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How much is too much?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Do they take Viagra.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Must be a busy part of the country if they get that many in one day!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your friend is clearly a woman

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think there is such a thing as too much, or too little.

The site has to work for us all individually and if he or she gets off on meeting like that then its all good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's way too much for me. At the moment. In the future I may meet more. However, I couldn't give a toss what someone else does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We get out three evenings a week , and often have 3 or more meets an evening .

So our thoughts are good for them , crack on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

my thoughts are it's probably a woman and maybe it's social meets? ..if they're sexual meets dam I'm envious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is that every day though or they're just making the most of their free time?

Some guys love to shag a lady who's just been shagged by someone else. So it's win win.

As long as she/he is happy then I don't see the issue.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

I don't care.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Their life....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you. "

I can see you're point about it being nothing to do with me except that I worry about their wellbeing... Knockbacks don't go well for them. For instance a few days ago they had a number of meets arranged, the first two were no shows and they got angry and depressed and more determined to find another meet.

As for being jealous... I have a diagnosed condition that causes an abnormally low testosterone level... Haven't had sex in years and don't really want to... You could say that sex is a very small part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Comedy answer:

Their 1st meet can't have done a good enough job if they are still walking.

Based on an average meet (for me anyway) being 3-4 hours of sex does s/he plan in meals and refreshments or is it like the marathon with wet sponges and protein gels..

In reality though I am impressed at the dedication and the time they can afford to meets. As long as everyone is safe and happy cant see a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is up to them and as one said it sounds like it is a woman lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

Good for him/her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

they must be unemployed and hot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

they must be unemployed and hot"

Or just a woman

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Lucky them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Matbe it's a career choice..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I say lucky them, I can't get one meet a week never mind a day Hahahaha

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

At certain times of the month I could shag all day. At others, not so much.

Think about why you've posted this. Concern? Judging? Jealousy? When you've worked that out you can decide whether to have a word or just mind your own business.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think the concept of too much sex or too many meets on a site designed to facilitate exactly those things is a bit daft.

Too much sex or too many meets is when it's an actual addiction and is harmful to the person. That's not for us to decide.

We're all adults here. This sounds as though it may be controlling behaviour dressed up as concern.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"At certain times of the month I could shag all day. At others, not so much.

Think about why you've posted this. Concern? Judging? Jealousy? When you've worked that out you can decide whether to have a word or just mind your own business."

I'm definitely not judging, not jealous either... I've known this person for years and we talk every day... We talk about every day things as well as meets etc. I notice the mood changes when meets go wrong or don't happen. It's a combination of concern and trying to understand on my part so I can offer support when needed. My sex drive is almost zero so I think and hope that I can _iew their choices and actions from a purely subjective point of _iew.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the concept of too much sex or too many meets on a site designed to facilitate exactly those things is a bit daft.

Too much sex or too many meets is when it's an actual addiction and is harmful to the person. That's not for us to decide.

We're all adults here. This sounds as though it may be controlling behaviour dressed up as concern."

Why not ask the OP about his reasons why he posted, rather than applying your own biased option to draw conclusions that simply cannot be inferred from his opening post?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's up to them what they do.

When i was single i sometimes had 2 meets on the same day. Sometimes those 2 meets ended up joining up

When meeting at a club i often had lots of encounters during the time i spent there

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I think the concept of too much sex or too many meets on a site designed to facilitate exactly those things is a bit daft.

Too much sex or too many meets is when it's an actual addiction and is harmful to the person. That's not for us to decide.

We're all adults here. This sounds as though it may be controlling behaviour dressed up as concern.

Why not ask the OP about his reasons why he posted, rather than applying your own biased option to draw conclusions that simply cannot be inferred from his opening post?

He asked for my thoughts. Those are my thoughts. I don't need to ask his motivation because that's his issue; I don't care.

Too many people on here think they have a right to judge and interfere in the business of others. It's more acceptable to dress it up as concern but most of the time they should mind their own business.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

Yet your opening post mentioned nothing about the emotional turmoil your friend goes through when meets don't happen. It just mentioned the number of meets per day they had. If it was true concern for their mental well being the number of meets a day wouldn't matter, their reaction to being let down would have been more centre stage of your post so I'm still going with jealousy/judging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."
greedy

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

Agreed. The focus on the number rather than the effect suggests that to me too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

"
you here again cmon leave some for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a close friend who started meeting guys for sex as much and often as possible after her dad died.

