A raw deal? What deal were you expecting?
It's difficult for a single man but fewer people will meet married men making it even more difficult for them. It isn't impossible though there are quite a few men who are married and meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I look at the person as a whole not their martial status. As a man you are competing against 1000's of others, many who have better profiles & maybe less ties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would you think it's because your married. Yes it's a put off but your profile sucks and there are loads single guys out there all looking for the same thing |
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I think the biggest issue is the dishonesty and deceit really. Most people who become swingers and stay swingers do so because they have a really powerful relationship based on openness, trust, integrity and fantastic sex. The scene offers and extension to their already great relationship. Therefore if a man or woman is married and playing without their partners knowledge it goes against everything that brings people into the scene and this could be why your having issues. However there are also lots of married people playing with their partners permission and as long as this can be verified then there are lots of people open to it. I have no idea if you have permission or not but hope you can see the point. Perhaps a sex site might fulfill your needs more than a swinging site. Hope that makes sense and hope you manage to find your way going forward. X |
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"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "
You haven't asked for advice on your profile so I won't give it but have you tried a club or investigated the possibility of an organised social in your area? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no  "
It's not just you.
Without looking at your profile, so I'm making no personal judgement here, it tends to be the married fellas who have bugger all in their profile, won't socialise, won't go to clubs, don't join in who end up blaming the fact they are married, when it may be that they're just not doing anything to make themselves more appealing than the 20,000 other men on here. |
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"That is right. You will find out it is ok to be a married woman. Cos many would over look it cos there are few women here lol.
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Have to be honest if it's a man or woman we would stay clear and have done so many times over the years in the scene, but you are still right many would over look the issue with a woman. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems that generally married men struggle more to get a meet. Many people won't meet them because they don't like meeting cheats. Also married men often have less available time to meet which can make it difficult to organise a meet.
We will meet married men however as we only meet at a club many married men worry about having to show the club some I.D. as they worry their about their wives finding out. Also because we say we want more than a quick 30 minute meet they often back out of meeting because they simply can't meet for very long without their wife wondering where they are ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In the past when i was a single fem i met at hotels etc. I stopped meeting married men after a while because their wives often found out what they were up to, usually by looking at the guys phone or phone bill. I got fed up of getting phone calls from angry wives, especially when i hadn't known the guy was married ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I see and read it's hard to get meets if your single or a couple so it's really not surprising that it is really hard for a married man to get meets, best get used to it because it wont get any better  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your messages , some more helpful than others , some just rood "
You post on an open forum so you should expect good and bad feedback...
Suck it up buttercup |
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"I think there are websites for those seeking extramarital affairs. You might have a better chance there as I assume everyone will be in the same boat."
there are and from what iv'e heard they charge so that will for some guys n gals possibly present an awkward question once the credit card bill comes in..
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In general its tough for all men,however some have great pics and profiles which help them meet.
I wouldnt meet a married men,but some women do.Update your profile with what you can offer and add some pics .Miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no "
A raw deal? No. You make your own luck here. No one owes you anything. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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I'll say two things to the OP
1. Your profile does suck, no pictures, lousey write up, totally unattractive. You don't have to put a face picture but surely you can come up with a few
2. Ignore the moralists here - lots of us don't mind married men. For me, I understand everyone's situation is unique and if you're honest and upfront about being married, I don't care. But if you lie and pretend to be single then that pisses the shit out of me and believe me a married man playing single is the EASIEST thing to detect, there are so many clues. So don't lie about it. |
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"Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested."
Technically, he did ask for comparison: "is it just me?" he asked. |
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over a year ago
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"I look at the person as a whole not their martial status. As a man you are competing against 1000's of others, many who have better profiles & maybe less ties."
Well said RoxiAnne. We all make our own choices in life  |
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Married here but my wife has her own profile too, so she knows about every meet I have, still less than hers but I have found regardless if the partner is aware their husband is on here, most still don't want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That is right. You will find out it is ok to be a married woman. Cos many would over look it cos there are few women here lol.
Have to be honest if it's a man or woman we would stay clear and have done so many times over the years in the scene, but you are still right many would over look the issue with a woman. X"
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"Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested.
Technically, he did ask for comparison: "is it just me?" he asked. "
i suppose...but then theres constructive advice and your profiles sucks... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't understand the concept of "raw deal"...
...Why do single/married men believe that they cannot take as much control over meeting people as those they complain about?
It makes every single (married) man sound desperate, needy and miserable. You can get meets with other people, you just have to present yourself to people and see if their is a mutual attraction. If there isn't, move on....
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"Its a bit rude and against the rules to give profile advice when it hasnt been requested.
Technically, he did ask for comparison: "is it just me?" he asked. i suppose...but then theres constructive advice and your profiles sucks..."
Like a dyson? |
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"Married here but my wife has her own profile too, so she knows about every meet I have, still less than hers but I have found regardless if the partner is aware their husband is on here, most still don't want to meet."
This scenario ^^ opens up another dynamic for me that's why I'm not keen to meet couples playing seperately, maybe others feel the same way? |
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"Married here but my wife has her own profile too, so she knows about every meet I have, still less than hers but I have found regardless if the partner is aware their husband is on here, most still don't want to meet.
This scenario ^^ opens up another dynamic for me that's why I'm not keen to meet couples playing seperately, maybe others feel the same way?"
I think the majority do think the same as I've not had much luck when it comes to messaging couples who are looking for guys. |
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over a year ago
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"Maybe elaborate on why your sex life has taken a downturn? If the woman who loves you doesn't even want to have sex with you, why should anyone else?"
Now this is a comment that wouldn't be said if it was a woman posting! |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do married men get a raw deal , even married women don't want to no "
People get what they earn on here. If you're not getting what you want, then you haven't earned it, and YOU need to make some changes. |
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"Maybe elaborate on why your sex life has taken a downturn? If the woman who loves you doesn't even want to have sex with you, why should anyone else?"
brutal  |
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