No idea,skin is skin. Personally I'm interested in the man himself. Messages with 'bbc' in them I find a turn off,if that's his main feature,all he's got going for him I'm not interested x people have preferences, maybe it's better to just say rather than wasting people's time. As I said to me it's just skin,but someone might say me only liking tall men is wrong.
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Ok, so I'm going to throw this out there and give an honest responce for which I may be hung (even more than I am ) but today is gonna be a boring day at work so here goes!
We find all races, skin tones, creeds and colours to be attractive and have played with any and all if we find the person to be attractive and charming.
However (hold tight)
When visiting London or Birmingham and requesting meets at our hotel (which happens often) we specifically request no Asian men.
Over a weekend away like this we get hundreds of emails and have to work quite hard to filter down to people who we think will be compatible.
We have met some wonderful Asian guys and we have met some horrible white guy's, but over a period of time and experience it is impossible not to notice general trends in attitude and demeanour.
Many (dare I say most) Asian guys have had very poor attitudes and seem ill at ease with the situation. Overly assertive, bordering on aggressive, clearly wanted a one-on-one with OH but had implied they wanted a threesome just to get in the door and as soon as they came (ejaculated) couldn't get out quick enough and seemed almost mortified at what had just happened!
I accept this is a huge generalisation and that yes, we are pre-judging (prejudiced) based on previous experience.
We have had great meets with Asian guys and we have had rubbish meets with white guys but 4 out of 5 meets with white guys turn out well and 4 out 5 meets with Asian guys turned out as described above.
As a result, when presented with hundreds of potential meets, we filter guys according to the likely hood that they will turn out to be a good meet.
So there it is. The irony that my OH is Asian is not lost on me.
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We appreciate your honesty in writing what you did and we agree. My OH is South Asian but he's far from the norm, laid back, chilled sort of personality.
We agree that we have come across pseudo alpha Asian men who just want to get laid, but don't want to go through the rest of the process, ie socialising and making us all feel comfortable. I guess this all falls down to attitudes they have towards casual sex which is taboo in South Asian cultures and hence they're so ingrained into getting it but want no part in the lifestyle that comes with it. Now that's great if you're after NSA, which lets be honest most of us are.
I don't agree to staying it on your profile/meets and meets, rather if it's your preference, then just filter through your messages and be prepared to come across them. You may offend someone who isn't even Asian but prefers laid back people!
Just our opinion, don't take it to heart.
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"looking around on fab and it seems standard on so many profiles people refuse to meet Asian men just curious to why they get such a bad press?? "
Simply Asian men have small cocks  |
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"Simply Asian men have small cocks "
You little terror 
But that clears up that mystery, for me anyway, I've come across a few profiles that stipulated no Asian males but were OK with white/black..I figured it might be to do with attitude, rather than looks and attractiveness. |
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"looking around on fab and it seems standard on so many profiles people refuse to meet Asian men just curious to why they get such a bad press?? "
I have only ever met one Asian (Pakistani) man on the swinging scene who was a polite, respectful and a considerate lover. Every other I have met has had a vile attitude towards the women in the club's they were in, they often were crude, unable to follow club rules, and became abusive when challenged for their behaviour. Based on this I would never meet an Asian man again. I also find it quite hypocritical that these are usually the type of men who would be "devout" Muslims in public but have no respect for their faith when attending a swinging club. |
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I've met quite a few asian men and they've all been alright and respectful. I don't fancy all asians though, same as i don't fancy all white guys either. |
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over a year ago
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I prefer to be judged on my own merits rather than on those i share a skin colour with. But I’m mature enough to understand that people are entitled to their preferences, so no complaint’s here.
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"looking around on fab and it seems standard on so many profiles people refuse to meet Asian men just curious to why they get such a bad press??
I have only ever met one Asian (Pakistani) man on the swinging scene who was a polite, respectful and a considerate lover. Every other I have met has had a vile attitude towards the women in the club's they were in, they often were crude, unable to follow club rules, and became abusive when challenged for their behaviour. Based on this I would never meet an Asian man again. I also find it quite hypocritical that these are usually the type of men who would be "devout" Muslims in public but have no respect for their faith when attending a swinging club. "
that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing |
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"looking around on fab and it seems standard on so many profiles people refuse to meet Asian men just curious to why they get such a bad press??
I have only ever met one Asian (Pakistani) man on the swinging scene who was a polite, respectful and a considerate lover. Every other I have met has had a vile attitude towards the women in the club's they were in, they often were crude, unable to follow club rules, and became abusive when challenged for their behaviour. Based on this I would never meet an Asian man again. I also find it quite hypocritical that these are usually the type of men who would be "devout" Muslims in public but have no respect for their faith when attending a swinging club. "
In fact as far as "respect" is concerned your last sentence suggests that rather than disrespecting their faith a significant proportion of muslim males have zero respect for those outside of their religion especially British and European women, something borne out by similar and in a number of high profile cases of criminal behaviour, by members of the same religion here and in Germany, Sweden and Finland! |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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But it's true, I've had so many great text convos with many women, soon as they see a bigger pic of me and that I'm brown, they disappear.. Saying that, it's not stopped me making friends |
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Ah this little chestnut comes up alot in forum. I find it quite interesting. I agree with preference . Personality is huge for me, however, physically and to the eye my preference veers towards middle eastern, Asian and black. It's what my eye is attracted to. I can't help it. It's the dark sultry look I think. I don't rule out white males either. They are equally attractive and as equally rude and pushy
I have met some downright rude, pushy and arrogant Asian, black and middle eastern men who have treat me like a piece of meat or have been pushy in a club. But I've also met some white guys who gave done the same.
