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"So the old biddy next door has made my life hell for years and i got the guts to tell her enough was enough and now shes poorly , do i give in like i did last time ? "
You need to start being "nice" just don't start playing ding dong the witch is dead ect |
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"So the old biddy next door has made my life hell for years and i got the guts to tell her enough was enough and now shes poorly , do i give in like i did last time ?
You DONT need to start being "nice" just don't start playing ding dong the witch is dead ect "
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over a year ago
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"Depends on what she's doing and if she's continuing. If it's tolerable, give up. If it's not, keep on. "
Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs  |
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"Depends on what she's doing and if she's continuing. If it's tolerable, give up. If it's not, keep on. Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs "
Isn't that criminal? Perhaps document it just in case you have to get the police and RSPCA involved. |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Depends on what she's doing and if she's continuing. If it's tolerable, give up. If it's not, keep on. Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs
Isn't that criminal? Perhaps document it just in case you have to get the police and RSPCA involved. "
good idea its a bit much haveing to check the garden out before i let the dogs out xx |
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"Depends on what she's doing and if she's continuing. If it's tolerable, give up. If it's not, keep on. Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs
Isn't that criminal? Perhaps document it just in case you have to get the police and RSPCA involved. good idea its a bit much haveing to check the garden out before i let the dogs out xx"
She could also not know that they're dangerous, so maybe a polite chat may stop it. Some people aren't aware as dogs were known to chew on butchers bones. |
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"Depends on what she's doing and if she's continuing. If it's tolerable, give up. If it's not, keep on. Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs
Isn't that criminal? Perhaps document it just in case you have to get the police and RSPCA involved. good idea its a bit much haveing to check the garden out before i let the dogs out xx
She could also not know that they're dangerous, so maybe a polite chat may stop it. Some people aren't aware as dogs were known to chew on butchers bones. "
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
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she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx"
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow. |
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Hmm. I had bother with a neighbour at my first flat, she was fine as long as I would stand and listen to her gossip, but any time I said I was busy she took the right huff and would do silly things. Eventually she moved away, but there really was no need for it.
Otherwise the only problems I've had with neighbours have been over noise. I had to keep a diary for the noise abatement team |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow. "
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger... |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow. "
her family are around now because they know im not looking out for her , time for them to take some flack x |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger... "
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia. |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow. her family are around now because they know im not looking out for her , time for them to take some flack x"
Ahh, I didn't mean don't deal with it cos of that by the way, it's just it'll be harder for you if she has lower self control. Sad really if that is the case |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia. "
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there? |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there? "
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties. |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there?
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties. "
Not far fetched but doesn't seem any more likely than she's just a horrible person. I have a family member with dementia and they aren't mean at all, they just forget stuff. Im also a bit suspicious when her own family can't stand to be around her, I can't imagine abandoning my parents. |
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"oh she is all there just bloody evil , her own son warned me about her , she has two stepdaughters that she hasnt seen since the day her husband died x"
Exhibit A, your honour |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there?
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties.
Not far fetched but doesn't seem any more likely than she's just a horrible person. I have a family member with dementia and they aren't mean at all, they just forget stuff. Im also a bit suspicious when her own family can't stand to be around her, I can't imagine abandoning my parents."
Yes, I've also several relatives with it, however one was nasty as a result. It's not a consistent illness. Anyway, it's only a possibility that should be kept in mind. |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there?
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties.
Not far fetched but doesn't seem any more likely than she's just a horrible person. I have a family member with dementia and they aren't mean at all, they just forget stuff. Im also a bit suspicious when her own family can't stand to be around her, I can't imagine abandoning my parents.
Yes, I've also several relatives with it, however one was nasty as a result. It's not a consistent illness. Anyway, it's only a possibility that should be kept in mind. "
The prosecution refers the defence to exhibit A |
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Be prepared to be a unpaid carer. This is what happened to me .Still do her shopping though . But I sorted out meals getting delivered daily and cleaner goes in weekly .some people can just go a step to far.Bloody neighbours !  |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there?
