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You're on a day out on a date would you ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Bring up the subject that you've decided that you don't really fancy the person your on the day out with while still on your date ??
Or wait until the day was over and you had said goodbye and then txt them later to give them the news that you just wasn't "feeling it " on the date ?
Which would you choose to break the bad news? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not while i was with them, unless they were being pushy or i wanted the date to end coz it was that bad.
I would hopefully enjoy the date then after tell them. |
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again... 
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front. "
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day... |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day... "
In all honesty, anyone I've managed more than a couple of dates with has texted to tell me it was a no go, but I've had loads of first dates vanish into thin air.... |
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day...
In all honesty, anyone I've managed more than a couple of dates with has texted to tell me it was a no go, but I've had loads of first dates vanish into thin air...."
That's what I do I think he got taken by aliens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day... "
You actually went on a date with someone from POF  ? The best I managed of that site was conversation about lesbian porn and pic trades, which I hate but the girl was really hot  |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day...
You actually went on a date with someone from POF ? The best I managed of that site was conversation about lesbian porn and pic trades, which I hate but the girl was really hot "
When I was still interested in dating, I had a few offpof. I clealry enjoyed them so much that I am no longer looking to date. |
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day...
You actually went on a date with someone from POF ? The best I managed of that site was conversation about lesbian porn and pic trades, which I hate but the girl was really hot "
Been on a few dates on there and tinder |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This was a proper date and I think bringing it up into conversation on a day out together was tactless especially as it was just two people enjoying a day out together .
I personally would have waited till the day out was over and I was home then txt them to tell them I had a great time but I didn't feel a spark etc.
Just wondered what you thought would have been the right time to mention that you didn't fancy them?
Especially when it hadn't been broached in conversation on the day out by the other person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This was a proper date and I think bringing it up into conversation on a day out together was tactless especially as it was just two people enjoying a day out together .
I personally would have waited till the day out was over and I was home then txt them to tell them I had a great time but I didn't feel a spark etc.
Just wondered what you thought would have been the right time to mention that you didn't fancy them?
Especially when it hadn't been broached in conversation on the day out by the other person?"
If this happened to you, you should question how truthful your pictures are. And perhaps include more. |
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day...
You actually went on a date with someone from POF ? The best I managed of that site was conversation about lesbian porn and pic trades, which I hate but the girl was really hot "
I don't date on there any more fuck me it's full of people with some serious issues I no longer look to date |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"This was a proper date and I think bringing it up into conversation on a day out together was tactless especially as it was just two people enjoying a day out together .
I personally would have waited till the day out was over and I was home then txt them to tell them I had a great time but I didn't feel a spark etc.
Just wondered what you thought would have been the right time to mention that you didn't fancy them?
Especially when it hadn't been broached in conversation on the day out by the other person?"
People are different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day...
You actually went on a date with someone from POF ? The best I managed of that site was conversation about lesbian porn and pic trades, which I hate but the girl was really hot
Been on a few dates on there and tinder "
I never managed to get to a date stage on anything other than happn. I was close on okc but she went MIA for 20 days and then came up with a childish excuse -_- |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"This was a proper date and I think bringing it up into conversation on a day out together was tactless especially as it was just two people enjoying a day out together .
I personally would have waited till the day out was over and I was home then txt them to tell them I had a great time but I didn't feel a spark etc.
Just wondered what you thought would have been the right time to mention that you didn't fancy them?
Especially when it hadn't been broached in conversation on the day out by the other person?
If this happened to you, you should question how truthful your pictures are. And perhaps include more. "
I can never tell 100% if I fancy someone by a photograph. I have met people who look stunning, but I cease to fancy about 10 minutes into meeting them... |
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You have to be tactful. I would just probably stear the date into the friend zone if I could.
If the attraction isn't there it's unfair to hurt someone's feelings and very childish. I'm sure any normal person would understand if you didn't like them. Dropping of the face of the earth is cowardly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This was a proper date and I think bringing it up into conversation on a day out together was tactless especially as it was just two people enjoying a day out together .
I personally would have waited till the day out was over and I was home then txt them to tell them I had a great time but I didn't feel a spark etc.
Just wondered what you thought would have been the right time to mention that you didn't fancy them?
Especially when it hadn't been broached in conversation on the day out by the other person?
If this happened to you, you should question how truthful your pictures are. And perhaps include more.
I can never tell 100% if I fancy someone by a photograph. I have met people who look stunning, but I cease to fancy about 10 minutes into meeting them..."