It was her own coping mechanism/ addiction. Was it healthy? No. She cant hold down a relationship and has sex when she admits she didnt want to because its a compulsion.

She puts herself in dangerous situations and yes it concerns me.

Id talk to her tell her your worries and if she doesnt share them leave her to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wish I had the energy for it!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

"
you're judging the judger but I'm the judge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the concept of too much sex or too many meets on a site designed to facilitate exactly those things is a bit daft.

Too much sex or too many meets is when it's an actual addiction and is harmful to the person. That's not for us to decide.

We're all adults here. This sounds as though it may be controlling behaviour dressed up as concern.

Why not ask the OP about his reasons why he posted, rather than applying your own biased option to draw conclusions that simply cannot be inferred from his opening post?

He asked for my thoughts. Those are my thoughts. I don't need to ask his motivation because that's his issue; I don't care.

Quod Erat Demonstrandum.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I think the concept of too much sex or too many meets on a site designed to facilitate exactly those things is a bit daft.

Too much sex or too many meets is when it's an actual addiction and is harmful to the person. That's not for us to decide.

We're all adults here. This sounds as though it may be controlling behaviour dressed up as concern.

Why not ask the OP about his reasons why he posted, rather than applying your own biased option to draw conclusions that simply cannot be inferred from his opening post?

He asked for my thoughts. Those are my thoughts. I don't need to ask his motivation because that's his issue; I don't care.

Quod Erat Demonstrandum."

Quite. If people don't want thoughts, they shouldn't ask for thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Agreed. The focus on the number rather than the effect suggests that to me too."

Thanks for your input... Yes I probably could, and by the looks of it, should have provided more information or at least a reasoning for my initial post. There is always a fine line between getting it right and I guess in this instance I didn't. I kept it short and simple so that (however unlikely) people wouldn't be able to guess who I'm talking about or that they wouldn't see a stupidly long opening post and not bother reading.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you. "

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Agreed. The focus on the number rather than the effect suggests that to me too.

Oooh, you're talking about someone on here?

If so, that's not cool.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Horny bastard

One mff a day is plenty for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

Is his name Pinocchio ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets. "

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a close friend who started meeting guys for sex as much and often as possible after her dad died.

It was her own coping mechanism/ addiction. Was it healthy? No. She cant hold down a relationship and has sex when she admits she didnt want to because its a compulsion.

She puts herself in dangerous situations and yes it concerns me.

Id talk to her tell her your worries and if she doesnt share them leave her to it. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me that's not my style, I wouldn't want to go from one meet to another as I like to savour the time spent with the people I meet.

I also wouldn't want to be one in the middle of a 'conveyer belt' of meets, happened to me once in the past & it didn't feel right.

Don't care what others do or how they choose to meet.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!"

There is a difference between making a judgment based on what information is presented to you and judging someone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

There is a difference between making a judgment based on what information is presented to you and judging someone. "

Is there and how has he judged her? I cant see it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

Human nature especially on a forum, to judge.

Sometimes though perceived judgement is just an answer another person doesn't like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For me that's not my style, I wouldn't want to go from one meet to another as I like to savour the time spent with the people I meet.

I also wouldn't want to be one in the middle of a 'conveyer belt' of meets, happened to me once in the past & it didn't feel right.

Don't care what others do or how they choose to meet."
I only meet on crowded underground trains

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!"

True but the OP did ask for thoughts. I doubt his friend has asked him his thoughts on their behaviour.

It's natural to be disappointed when meets go wrong, regardless of how often you meet, so linking concern about her feelings and whether she meets too often makes no sense to me. I doubt that is the actual motive because it doesn't make sense.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

Human nature especially on a forum, to judge.

Sometimes though perceived judgement is just an answer another person doesn't like.

It's ok to judge and agree with someone but not to judge and not agree, even if asked for an opinion.

How can anyone give their thoughts without judging the situation?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

You're not their minder though are you? If people have the acumen to find sites like this and register knowing what's in store, surely they can walk away.

