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Why Be So Rude?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why are women on FAB so rude? As a member you search and find what you think is a nice person who you'd like to meet and take things further. You arrange said meet and have a nice time, you exchange a few messages after and then get blanked!

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couldn't agree more. ...if they behaved the same way in real life they had few friends and even less offers. ....

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By *aturelover2016Man over a year ago

London

I think for most on here variety is the spice so wouldn't take it personally

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By *isa 59Woman over a year ago

Newcastle

Guys and couples do this too. It's simply a sad fact of life

Perhaps your next meet will have a happier ending.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think for most on here variety is the spice so wouldn't take it personally "

You sound like someone who is used to getting blocked?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Because pressing the block button is easier.

That simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about it, at least they are a tick on the old bed post lol.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You know, nobody owes you further meets. She arranged to meet, she wasn't interested in meeting again. She doesn't really have to explain that. This isn't a dating site. Well, it can be but you shouldn't expect it to be.

If we asked her, I expect we'd get a different side to the story. Possibly, 'I met this guy, it wasn't that great but afterwards he wouldn't leave me alone, pushing to meet again. I replied to start with to be polite, hoping he'd get the hint I'm not interested but he kept messaging. I didn't want "but why not?" messages or him asking for a second chance, so I started ignoring him. He was making me feel uncomfortable".

Just a guess but I expect her side is different to yours.

You had a meet. She was real and showed up. Take it for what it is.

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

Because they only want a one- off; and it's the easiest way of preventing you asking ?

( there are guys who get possessive)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because "you'll do until the next best thing comes along" it's the way it goes on here and other sites. Oh, and its not all or just the single females

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they didnt want to take it any further and found it easier to simply stop responding to your messeges. Sometimes guys get aggresive when women say no thanks and if that has been their experience so far then that could be why they simply stopped responding to your messeges.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Some people really struggle being honest and/or direct.

And some fucking needy people who need everything cotton wool wrapped because of a million insecurities

Pressing block is easier that offering CBT sessions

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are women on FAB so rude? As a member you search and find what you think is a nice person who you'd like to meet and take things further. You arrange said meet and have a nice time, you exchange a few messages after and then get blanked!

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

Sorry, OP, you will have to define "nice time," for me to comment further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think for most on here variety is the spice so wouldn't take it personally

You sound like someone who is used to getting blocked? "
does that have a sound then like eeeeeeek or oooooooh or da da da da da

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Dont worry OP ... women are like buses .... there will be another one along in a minute

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By *aturelover2016Man over a year ago

London

"I think for most on here variety is the spice so wouldn't take it personally

You sound like someone who is used to getting blocked? does that have a sound then like eeeeeeek or oooooooh or da da da da da

Is sounds like la la la la la la la la la, and I should know (apparently!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol. Well this bus route is very rural and not many buses pass this stop! ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lot of the single men on here don't behave like "swingers" at all. I actually wonder whether some are even sexually active. You met her, did whatever you did, she's moved on to someone else... what's the problem? Were you expecting to move in and then marry shortly afterwards?

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By *anchestercubMan over a year ago

manchester & NI

Sometimes people are cowardly and don't want to deal with rejecting someone so they just block instead.

If you'd not met them I wouldn't see a problem but if you're someone who was worth meeting then you're worth a 'no thanks' and then blocking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Here here!!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well, I agree with you OP, if I have chatted with someone at length, or actually met them, I would consider it damn rude of me to simply not reply to their message.

The very least I would do is say 'Sorry, I don't wish to take this further' and then by all means block if you fear comeback.

That's just common human decency.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

If you are repeatedly meeting people who then blank you maybe there is a reason for that pattern?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had fuck buddies i ignore. It happens.

Sometimes i don't feel like chatting to them. or all they're talking about is sex or the next meet, or something boring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

because fabs is like a supermarket whoops counter. They finger through the broken, rejected, and 'past the best' items and take home what they think is a bargain, only to discover that Afghan ham and broccoli bruschetta bake isn't to their liking after all and besides, it gave them the runs the next day in any case. Not that I'm bitter.. lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You may be given a few men some good wanking material

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had fuck buddies i ignore. It happens.

Sometimes i don't feel like chatting to them. or all they're talking about is sex or the next meet, or something boring."

This. Sometimes i feel suffocated by how much people want to chat. I dont do sex chat either nothing is more boring to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You got a verification I assume? So take it and run. Just brush yourself and don't worry about it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You arrange said meet and have a nice time, you exchange a few messages after and then get blanked!

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

You had a nice time though. It happens all ways with men, women and couples. Are you sure you're being blanked and it's not just that the person you met is busy and hasn't been able to reply?

