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What % of guys are single?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've chatted to quite a few guys on Fab, who have turned out to have a partner who's unaware they are looking for.. extra curricular entertainment.
No judgement. For my own sanity I only want to play with genuinely single guys, or a guy with a missus who know he's on here and is happy about it.so I don't have an angry woman on my trail ready to try and trash my life as "revenge"!
I've even pulled a couple of guys in nightclubs recently and all three have turned out to have girlfriends. It's only because I say I'm married, and are they attached, they feel confident telling me the truth as they think I'll be fine with it.
The % seems VERY high, from my experience.
And it's got me thinking... all the guys I met when I was younger and saw on and off, nothing serious, and the one night stands - I wonder how many weren't single either? I always assumed it must be me, that I'm generally quite annoying and they don't want to stick around? (Although that's probably part of it  )
My husband has a theory that guys remain in relationships they aren't happy with as it's a guaranteed fuck, whereas it's much easier for women to go pull whenever they want. So men don't tend to be single for very long?
No idea if that's true?
You lot are opinionated, what do you think? Are there very few single guys (past the age of 25ish)? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say a good 80% of the guys I have spoken to on here have a partner. Not an issue for me but I'd rather know than not "
Well I am single, and if it's only me and there are 20,000 men on the site, that would make it 0.005%  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You'll never find out the true answer, but I bet there are plenty of ladies who secretly have relationships in the background.
I will guess between 10% and 90%  |
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"I've chatted to quite a few guys on Fab, who have turned out to have a partner who's unaware they are looking for.. extra curricular entertainment.
No judgement. For my own sanity I only want to play with genuinely single guys, or a guy with a missus who know he's on here and is happy about it.so I don't have an angry woman on my trail ready to try and trash my life as "revenge"!
I've even pulled a couple of guys in nightclubs recently and all three have turned out to have girlfriends. It's only because I say I'm married, and are they attached, they feel confident telling me the truth as they think I'll be fine with it.
The % seems VERY high, from my experience.
And it's got me thinking... all the guys I met when I was younger and saw on and off, nothing serious, and the one night stands - I wonder how many weren't single either? I always assumed it must be me, that I'm generally quite annoying and they don't want to stick around? (Although that's probably part of it )
My husband has a theory that guys remain in relationships they aren't happy with as it's a guaranteed fuck, whereas it's much easier for women to go pull whenever they want. So men don't tend to be single for very long?
No idea if that's true?
You lot are opinionated, what do you think? Are there very few single guys (past the age of 25ish)?"
I am single and very happy being that way. Having lots of fun in the swinging scene and enjoying the freedom meeting different women so I'm reluctant to get tied down now. If I did decide to settle down and get into a relationship I think I would prefer it if she was also a swinger so we could swing together as a couple.  |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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Surely an ability to accomodate will sort out the genuinely single blokes.
Having read your profile, however, it seems that even I don't fit your classification of single because I do have a sheep that I am particularly fond of... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say a good 80% of the guys I have spoken to on here have a partner. Not an issue for me but I'd rather know than not
Well I am single, and if it's only me and there are 20,000 men on the site, that would make it 0.005% "
Not just you, I'm single. Sounds like we're in the minority for a change  |
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"I've chatted to quite a few guys on Fab, who have turned out to have a partner who's unaware they are looking for.. extra curricular entertainment.
No judgement. For my own sanity I only want to play with genuinely single guys, or a guy with a missus who know he's on here and is happy about it.so I don't have an angry woman on my trail ready to try and trash my life as "revenge"!
I've even pulled a couple of guys in nightclubs recently and all three have turned out to have girlfriends. It's only because I say I'm married, and are they attached, they feel confident telling me the truth as they think I'll be fine with it.
The % seems VERY high, from my experience.
And it's got me thinking... all the guys I met when I was younger and saw on and off, nothing serious, and the one night stands - I wonder how many weren't single either? I always assumed it must be me, that I'm generally quite annoying and they don't want to stick around? (Although that's probably part of it )
My husband has a theory that guys remain in relationships they aren't happy with as it's a guaranteed fuck, whereas it's much easier for women to go pull whenever they want. So men don't tend to be single for very long?
No idea if that's true?
You lot are opinionated, what do you think? Are there very few single guys (past the age of 25ish)?"
