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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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just a little tip, if you leave a message unread but look at the senders profile, if they are a site supporter then they can tell. nothing worse than sending a carefully worded message for it to be left unread

that's it moan over

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

¿Qué?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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am I speaking some kind of foreign language?, like you perhaps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of the ladies and couples on here get so many massages that they don't have the time to answer them all, we are talking hundreds of them.

so it's not always there fault

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just a little tip, if you leave a message unread but look at the senders profile, if they are a site supporter then they can tell. nothing worse than sending a carefully worded message for it to be left unread

that's it moan over

Of course they can. That's one of the advantages of being a site supporter!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Only if the 'looker' is NOT a site supporter and has chosen public browsing......either way it means no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not if you snoop on the profile in stealth mode.. they will never know i looked

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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then just delete the message no good leaving it unread

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread "

What if they want to read it later.

Or wait for their partner to see it too.

They can read and mark unread too

Owww the possibilities

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread "

What difference does it make?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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its annoying that's what it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sometimes leave a message unread so that I can read it properly when I have time. I also view profiles in stealth mode.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I leave them unread to see if i have the the inclination 'to be arsed' replying.

Once its in my inbox its my message to hold hostage MUAHAHAHA

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I read the message then often leave it there for days without replying or deleting it.....

because I can....in case you were wondering

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I leave them unread to see if i have the the inclination 'to be arsed' replying.

Once its in my inbox its my message to hold hostage MUAHAHAHA

Exactly lol

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread

What if they want to read it later.

Or wait for their partner to see it too.

They can read and mark unread too

Owww the possibilities

I sometimes go to use the 'mark unread' button, then think 'but what if they saw me read it?' cos that would REALLY piss some people of lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stay out your sent box... Annoyance over

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting "

so you have ocd and people that cant handle a message being unread aren't worth meeting? why is that? does it make them less genuine?, less likely to meet? be worse in bed? go on I'm interested to know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's it moan over

Mmm let me think. My profile - my way of running it. Don't like? Tough!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think pretty much everyone on fab knows that I mainly meet single guys and that I sympathise with them and think they can be treated badly in the swinging world!

However - I don't read or respond to all my messages and never will unless I experience a major drop in messages. I currently have 572 unread messages. Most will never get read.

All I can really say gentlemen is that if it's important to you to be on a level playing field - then fab isn't for you and I'd suggest a dating site!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's it moan over

Why would you even look, OP? And why would anyone care?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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as I say if no interest then delete it, if interested read it, I know how this site works ive been here for seven years now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

Coz telling me that i must delete my messages or reply is telling me how to run my profile, therefore i wouldnt want to meet anyone like you.. and i never mentioned being worse in bed?? see if you cant deal unread mesaages etc dont check your sent box, we can reply delete or leave messages if we want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

OP you seem a little upset. I really don't think it's personal just everyone has a different way of managing their account.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry, women are holding all the cards lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"as I say if no interest then delete it, if interested read it, I know how this site works ive been here for seven years now"

Most of them you dont have to they just say things like "Nice tits wench" i can read that without opening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"as I say if no interest then delete it, if interested read it, I know how this site works ive been here for seven years now"

Well you should know by now people can do what they like with the messages they recieve

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD"

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"as I say if no interest then delete it, if interested read it, I know how this site works ive been here for seven years now"

So we read everything. Delete very little. What a quandary!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread "

You can only see the latest 100 messages in your inbox, if your message wasn't read before the inbox filled up it will just show as unread but it doesn't get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its up to the person or couple if they want to read a message ...nothing to do with the person that can't handle a message being unread...

Clearly can't take not being in control!

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor"

SARCASM OR JUST LYING, not good to lie about such things, I have a couple of friends with ocd, and it literally takes over there lives

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor

SARCASM OR JUST LYING, not good to lie about such things, I have a couple of friends with ocd, and it literally takes over there lives"

Well this happy go lucky thread got even lighter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor

SARCASM OR JUST LYING, not good to lie about such things, I have a couple of friends with ocd, and it literally takes over there lives"

I dont delete my messages coz i dont want to delete then ok... dont ever accuse me of lying when you do not know me, get over yourself no wonder people dont reply to you

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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I make no apoligies for standing my corner

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor

SARCASM OR JUST LYING, not good to lie about such things, I have a couple of friends with ocd, and it literally takes over there lives

I dont delete my messages coz i dont want to delete then ok... dont ever accuse me of lying when you do not know me, get over yourself no wonder people dont reply to you"

very appropriate name, and it was you that started with the ocd comment, I just pulled you up on it, cant take it don't reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of us will read a message and either reply or put it back to unread for the other to read when they get chance.