If your friend is seeking validation from strangers and any knock back confirms their own self loathing, you can't help them, that's a whole new bailiwick!

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I've done the same when it suited me - you usually find at least one is a let down in some way anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

True but the OP did ask for thoughts. I doubt his friend has asked him his thoughts on their behaviour.

He did thats true i guess it goes off experiences cause i could easily think of a situation that fitted with concern over jealousy but that experience wasnt someone elses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

True but the OP did ask for thoughts. I doubt his friend has asked him his thoughts on their behaviour.

Yes my friend does ask me for my thoughts and advice and I try to be as impartial and objective as possible. The reason starting this thread was to collect the thoughts of others... Even if I only get a couple of useful replies it's been worth asking

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

Agreed. The focus on the number rather than the effect suggests that to me too."

...and me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its entirely up to the individual, we are not here to judge .

Yeah I've noticed that people don't judge on the forums, lol

Human nature especially on a forum, to judge.

Sometimes though perceived judgement is just an answer another person doesn't like.

It's ok to judge and agree with someone but not to judge and not agree, even if asked for an opinion.

How can anyone give their thoughts without judging the situation? "

This but the daft thing is when they are calling someone out for judging! We are all making judgements so why tell someone they are and perceive it to be negative

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

I wonder how differently this would have gone if the OP was a woman asking for advice about her friend....

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I haven't seen whether you confirmed that you were talking about someone on this site. An earlier comment suggested you are.

If you are, I don't think it's appropriate to be discussing it here.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I wonder how differently this would have gone if the OP was a woman asking for advice about her friend....

I'd still have told her to mind her own business.

In fact, if a woman was asking about a female friend, I'd be more inclined to think jealousy. Women can be notoriously jealous of each other, even their "friends".

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

There is a difference between making a judgment based on what information is presented to you and judging someone.

Is there and how has he judged her? I cant see it..."

Perhaps it's down to interpretation of posts but for me anyone who posts about how much sex someone is having on a daily basis and asking for other people's thoughts is saying they don't think it's a good thing. Just my experience of reading the forums over the years. Also the title 'how much is too much' suggests the op thinks their friend is having too much sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't seen whether you confirmed that you were talking about someone on this site. An earlier comment suggested you are.

If you are, I don't think it's appropriate to be discussing it here."

To be honest that isn't your concern... Let's just say I didn't meet them through this site, I've known them for years, we talk to each other regularly (not online), I know a lot more about them than I probably do about myself... When I say friend I mean a genuine friend. With the lifestyle they lead isn't it safe to assume they are on this site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

There is a difference between making a judgment based on what information is presented to you and judging someone.

Is there and how has he judged her? I cant see it...

I can totally see your point of _iew... Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

My thoughts are you are jealous of your friend. Why else would you be concerned with how much sex they are getting? Their life, their sex...nothing to do with you.

How am I judging? He asked for my thoughts and there they are. I couldn't give two shits how many people his friend meets.

Well based on what his said have you judged that he is not genuinely concerned and rather jealous. Thats maing a judgememt just as much as he may or may not be!

There is a difference between making a judgment based on what information is presented to you and judging someone.

Is there and how has he judged her? I cant see it...

Yes it usually is and i can see how thats presumed but i dont think its the case here. Maybe my experience posted earlier is why i saw it differently.

But 3 meets in a day regularly, i dont mind saying would make me worry for 'certain people'. Theres lots of reasons for that.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I haven't seen whether you confirmed that you were talking about someone on this site. An earlier comment suggested you are.

If you are, I don't think it's appropriate to be discussing it here.

You are "concerned" your friend is having too much sex but you have no concerns to publicly discuss their personal life like this?

Wow.

I'm glad I don't have friends like you. Mine understand discretion.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im more interested in how they fit all the meets in. Im worn out after a week of coffee socials

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im more interested in how they fit all the meets in. Im worn out after a week of coffee socials"

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

I think that's their own business no one else's .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't seen whether you confirmed that you were talking about someone on this site. An earlier comment suggested you are.

If you are, I don't think it's appropriate to be discussing it here.

You are "concerned" your friend is having too much sex but you have no concerns to publicly discuss their personal life like this?

Wow.

I'm glad I don't have friends like you. Mine understand discretion."

