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Timewasters must go!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well thats the point! We can tell when its timewasters!!! Just thought its a shame the site cant implicate more security measures!"
If you know who they are, just ignore them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a difference between time wasters and people who have a life outside this site and so cant drop everything just because someone else has a hardon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you mean by fakes?
People not who they say they are - eg men posing as women etc? Or people that eventually decide they don't want to meet?
How do you ultimately find out they're fakes?
Is there any way you can ramp up your own security to detect them? Add they photo verified, are they verified in person by others meeting them?
As others have said - if you were duped by them what security measures do you propose the site puts in place?
Not being deliberately awkward here but I guess it's not easy to 'spot' a fake and the site admin do post guidelines to help people spit fakes before meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
Every hotel i ever worked in had Coccrotches
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been bothered by anyone wasting my time on here in three years.
Never got the shouts of 'fakes must go ' and all that stuff.
It tends to be said by the lazy and gullible who can't people out themselves I reckon.
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It's t'interweb:
Half the people using t'interweb are not who they seem ,
This just reflects it.
Given that, people are not necessarily who they seem to be in real life either .
Internet makes it easier.
It's not just " this site"
Tune your radars . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
OP please be specific, is it time wasters or fakes you want gone?
please define exactly what each is, and then exactly how a computer can identify them. You can't have algorithms without precise definitions. |
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Maybe think about how you go about things, there are so many different ways of meeting people on here, socials, clubs, private parties.
Lots of people on here complain about time wasters and fakes as well as the ones who post that they cannot get a meet, but cannot be bothered to make the effort to go to some of the events that are posted on here and meet people face to face.
If you keep encountering the same problem, then look at how you are going about things and look to try a different approach. |
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By *jj46Man
over a year ago
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Il stand up for new people I'm not a time waster.I have been on a site before aff my profile is still up I think .I chose to get to know people first plus my life's a little fucked up at the moment. And I'm not bothered if people like me or not .but it's different if I met people in the flesh it would be a different case because I generally get a long with everyone. I'm extrovert sometimes go inrovert so I am who I am and I'm here to stay whether I'm verified or not .I'm patient I can out wait a tortoise .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had issues with fakes or time wasters. It's about personal responsibility and vetting who you interact with.
Dont ask the site to do something that you should be doing. That's just lazy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
And how do you propose to do that ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First thing we do is check out the profile .
If the couple have been on for a while with no meets in person , we see that as a potential timewaster .
Take from that what you will , but there's really no reason to have not met anyone at all if you're a couple . Even if it's just a social meet , it's not difficult to find someone to have a coffee with is it ?
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
I think all the guys on here have encountered the couple and women who after a few messages turn out to be just a guy pretending.or at least your 99% certain it is.
Quite sad really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??
I think all the guys on here have encountered the couple and women who after a few messages turn out to be just a guy pretending.or at least your 99% certain it is.
Quite sad really "
It's not sad for the guy who is hoping the couple or woman may be a guy  |
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It's a free site, without the budget of the fbi, so resources are limited. It partly depends on users reporting suspect fakes to admin. Genuine users outnumber active fakes I'd imagine - and it'll only be us getting duped. As such it's fairly simple for users to have a phenomenal cleansing force here. It just needs all suspect profiles being reported.
And users to develop their expertise in spotting inappropriate profiles and behaviour.
And for us to assume that most people that we chat with to not result in a mutual match that leads to a meeting. I think some feel strung along when somebody else goes quiet or doesn't meet them - we need these interactions that lead to dead ends. Waving well matched successful meets, from sufficient choice here, is what makes the site great. That and the forums.
We should be learning most from our failures, so don't write them off too quickly - even if you've reported or blocked others in the process. |
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??
And how do you propose to do that ??"
Get admin to ask for a phone number and insist they chat to the lady (would only work for guys pretending to be a girl or couple) |
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??
I think all the guys on here have encountered the couple and women who after a few messages turn out to be just a guy pretending.or at least your 99% certain it is.
Quite sad really
It's not sad for the guy who is hoping the couple or woman may be a guy "
Wouldn't he be better off messaging a guy though rather than a guy pretending to be a girl who's actually a guy lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
How do you still allow yourself to be taken in?
