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Have you ever told friends about your lifestyle and then regretted it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I told some friends and although they didn't appear to care I'm a bit worried about the fact that people in my normal life know about naughty stuff I do at the weekends.
Anyone else regretted sharing? Or even better tell me stories about it being fine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nope.. i am who i am
My mum even created my account for me as i couldnt log on for some reason lol
End of the day im a single female, and so are most of my friends
My view on this is its safer to get to know someone online than get blind d*unk and shag someone i dont know their name of.
I dont tell friends details.. but ive no shame in who i am and what ive done in the past |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No but my ex-bf told his new gf which displeased me rather a lot when she started trying to take the piss."
id have laughed back at her and say 'well thats where i met him.. oh and he had 10 women in a hot tub one night'
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"No but my ex-bf told his new gf which displeased me rather a lot when she started trying to take the piss.
id have laughed back at her and say 'well thats where i met him.. oh and he had 10 women in a hot tub one night'
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She didn't get very far with the piss taking. She was trying to embarrass me. Unfortunately for her, I'm not embarrassed about my kinks. |
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Wouldn't dream of telling people.
I've known people who have told their friend loads about their life, they have trusted them with very private stuff. Then comes the little misunderstanding and every private thing comes out to anyone who will listen.
Nope I'm happy with things how they are thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No but my ex-bf told his new gf which displeased me rather a lot when she started trying to take the piss."
How does that work? "Ha ha you have sex with multiple people but I get to have sex with just one!" |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"No but my ex-bf told his new gf which displeased me rather a lot when she started trying to take the piss.
How does that work? "Ha ha you have sex with multiple people but I get to have sex with just one!""
It was my kinks as well as swinging but from a swinging perspective she implied I'm a slag. That's quite funny because I hadn't shagged anyone in ages at the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't tell. True swinging has an etiquette that some people just don't understand or respect. Even on here I do a lot of vetting as there are a lot of time wasters.
Plus, it's nice to have 2 sets of friends anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No but my ex-bf told his new gf which displeased me rather a lot when she started trying to take the piss.
How does that work? "Ha ha you have sex with multiple people but I get to have sex with just one!"
It was my kinks as well as swinging but from a swinging perspective she implied I'm a slag. That's quite funny because I hadn't shagged anyone in ages at the time."
I can think of worse things to be called to honest... I guess the opposite of a slag is a virgin and it was never very cool to be one of those when I was a youngster... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I told some friends and although they didn't appear to care I'm a bit worried about the fact that people in my normal life know about naughty stuff I do at the weekends.
Anyone else regretted sharing? Or even better tell me stories about it being fine!"
I'm a single male (ie not playing away) and I've had both. I told my now ex-gf before we started a relationship because I wanted to be honest before we set out on lifes road together. She was curious and didn't want to know more which was fine. A while after we split up she asked me to take her to a party which I did and she enjoyed her liberation/fantasy but never went further than that. So yes that went fine and no regrets.
I also shared to my best friend and he is fine with it although I had to tell his wife as well and she took it onboard but wasn't as open minded and has told her bff which I wasn't keen on.
My last ex-gf was open minded and I also told her, I also told her that while I wasn't on the scene there were people I had met and remained very close friendships with. She asked to know who and the compromise reached was "It's not my secret to tell you but I'll ask them before you meet them and if they agree then I'll tell you, otherwise I won't" and that was fine again as some people are loud and proud and others aren't (only one couple wanted her to know btw)
So overall it's fine but I'm afraid people will have a bit of a gossip which will die off when something more interesting than your weekend sex life comes along. So don't worry about it, your not cheating or having an affair and its good safe fun. Secretly they are jealous and if they act all moral then they aren't the kind of friends you need in your life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A few years ago when I was living in Camden a couple of my oldest friends were down for a night out. I'd known these guys since i was 11 so at the time over 25 years. We walked past Rio's spa and I jokingly said 'that's my local swingers club if you fancy it later' and then listened to them both rant about how swingers are either sick perverts or have something wrong with their relationships and no normal person who lived their partner would ever share them. Yeah that was awkward... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh good grief no, my vanilla friends, lovely though they are would probably banish me to a nunnery. A very observant Fabber 'outed' me to my ex last year (ex of several years I might add). He wanted to send me for counselling! After turning up at my workplace to confront me about my dangerous lifestyle. That was a jolly fun month! |
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"Oh good grief no, my vanilla friends, lovely though they are would probably banish me to a nunnery. A very observant Fabber 'outed' me to my ex last year (ex of several years I might add). He wanted to send me for counselling! After turning up at my workplace to confront me about my dangerous lifestyle. That was a jolly fun month! "
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10/11 years ago when I first dipped a toe , I visited the old utopia club outside Telford with a girl from work. I sued to go drinking with a group of guys , one of whom I trusted, so told him we'd been. A few weeks later, the "news of the world" (spit!)had an expose on Utopia and when we went for a lunchtime drink the guys were having a joke about "all the perverts" down the road etc. So then my "mate" declares "ask David, he goes there!" Lovely bloke, needless to say he's not my best friend these days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends know (most of them...and I wouldn't hide from others...just not come up).
Work know....from youngest office junior up to the managing director.
Regrets? None! It doesn't affect them or me either way. I don't think it should for anyone.... |
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My mother knows and thinks it great! My youngest son knows and doesn't want details and a good friend knows. She's my safety net and knows all the details of where I'm going and who I'm meeting. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"10/11 years ago when I first dipped a toe , I visited the old utopia club outside Telford with a girl from work. I sued to go drinking with a group of guys , one of whom I trusted, so told him we'd been. A few weeks later, the "news of the world" (spit!)had an expose on Utopia and when we went for a lunchtime drink the guys were having a joke about "all the perverts" down the road etc. So then my "mate" declares "ask David, he goes there!" Lovely bloke, needless to say he's not my best friend these days "
Gosh I remember that expose. The building is still there. I remember going past with some friends in car and as I used to live that way asked "oh that's a big building what is it". I played dumb and said "Dunno, Health Spa I think"  |
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"I don't tell. True swinging has an etiquette that some people just don't understand or respect. Even on here I do a lot of vetting as there are a lot of time wasters.
Plus, it's nice to have 2 sets of friends anyway "
What this guy said ! |
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