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties.
Not far fetched but doesn't seem any more likely than she's just a horrible person. I have a family member with dementia and they aren't mean at all, they just forget stuff. Im also a bit suspicious when her own family can't stand to be around her, I can't imagine abandoning my parents.
Yes, I've also several relatives with it, however one was nasty as a result. It's not a consistent illness. Anyway, it's only a possibility that should be kept in mind. "
as i put on my last thread not only did i get shingles from my dogs the lump in my boob was of the dogs to  |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Be prepared to be a unpaid carer. This is what happened to me .Still do her shopping though . But I sorted out meals getting delivered daily and cleaner goes in weekly .some people can just go a step to far.Bloody neighbours ! "
Tgats because you are a lovely person and a great friend , thanks for keeping me sane xx |
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there?
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties.
Not far fetched but doesn't seem any more likely than she's just a horrible person. I have a family member with dementia and they aren't mean at all, they just forget stuff. Im also a bit suspicious when her own family can't stand to be around her, I can't imagine abandoning my parents."
if only dementia was just forgetting stuff , anyone whos ever had to deal with someone in the full grip of dementia will understand how harrowing, exhausting, soul destroying it can be to carer and sufferer alike |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Be prepared to be a unpaid carer. This is what happened to me .Still do her shopping though . But I sorted out meals getting delivered daily and cleaner goes in weekly .some people can just go a step to far.Bloody neighbours ! Tgats because you are a lovely person and a great friend , thanks for keeping me sane xx"
ment thats , hit the wine lol x |
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"Be prepared to be a unpaid carer. This is what happened to me .Still do her shopping though . But I sorted out meals getting delivered daily and cleaner goes in weekly .some people can just go a step to far.Bloody neighbours ! Tgats because you are a lovely person and a great friend , thanks for keeping me sane xx ment thats , hit the wine lol x"
Ah thank you and wish I was on the wine . |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Be prepared to be a unpaid carer. This is what happened to me .Still do her shopping though . But I sorted out meals getting delivered daily and cleaner goes in weekly .some people can just go a step to far.Bloody neighbours ! Tgats because you are a lovely person and a great friend , thanks for keeping me sane xx ment thats , hit the wine lol x
Ah thank you and wish I was on the wine . "
you will be at the york social xx |
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"Be prepared to be a unpaid carer. This is what happened to me .Still do her shopping though . But I sorted out meals getting delivered daily and cleaner goes in weekly .some people can just go a step to far.Bloody neighbours ! Tgats because you are a lovely person and a great friend , thanks for keeping me sane xx ment thats , hit the wine lol x
Ah thank you and wish I was on the wine . you will be at the york social xx"
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"So the old biddy next door has made my life hell for years and i got the guts to tell her enough was enough and now shes poorly , do i give in like i did last time ? "
Being poorly,doesn't exempt any previous nastinessness.
Bad health,doesn't make anybody a better person.
She's still the same person.
Don't give in.
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
york |
"Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs
Seems like a horrible neighbour "
she is and monday is shopping day , the daughter and granddaughter will come and take her and all i will get is grief of them x |
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Just because someone is old doesn't mean they've got the right to be a bellend,ill or not. In saying that I'll probably be just like that when I'm older |
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"Not going to give in this time , vile woman is now throwing chicken bones over the fence for the dogs
Seems like a horrible neighbour she is and monday is shopping day , the daughter and granddaughter will come and take her and all i will get is grief of them x"
Stand up for yourself then and give them a dose of their own medicine  |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Just because someone is old doesn't mean they've got the right to be a bellend,ill or not. In saying that I'll probably be just like that when I'm older "
But it makes me feel like the bad guy and they know winding me up makes me stress and fit , they seem to enjoy that x
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"Just because someone is old doesn't mean they've got the right to be a bellend,ill or not. In saying that I'll probably be just like that when I'm older But it makes me feel like the bad guy and they know winding me up makes me stress and fit , they seem to enjoy that x"
There's a aphrase I like to use quite often when someone isn't playing ball or is being a cockwomble and that's "fuck em"
Don't lose any sleep and smile knowing that you're not the bitter and twisted one in this. Oh and maybe smear dogshit on the inside of their letter box .  |
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over a year ago
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"Just because someone is old doesn't mean they've got the right to be a bellend,ill or not. In saying that I'll probably be just like that when I'm older But it makes me feel like the bad guy and they know winding me up makes me stress and fit , they seem to enjoy that x
There's a aphrase I like to use quite often when someone isn't playing ball or is being a cockwomble and that's "fuck em"
Don't lose any sleep and smile knowing that you're not the bitter and twisted one in this. Oh and maybe smear dogshit on the inside of their letter box . "
good idea two dogs provide plenty of it lol x |
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over a year ago
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Sounds like she had some kind of dementia and some people as they get older get nasty. Some people get the attitude I'm old and I don't care what I say or do a kind of fuck you attitude.