Sorry you feel that way... If you have a problem please feel free to report this thread. I've tried to be as discrete as possible by not giving too many, if any details away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I couldn't meet people like that. I put everything into it when I meet, so I end up up absolutely drained mentally as well as physically.

Because of that it wouldn't be fair on anyone else I was meeting.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend "

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend "

I agree .

Why aren't you having this conversation with your friend if you have genuine concerns for them op?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

I agree .

Why aren't you having this conversation with your friend if you have genuine concerns for them op? "

You're assuming I haven't?

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

I agree .

Why aren't you having this conversation with your friend if you have genuine concerns for them op?

You're assuming I haven't?"

So if you have what do you exspect to gain by dicussing their private life on here..????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

How do I get me some of this

No such thing as too much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend "

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned . "

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned . "

I think it's borderline at best when it comes to the rules.

Discussing a personal relationship and the private life of another member, even if that person isn't identified, is usually not allowed.

Obviously it would be for a mod to decide but I'm not a fan of people discussing the private business of other members publicly. I wouldn't like it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned . "

He asked people's thoughts.. That was my first thought..

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

It is borderline but I think fine to stay up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned .

He asked people's thoughts.. That was my first thought.. "

I think he meant thoughts on the behaviour of the person having meets , not on himself .

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned .

He asked people's thoughts.. That was my first thought..

I think he meant thoughts on the behaviour of the person having meets , not on himself ."

I think it's a fair comment.

I'd be royally pissed off if a "friend" of mine was discussing me like this.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

ok back to the OP please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned .

I think it's borderline at best when it comes to the rules.

Discussing a personal relationship and the private life of another member, even if that person isn't identified, is usually not allowed.

Obviously it would be for a mod to decide but I'm not a fan of people discussing the private business of other members publicly. I wouldn't like it."

I have no idea who he speaks of , but their behaviour mirrors ours

If he wants to discuss it as if it was us we wouldn't mind .

It's probably because he wants to know how others feel to help him understand .

Which is fine - part of what makes the forums useful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She sounds like an utter slut with massive self esteem issues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned .

He asked people's thoughts.. That was my first thought..

I think he meant thoughts on the behaviour of the person having meets , not on himself ."

So... Was still my first.. And only thought on the matter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why do some people barge into a thread and take over and turn it into an arguement? Give the man his thread back this is happening time and time again its ruining the lounge why dont the mods do something about this and pm the certain persons responsible for this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All I can say cant be good ... Some of my meets in the passed lasted 2/3 days only getting out of bed to eat and drink . lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Why do some people barge into a thread and take over and turn it into an arguement? Give the man his thread back this is happening time and time again its ruining the lounge why dont the mods do something about this and pm the certain persons responsible for this?"

Was it you ? Don't make me read it all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She sounds like an utter slut with massive self esteem issues. "

Wow !

I must check Sabrina is ok ...

Funny , no self esteem issues , but can be slutty

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"She sounds like an utter slut with massive self esteem issues. "

Tell me you had your tongue firmly in your cheek....... ( no puns -it's olee fridee )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She sounds like an utter slut with massive self esteem issues.

Tell me you had your tongue firmly in your cheek....... ( no puns -it's olee fridee ) "

It's in deep.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Because mods don't mail people to tell them to shut up, they either ban them if they have broken rules or ask on the thread for it to stop ^^^ see above.

If in the future you want to question what mods do, please stay within the forum rules and ask/ send your feedback to Admin from the CONTACT button.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good for them i say, as long as they are enjoying themselves why knock it.

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By *nigmatic1Woman over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend

To be fair to the op he hasn't mentioned any names , and none are on his profile .

So there's no way anyone can see who he is talking about .

It's a bit harsh to level this criticism at him .

It's a perfectly reasonable question and thread as far as we are concerned . "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not ask the OP about his reasons why he posted, rather than applying your own biased option to draw conclusions that simply cannot be inferred from his opening post?"
Thanks! Well put!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have to remember that we each have different sexual appetites. In saying that,sexual addiction can be destructive; as much as alcohol and drug addiction. If a person is having a distinct personality change and it's affecting their health and/or relationships,I would suggest a trip to a doctor to be referred to an expert.

