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Restraining orders

By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

A certain site I don't think I am allowed to name on here has a system called Restraining Orders.

Basically, if two people are rubbing each other up the wrong way, they are given a Restraining Order, which means they aren't allowed to reply to, or contact, each other. If they do, and it's reported, they get a ban.

Good idea? Silly idea? Unnecessary?

Would people try to get round it by making more "subtle" digs to try to hide their intent?

What are your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure how you would do that in an open forum. The poor moderators. As for messages, we have block buttons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or... People could just grow the fuck up?

To be honest, it doesn't sound like a terrible idea, but considering how basic this forum is I very much doubt they'd bother with that kind of functionality.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Bloody hell that must be quite hard to monitor,is that if they are constantly bickering with each other or just a one off? It's like being back in school with the teacher keeping them apart!

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I wouldn't be able to talk to anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest I think sone people want the last word and will derail a thread totally by bickering continually with one or 2 others. And bickering is very different to disagreeing. Personally I think if they've been warned then it should be a timeout for deliberate disruption or whatever the term is

There are people on here I ignore when they have a dig. It's not that difficult to do. People should be able to moderate their own posts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

id like to see that inforced..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Or... People could just grow the fuck up?

To be honest, it doesn't sound like a terrible idea, but considering how basic this forum is I very much doubt they'd bother with that kind of functionality."

Lib I love you

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Or people could just grow up

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Or... People could just grow the fuck up?

This! All day long this!

Self moderate.

Rise above.

It's a forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone"

First rule of ban club is not to talk about ban club...

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Or... People could just grow the fuck up?

To be honest, it doesn't sound like a terrible idea, but considering how basic this forum is I very much doubt they'd bother with that kind of functionality."

I agree with you. And no, it wouldn't work here.

I was a bit bemused when I heard about it on the other site actually, but then again, it's a huge site with a lot of groups. I don't know how they manage it actually.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

blocks are great for messaging but there are those who torment and snipe at every chance within the forum..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone

First rule of ban club is not to talk about ban club..."

Is there a second rule? (Please let there be a second rule)

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone

First rule of ban club is not to talk about ban club...

Is there a second rule? (Please let there be a second rule)"

Don't argue with the mods.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone

First rule of ban club is not to talk about ban club...

Is there a second rule? (Please let there be a second rule)"

Yeah contuine to have a nice bottom

sorry back to thread now

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone"

You don't.

You do however get banned for what you type and how you type it, or if a mod has asked people to stop something and they carry on anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it.

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I used to post regularly on another site

If a member blocked another member their forum posts would be hidden too

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it. "

And some people derail threads by being the spelling and grammar police. So I'm going to behave.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I used to post regularly on another site

If a member blocked another member their forum posts would be hidden too"

Apparently admin considered that here but when asked, site members who responded said they would prefer to carry on seeing forum posts.

It's before my time but I've seen admin post about it before.

Personally I'd prefer the choice of mail and profile block or complete block including the fora.

It does make threads a bit weird and disjointed and difficult to follow though, and you'd still potentially see what was said when people quoted it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it. "

id have no issues saying that to someones face but o. here it has to be polite.. and non personal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

are people not adult enough to be confident and handle their own affairs

there is always someone who needs someone else to wipe their arse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"are people not adult enough to be confident and handle their own affairs

there is always someone who needs someone else to wipe their arse"

i dont feel its like that.. say me n you had a disagreement. you were mature enough to block me and ignore me in the forum..

but after a lot of your posts id still quote you and make sly digs and jibes..

after a while im sure youd get hacked off at me

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"are people not adult enough to be confident and handle their own affairs

there is always someone who needs someone else to wipe their arse"

I pretty much agree with that.

There are people on here who will never see eye to eye with me m or I them but as in real life we manage to avoid each other. However I do see that it would be useful in cases where the rest of us get sick and tired of watching the back and forth bickering.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it.

And some people derail threads by being the spelling and grammar police. So I'm going to behave.

I'll correct myself for you.

Sardonicism. Better?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You see,a perfect example of how a disagreement can be brought down to primary school level,by one comment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can get banned from a thread it happened to a guy last week for disagreeing with someone

First rule of ban club is not to talk about ban club...

Is there a second rule? (Please let there be a second rule)

Yeah contuine to have a nice bottom

sorry back to thread now

Erm.... the third rule (dare I ask, this is not how I remember ban club)

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it.

And some people derail threads by being the spelling and grammar police. So I'm going to behave.

I'll correct myself for you.

Sardonicism. Better? "

I told you I was behaving. I was joking. I don't care.

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You see,a perfect example of how a disagreement can be brought down to primary school level,by one comment. "

Or by someone misunderstanding and taking a smartarse joke far too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You see,a perfect example of how a disagreement can be brought down to primary school level,by one comment.

Or by someone misunderstanding and taking a smartarse joke far too seriously."

I was joking along with you,because I can. Others don't always take a joke aimed at them in the same manner. And that's when it descends into bedlam.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it.

And some people derail threads by being the spelling and grammar police. So I'm going to behave.

I'll correct myself for you.

Sardonicism. Better?

I told you I was behaving. I was joking. I don't care."

I didn't want my bad spelling to eat you up inside,I know it does to some on here. I could tell you why I spelt it wrong but it's a long winded story and boring.

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It could have its uses - an idiot I've blocked has more than once replied to me via the forums. Has again this morning..... There is no other way of me stopping him!?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"It could have its uses - an idiot I've blocked has more than once replied to me via the forums. Has again this morning..... There is no other way of me stopping him!?"

I don't know what's happened and frankly I'm not really that fussed however by commenting the above are you not just fuelling what seems the never ending fire? Just merely an observation.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it. "

Aww but I'm working on being a cunt all of my life, so please don't tell me to stop

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By *ee Viante OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If you could outright say to someone stop being a cunt,there would be no need for sniping would there

Some people use sardonism to hide it.

And some people derail threads by being the spelling and grammar police. So I'm going to behave.

I'll correct myself for you.

Sardonicism. Better?

I told you I was behaving. I was joking. I don't care.

I didn't want my bad spelling to eat you up inside,I know it does to some on here. I could tell you why I spelt it wrong but it's a long winded story and boring."

I used to be a member of the spelling and grammar police. I got over it.

I only mention it now if someone makes a mistake when criticising someone else for making a mistake.

Being a conscientious member of the spelling and grammar police is a full time job on here and not very rewarding.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Theres some people i find i disagree with most of what they say but then they might post something i agree on or am interested in and i will post and answer to that as well. There are people i generally agree with but can disagree with on something.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It might just make it worse, as people will just reinvent a new profile to get round it.

It's like in real life - just let it go over your head. Reaction - feeds those who like controversy.

Sarah

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Ok as this is getting personal about others it might be time to stop.

Quoting someone who has you blocked or vice versa is allowed as long as it isn't harrassment.

As always, ignore anyone who pisses you off. If they carry on then you could report the posts saying why and it will be monitored.

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