Enjoy it for what it was. Don't dwell on it.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I was single and had meets a lot of guys were one offs, I made it clear before a meet that I didn't want more but a lot of guys didn't understand that, in the beginning I would reply and explain that I didn't want more but a lot of guys would become mean and/or aggressive, one even threatened to bring his friends and force me to fk them all if I didn't meet him again ( he knew I lived alone with my young daughter) so eventually I stopped replying after an initial 'no more, thank you' it saved a lot of upset and worry, it might not be nice to experience but we tend to think of ourselves first after these things and although I really dislike generalising people, you never know what sort of reaction you will get when you reject someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Couldn't agree more. ...if they behaved the same way in real life they had few friends and even less offers. ...."

And that works all ways too! Not just women. Men and couples can be rude as well.

Sarah

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"because fabs is like a supermarket whoops counter. They finger through the broken, rejected, and 'past the best' items and take home what they think is a bargain, only to discover that Afghan ham and broccoli bruschetta bake isn't to their liking after all"

Hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for your comments and no I'm not dwelling, just wanted to see if I was the only one who thought it was rude not to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for your comments and no I'm not dwelling, just wanted to see if I was the only one who thought it was rude not to reply."

We only know your side though - we don't know both sides. She may see the whole thing differently.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps she thought it was just a one off given your a married man.

You kept messaging her and She decided she didn't want the hassle and blocked you.

Some men on here don't take kindly to being told thanks but no thanks. It seems to insult them that a woman could say no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are men so rude ?? Went to a social today and after 20 mins I actually got up and walked out.

Works both ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well you don't seem to be 'F***ing mental' so you were right to get up and walk.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Some people really struggle being honest and/or direct.

And some fucking needy people who need everything cotton wool wrapped because of a million insecurities

Pressing block is easier that offering CBT sessions"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe the truth would hurt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Will not take no for an answer and not at the moment seems to draw abuse.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Why are men so rude ?? Went to a social today and after 20 mins I actually got up and walked out.

Works both ways

I had a social I didn't even sit down. Another he didn't even notice I'd left so rudeness is not gender specific.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes being polite doesn't help. I met a guy off here once for coffee, he was a lovely guy but I wasn't attracted to him at all. I was polite & said he wasn't for me, but all I got was abuse from him and was called all the names under the sun. Unfortunately guys like this make women act in ways they wouldn't normally do. If I meet a guy again & I'm not attracted to him, I'd be tempted to just ignore him rather than have to go through the abuse again.

I know not all guys give abuse, but lots of them do think that if a woman meets for a social, then they will def get more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people really struggle being honest and/or direct.

And some fucking needy people who need everything cotton wool wrapped because of a million insecurities

Pressing block is easier that offering CBT sessions"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on how you meet I think, whether you're both into repeats or one offs to where you stand on messaging etc.

Also some people dont have the balls to say 'thanks but no thanks'. They'd rather that person get the hint & disappear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love the women of fab I won't have a bad word said against any of them

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By *tretchygirl and tintinWoman over a year ago

Dartford

If I'd had a 'nice' meet with someone, and at the end of the meet we hadn't suggested meeting up again, I would just move on. Move on to look for a great time.

If I then got a message, I would possibly ignore it because I've had some vile messages for men when I've said thanks but no thanks or thanks but I don't want to see you again. I don't see why I should leave myself open to insults.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Thanks for your comments and no I'm not dwelling, just wanted to see if I was the only one who thought it was rude not to reply.

We only know your side though - we don't know both sides. She may see the whole thing differently.

Sarah

I'd put money on her story being very different.

The truth would probably be somewhere between the two accounts.

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By *tretchygirl and tintinWoman over a year ago

Dartford

"Thanks for your comments and no I'm not dwelling, just wanted to see if I was the only one who thought it was rude not to reply.

We only know your side though - we don't know both sides. She may see the whole thing differently.

Sarah

I'd put money on her story being very different.

The truth would probably be somewhere between the two accounts."

It'd be interesting to hear her side.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I resent the original comment of 'why are all women rude'!!

We're not all rude!

And what you described op has happened to me too..With a guy..who has blocked me despite us getting on when we met etc..I don't care though..I just moved on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men do it too. Wouldn't worry about it on this site. Not everyone takes it as being rude as it's a swinging site. But I do agree manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men do it too. Wouldn't worry about it on this site. Not everyone takes it as being rude as it's a swinging site. But I do agree manners cost nothing."
yes manners cost nothing and an explanation for someone you obviously like or liked is a polite thing to do before you block their sorry ass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I don't tend to meet guys more than once. This is not because they haven't been lovely guys, but there's so many exciting new people to meet and time to meet is precious.

Obviously as part of a couple I never get attached to the guys I meet and we are merely 3 playmates having fun for a few hours, nothing more.

Just because this lady met you once, it does not mean she is rude by not meeting again. Maybe your messages were a little too frequent, who knows. What is clear is that she doesn't want further contact. No strings attached means just that.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

Women can be very rude. One recently sent me a message (along the lines of and not a direct quote) of something like "I'd like to fuck you".