If not,then too much is,like chocolate,when you're sick of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if I was your friend and I knew you where discussing my sex life with strangers.. I would no longer be your friend "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

I don't care."

Everyone has standards....

Mine are very different lol.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I am outraged........ fucking outraged

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All I can say cant be good ... Some of my meets in the passed lasted 2/3 days only getting out of bed to eat and drink . lol

Indeed. ..5 or 6 hrs minimum and thats only starters....needing main course....they may need to check their selection process

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am outraged........ fucking outraged"

And we are outraged at the fact that you are outraged

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Depends what you need and want - plus what your meets deliver. 3 or 4 two minute wonders probably would not satisfy me amd is hardly worth closing the door for in between them.

If you can deliver and are hungry, have an all you can eat feast.

Victorian sexual attitudes still prevailing?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I am outraged........ fucking outraged

And we are outraged at the fact that you are outraged

Happy days, an outraged gathering of huffing and puffing.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP it's a shame that this thread has been hijacked. I have no idea who you are talking about and doubt anyone else has the foggiest either.

If someone has a very high sex drive multiple regular meets might be fine for them. Strong reactions to being let down is not unusual however a more detached attitude on a site like this might be helpful.

However, if I was emotionally vulnerable, behaving like this and it was out of character, I'd like a friend to feel concerned enough about my behaviour to be there to help me.

If it was just an expression of how I normally behave, but I am being let down a lot, I may also need to think about my selection process as well as my reaction to the let down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP it's a shame that this thread has been hijacked. I have no idea who you are talking about and doubt anyone else has the foggiest either.

However, if I was emotionally vulnerable, behaving like this and it was out of character, I'd like a friend to feel concerned enough about my behaviour to be there to help me.

If it was just an expression of how I normally behave, but I am being let down a lot, I may also need to think about my selection process as well as my reaction to the let down."

Well said

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please..."

I have a question, rather than a thought....although I thought of the question - which is: does s/he arrange 3 meets a day in the morning or arranges one meet at a time? The reason I ask is about time. I wouldn't like a lady (for arguments sake) to clock watch me and say at 1.30pm, "finish up, love, me 2pm's waiting".

If it's 3 meets all arranged to follow on, I'd hate to be meets 1 or 2 on a time limit.

If s/he has a meet then feels the need to make a second or third for whatever reason then s/he could give some thought to looking at his/her selection process, especially if people are not turning up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take my blady hat off to your friend

Id be happy with 1 meet! Let alone 3 a night lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

If it's 3 meets all arranged to follow on, I'd hate to be meets 1 or 2 on a time limit.

Lots of people go to a club for the night and have multiple meets on the night .

We just apply the same criteria to a night out .

We may meet up to 5 or 6 people while dogging .

We might pop round 2 or 3 people's houses in an evening .

Our selection process is good .

We have no esteem issues.

It works for us and those we meet

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

If it's 3 meets all arranged to follow on, I'd hate to be meets 1 or 2 on a time limit.

Lots of people go to a club for the night and have multiple meets on the night .

We just apply the same criteria to a night out .

We may meet up to 5 or 6 people while dogging .

We might pop round 2 or 3 people's houses in an evening .

Our selection process is good .

We have no esteem issues.

It works for us and those we meet

Good attitude and it works.

(Do you ever sneak a look at your watch and say a code phrase to Sabrina like 'looks like he's hot, Sab' which really means 'fake an orgo, Sab, we gotta go!'

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this might be, Like a lot of questions on here just a hypothetical question

I haven't read the whole thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a friend who will quite happily go on 2 or 3 meets a day. They have even been known to arrange meets directly after each other.

Your thoughts please...

If it's 3 meets all arranged to follow on, I'd hate to be meets 1 or 2 on a time limit.

Lots of people go to a club for the night and have multiple meets on the night .

We just apply the same criteria to a night out .

We may meet up to 5 or 6 people while dogging .

We might pop round 2 or 3 people's houses in an evening .

Our selection process is good .

We have no esteem issues.

It works for us and those we meet

Good attitude and it works.

(Do you ever sneak a look at your watch and say a code phrase to Sabrina like 'looks like he's hot, Sab' which really means 'fake an orgo, Sab, we gotta go!'

) "

I don't need to - she knows