels weird sitting with drinkers when you're not having one, probably because other people point out you're not drinking and you should be, lol.
hope you keep up with the cutting down.
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Thank you. It's been hard tbh but I feel so much better already plus I'm saving £50 a fortnight!!! |
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Says a lot about their need for a drink and they need company and the approval for it!
The other week someone got d*unk on a first date with me. I don't drink and don't mind others doing so but on a first date??!! Plus enough references to drink and drinking throughout the night told me it's too much of a crook and the incompatibility is glaring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?
If someone needs to have a few drinks to enjoy themselves then I'd be very wary of meeting them. Yes, we may have a drink when out but it's very rare if at a club or meeting others socially. Her"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx
i don't enjoy that environment either. feels weird sitting with drinkers when you're not having one, probably because other people point out you're not drinking and you should be, lol.
hope you keep up with the cutting down.
Thank you. It's been hard tbh but I feel so much better already plus I'm saving £50 a fortnight!!! "
took me about a year to feel 'normal' without alcohol, you'll get there i'm sure.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?"
Because non drinkers are just weirdos |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?
Because non drinkers are just weirdos"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Says a lot about their need for a drink and they need company and the approval for it!
The other week someone got d*unk on a first date with me. I don't drink and don't mind others doing so but on a first date??!! Plus enough references to drink and drinking throughout the night told me it's too much of a crook and the incompatibility is glaring. "
Utter pish, if just a few wines in afraid |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have asked why before.
Response was... "I like to have a few drinks and enjoy myself and I couldn't do that with someone who doesn't drink"
Still find that a bit strange?
Because non drinkers are just weirdos
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You can tell I'm on G&T number 5 and love and sex to everyone
Except temperance people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx
i don't enjoy that environment either. feels weird sitting with drinkers when you're not having one, probably because other people point out you're not drinking and you should be, lol.
hope you keep up with the cutting down.
Thank you. It's been hard tbh but I feel so much better already plus I'm saving £50 a fortnight!!!
took me about a year to feel 'normal' without alcohol, you'll get there i'm sure. "
Big difference in alcoholics and people having 2 glasses of wine to relax |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alcoholics might not want to meet drinkers?
I agree with this. I was drinking heavily untill a month ago tomorrow n i certainly atm don't want to go to a pub or drinking environment xxx
i don't enjoy that environment either. feels weird sitting with drinkers when you're not having one, probably because other people point out you're not drinking and you should be, lol.
hope you keep up with the cutting down.
Thank you. It's been hard tbh but I feel so much better already plus I'm saving £50 a fortnight!!!
took me about a year to feel 'normal' without alcohol, you'll get there i'm sure.
Big difference in alcoholics and people having 2 glasses of wine to relax "
I know, i'm just not comfortable in drinking situations any more, they aren't me or a part of my life now and i'm happy to keep it that way.
I don't even miss drinking and am not tempted to drink myself, gave up 20 years ago now and well past recovery stage. It's just not a situation i enjoy being in and would spoil any meet i have.
So i can relate to how some people might not be comfortable with non-drinkers and not want to meet them, because you've got to be compatible socially if meeting socially. |
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"Says a lot about their need for a drink and they need company and the approval for it!
The other week someone got d*unk on a first date with me. I don't drink and don't mind others doing so but on a first date??!! Plus enough references to drink and drinking throughout the night told me it's too much of a crook and the incompatibility is glaring.
Utter pish, if just a few wines in afraid "
Lol. I said d*unk, not a few wines  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Says a lot about their need for a drink and they need company and the approval for it!
The other week someone got d*unk on a first date with me. I don't drink and don't mind others doing so but on a first date??!! Plus enough references to drink and drinking throughout the night told me it's too much of a crook and the incompatibility is glaring.
Utter pish, if just a few wines in afraid
Lol. I said d*unk, not a few wines "
Are you looking at my gin?
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