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Apart from actors Art Malik and Jet Li, in the real world I've never seen an Asian/oriental man I've found attractive, sexually or otherwise.
The women on the other hand can be absolutely stunning. |
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"looking around on fab and it seems standard on so many profiles people refuse to meet Asian men just curious to why they get such a bad press?? "
I have met 2 asian couples in the past the guys in the couple were always complete gentleman and enjoyed what was going on.
They were very attentive to what there wives wanted and were non pushy, i dont think its bad press and its probably not the fact you are asian, couples get swamped by replies from both white black and asian guys looking for fun and if its their choice not to meet asian guys its their perogative.
Dont take it to heart just keep trying i find my age being 58 could be a problem but it does not put me off getting in touch with couples.
I perosnally like asian folks.
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing "
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die. |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die. "
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either. |
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"Apart from actors Art Malik and Jet Li, in the real world I've never seen an Asian/oriental man I've found attractive, sexually or otherwise.
The women on the other hand can be absolutely stunning."
I can agree with your last quote. Im not big into asian women but when your walking down the road just have a look at the some of the women especially the younger ones in their 20s |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die.
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either."
It's very easy and possibly to follow, religion isn't very hard, it's our own selfish and materialistic needs/nuffs that stop people, just cause we want something dosent mean we should have it, it's not down to me or anything other person only the "true" creator can say |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die.
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either.
It's very easy and possibly to follow, religion isn't very hard, it's our own selfish and materialistic needs/nuffs that stop people, just cause we want something dosent mean we should have it, it's not down to me or anything other person only the "true" creator can say "
not sure about the religion you're on about but i used to be part of one and they had to change to follow the laws of the land. they have prophets so it was fairly easy to change the religion as the laws changed because god speaks to the prophets and tells them new things all the time. fundamentalists broke off from the church and made their own religion where the laws don't have to apply.
i don't know if any other religions are like this though? |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die.
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either.
It's very easy and possibly to follow, religion isn't very hard, it's our own selfish and materialistic needs/nuffs that stop people, just cause we want something dosent mean we should have it, it's not down to me or anything other person only the "true" creator can say
not sure about the religion you're on about but i used to be part of one and they had to change to follow the laws of the land. they have prophets so it was fairly easy to change the religion as the laws changed because god speaks to the prophets and tells them new things all the time. fundamentalists broke off from the church and made their own religion where the laws don't have to apply.
i don't know if any other religions are like this though?"
No offence but Christianity is a man made religion in the fast place everything that they believe in was never taught by Jesus but instead the anti Christ Paul who never met, saw or even heard Jesus he live about 60 years after jesus died |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die.
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either.
It's very easy and possibly to follow, religion isn't very hard, it's our own selfish and materialistic needs/nuffs that stop people, just cause we want something dosent mean we should have it, it's not down to me or anything other person only the "true" creator can say
not sure about the religion you're on about but i used to be part of one and they had to change to follow the laws of the land. they have prophets so it was fairly easy to change the religion as the laws changed because god speaks to the prophets and tells them new things all the time. fundamentalists broke off from the church and made their own religion where the laws don't have to apply.
i don't know if any other religions are like this though?
No offence but Christianity is a man made religion in the fast place everything that they believe in was never taught by Jesus but instead the anti Christ Paul who never met, saw or even heard Jesus he live about 60 years after jesus died "
i wasn't on about christianity, i've never been christian (or catholic).
but yes my (ex) religion is man made, apparently god speaks to the prophets though. |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die.
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either.
It's very easy and possibly to follow, religion isn't very hard, it's our own selfish and materialistic needs/nuffs that stop people, just cause we want something dosent mean we should have it, it's not down to me or anything other person only the "true" creator can say
not sure about the religion you're on about but i used to be part of one and they had to change to follow the laws of the land. they have prophets so it was fairly easy to change the religion as the laws changed because god speaks to the prophets and tells them new things all the time. fundamentalists broke off from the church and made their own religion where the laws don't have to apply.
i don't know if any other religions are like this though?
No offence but Christianity is a man made religion in the fast place everything that they believe in was never taught by Jesus but instead the anti Christ Paul who never met, saw or even heard Jesus he live about 60 years after jesus died
i wasn't on about christianity, i've never been christian (or catholic).
but yes my (ex) religion is man made, apparently god speaks to the prophets though."