Not a lot can be done about her attitude but trying to feed the dogs chicken bones is a criminal offence as this is trying to cause harm. Seek legal advice visit CAB |
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over a year ago
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"oh she is all there just bloody evil , her own son warned me about her..."
Adn she trhows chicken bones to you dog and gives you flowers poison.
Explain to me again why you consider entertaining this lady??? |
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over a year ago
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"Just because someone is old doesn't mean they've got the right to be a bellend,ill or not. In saying that I'll probably be just like that when I'm older But it makes me feel like the bad guy and they know winding me up makes me stress and fit , they seem to enjoy that x
There's a aphrase I like to use quite often when someone isn't playing ball or is being a cockwomble and that's "fuck em"
Don't lose any sleep and smile knowing that you're not the bitter and twisted one in this. Oh and maybe smear dogshit on the inside of their letter box . good idea two dogs provide plenty of it lol x"
It's ultimately childish but what a laugh when you know they can smell it but don't know where it's coming from |
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Is she nasty or does she have mental health issues ? Sometimes it's hard to distinguish between an illness and an awkward personality. I was just wondering if she had dementia, as that can make you behave uncharacteristically badly.
Or does behave badly as that gets your attention and some attention is better than none?
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"Might need some more info here.
But going on what you've said, if she's always been nasty then she's probably not going to change her ways, so why should you feel bad if she's poorly?
she had her hips done a few years ago and her family dont bother with her so i started to cook her an odd meal now and then , im a good cook but shes been ringing my friend over the road and telling him to come and get it for the dog then moaning that i havent cooked for her. She had a bite on her hand and told him it was a flea bite from her next door as she calls me , the list goes on , killer over my fence because she doesnt like my flowers growing up it xx
A grandparent of mine changed negatively when they were older, its possibly a sign of a dementia related illness so don't take it personally. Mean comments and rude behaviour is to be expected. If her family aren't around, the loneliness will make it worse and possibly means she won't get diagnosed. Bear it in mind - she may just be a cow.
I know a lot of young and middle age people that are cunts. I'm not aware of any magical process that makes people nicer as they get older so I'd imagine they remain cunts when they are old too. OP, ask her if anyone ever called her a bitch when she was younger...
No, however I meant that she may not be being mean on purpose and to to approach the situation accordingly. A person with dementia or a related illness won't respond in the same way as a person without dementia.
Of course, but not every old person has dementia so there's no real reason to assume she's got it is there?
Why not? People with dementia do weird things, and putting out essentially poison for dogs is a weird thing. It's not far fetched to assume maybe she doesn't have all her faculties.
Not far fetched but doesn't seem any more likely than she's just a horrible person. I have a family member with dementia and they aren't mean at all, they just forget stuff. Im also a bit suspicious when her own family can't stand to be around her, I can't imagine abandoning my parents.if only dementia was just forgetting stuff , anyone whos ever had to deal with someone in the full grip of dementia will understand how harrowing, exhausting, soul destroying it can be to carer and sufferer alike"
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"Is she nasty or does she have mental health issues ? Sometimes it's hard to distinguish between an illness and an awkward personality. I was just wondering if she had dementia, as that can make you behave uncharacteristically badly.
