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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ok, so you're a big girl...you don't like how you feel/look, whatever your reasons are, so you lose weight....then you knock back the people who are now attracted to you....um, doesn't that sort of defeat the object? |
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"ok, so you're a big girl...you don't like how you feel/look, whatever your reasons are, so you lose weight....then you knock back the people who are now attracted to you....um, doesn't that sort of defeat the object?"
I don't expect people to understand my logic.  |
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"ok, so you're a big girl...you don't like how you feel/look, whatever your reasons are, so you lose weight....then you knock back the people who are now attracted to you....um, doesn't that sort of defeat the object?"
I am sure that there would have been more peoplethan just the ones who rejected me attracted so don't see why I would have to go back to the guy who already turned me down...wouldn't feel the need to be accepted by someone who did not want to know who I was when I was bigger...there is more to me than just a big package |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"...do i then have to put weight on again when a man comes along and tells me i'm not big enough?
horses for courses....move on...."
it's a bit of a quandary.a guy rejects you,because your to big.then you lose weight,and you say fuck them.
then move on to guys,who fancy you now,thin you.
it's entirely possible,or likely.that the guys who Fancy's you now.wouldn't have fancied,big you.
could be the same guy,different time.
i think sexy,is sexy,big,or thin,
but it is a quandry.  |
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"...do i then have to put weight on again when a man comes along and tells me i'm not big enough?
horses for courses....move on....
it's a bit of a quandary.a guy rejects you,because your to big.then you lose weight,and you say fuck them.
then move on to guys,who fancy you now,thin you.
it's entirely possible,or likely.that the guys who Fancy's you now.wouldn't have fancied,big you.
could be the same guy,different time.
i think sexy,is sexy,big,or thin,
but it is a quandry. "
you got it right...sexy is sexy no matter what size you are...everyone has different tastes.I was once seeing a guy and someone said I didn't know he was into bbws...and I said he isn't persay...she said well, he has to be if he is seeing you... I am more than my dress size...same as someone may like black guys...or body builders...or people with tattoos...does not mean that they will be attracted to EVERYONE in that specific group of people because of that specific trait... |
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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago
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"after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag? "
if i was turned down for any reason and the reason vanished i would never go back. so many lovely men that take women of all shapes as sexy that i dont need a 2nd helping of humiliation. but i do think every 1 has the right to choose and we all have prefereences |
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I'm not defined by my size.
If I approached a guy (which is rare - I'm with Sassy on that one) and he turned me down because of my size then that's absolutely cool, his choice.
If I lost weight (which incidentally I have) and the guy approached me because suddenly I'm more attractive to him then I would tell him to go fuck himself (in a polite fashion of course) because he's not the sort of person I would want to spend time with.
I don't like shallow. It doesn't appeal to me. My choice.
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One of the main guys i see is only attracted to big women, he adores them. I did say to him that since ive been loosing weight there will come a time when he wont fancy me anymore and he said he will always fancy me lol. But im quite exceptant of the fact that some of them wont be attracted anymore. I dont get rejected by guys as i never message them in the first place, but different people are attracted to different things so when ive lost weight i guess a different type of guy will be attracted to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok, so you're a big girl...you don't like how you feel/look, whatever your reasons are, so you lose weight....then you knock back the people who are now attracted to you....um, doesn't that sort of defeat the object?
I don't expect people to understand my logic. "
i dont understand how a woman has logic
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i was turned down because of my size, thats HIS personal preference.
But I would just move on, theres no point revisiting old ground, its not constructive.
I would just revel in my newfound confidence and enjoy all the other attractive men out there, theres plenty to go round! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I seldom take the first move to message peeps. If I do, and get turned down, I shall just move on and accept it is his personal preference, and shan't loose any sleep over it.
However, if I manage to loose sufficient weight to change my shape significantly, and he then approaches me, then I shall tell him, sorry, I am still the same person he has turned down a while back, and am not interested in him.
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"after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag? "
I doubt I'd remember him after that much time had passed.
It's no different to me turning a guy down and him changing his appearance and then asking again.
We can't help what we find appealling or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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turning this around a little...........
i detest big beer bellies......just couldnt do it with any guy that does. dont think its sexy at all
now if he lost that beer belly then yes i may be interested
so i guess im shallow |
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Guys can't win can they ... if they have a type and stick to it they are called shallow. If they say they don't care what you look like they are called desperate and rejected because they'll fuck anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag? "
No i wouldn't! once shallow always shallow is how i see it. |
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"after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag?
No i wouldn't! once shallow always shallow is how i see it."
so do you meet everyone regardless of what they look like? even if they have 1 tooth, a comb over and boils all over their face?
why is it ok for people to have standards because of appearrance but not because of size? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag?
No i wouldn't! once shallow always shallow is how i see it."
so if you have preferences based on size its shallow??? i just dont get it....but hey if that makes me shallow then so be it. |
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"my memory is too bad to remember all those people and who says no or yes!!!
Now who could refuse you!!! depends how d*unk i get them lol xxxxxxxxxx"
Ahhh you spiked my drink when I wasn't looking? lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i was messaged by a guy on here who had seen my profile pics he said i was magnificent ..i sent him a Face pic and he then said he didnt like overweight women ??????? i thought that was a bit rude ...but i got my own back on him ...he had given me enough info in his first message for me to be able to find out he wasa minor local celbrity and a married guy to boot .....i googled him found out his twitter account and "followed " him on twitter ...my name on there is such that he knew it was me ...i scared the SH*t outta him cos he messaged me and said please dont do anything silly cos my wife runs my twitter account ...what a king sized knob ..it wasnt malicious but i just wanted to show him that being a bit rude to people on here could cause serious problems ... |
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once again, why is his personal preference rude?
yes perhaps he could have just said not for me, or phrased it nicer.