We also have some unread, as we will go back to them later.

Don't see the issue myself. But I've decided today is let's all have a go at each other Tuesday! So what do I know.

Sarah

(it must be bad - I never use that emoji)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't had a meet yet on my profile yet I remain confident ......and not with just anyone.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"One of us will read a message and either reply or put it back to unread for the other to read when they get chance.

We also have some unread, as we will go back to them later.

Don't see the issue myself. But I've decided today is let's all have a go at each other Tuesday! So what do I know.

Sarah

(it must be bad - I never use that emoji) "

at last a sensible reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor

SARCASM OR JUST LYING, not good to lie about such things, I have a couple of friends with ocd, and it literally takes over there lives

I dont delete my messages coz i dont want to delete then ok... dont ever accuse me of lying when you do not know me, get over yourself no wonder people dont reply to you

very appropriate name, and it was you that started with the ocd comment, I just pulled you up on it, cant take it don't reply"

No you said i was lying there is a difference

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"and that statement is exctly why I know you haven't got OCD

It was sarcasm jeezo Doctor

SARCASM OR JUST LYING, not good to lie about such things, I have a couple of friends with ocd, and it literally takes over there lives

I dont delete my messages coz i dont want to delete then ok... dont ever accuse me of lying when you do not know me, get over yourself no wonder people dont reply to you

very appropriate name, and it was you that started with the ocd comment, I just pulled you up on it, cant take it don't reply

No you said i was lying there is a difference"

I asked sarcasm or just lying, use an emoji to help show what you are doing as an emotionless reply is impossible to interpret

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can see your point OP, it must get a little annoying.

On the other hand it can get a little annoying & hard to keep on top of at times 100's of other 'well crafted' messages received.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I make no apoligies for standing my corner"

??? Your general tone is quite aggressive and you seem like you are just wanting to argue about something that's not actually in your control...

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"I make no apoligies for standing my corner

??? Your general tone is quite aggressive and you seem like you are just wanting to argue about something that's not actually in your control...

not at all, just pointing out a fact that irks me, but I will always stand my corner, both in real life and the internet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate don't worry about it move on to the next

if they fancy you they will reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And I thought I was having a bad day!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Concentrate on your inbox.... Until you have a message in there assume they're not interested....pretty simple really

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"And I thought I was having a bad day!! "

no I'm fine besides the usual stresses of life in the 21st century, just pointing out a fact and then get attacked. I'm not the kind to sheepishly back away so defended myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I thought I was having a bad day!!

no I'm fine besides the usual stresses of life in the 21st century, just pointing out a fact and then get attacked. I'm not the kind to sheepishly back away so defended myself"

You were telling other people what to do, no wonder people atacked.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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how was I telling people what to do, merely pointing out a fact

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I thought I was having a bad day!!

no I'm fine besides the usual stresses of life in the 21st century, just pointing out a fact and then get attacked. I'm not the kind to sheepishly back away so defended myself"

By all means defend your self. I think I'd just kick back and maybe not take this site too seriously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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been here a long long time and seen people come, go, come back again then leave again. I don't take it seriously just as I don't take the forums seriously, whatever you put as a single man there is a 99.99% chance you will be attacked. This is fab and its never changed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"how was I telling people what to do, merely pointing out a fact"

You told people how to manage their inbox, either reply or delete not leave message as unread

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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and whats the big deal in saying that people who are site supporters can see if a message is left unread and if they viewed profile, look at my original post, it says moan over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and whats the big deal in saying that people who are site supporters can see if a message is left unread and if they viewed profile, look at my original post, it says moan over

Scroll up & you'll have your answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x

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By *heOwlMan over a year ago

Altrincham

that's it moan over

Hmm, so perhaps someone recieves a message and before reading it they check the profile. Yup the site supporter will be able to see that their profile has been checked, but if the recipient decides that they are not interested from what they saw on the profile, why would they bother reading the message regardless of how well crafted or otherwise the thing is.

There are definitely far worse things than messages being unread, such as people presuming they can control others witout knowing anything about them.

Everyone is entitled to manage the messages that hit their inbox however they like, afterall once a message is sent it becomes the recipients to do with as they wish and is totally out of the control of the sender.

Owl

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By *sagent81Man over a year ago

Leeds

"Only if the 'looker' is NOT a site supporter and has chosen public browsing......either way it means no thanks!

I've met 6 women who ignored my first message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I leave them unread to see if i have the the inclination 'to be arsed' replying.

Once its in my inbox its my message to hold hostage MUAHAHAHA

And this Vara is why I

you!