You are your own best filter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a few time wasters more men saying they're part of a couple and then find out the wife doesn't even know that he's on here! I think you have to go with your own impressions of people on here, the longer you use the site the easier they are to spot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??
And how do you propose to do that ??
Get admin to ask for a phone number and insist they chat to the lady (would only work for guys pretending to be a girl or couple)"
I'm sure Admin have so much time on their hands that they can be doing that. best thing is just to accept that there are dickheads on this and every other site no matter what. Just be a it careful when you arrange things but most of all remember that nothing is foolproof and if one of the so called 'timewasters' raises its ugly head then roll with the punches, accept it and move on - it ain't no big deal in the great scheme of things
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Timewasters must go!
Is there a sale on?"
I've heard they are on BOGOF until the end of April...I'm sticking up.
Seriously tho what is the definition of a time waster? For me it is somebody that YOU ALLOW to waste YOUR time. Never bothered me and ivecbedn on the site for over 5 years in various guises! |
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"Well thats the point! We can tell when its timewasters!!! Just thought its a shame the site cant implicate more security measures!"
I mentioned this on another site.. But most fakes create profiles that aren't spam... They are just folk who get off on wasting your time or are too shit scared to follow through with meets...
(very frustrating when you take more than 2hrs to get glam) x |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
I fabbed one of my tgirlfriends pix yesterday, then I noticed it was posted by a 'No Mark'. I got in touch telling them to remove it and that they'd been reported to the rightful owner and Admin. They're now unlos but will no doubt be doing the same again today with someone else's pix...
Sad but true!  |
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By *jj46Man
over a year ago
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I've been on here 4 weeks now,I've declined 4 already only because of my preferences .and ive got no problems meeting people my pic's are crap .plus I look better than my pic's lol.have been called ugly but that's there problem not mine I'm confident In myself.so you can all put me in front of your firing squad whatever il still be standing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been on here a while and spoke to some great people but also encountered quite a few fakes! Must be a way to amp up the security??"
I keep wasting time reading "timewasters blah blah blah" threads.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a difference between time wasters and people who have a life outside this site and so cant drop everything just because someone else has a hardon"
Well said ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What the op hasn't said is how they would approach the problem 
There's very little that you can do to prevent "fantasists" from being on here.
Everyone has their own circumstances and needs. One persons timewaster, may just be someone who has said no thanks etc. |
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"Well thats the point! We can tell when its timewasters!!! Just thought its a shame the site cant implicate more security measures!"
Our definition of a timewaster would be someone who doesn't turn up at an arranged meet, leaving you sat there like a lemon!
In over 7 years on here, we have never experienced this. |
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"Well thats the point! We can tell when its timewasters!!! Just thought its a shame the site cant implicate more security measures!
Our definition of a timewaster would be someone who doesn't turn up at an arranged meet, leaving you sat there like a lemon!
In over 7 years on here, we have never experienced this. "
This! Ten years and I've never been stood up. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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The site could pull it's socks up in certain instances if it was really interested but sorting them completely is an impossibility and always has been. The place would need an division of bodies (£££) sussing time wasters out.
Not forgetting the point you conclude someone is a time waster has always been contentious discussion point. Computer or phone meltdowns, last minute life disasters in time for swing meets are commonplace for some plus everyone has the right to change their mind with or without telling the other party (respect/manners aint required by law)
Sadly time wasters have all the techniques, all the excuses and some go to great lengths. It's their habit if not a honed hobby. Most are just pisstakers that go no further than the keyboard. Some will speak on the phone, have you travel, be in touch on route only to find they go phone silent once you've arrived, hide their profile, blocked you or leave the site, at which point you realise you've been had.
I guess for some the control in getting someone's priv pics, some personal info or wasting someone's day/night/money seems bigger fix than sexy fun. Strange & sad but to be expected from life's sometimes unavoidable weirdo's.
There's plenty of diamonds and genuine people on here but certainly a sad mass of not so diamond or genuine too that make you wonder at times.
If ever the fun is outweighed by the juggling of s#it, it's time to have a re-think or take a step back. |
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If one is not prepared to out the fakes themselves they shouldn't be here.
It comes with the territory and successful people just get on with it.
And personally I don't want the site 'policed' into extinction. |
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