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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I find it more exciting to know if a woman is taken or married.  "
Are you, perchance, married and hoping women feel the same way about married men? 
Being single, I prefer single men. There are fewer potential complications. |
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Ermmm I'll take single please  I'm not adverse to meeting attached men but I would like to know their circumstances before I consider meeting and make my own judgement whether to meet from there... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I've just changed my rules on married guys for a trial period, to see how it goes. I'll consider meeting but only if they're not local and it's club or hotel meets only.
I won't tell them my address or phone number. I don't want wives or gfs calling me or turning up on my doorstep.
I've still got to change my profile to reflect this.
My preference is still for single men though. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single..."
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway. |
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over a year ago
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In my mind I am still married, always will be, lost my wife almost 3 years now and know she is still waiting for me, often think I should have took my life and went with her but some say the gates are not open to you if you go in that way.
She wanted me to find happiness, remarry but then if that happened and I then passed away would I be running to her or waiting for my new wife, its not going to happen, I will remain married and eventually meet again
shit, today I am so fucked up, tears are rolling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my mind I am still married, always will be, lost my wife almost 3 years now and know she is still waiting for me, often think I should have took my life and went with her but some say the gates are not open to you if you go in that way.
She wanted me to find happiness, remarry but then if that happened and I then passed away would I be running to her or waiting for my new wife, its not going to happen, I will remain married and eventually meet again
shit, today I am so fucked up, tears are rolling"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i was looking for a relationship i would want someone who is single. I'm not so i really don't care just if you're married don't make a drama and being your baggage to a meet. I'm not interested! |
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"In my mind I am still married, always will be, lost my wife almost 3 years now and know she is still waiting for me, often think I should have took my life and went with her but some say the gates are not open to you if you go in that way.
She wanted me to find happiness, remarry but then if that happened and I then passed away would I be running to her or waiting for my new wife, its not going to happen, I will remain married and eventually meet again
shit, today I am so fucked up, tears are rolling"
That's a huge burden to bare for your shoulders, I really hope you can find happiness at what seems a really dark tunnel X |
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway."
So would a guy be better off putting he is married on his profile, rather than try the "oh, by the way...."?
Would that honesty be more appreciated? |
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway.
So would a guy be better off putting he is married on his profile, rather than try the "oh, by the way...."?
Would that honesty be more appreciated? "
Honesty is always appreciated. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway.
So would a guy be better off putting he is married on his profile, rather than try the "oh, by the way...."?
Would that honesty be more appreciated? "
That or mention it in a first message.
I can understand not putting it on your profile because some people can be extremely abusive about it.
I'd rather know early on though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my mind I am still married, always will be, lost my wife almost 3 years now and know she is still waiting for me, often think I should have took my life and went with her but some say the gates are not open to you if you go in that way.
She wanted me to find happiness, remarry but then if that happened and I then passed away would I be running to her or waiting for my new wife, its not going to happen, I will remain married and eventually meet again
shit, today I am so fucked up, tears are rolling"
I think that all depends on what your beliefs are, have you spoken to a priest / vicar, maybe they could help answer some of your questions. If they do nothing else, they can offer a listening ear.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway.
So would a guy be better off putting he is married on his profile, rather than try the "oh, by the way...."?
Would that honesty be more appreciated?
That or mention it in a first message.
I can understand not putting it on your profile because some people can be extremely abusive about it.
I'd rather know early on though."
Being upfront is the best approach.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just changed my rules on married guys for a trial period, to see how it goes. I'll consider meeting but only if they're not local and it's club or hotel meets only.
I won't tell them my address or phone number. I don't want wives or gfs calling me or turning up on my doorstep.
I've still got to change my profile to reflect this.
My preference is still for single men though."
You've been having this dilemma in your mind for quite a while, hope it works out for you.
In this day and age there really is no need to give out personal information, use Fabs / Kik for messaging & don't meet locally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm upfront on my profile about it and have never had any abuse and if I did I think it would be understandable to be honest. I have had a few people I've had no contact with block me and I can only assume it's for that reason... Or at least I hope it is lol |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I've just changed my rules on married guys for a trial period, to see how it goes. I'll consider meeting but only if they're not local and it's club or hotel meets only.