I have had men say a lot worse to me, i have a moan about it on here maybe but why go to such lengths to have a go at someone who is exercising his right to chose who he has sex with? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was messaged by a guy on here who had seen my profile pics he said i was magnificent ..i sent him a Face pic and he then said he didnt like overweight women ??????? i thought that was a bit rude ...but i got my own back on him ...he had given me enough info in his first message for me to be able to find out he wasa minor local celbrity and a married guy to boot .....i googled him found out his twitter account and "followed " him on twitter ...my name on there is such that he knew it was me ...i scared the SH*t outta him cos he messaged me and said please dont do anything silly cos my wife runs my twitter account ...what a king sized knob ..it wasnt malicious but i just wanted to show him that being a bit rude to people on here could cause serious problems ..."
that is scarey that you went to those lengths to gain revenge as he didnt take to your face pic 
eye of the beholder and all that.....if someone doesnt like my face pic/body shape then its delete, block and move on. i wouldnt be arsed to track them down and put the shiters on them.....im better off without them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was messaged by a guy on here who had seen my profile pics he said i was magnificent ..i sent him a Face pic and he then said he didnt like overweight women ??????? i thought that was a bit rude ...but i got my own back on him ...he had given me enough info in his first message for me to be able to find out he wasa minor local celbrity and a married guy to boot .....i googled him found out his twitter account and "followed " him on twitter ...my name on there is such that he knew it was me ...i scared the SH*t outta him cos he messaged me and said please dont do anything silly cos my wife runs my twitter account ...what a king sized knob ..it wasnt malicious but i just wanted to show him that being a bit rude to people on here could cause serious problems ...
that is scarey that you went to those lengths to gain revenge as he didnt take to your face pic
eye of the beholder and all that.....if someone doesnt like my face pic/body shape then its delete, block and move on. i wouldnt be arsed to track them down and put the shiters on them.....im better off without them"
its really not my way at all never done it before and never done it since ..... but i really didnt like his attitude why not just say he didnt like the look of me thats far more honest .. and i probably wasnt busy that day !!! he was so up himself too ..he was on the TV locally and i think he thought he was gods gift ......and actually he thanked me for teaching him a very valuable lesson about how much to give away about yourself in your first massage .... he was VERY naive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was messaged by a guy on here who had seen my profile pics he said i was magnificent ..i sent him a Face pic and he then said he didnt like overweight women ??????? i thought that was a bit rude ...but i got my own back on him ...he had given me enough info in his first message for me to be able to find out he wasa minor local celbrity and a married guy to boot .....i googled him found out his twitter account and "followed " him on twitter ...my name on there is such that he knew it was me ...i scared the SH*t outta him cos he messaged me and said please dont do anything silly cos my wife runs my twitter account ...what a king sized knob ..it wasnt malicious but i just wanted to show him that being a bit rude to people on here could cause serious problems ...
that is scarey that you went to those lengths to gain revenge as he didnt take to your face pic
eye of the beholder and all that.....if someone doesnt like my face pic/body shape then its delete, block and move on. i wouldnt be arsed to track them down and put the shiters on them.....im better off without them
its really not my way at all never done it before and never done it since ..... but i really didnt like his attitude why not just say he didnt like the look of me thats far more honest .. and i probably wasnt busy that day !!! he was so up himself too ..he was on the TV locally and i think he thought he was gods gift ......and actually he thanked me for teaching him a very valuable lesson about how much to give away about yourself in your first massage .... he was VERY naive "
at least he was honest in admitting he was naive |
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It becomes clearer every day... some women just can't handle rejection.
But of course I blame guys for this.
See what you have done guys.... they are believing the hype!
Women... if you are going to lose weight to look better and catch the eye of the guys who don't find you attractive as you are.... just to tell them to fuck off... you may as well stay fat and have more people to fuck. |
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By *horacleCouple
over a year ago
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Its everyones personal preference.
If the person was rather rude and made personal remarks I would take great pleasure in telling him to sod off, if in the future i lost weight.
However if it was a polite no thanks then its all good.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its everyones personal preference.
If the person was rather rude and made personal remarks I would take great pleasure in telling him to sod off, if in the future i lost weight.
However if it was a polite no thanks then its all good.
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i agree, its more about how he turned me down than why! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"after writing to a guy, because he said he wasn't into big girls, would you then meet him if you lost weight?
Would you tell him to go and fuck himself?
Or would you fuck him and then tell him he was a crap shag? "
id tell him to go to hell, its what insides tht counts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All things said if you are messaging someone on here for the first time then you are going on if they match what you are looking for and if you are physically attracted to them you cant tell what that person is like inside of a couple of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he wasn't into big women, then fair enough. And no, I wouldn’t meet him if I then lost weight. Not sure why, but I wouldn’t. Anyway, thank goodness we all find different people attractive - would be a boring place otherwise!
I certainly wouldn't shag him nor would I shag him and then tell him he's a crap shag. In my mind, this is all about pleasure both for myself and any partner I meet and I've no desire to put someone down, even if they've "rejected" me at some point.
It's very easy really - if I'm not for you, then I'll wish you luck and move on.
End of.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my memory is too bad to remember all those people and who says no or yes!!!
Now who could refuse you!!! depends how d*unk i get them lol xxxxxxxxxx
Ahhh you spiked my drink when I wasn't looking? lol "
really not how i remember it darling |
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Life's too short to be bothered about others, including wanting revenge etc. It's a momentary thing - he says no, I move on and it's old news.
Feedback from others is often useful, so if it helped me gain insight, then I may value having had the interaction.
There are always more men/women out there who will love you for who/how you are, that it's not worth obsessing over someone's remarks. |
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