No, you're right, but questioning the quality and how faithful his photos are won't hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This was a proper date and I think bringing it up into conversation on a day out together was tactless especially as it was just two people enjoying a day out together .
I personally would have waited till the day out was over and I was home then txt them to tell them I had a great time but I didn't feel a spark etc.
Just wondered what you thought would have been the right time to mention that you didn't fancy them?
Especially when it hadn't been broached in conversation on the day out by the other person?
If this happened to you, you should question how truthful your pictures are. And perhaps include more.
I can never tell 100% if I fancy someone by a photograph. I have met people who look stunning, but I cease to fancy about 10 minutes into meeting them...
No, you're right, but questioning the quality and how faithful his photos are won't hurt. "
They had met before on a first date. This was a second date a day out date together.
So photos looks were obviously not an issue. Hence moving onto a second date. |
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I think..... That after the few prerequisite missives to set a date up: that the banter/attraction was already established, or past the vetting stage! Noe if they look & sound like "Olivia Wilde" on the profile, but look more like "Olive Oil" in person, then the lies/deception is cause for the instant termination of the evening! I'm no saint: don't Always put on new/fresh socks! And: any disclaimers/disclosure is made up front..! Yes: I still occasionally smoke.  ! |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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It's often quite mutual when you don't fancy the other person. You don't text back the next day, but just enjoy the date whilst you can.
I've had a girl constantly argue with me on a date. It's the only time I've made a girl pay for lunch on first date |
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"You have to be tactful. I would just probably stear the date into the friend zone if I could.
If the attraction isn't there it's unfair to hurt someone's feelings and very childish. I'm sure any normal person would understand if you didn't like them. Dropping of the face of the earth is cowardly "
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day... "
Or did you push him  |
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"Usually the modus operandi in "regular" dating is to never hear from them again...
Swingers tend to be a bit more honest/up front.
I had 4 dates with a guy off POF he fell off the face of the earth one day...
You actually went on a date with someone from POF ? The best I managed of that site was conversation about lesbian porn and pic trades, which I hate but the girl was really hot "
I had 2 relationships from POF 12m & 8m. They also cheated on me..... |
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I'd obviously like the person and respect them so would ensure the date goes as well as I can manage. That's likely to mean that I won't need to add unnecessary drama into it.
No date has any guaranteed outcome. It's an agreement for a one off meeting - you wouldn't need to be asking for another, nor saying or doing something that is harsh and cutting, when someone has given up their time to spend it with you.
Your body language and demeanor is likely to be giving some message away, regardless of what you speak. But I'd ensure that I was honest and didn't mislead them. |
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"Social skills: I'd wait till the next day. Even if I didn't fancy them sexually doesn't mean I don't want to spend time with them. "
This makes most sense to me -can still enjoy the time and will probably be obvious to both that there is no spark |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'vest someone on a social meet who I didn't fancy.
I didn't tell her that; I just stopped leading her on in messages.
I'd rather she thought I was a dick than she felt self conscious as a result of me not fancying her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social skills: I'd wait till the next day. Even if I didn't fancy them sexually doesn't mean I don't want to spend time with them. "
Spot on!
I find it so rigid that people make these definite decision: If I don't want to fuck you / marry you / date you then you are not worth any more of my time.
Stop being pretentious about you own 'datability' and start making friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have to be tactful. I would just probably stear the date into the friend zone if I could.
If the attraction isn't there it's unfair to hurt someone's feelings and very childish. I'm sure any normal person would understand if you didn't like them. Dropping of the face of the earth is cowardly "
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
I've had a few' dates' from dating sites.. at what point you tell someone you don't fancy them is down to that person and their own thoughts
I'vee had it at the conclusion of the evening , in a text afterwards , a conversation after ..
I'm an adult I can cope with rejection in all of its forms .. I'd hope the ladies could as well.
Move on to someone who does fancy you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't bring up the subject of me not fancying the person I'm on a date with until the date is over.
I'd just enjoy the date the best I could and let them know once the date was over that I enjoyed the date but I didn't feel any spark etc and wish them good luck in their search. |
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"I'vest someone on a social meet who I didn't fancy.
I didn't tell her that; I just stopped leading her on in messages.
I'd rather she thought I was a dick than she felt self conscious as a result of me not fancying her. "
Aww that's really kind of you.
I would wait til after then let them know kindly, I never lead people on, I can't do it! |
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