In America a couple of years ago there were more single adults than married, I don't know if that translates to the uk and that's obviously both men and women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i reckon it's a lot of guys, eventually they let on (intentionally or not).
i do ask attached guys not to contact me, makes me feel really let down the amount of liars on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say a good 80% of the guys I have spoken to on here have a partner. Not an issue for me but I'd rather know than not
Well I am single, and if it's only me and there are 20,000 men on the site, that would make it 0.005%
Not just you, I'm single. Sounds like we're in the minority for a change "
We are up to 0.01% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people judge it purely on the single persons ability to accommodate but in truth that test has a fair few flaws, particularly in a modern day where many people live at home with parents longer and also there is so many split families.
I'd like to think men who are not single and live with their partner would not offer to accommodate? Probably naive of me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You'll never find out the true answer, but I bet there are plenty of ladies who secretly have relationships in the background.
I will guess between 10% and 90% "
I'm guessing it's equally true about women. But I'm on here to meet men, not women. So that doesn't really affect me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely an ability to accomodate will sort out the genuinely single blokes.
Even this is not a perfect filter..."
Nope. Imagine a man got divorced, gave up the house (because that's what a man does), went travelling around the world, his mum got ill, he returned to the UK to look after her.....
Being able to accommodate is no indication whatsoever |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In America a couple of years ago there were more single adults than married, I don't know if that translates to the uk and that's obviously both men and women"
I'm not just talking about being married, this includes living with or dating. Girlfriends, sheep, etc.
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"My husband has a theory that guys remain in relationships they aren't happy with as it's a guaranteed fuck"
It was my understanding that it was a lack of this guarantee that drove them to Fab/cheat. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely an ability to accomodate will sort out the genuinely single blokes.
Having read your profile, however, it seems that even I don't fit your classification of single because I do have a sheep that I am particularly fond of..."
Those damned sheep!
One guy I recently met who was desperate to find a hotel room for us that night (and then we couldn't so postponed it - and then later said he had a girlfriend...)... HE sent me a text today saying he's split up with his girlfriend but he's now temporarily homeless too.
Strange how only a few weeks back before I knew he was attached, he was inviting me round to "his" place.
Seems they CAN even accommodate with a girlfriend. So glad I didn't go round there, I would've been mortified if she turned up unannounced and walked in on us when I didn't know about her existence! |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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In America a couple of years ago there were more single adults than married, I don't know if that translates to the uk and that's obviously both men and women
I'm not just talking about being married, this includes living with or dating. Girlfriends, sheep, etc.
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Youl eave my sheep out of this! We aren't "dating" I just like her better than the others, okay? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce. 
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In America a couple of years ago there were more single adults than married, I don't know if that translates to the uk and that's obviously both men and women
I'm not just talking about being married, this includes living with or dating. Girlfriends, sheep, etc.
Youl eave my sheep out of this! We aren't "dating" I just like her better than the others, okay?"
Baaaaa! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce.
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles."
How can you tell? If they have a girlfriend who they only see a few times a week, they really don't have to clock watch like a married guy.
I think if I was single, none of these guys would've told me. It's only because I'm married that they told the truth. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce.
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles.
How can you tell? If they have a girlfriend who they only see a few times a week, they really don't have to clock watch like a married guy.
I think if I was single, none of these guys would've told me. It's only because I'm married that they told the truth."
You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing. |
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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago
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"They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce.
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles.
How can you tell? If they have a girlfriend who they only see a few times a week, they really don't have to clock watch like a married guy.
I think if I was single, none of these guys would've told me. It's only because I'm married that they told the truth."
You're probably right there, you have to remember that men are fickle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've recently discovered a trend in my area for men not being able to accommodate due to living with their parents!!!
With bedroom pics showing pink girly items & feminine products  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing."
In the modern day I think that is a disease a lot of us suffer with, attached or not! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've recently discovered a trend in my area for men not being able to accommodate due to living with their parents!!!
With bedroom pics showing pink girly items & feminine products "
Hey, this is fab, if a guy likes pink and wants to use feminine products, you shouldn't judge. Be more open minded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce.
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles.
How can you tell? If they have a girlfriend who they only see a few times a week, they really don't have to clock watch like a married guy.
I think if I was single, none of these guys would've told me. It's only because I'm married that they told the truth.
You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing."
I think this  you know when a guy is single. He cuts his toenails/fingernails. When you say where/when shall we meet, he says"I work 9-5 Monday to Friday but I am free after that time or all weekend and we can meet anywhere you feel comfortable and safe" |
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I don't think you can particularly tell if someone's partnered up 100%. I was seeing someone from here, was meeting at his house, no clock watching, no phone checking, no particularly feminine things in the house. Turned out he lived with his gf who worked nights which was when he could meet so easily |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing.