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

"Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x"

just shows how the written word can be misintepretted not telling people what to do, merely pointing out to new members, what a site supporter can see, and how annoying it can be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x

just shows how the written word can be misintepretted not telling people what to do, merely pointing out to new members, what a site supporter can see, and how annoying it can be"

I'm sure they care lol...

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By *iss AdventureWoman over a year ago

Wonderland

Site supporters can only see if someone's looked if that person hasn't changed their privacy settings.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x

just shows how the written word can be misintepretted not telling people what to do, merely pointing out to new members, what a site supporter can see, and how annoying it can be"

There was probably no need for it, OP. It is nice for you to point out to new members how to behave but it is not going to get your hands in their knickers, is it?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"Site supporters can only see if someone's looked if that person hasn't changed their privacy settings. "

post was aimed at newbies who aren't generally site suporters, you have to be a site supporter to fly in stealth mode

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your a happy trooper op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stay out your sent box... Annoyance over

Excellent advice.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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as I say the forums are very clicky, and 99.99% of whatever a single man writes will be attacked. It has been that way ever since I joined years and years ago. and I am happy go lucky, just pointing something out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why try to make people either read or delete messages ...nothing to do with you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Site supporters can only see if someone's looked if that person hasn't changed their privacy settings.

post was aimed at newbies who aren't generally site suporters, you have to be a site supporter to fly in stealth mode

But if they're not a site supporter they can't see who's looked at them either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's it moan over

Nothing worse? Actually there's quite a lot worse lol

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"as I say if no interest then delete it, if interested read it, I know how this site works ive been here for seven years now"

Jolly good. In those 7 years did you realise people will do what suits them best, not what you want? They're here for what they want and, just as you are free to run your account as you wish, so are they.

Do you really think sending a message gives you the right to tell people what to do with it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"as I say if no interest then delete it, if interested read it, I know how this site works ive been here for seven years now

Do you really think sending a message gives you the right to tell people what to do with it?

Correct

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"as I say the forums are very clicky, and 99.99% of whatever a single man writes will be attacked. It has been that way ever since I joined years and years ago. and I am happy go lucky, just pointing something out"

Ah yes, the standard protestations about cliques and single man hating, just because we don't agree with you.

Since you're so het up about people not managing their messages according to your demands, I suppose we shouldn't be surprised.

People will not always agree with you and people won't necessarily do things the way you want them to. If you can't accept that, this place will forever annoy you, completely unnecessarily.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing to do with clicky people...

You sound like a bit of a control freak to be honest...lol

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"whatever you put as a single man there is a 99.99% chance you will be attacked. This is fab and its never changed"

Daft statement

. I've posted many hundreds of times over five years, most of them containing utter drivel, and never been attacked.

Tbh, disappointed the "I'm from Yorkshire. I say what I like and I like what I bloody well say" line hasn't been used yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

Oh, misunderstood. How terrible.

Have you tried being less misunderstood?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

Try to be clearer? If we've all misunderstood you, you've obviously not expressed yourself very well. That's our fault, obviously.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

Maybe just maybe the person receiving the message just doesn`t fancy you.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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in future I shall leave you all to it, lovely speaking to you all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

Pointing out to newbies... Who probably don't even use the forums yet.. That it annoys YOU when they look at your profile and not reply to you.. Isn't helpful in the slightest.. Not even a teeny tiny bit...

If they are new they will just be getting to grips with the site so might not be replying to anyone.. But leaving messages until they're comfortable with how everything works....

If people look at your profile but do not message you... They are not interested.

If people don't read your message straight away they either have a lot of messages to get through or they are not interested.

you have been on here 7 years and don't understand that..?.. Really?..

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

Had your moan, feel better now?

Shit happens. Sometimes it's the same shit different day.

What can we do but just not give a flying fuck about things that are out of our control.

Don't worry, be happy.

That's my input for today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably best

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

If they are new they will just be getting to grips with the site so might not be replying to anyone.. But leaving messages until they're comfortable with how everything works....

If people look at your profile but do not message you... They are not interested.

If people don't read your message straight away they either have a lot of messages to get through or they are not interested.

you have been on here 7 years and don't understand that..?.. Really?..

yawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

Yes it happens, I've been misunderstood on many occasions. Sometimes though, if you look back through the thread you can usually see why that might be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"in future I shall leave you all to it, lovely speaking to you all

Probably best

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"oh dear how to be misunderstood in less than an hour, answer come on the forums, as I say its been like this from day one so hardly surprised

If they are new they will just be getting to grips with the site so might not be replying to anyone.. But leaving messages until they're comfortable with how everything works....