I won't tell them my address or phone number. I don't want wives or gfs calling me or turning up on my doorstep.
I've still got to change my profile to reflect this.
My preference is still for single men though.
You've been having this dilemma in your mind for quite a while, hope it works out for you.
In this day and age there really is no need to give out personal information, use Fabs / Kik for messaging & don't meet locally."
Thanks. I'll see how it goes and change things if I don't like it.
What made me laugh was the first married guy I agreed to meet for a coffee, (not from here), then refused to send me a face pic "because of his job"! How would I recognise him in a coffee shop?!
I can imagine walking in and announcing, "right you lot, let's see your cocks". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't like the idea of playing games behind an u suspecting spouses back.
If the spouse knew, and we could reliably verify that, then I guess we might, but it's never come up yet, to our knowledge. |
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single..."
admitting your married does it really help your cause ? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
admitting your married does it really help your cause ? "
Possibly not but people should be able to make an informed choice.
If someone lies or misleads me and I find out, it is definitely not going to help their cause. |
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I always think of the shoe being on the other foot. I wouldn't like it if I was the one being cheated on. So single preferred. Funny because after chatting to woman/man who is married but on here as single say they would hate it if their partner was swinging. Confused.com |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
admitting your married does it really help your cause ? "
Yeah I think so . |
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"I'm upfront on my profile about it and have never had any abuse and if I did I think it would be understandable to be honest. I have had a few people I've had no contact with block me and I can only assume it's for that reason... Or at least I hope it is lol"
Its the same for me. It is the first comment on my profile and I always draw attention to it in my first message and encourage people to block me if they don't approve. I have had absolutely no abuse in reply to such messages, although most people don't bother to reply. If they say no, or don't reply, I then make a note on their profile so that I don't contact them again. The only abuse is in the forums where people tend to be more openly judgemental. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you prefer a very discreet relationship with a married man or just a single FB?
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Is a discreet relationship with a married man not usually called an affair? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway.
So would a guy be better off putting he is married on his profile, rather than try the "oh, by the way...."?
Would that honesty be more appreciated?
That or mention it in a first message.
I can understand not putting it on your profile because some people can be extremely abusive about it.
I'd rather know early on though."
unbelievably abusive trust me that's way I only chat how, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
Or people who have a single profile and say nothing about it until you're discussing a meet then say, "oh, by the way, I feel I should be honest but...", hoping they've reeled you in by then and you'll meet them anyway.
So would a guy be better off putting he is married on his profile, rather than try the "oh, by the way...."?
Would that honesty be more appreciated? "
yes its best to be upfront about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have thought be married would indeed be less complicated if your either meeting a Cpl or a lady from getting emotionally attached unless i'm reading it wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Married
Single men tend to be more clingy and look for much more of your time.
This is from my own experience
exactly tracey "
yes married men for me to as i dnt want a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my mind I am still married, always will be, lost my wife almost 3 years now and know she is still waiting for me, often think I should have took my life and went with her but some say the gates are not open to you if you go in that way.
She wanted me to find happiness, remarry but then if that happened and I then passed away would I be running to her or waiting for my new wife, its not going to happen, I will remain married and eventually meet again
shit, today I am so fucked up, tears are rolling"
So worse case you end up with 2 wifes in heaven for eternity + all your dead pets |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have thought be married would indeed be less complicated if your either meeting a Cpl or a lady from getting emotionally attached unless i'm reading it wrong "
I think it depends how you define 'complicated'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's people who say they are single but really not, just be honest with the fact you are not single...
admitting your married does it really help your cause ? "
Lying about being married and getting found out is far worse for all involved. At least if you're honest people can avoid you if it's against their moral code. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lot of posts.
Well I just love hassle free fun, and I believe married women pose no threat, call you when they're available, have fun and off you go.
Big up to all you married women
And love ya all single women too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you prefer a very discreet relationship with a married man or just a single FB?
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"Fuck Buddy" implies a continuing relationship, albeit for sex. In that case, single. Too much danger otherwise, and probably limited opportunity.
On the other hand, were it a one-off, then couldn't care less. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally I love that thrill on knowing she's married.
Nothing like that
I feel you enjoy it better knowing she's taken and also please each other the way you both want x |
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