In the modern day I think that is a disease a lot of us suffer with, attached or not! "
If they're in their 20s I assume its normal. Older than that I assume they're checking for missed texts and calls from a SO. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce.
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles.
How can you tell? If they have a girlfriend who they only see a few times a week, they really don't have to clock watch like a married guy.
I think if I was single, none of these guys would've told me. It's only because I'm married that they told the truth.
You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing.
I think this you know when a guy is single. He cuts his toenails/fingernails. When you say where/when shall we meet, he says"I work 9-5 Monday to Friday but I am free after that time or all weekend and we can meet anywhere you feel comfortable and safe""
Again, that generally doesn't describe me because if I'm not working at the weekend, I have my daughter, although with enough notice I can take the day off if I like the person I'm meeting enough....
Although last time I tried that, work told me I couldn't have the day off after all and I left a poor girl in my bed whilst I got up at 3.45 and went to work all morning....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing.
In the modern day I think that is a disease a lot of us suffer with, attached or not!
If they're in their 20s I assume its normal. Older than that I assume they're checking for missed texts and calls from a SO."
Honestly, a lot of people do it as almost a nervous reaction - it's like a comfort zone for them.
I'm not saying it because I do - I hardly look at my phone unless I'm alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They start off single, then get married, then are single again after a messy divorce.
If I'm at a club or meeting in a hotel I don't vet them too closely, but one on one meets have to be with really real single blokes as they're less likely to be clock watching.
Of the single blokes I have met I would say a good 80% of them were really real singles.
How can you tell? If they have a girlfriend who they only see a few times a week, they really don't have to clock watch like a married guy.
I think if I was single, none of these guys would've told me. It's only because I'm married that they told the truth.
You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing.
I think this you know when a guy is single. He cuts his toenails/fingernails. When you say where/when shall we meet, he says"I work 9-5 Monday to Friday but I am free after that time or all weekend and we can meet anywhere you feel comfortable and safe"
Again, that generally doesn't describe me because if I'm not working at the weekend, I have my daughter, although with enough notice I can take the day off if I like the person I'm meeting enough....
Although last time I tried that, work told me I couldn't have the day off after all and I left a poor girl in my bed whilst I got up at 3.45 and went to work all morning.... "
Ah I don't have kids either (what the feck do I have, no wife, no kids, no house.....I am some weird hermit untouchable). I can appreciate that spending time with your kids is important (so I hear...)
Its kinda not great being single now I come to think about it, this thread may have depressed me..... nah just kidding! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I did see a guy for quite a long period of time. Turns out he met a girl while we were seeing each other.
I knew he was looking, but I assumed once he found someone, he'd say so, stop seeing me and see them instead.
But he decided to "overlap us" for a while and I had absolutely no idea until he told me.
I was a bit gutted he didn't say anything because I thought we were mates and I was really hoping he would get himself a girlfriend!
(And no phone checking when we were together either.)
So now I don't really believe it's possible to tell. Yes you can probably tell if they are married or living together, but you can't tell if they are long term dating someone as easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You kinda know. Attached men behave in ways that unattached men don't. Like checking their phone every 5 mins, that sort of thing.
In the modern day I think that is a disease a lot of us suffer with, attached or not!
If they're in their 20s I assume its normal. Older than that I assume they're checking for missed texts and calls from a SO.
Honestly, a lot of people do it as almost a nervous reaction - it's like a comfort zone for them.
I'm not saying it because I do - I hardly look at my phone unless I'm alone."
I have to as the MD works all hours and has the ability to crash servers just by logging in sometimes. Lord save me from VPN's and remote desk topping.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've chatted to quite a few guys on Fab, who have turned out to have a partner who's unaware they are looking for.. extra curricular entertainment.
No judgement. For my own sanity I only want to play with genuinely single guys, or a guy with a missus who know he's on here and is happy about it.so I don't have an angry woman on my trail ready to try and trash my life as "revenge"!
I've even pulled a couple of guys in nightclubs recently and all three have turned out to have girlfriends. It's only because I say I'm married, and are they attached, they feel confident telling me the truth as they think I'll be fine with it.
The % seems VERY high, from my experience.