If people look at your profile but do not message you... They are not interested.

If people don't read your message straight away they either have a lot of messages to get through or they are not interested.

you have been on here 7 years and don't understand that..?.. Really?..

yawn

Yawn to you opening post ...lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x

just shows how the written word can be misintepretted not telling people what to do, merely pointing out to new members, what a site supporter can see, and how annoying it can be"

Like i say it wasnt your original post it was the ones that followed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

I'd hazard a guess that people that whinge about getting no replies ir that people don't read messages are even more needy in the real world. Entitlement, especially over something so trivial is not an appealing trait

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

We couldn't agree more...

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

oh dear stand up against the forumites and its a big gang on to one person, I'm not needy as I said before just pointing something out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Site supporters can only see if someone's looked if that person hasn't changed their privacy settings.

post was aimed at newbies who aren't generally site suporters, you have to be a site supporter to fly in stealth mode

Do you? I thought you just had to be a site supporter to use who's looked at you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tell you what I love about poat s like this ... You get a real people at a persons attitude..

And then the block button is hit lol ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x

just shows how the written word can be misintepretted not telling people what to do, merely pointing out to new members, what a site supporter can see, and how annoying it can be"

Why is it annoying?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Your op was fine your 2nd and 3rd post were sarky and telling people what to do x

just shows how the written word can be misintepretted not telling people what to do, merely pointing out to new members, what a site supporter can see, and how annoying it can be

Why is it annoying?"

Because he is not getting the replies he thinks he should be getting and it's annoying him...

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

oh dear stand up against the forumites and its a big gang on to one person, I'm not needy as I said before just pointing something out"

Feeling aggrieved because someone doesn't read your message comes across as needy. I'd avoid anyone like that on the grounds they'd probably be demanding, entitled and too much trouble.

A guy on another site got huffy because I asked a question he didn't like recently. He gave a reasonable answer but I've still declined to meet him for being huffy over a fair question. If I wanted childish strops, I'd have kids.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

oh dear stand up against the forumites and its a big gang on to one person, I'm not needy as I said before just pointing something out

Feeling aggrieved because someone doesn't read your message comes across as needy. I'd avoid anyone like that on the grounds they'd probably be demanding, entitled and too much trouble.

and what does that have to do with my post?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"I tell you what I love about poat s like this ... You get a real people at a persons attitude..

And then the block button is hit lol ..."

whats a poat?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I have ocd though and can only delete when i have an even number of messages over 12... i will delete MY messages when I choose.. people who cant deal with that really arent worth meeting

oh dear stand up against the forumites and its a big gang on to one person, I'm not needy as I said before just pointing something out

Feeling aggrieved because someone doesn't read your message comes across as needy. I'd avoid anyone like that on the grounds they'd probably be demanding, entitled and too much trouble.

and what does that have to do with my post?

You asked why people who can't deal with their messages not being read according to their own timescale would put people off.

That's why. It comes across as needy and as though you'd be more hassle than anyone wants.

Most of us are here for NSA fun, not neediness, entitlement or hassle.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"you have to be a site supporter to fly in stealth mode

No you don't. Anyone can browse in stealth mode.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

this is the part that has confused me, did you read his message?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I find it a better investment of my time and emotional energy to assume that the reason I get the responses I get is the way I am communicating. If I'm not getting the results I want I change the way I am communicating. Are you getting the results you want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A guy on another site got huffy because I asked a question he didn't like recently. He gave a reasonable answer but I've still declined to meet him for being huffy over a fair question. If I wanted childish strops, I'd have kids

this is the part that has confused me, did you read his message?

No, we did not read his message. How do you think we could?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"you have to be a site supporter to fly in stealth mode

No you don't. Anyone can browse in stealth mode."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's it moan over

As others have said in stealth mode you can look at anyone's profile and they wouldn't know, just because they haven't read it you feel that you have the right to moan about it because you've carefully worded it?? No one has to read every message they get nor do they have to reply. If they haven't read it but have been on the site since you sent it and it's been a few days just face facts that they are most likely not interested, so forget them and move on to the next one.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people and men in particular, send such shit one liner messages that one can read them without bothering to open them to read. Why waste time and effort on a response? Also in stealth mode, you can't tell if I've looked or not.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

I never send one line messages

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I never send one line messages

I always send "gizzashagyabitch" and the added bonus of being bi is i can blast it to anyone within a 3 hours radius.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

"I never send one line messages

I always send "gizzashagyabitch" and the added bonus of being bi is i can blast it to anyone within a 3 hours radius. "

doubles your chances I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's it moan over

Cool thread bro.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's it moan over

I'm glad you said it's a moan, for a few minutes there I thought it was Thursday.....