Yeah God did but it doesn't mean it man made religion, if God directly contacted us we'd still reject him as a god |
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that is cause they arent muslim at all , if you break one rule of a religion, islam, judaism christianity ect by default you cant really be one if you dont follow it, in most cases people now use the muslim as a ethnicity thing
That's not true. The corner stone of most mainstream religions is the idea of forgiveness so breaking a rule does not mean you are not a true follower of that religion.
Some (me) would even argue that religions rely on people sinning to keep them snivelling for some false forgiveness so they can go to Disneyland when they die.
i agree with this. most religious people do not follow their religions 'properly' or to the word any more, doubt it's even possible or legal to do so either.
It's very easy and possibly to follow, religion isn't very hard, it's our own selfish and materialistic needs/nuffs that stop people, just cause we want something dosent mean we should have it, it's not down to me or anything other person only the "true" creator can say
not sure about the religion you're on about but i used to be part of one and they had to change to follow the laws of the land. they have prophets so it was fairly easy to change the religion as the laws changed because god speaks to the prophets and tells them new things all the time. fundamentalists broke off from the church and made their own religion where the laws don't have to apply.
i don't know if any other religions are like this though?
No offence but Christianity is a man made religion in the fast place everything that they believe in was never taught by Jesus but instead the anti Christ Paul who never met, saw or even heard Jesus he live about 60 years after jesus died
i wasn't on about christianity, i've never been christian (or catholic).
but yes my (ex) religion is man made, apparently god speaks to the prophets though.
Yeah God did but it doesn't mean it man made religion, if God directly contacted us we'd still reject him as a god "
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"Ok, so I'm going to throw this out there and give an honest responce for which I may be hung (even more than I am) but today is gonna be a boring day at work so here goes!
We find all races, skin tones, creeds and colours to be attractive and have played with any and all if we find the person to be attractive and charming.
However (hold tight)
When visiting London or Birmingham and requesting meets at our hotel (which happens often) we specifically request no Asian men.
Over a weekend away like this we get hundreds of emails and have to work quite hard to filter down to people who we think will be compatible.
We have met some wonderful Asian guys and we have met some horrible white guy's, but over a period of time and experience it is impossible not to notice general trends in attitude and demeanour.
Many (dare I say most) Asian guys have had very poor attitudes and seem ill at ease with the situation. Overly assertive, bordering on aggressive, clearly wanted a one-on-one with OH but had implied they wanted a threesome just to get in the door and as soon as they came (ejaculated) couldn't get out quick enough and seemed almost mortified at what had just happened!
I accept this is a huge generalisation and that yes, we are pre-judging (prejudiced) based on previous experience.
We have had great meets with Asian guys and we have had rubbish meets with white guys but 4 out of 5 meets with white guys turn out well and 4 out 5 meets with Asian guys turned out as described above.
As a result, when presented with hundreds of potential meets, we filter guys according to the likely hood that they will turn out to be a good meet.
So there it is. The irony that my OH is Asian is not lost on me.
I truly hope this post is received in the manner in which it is intended. "
I have met lots of Asian guys, they are gentle, often shy, well mannered, respect boundaries ..
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Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience. |
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"looking around on fab and it seems standard on so many profiles people refuse to meet Asian men just curious to why they get such a bad press?? "
It's no different to a woman staying bbc only its personal prefference |
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience. "
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience.
Don't you worry bout that when my wife comes into to uk your on our hit list "
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience. "
I find that with most people on the site. Unable to keep a conversation. I'm not a couple, so I'm probably out of your preferences too |
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Fairplay for saying it _adyboy-daddy as you're going from experience.
I'm in a difficult situation as I'm mixed, half white, half asian, brought up by my white parent and so culturally English. Been called a coconut by some in the past, but I'm just me.
So I don't have any of those cultural hang ups described but people may assume that of me. Which is annoying. |
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience.
Don't you worry bout that when my wife comes into to uk your on our hit list
Our filters block unverified couples, although we'd gladly make an exception for you guys if you were up for full swap. Maybe you need someone else to ease you in first "
I don't meet no easing its my wife that does ahsha |
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience.
Don't you worry bout that when my wife comes into to uk your on our hit list
Our filters block unverified couples, although we'd gladly make an exception for you guys if you were up for full swap. Maybe you need someone else to ease you in first
I don't meet no easing its my wife that does ahsha "
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience.
Don't you worry bout that when my wife comes into to uk your on our hit list
Our filters block unverified couples, although we'd gladly make an exception for you guys if you were up for full swap. Maybe you need someone else to ease you in first "
Both mine and my wife singles accounts are photo verified just never got a chance to take a couples pic while I was visiting her as I never brought up fab at the time |
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"Definately don't have anything against Indians / Anglo-Indians, hate the term Asians as Asia is a continent far too big to generalise, anyway the only problem is that we've never been messaged by an Indian couple that ever managed to write more than two sentences or not use text speak. That's just a fact of our experience.
Don't you worry bout that when my wife comes into to uk your on our hit list
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I don't meet no easing its my wife that does ahsha
Does your joint profile still exist? Couldn't find it on the name search..."
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We are all after sex . We all like dif things . If anyone os into the same as me I will meet them . Age shape size colour I'm not bothered .
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