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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In close friendships, there's nothing unusual about a friendly hug or even a cuddle, and it often seems to me that in todays younger generations (teens and early twenties), a certain degree of touchy-feeliness is a lot more common than it was when I was that age.
What I want to know is, how many people here have friends whom with they're close enough that even casual sex is a fairly ordinary occurrence, despite the relationship not being romantic in any sense?
Maybe I'm being idealistic here, but it'd be so nice to have that sort of relationship, even better with multiple people, where you could just say 'well we've got a free hour - sex?' and just get down and enjoy it, rather than all too often feeling like you have to somehow prove yourself on a deep level of trust and familiarity before anyone will even lock lips with you... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you mean like a fb?"
No, to me, an FB still requires a certain degree of forward planning and pacing around each sexual encounter, I'm talking the kind of friendships where sex could be as much on the cards as simply meeting somewhere for a drink or watching a movie together, just another fun activity for two friends to enjoy in each others company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a friend who i had that sort of relationship with. It led to sex once but felt wrong and actually spoiled our friendship. Only bumped into him again very recently now you mention it xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a friend who i had that sort of relationship with. It led to sex once but felt wrong and actually spoiled our friendship. Only bumped into him again very recently now you mention it xx"
Its just a thought that greatly excites me, for the record no, I don't have any friends I'd particularly like to have sex with, but it's something I've often wanted, just the chance to release that passion and energy which builds up on its own, with someone who doesn't ask anything in return, only to enjoy the experience of sharing it with you, and that being just one of many qualities they value you for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a friend who i had that sort of relationship with. It led to sex once but felt wrong and actually spoiled our friendship. Only bumped into him again very recently now you mention it xx
Its just a thought that greatly excites me, for the record no, I don't have any friends I'd particularly like to have sex with, but it's something I've often wanted, just the chance to release that passion and energy which builds up on its own, with someone who doesn't ask anything in return, only to enjoy the experience of sharing it with you, and that being just one of many qualities they value you for."
I get that. Sounds an ideal relationship xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. People who are close friends are just friends. The only person who I am close friends with and have sex with is Marc.
I have made friends while swinging, but I think the friendship comes second in these relationships and isn't quite what you mean...
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ooooooooooooo" he may say, "I've got to vacuum the stairs!" "i simply don't fancy it!". "Leave it ducky, come and suck my cock" says his gay friend.... See? |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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I used to have that with a mate, but it slowly became more about fucking than being mates and that made me sad. Couldn't get back to just mates either despite several conversations and attempts - he always took it back to sex.....
I had it with a girl for a while though, that was cool  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. People who are close friends are just friends. The only person who I am close friends with and have sex with is Marc.
I have made friends while swinging, but I think the friendship comes second in these relationships and isn't quite what you mean...
-Courtney"
I think he means someone who you are friends with first and occassionally have sex with but the sex is not the main part xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. People who are close friends are just friends. The only person who I am close friends with and have sex with is Marc.
I have made friends while swinging, but I think the friendship comes second in these relationships and isn't quite what you mean...
-Courtney
I think he means someone who you are friends with first and occassionally have sex with but the sex is not the main part xx"
Yeah, that's what I figured. In which case no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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""Ooooooooooooo" he may say, "I've got to vacuum the stairs!" "i simply don't fancy it!". "Leave it ducky, come and suck my cock" says his gay friend.... See?"
I'd put the vacuum on my anus, I'm the naughty type... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no interest in fucking friends
or friending people I fuck......"
I friended a fuck from here. We are still good friends. We used to fuck quite regularly...especially if I stayed over at her caravan (most weekends in summer of 2014 and 2015. Her caravan has gone...she has moved. We still keep in touch, occasionally meet up still (occasionally) fuck.
It is a rare thing tho as I have also lost friends when we both thought we could do this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have nobody that either wants to be my friend - or fuck me. So can't comment from experience (of either) :/o
But in a hypothetical situation (and joking aside) I don't think I'd want that sort of relationship to be honest - I like my (proper) friends to be my friends to be honest and keep that totally separate to any romantic interests purely on the basis that at some point the whole 'feelings' thing might come into play and totally change the dynamic of the friendships I have.
My 'friends' fulfil a very different social 'need' for me than a lover and I wouldn't want to blur the two |
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I have a close friend...nothing physical has happened. ...we have both spoke about under radar feelings and it's mutual...there is attraction but nothing developed....we have sex text very little (over 18 odd years) mainly about the fantasy of doing stuff with each other etc...
As other posts have said...once stepped over the line- will our friendship be the same or .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a bizzare friendship with this one friend from uni. She's always been very complementary and we've set each other up a few times in the past.
After three years that was it until one night she had just broken up with a long distance guy. We watch the Evil Dead 2, have a bottle of wine and without a word we just had sex. It was great actually, but weird and funny. Afterwards we kind of realised that's what had been weird about our friendship the whole time, that we hadn't fucked.
After that it was weird, it wasn't like we're having sex every time we meet, nor would I call her for sex. But we'd meet and if there was this weird energy between us, we'd do it and it'd be great. Sometimes there wasn't, so we wouldn't.
Absolutely no romantic feeling, there's actually rarely any passion. I think it helps our friendship because we're both relatively closed off and anxious yet still selfish.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a male friend. We go out together, have nights in etc
We cuddle as pals. Once or twice we've had a pissed up play. Never sex. Next day we get on as usual  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes I currently have that with one of my friends ... In all the times we spent chilling out (countless) we have only had sex three times... Sometimes we don't even kiss or touch each other..
It's actually nice cos I know I can just chill out and there are no expectations of me (can also turn up in no make up and gym clothes, sometimes even pj's) ... However if I want something to happen that is also possible... |
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I've had some of this but have also found that some of these friends wanted sex and so developed a friendship, until and if it happened.
I generally keep friends and fbs separate though. And one friendship was harmed by sex. Good friendships are so valuable that it's potentially too costly an endeavour to pursue. I'm ok potentially deepening the friendship with a fb but keeping the sexual fun going through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me I have friends on different levels, Friends from school days, Work friends who I also socialize with, Drinking, parties etc, And just people who I bump into every now and then,
I don't have sex with none of them, Not even with the Females 
If I was having sex with them (Women) I would class the friendship as a fb or fwb not a close friend so to speak |
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