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If I'm not mistaken... This topic has been covered many times before..

So my usual advice... Control the controllable..

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By *ighland_RoseCouple over a year ago

Brigadoon

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread "

And this leads to......"they deleted my message without even reading it!!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread

And this leads to......"they deleted my message without even reading it!!"

You just can't win eh?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread

And this leads to......"they deleted my message without even reading it!!"

as I have said deleted messages don't bother me, was meant to be a tip for the newbies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread

And this leads to......"they deleted my message without even reading it!!"

as I have said deleted messages don't bother me, was meant to be a tip for the newbies"

Your comment, "that's it, moan over" would suggest it does bother you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"then just delete the message no good leaving it unread

And this leads to......"they deleted my message without even reading it!!"

as I have said deleted messages don't bother me, was meant to be a tip for the newbies

Your comment, "that's it, moan over" would suggest it does bother you

Think the guy needs to relax... And grow up lol

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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And why do you say that? Because I made a point then defended it? It's called a forum for any subject

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol calm down dear...

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

It's not me that needs to calm down. If you don't like what's been said on my post then don't comment

It really is that simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"nothing worse than sending a carefully worded message for it to be left unread"

Absolutely. Nothing worse. Nothing at all worse. Not at all. Nothing worse than a message being unread. No, absolutely nothing worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not me that needs to calm down. If you don't like what's been said on my post then don't comment

It really is that simple "

It;s not that simple, your earlier post about it being a public forum cuts both ways. You can;t expect people not to challenge you

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

Well edited

If I was wearing a hat I would take it off to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not me that needs to calm down. If you don't like what's been said on my post then don't comment

It really is that simple

It;s not that simple, your earlier post about it being a public forum cuts both ways. You can;t expect people not to challenge you"

Lol control freak springs to mind ...what a catch...lol

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By *ustcutieWoman over a year ago

edinburgh

I'd say the newbies had a lucky escape

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

I always look at the profile before opening a message. Generally I find I am way over the age limit they require. Dont know why they want to meet when it is quite clear I dont wish too.

I leave unopened for a few days and just remove after copy and pasting it with a date on their special notes page. Then I know when they do it again.

Its amazing how many people forget they messaged before or have no clue I changed my name.

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

"It's not me that needs to calm down. If you don't like what's been said on my post then don't comment

It really is that simple

It;s not that simple, your earlier post about it being a public forum cuts both ways. You can;t expect people not to challenge you

Lol control freak springs to mind ...what a catch...lol"

You really are a vile person but you only have the same thing to say over and over and over again.

I won't lose any sleep over what you think of me, will just sleep better knowing I would never meet you

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By *entleman and SassyPussCouple over a year ago

that's it moan over

di dums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not me that needs to calm down. If you don't like what's been said on my post then don't comment

It really is that simple

It;s not that simple, your earlier post about it being a public forum cuts both ways. You can;t expect people not to challenge you

Lol control freak springs to mind ...what a catch...lol

You really are a vile person but you only have the same thing to say over and over and over again.

I won't lose any sleep over what you think of me, will just sleep better knowing I would never meet you

Vile?! Yes you really are lol... Roll up roll up ladies...your missing out here...don't delete his messages before reading them tho cus he will have a shit fit haha

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By *heOwlMan over a year ago

Altrincham

"I always look at the profile before opening a message. Generally I find I am way over the age limit they require. Dont know why they want to meet when it is quite clear I dont wish too.

I leave unopened for a few days and just remove after copy and pasting it with a date on their special notes page. Then I know when they do it again.

Its amazing how many people forget they messaged before or have no clue I changed my name."

Oh, that's a pretty cool way to use the system. Thanks,

Owl

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

Pontefract

What a joke you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pulling my chair up for this thread,cuppa anyone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a joke you are "

no the joke is your attitude...no one own you an explanation for any read or unread messages on here...people have commented on your childish post and total you straight what they thing...your remarks to people have been plan rude...

But good luck too you ...you will need it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Delete your sent box and stop worrying.

Once you send the message it's no longer yours so chill.

What good comes of worrying how people choose to use their own profile?

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By *icksfocus OP Man over a year ago

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"What a joke you are

But good luck too you ...you will need it lol "
I don't think I will as I have a character and know how to speak to people. You on the other hand ........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Delete your sent box and stop worrying.

Once you send the message it's no longer yours so chill.

What good comes of worrying how people choose to use their own profile? "

Good advice

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

And....I think we can leave it there

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