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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Recently I was involved in a group sex session - non Fab related. Afterwards, one guy commented to another about one of the ladies there - you wouldn't take her home to meet your mum though. To which - he looked surprised and commented that yes - a woman who is a lady out and about, but very sexually liberated was just the type he went for.
I guess I'm asking - is there a dual attitude - someone is ok to have sex with but too liberal for more? I'm not meaning NSA but that someone is ok for sex but that makes them not ok in other ways.
I would happily date a swinger. Just curious if this attitude I witnessed is the norm or was an old fashioned attitude. |
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Yes!! Haha... there was a thread just recently about that. 'You're okay for a shag but not girlfriend material' - made me giggle. I think way too many people are too hung up on what other people think. You want a slut to fuck but you wouldn't marry her? More fool you I say!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Recently I was involved in a group sex session - non Fab related. Afterwards, one guy commented to another about one of the ladies there - you wouldn't take her home to meet your mum though. To which - he looked surprised and commented that yes - a woman who is a lady out and about, but very sexually liberated was just the type he went for.
I guess I'm asking - is there a dual attitude - someone is ok to have sex with but too liberal for more? I'm not meaning NSA but that someone is ok for sex but that makes them not ok in other ways.
I would happily date a swinger. Just curious if this attitude I witnessed is the norm or was an old fashioned attitude. "
I think that's old fashioned, is a person is good enough to have sex with then why should they not be any good for anything else. I would happily date a swinger myself as long as there's an understanding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah loads of guys are hypocrites like that...they're ok to fuck around and be a slag and still think of themselves as relationship worthy, yet the women they fuck are not.
Not sure if many women are the same? I'm not and would consider a relationship with someone who is a slag like me.  although not for a swinging relationship, but for an open one i'd have no problem with that, or possibly even monogamous if i had to.
All my relationships started off as hook ups/NSA sex things btw. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I THINK I know what you mean!
Outside the bedroom/swinging clubs I don't swear, am well spoken, don't wear particularly revealing clothes etc!
In short I look, sound and act like a respectable, middle aged, middle class woman!
Only on a meet/in a swinging club playroom do I act like the whore of Babylon!
Most guys I meet like this - because they can be seen out in public with me without attracting undue attention/causing raised eyebrows! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I THINK I know what you mean!
Outside the bedroom/swinging clubs I don't swear, am well spoken, don't wear particularly revealing clothes etc!
In short I look, sound and act like a respectable, middle aged, middle class woman!
Only on a meet/in a swinging club playroom do I act like the whore of Babylon!
Most guys I meet like this - because they can be seen out in public with me without attracting undue attention/causing raised eyebrows! "
I would proudly have u on my arms in public  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes!! Haha... there was a thread just recently about that. 'You're okay for a shag but not girlfriend material' - made me giggle. I think way too many people are too hung up on what other people think. You want a slut to fuck but you wouldn't marry her? More fool you I say! "
I agree.. If u find someone u like and are sexually compatible then why on earth would that person not be good enough for marriage material. It would make sense to be with someone where there's a connection. If you was against marriage then that's understandable but they would still be dating/relationship material. Unless ur a dog and just want to fuck around lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Few young guys I've overheard in a club who are only to happy to sow their oats (so to speak ) there;
But then say, in the same breath, that they'd never dream of taking their girlfriends to a club   |
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude..."
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required. |
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required."
That's a bit of a generalisation though... I don't look for less compatible people just because it's casual. I have the same standards regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
That's a bit of a generalisation though... I don't look for less compatible people just because it's casual. I have the same standards regardless. "
yeah but alot of guys onhere dont seem to follow that rule |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required."
What I meant was that of course the attitude exists - of course there are men (and women, etc) who have sex with people they wouldn't have a relationship with - For many reasons, including a misguided notion that women who swing aren't girlfriend material.
It doesn't suprise me at all that this way of thinking would be pretty rampant, actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
That's a bit of a generalisation though... I don't look for less compatible people just because it's casual. I have the same standards regardless.
yeah but alot of guys onhere dont seem to follow that rule "
I don't follow that rule and I'm not a guy. 
I've had meets with guys from here I wouldn't date. I want to have sex with them, not date them, so some things that would be important to me otherwise aren't important in this scenario. It's just a different approach.
Having said that, I wouldn't meet someone I knew looked down on me for being a woman who swings. |
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
That's a bit of a generalisation though... I don't look for less compatible people just because it's casual. I have the same standards regardless. "
Oh I don't mean 'standards' or physical 'league' - I mean socially, or in terms of interests, politics, education, ambition in life, or desire for kids etc.
It's not a lesser standard, just could be very different, a bit of fun requires much less in common to work I think. |
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
What I meant was that of course the attitude exists - of course there are men (and women, etc) who have sex with people they wouldn't have a relationship with - For many reasons, including a misguided notion that women who swing aren't girlfriend material.
It doesn't suprise me at all that this way of thinking would be pretty rampant, actually. "
I was agreeing with you, yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
What I meant was that of course the attitude exists - of course there are men (and women, etc) who have sex with people they wouldn't have a relationship with - For many reasons, including a misguided notion that women who swing aren't girlfriend material.
It doesn't suprise me at all that this way of thinking would be pretty rampant, actually.
I was agreeing with you, yes."
Sorry, misread your post  |
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One of the best pics I have seen on a profile was a couple profile ( don't remember the name) and it was a split pic of a beautifully dressed Angelic looking lady on the left side and then on the right side the same lady with a collar and chain completely naked and cum slut scrawled over her, just signified to me the depth of this wonderful horny secret we carry, mr cmy often looks at me and giggles to himself and when I ask why he says people would just never guess, I like that it makes it horny, and the guys out there that are saying they wouldn't date girls who swing, really don't have a clue about the real lifestyle, and are not worth worrying about Mrs cmy  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
That's a bit of a generalisation though... I don't look for less compatible people just because it's casual. I have the same standards regardless.