And it's got me thinking... all the guys I met when I was younger and saw on and off, nothing serious, and the one night stands - I wonder how many weren't single either? I always assumed it must be me, that I'm generally quite annoying and they don't want to stick around? (Although that's probably part of it )
My husband has a theory that guys remain in relationships they aren't happy with as it's a guaranteed fuck, whereas it's much easier for women to go pull whenever they want. So men don't tend to be single for very long?
No idea if that's true?
You lot are opinionated, what do you think? Are there very few single guys (past the age of 25ish)?"
I'm 100% single and not desperate for sex or to have a woman in my life as I'm perfectly happy with my job lot.
But if the right person comes my way I wouldn't say no to either the nookie or a relationship . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm single "
Lies, married to Benedict Clusterfuck and they have 6 kids... I seeeed it in "Ello" magazine
Some people try and get away with murder round ere |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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The "dating" question is quite an interesting one though.
Until recently, I had been attempting to date (and failing spectacularly), I had no idea at what point to hide my fabs profile... I have lots of first dates, so it seems pointless to hise it after one date, and of those who want to see me again, I generally manage three dates with them. None of this qualifies as a relationhip in my eyes, although I wouldn't have met anyone from here in betwen dates, if it had progressed past date one. That said, why shouldn't I? I always assume people are dating others (and it doesn't bother me) until they find someone they want to stick with.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm single and I have no major desire not to be, I'm very happy in my life atm. It'll take someone as hot as school of filth, who also wants to remain in a swinging relationship, to change that. Even then she'd have to beg lol x |
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"I'm single
Lies, married to Benedict Clusterfuck and they have 6 kids... I seeeed it in "Ello" magazine
Some people try and get away with murder round ere "
Ohh I must of been the Virgin Mary then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did see a guy for quite a long period of time. Turns out he met a girl while we were seeing each other.
I knew he was looking, but I assumed once he found someone, he'd say so, stop seeing me and see them instead.
But he decided to "overlap us" for a while and I had absolutely no idea until he told me.
I was a bit gutted he didn't say anything because I thought we were mates and I was really hoping he would get himself a girlfriend!
(And no phone checking when we were together either.)
So now I don't really believe it's possible to tell. Yes you can probably tell if they are married or living together, but you can't tell if they are long term dating someone as easily."
I don't think you can tell either, especially if they're in a new or casual open relationship where they are still seeing others.
I'm sure a few men would act the same as him, date the new women whilst keeping the one he has casual sex with in the loop, just in case the newbie doesn't progress into girlfriend material.
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"Genuinely single men are the real unicorns on here in my opinion.
Just asking what is a unicorn?
Usually, it means a single bisexual female..."
Stupid me!
Sorry I thought it was situational based?
Where one of the kids has found a vibrator and is galloping around the house holding it to their forehead lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm 100% single and long may it stay that way.
Unable to accommodate...the reason why...being bi it seems to stop all the..fuck now at yours messages from straight guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am single and prefer my own company cos with bodybuilding you need to be 100% focused on your goal, meal prepping and gym
What's your goal shag? "
My goal is to weigh in about 110kg, just 15kg to gain to reach it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm single, I suppose separated is the correct term until divorce comes through. On here as I'm not wanting another relationship as yet. Can't accommodate as my kids live with me. Arranging meets is sometimes takes a while but it depends on how much effort you're prepared to put in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm single and very happy that way "
Any profile I read that says discreet (or even discrete) or talks about discretion, it gives the impression they are either married, or seeing someone at the very least.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is weird. I actually thought that most of the single guys on here were single. But this thread is telling me different. Who knew , well everyone except me obviously.
Are there really that many married/relationshipped guys on here? What a minefield!!
Perhaps a true single guy is difficult to find. I am a bit martini (anytime, anyplace, anywhere) and hope that does enough to allay fears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my (extremely wide) experience very few men indeed are genuinely single."
Your radar needs fine tuning then as there are lots of genuine 100% single guys.
Me being one of them |
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Single by choice, last relationship endes sourly and tbh was completely bat shit crazy. Kinda put me off the whole drama n baggage side of relationships for the time being. Thats not to say someone wont steal me away from all this someday but for now im happy fabing and the NSA works great for me.
Ps happy friday folks |
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"I am single and prefer my own company cos with bodybuilding you need to be 100% focused on your goal, meal prepping and gym
What's your goal shag? My goal is to weigh in about 110kg, just 15kg to gain to reach it."
What % body fat you going for and weighing 110? |
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