Or does behave badly as that gets your attention and some attention is better than none?
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Either way I'd be inclined to put in a taller fence and ignore the neighbour...let her family deal with her. |
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being ill can be faked, or exaggerated, to gain sympathy and make you feel bad.
fuck her. she was a dick before she got ill and is still a dick after. makes no difference. |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"being ill can be faked, or exaggerated, to gain sympathy and make you feel bad.
fuck her. she was a dick before she got ill and is still a dick after. makes no difference."
I Know its mean but ive got the back door open while im cooking a nice sunday lunch , ill give hers to the dogs xx |
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over a year ago
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No mate dont start feeling guilty. If she has made your life hell turn it around & give it her back 10 fold. If she's throwing chicken bones into your garden then i would return the compliment with the dogs shit |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"No mate dont start feeling guilty. If she has made your life hell turn it around & give it her back 10 fold. If she's throwing chicken bones into your garden then i would return the compliment with the dogs shit "
That would make me as bad as her xx |
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1. Stop referring to people by age.
2. Stop infantile name calling.
3. Look up your tenancy rules etc.
4. Look up your council rules etc.
5. If her behaviour is unnaceptable according to those rules do something legal about it.
It would help if you discussed matters rationally with her first.
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"1. Stop referring to people by age.
2. Stop infantile name calling.
3. Look up your tenancy rules etc.
4. Look up your council rules etc.
5. If her behaviour is unnaceptable according to those rules do something legal about it.
It would help if you discussed matters rationally with her first.
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I Have spent ten years trying to discuss it with her |
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"being ill can be faked, or exaggerated, to gain sympathy and make you feel bad.
fuck her. she was a dick before she got ill and is still a dick after. makes no difference.
I Know its mean but ive got the back door open while im cooking a nice sunday lunch , ill give hers to the dogs xx"
i personally wouldn't do anything to get back at her, but i meant that i wouldn't feel bad about classing her as a nasty person before she got ill then change my mind after she got ill just because she was ill. because so what? all people get ill and nobody deserves to get ill, it's just what happens to us physically and is a part of life.
my neighbours are paranoid, and unfortunately that already means they think half the stuff i do revolves around them (i get stalked and bullied and it really is awful). i do nothing to antagonise them or give them a reason for their behaviour - this gives me a clear conscience and no sense of guilt and 100% everything they do is down to them and their state of mind, which is a poor state of their own making. |
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"1. Stop referring to people by age.
2. Stop infantile name calling.
3. Look up your tenancy rules etc.
4. Look up your council rules etc.
5. If her behaviour is unnaceptable according to those rules do something legal about it.
It would help if you discussed matters rationally with her first.
I Have spent ten years trying to discuss it with her "
Have you been to the council/police/CAB ? |
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"I haven't seen you say she's done anything wrong except the chicken bones.
Read the thread
I have. so its ok to put bleach over someones garden is it ?"
You're not speaking to me in a very adult or rational manner now.
That's the first time according to me that you have mentioned bleach.
I'll re read tho if that what it takes.
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over a year ago
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"I haven't seen you say she's done anything wrong except the chicken bones.
Read the thread
I have. so its ok to put bleach over someones garden is it ?
You're not speaking to me in a very adult or rational manner now.
That's the first time according to me that you have mentioned bleach.
I'll re read tho if that what it takes.
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You try liveing next door to her and see how rational you would be , i have to keep my door locked so she doest barge in |
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Nuisance neighbours are notoriously difficult to deal with but the sooner you approach the relevant agencies to deal with her the sooner it will get sorted. A situation we had with neighbours was only resolved when they moved and we notice that the houses around them in the street they moved to very quickly came up for sale. |
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By *tarbeck OP Couple
over a year ago
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"So now im feeling good , i stood my ground and am enjoying a nice quiet life , bliss 
Good for you nothing worse than bad neighbours  "
Not so good for her daughter she has to call round every day now to check on her |
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