Oh I don't mean 'standards' or physical 'league' - I mean socially, or in terms of interests, politics, education, ambition in life, or desire for kids etc.
It's not a lesser standard, just could be very different, a bit of fun requires much less in common to work I think."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Recently I was involved in a group sex session - non Fab related. Afterwards, one guy commented to another about one of the ladies there - you wouldn't take her home to meet your mum though. To which - he looked surprised and commented that yes - a woman who is a lady out and about, but very sexually liberated was just the type he went for.
I guess I'm asking - is there a dual attitude - someone is ok to have sex with but too liberal for more? I'm not meaning NSA but that someone is ok for sex but that makes them not ok in other ways.
I would happily date a swinger. Just curious if this attitude I witnessed is the norm or was an old fashioned attitude. "
Welcome to my world!
Not many guys want to introduce me to their mates let alone their mum. However, they can't get enough of me in private |
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
What I meant was that of course the attitude exists - of course there are men (and women, etc) who have sex with people they wouldn't have a relationship with - For many reasons, including a misguided notion that women who swing aren't girlfriend material.
It doesn't suprise me at all that this way of thinking would be pretty rampant, actually.
I was agreeing with you, yes.
Sorry, misread your post "
It's OK, I miswrote it lol!! |
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"I'm kinda surprised that people would even question the existence of the type of attitude...
Well it does me really. The people you meet for sex on here may be very different from the kind you would have a relationship with, simply because much less compatability is required.
That's a bit of a generalisation though... I don't look for less compatible people just because it's casual. I have the same standards regardless. "
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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I'm very promiscuous and freely admit to it. Guys are happy to fuck me but very few would want to date me. To be fair, on the flip side I have received a few offers for a long term relationship
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"I would never sleep with anyone who looked down at me because I swing...I can intigrate and associate with parents....I'm hardly going to walk in with a bit of latex to meet the parents "
nothing wronge with being a swinger x |
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"I'm very promiscuous and freely admit to it. Guys are happy to fuck me but very few would want to date me. To be fair, on the flip side I have received a few offers for a long term relationship
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bet you get loads of offers x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never sleep with anyone who looked down at me because I swing...I can intigrate and associate with parents....I'm hardly going to walk in with a bit of latex to meet the parents "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very promiscuous and freely admit to it. Guys are happy to fuck me but very few would want to date me. To be fair, on the flip side I have received a few offers for a long term relationship
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If they think twice about dating u then that's their loss x |
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Some guys don't know how well they've got it made! A potential partner who 'gets' them, 'really gets' them - but they'll want to cast them aside, after their half-baked minds have let them perform a version of masturbation where they utilised the body, mind and talents of another person for a brief interlude.
You can be a tool enabling them to cum and then disposed of like a soiled tissue.
They then go into the world on socially programmed autopilot and hitch up with Ms Drab, for a life of tedious incompatibility and sexual drabness that they wish to escape from. But they've got no balls. And are more clueless than the most challenged of stupid minds out there.
I'm great in the sack. Heaven forbid if I were to ever be known as one of their partners and what they have done with me. They'd cut me dead if bumping into me socially, nevermind developing something beyond superficial lust and getting inside of me. This condition these dumb twats have is magnified as I'm trans, but shouts loud about them and their demented twisted mind's straightjackets.
Do people live and learn? Some of us do, some of the time. Even sheep learn and change but some guys are another phenomena indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some guys don't know how well they've got it made! A potential partner who 'gets' them, 'really gets' them - but they'll want to cast them aside, after their half-baked minds have let them perform a version of masturbation where they utilised the body, mind and talents of another person for a brief interlude.
You can be a tool enabling them to cum and then disposed of like a soiled tissue.
They then go into the world on socially programmed autopilot and hitch up with Ms Drab, for a life of tedious incompatibility and sexual drabness that they wish to escape from. But they've got no balls. And are more clueless than the most challenged of stupid minds out there.
I'm great in the sack. Heaven forbid if I were to ever be known as one of their partners and what they have done with me. They'd cut me dead if bumping into me socially, nevermind developing something beyond superficial lust and getting inside of me. This condition these dumb twats have is magnified as I'm trans, but shouts loud about them and their demented twisted mind's straightjackets.
Do people live and learn? Some of us do, some of the time. Even sheep learn and change but some guys are another phenomena indeed."
Sounds like you've been hurt  |
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"Some guys don't know how well they've got it made! A potential partner who 'gets' them, 'really gets' them - but they'll want to cast them aside, after their half-baked minds have let them perform a version of masturbation where they utilised the body, mind and talents of another person for a brief interlude.
You can be a tool enabling them to cum and then disposed of like a soiled tissue.
They then go into the world on socially programmed autopilot and hitch up with Ms Drab, for a life of tedious incompatibility and sexual drabness that they wish to escape from. But they've got no balls. And are more clueless than the most challenged of stupid minds out there.
I'm great in the sack. Heaven forbid if I were to ever be known as one of their partners and what they have done with me. They'd cut me dead if bumping into me socially, nevermind developing something beyond superficial lust and getting inside of me. This condition these dumb twats have is magnified as I'm trans, but shouts loud about them and their demented twisted mind's straightjackets.
Do people live and learn? Some of us do, some of the time. Even sheep learn and change but some guys are another phenomena indeed.
Sounds like you've been hurt "
We've all had some pain - it's what can help us to better steer our way. I've been lucky with partners and had hurt mainly when I was a mature teenager. I've moved on. Though I added my thoughts as reflections upon how some men interact with us women, as raised by the op. You may see men you know this way, as others also add. |
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