No "please".......rude bitch

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

God, I know. Us women on here are awful. We receive a carefully crafted message along the lines of "U hot. Fuk?" from someone hundreds of miles away or "you look like my mother in law and I've always wanted to fuck her" from someone the same age as us, or get messages on our couples profiles that are so polite they assume the male half reads all the messages and send "her arse is lush, can I fuck it?" and we're not even bothered to respond. Or someone we may have exchanged a few messages with before it became blatantly obvious to everyone bar them that it wasn't going to go any further. But hey, a few messages back and forth must mean that someone is entitled to a meet, mustn't it? Or god forbid, we actually get as far as meeting and as a result that leads someone to assume that meeting once means they are entitled to further contact.

I've met guys who haven't wanted a repeat meet when I have. Guess what, I sucked it up and met someone else. I've met guys more than once. What would put me off meeting someone twice is the assumption that because I've met them once they have some kind of entitlement. I am not something to be bagsied. I am a person who can't be doing with pestering.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As above^^^ I had a social once, and his very next message to me was 'so when are we going to play?'

No, nice meeting you, what did you think? Just the assumption that because we had met everything was on.....well it isn't with me! So real in your expectations and you wont be disappointed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love rude women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As above^^^ I had a social once, and his very next message to me was 'so when are we going to play?'

No, nice meeting you, what did you think? Just the assumption that because we had met everything was on.....well it isn't with me! So real in your expectations and you wont be disappointed

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Ive often this after a couple of messages let alone seeing a face pic or having a social. Sometimes i get it after posting to a thread.

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By *razedcatMan over a year ago

London / Herts

WHY YOU GOTTA BE SO RUUUUDE, DONCHA KNOW I'M HUMAN TOOOOO

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"As above^^^ I had a social once, and his very next message to me was 'so when are we going to play?'

No, nice meeting you, what did you think? Just the assumption that because we had met everything was on.....well it isn't with me! So real in your expectations and you wont be disappointed

I've often this after a couple of messages let alone seeing a face pic or having a social. Sometimes I get it after posting to a thread. "

And men call us rude!

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By *raceytvcdTV/TS over a year ago

mansfield

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I always assume that silence means that someone isn't interested in me. I certainly don't ever feel as if I'm "owed" some sort of explanation for somebody else's feelings.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

Did you not realise that 'swingers' are notoriously non conformist polyamorous variety loving gregarious beings ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. It actually hurts my heart a little bit to hear someone who can't have the attention they want label others as 'rude'..... x chin up lovely x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

might be on the wrong site, try PlentyOfFish lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey for me its difficult to understand a lot of the comments from the fab ladies because the quoted comments made by men are so detached from how I message obviously I believe that these pretty ridiculous messages exist but the OPs reference was in relation to an established friend that he had met more than once ,so OP I sympathise with how you feel it is rude but she wanted to move on variety is the spice of life an all that jazz ,she should have said " sorry enjoyed meeting you but that's it thankyou and good luck " but she didn't even the nicest women who think they communicate well get it wrong sometimes ,just gotta suck it up and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Over 50% of responses from females have been abrupt that we have received or we didn't get a response back compared to only one or 2 rude replies from single guys when we have said no thanks to...I find a lot of woman very cheeky (not a good cheeky) and abrupt on here so I don't think it's your imagination. We have had lovely chat too mind you lolx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Over 50% of responses from females have been abrupt that we have received or we didn't get a response back compared to only one or 2 rude replies from single guys when we have said no thanks to...I find a lot of woman very cheeky (not a good cheeky) and abrupt on here so I don't think it's your imagination. We have had lovely chat too mind you lolx"
females are abrupt I think because of a lack of time ,if I befriend someone and we are chatting and I start to get one or two word replies " yes" " no" " maybe" I soon move on we all have choices, I approach this site actually anything with the _iew if "I " like it I will continue with it and I think some guys if they are struggling to make connections put up with things ,if you let someone treat you bad they will always treat you that way

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By *lintessential1Man over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

couldn't agree more - the level of conceit from some women on this site is pretty disgraceful - they all demand face pics or no reply, yet when you ask for a picture of them, your message will get deleted!

And this is in a supposed male dominated society...

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By *elle2016Woman over a year ago

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"A lot of the single men on here don't behave like "swingers" at all. I actually wonder whether some are even sexually active. You met her, did whatever you did, she's moved on to someone else... what's the problem? Were you expecting to move in and then marry shortly afterwards?"

You mean it's NOT a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love it or hate it women rule here even the fugglies ,where's my two hot sexy arsed redheads I asked for ages ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You mean it's NOT a dating site?"
we've established categorically it IS a dating site

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"And this is in a supposed male dominated society..."

And that, I suspect, is your issue. You're used to having the upper hand and you can't cope with it on the rare occasions when the roles are reversed.

If women "demand" things from you, it's up to you whether you do what they want or not. If you don't want to send a face pic, refuse or delete their message. See? You have exactly the same rights we do.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You mean it's NOT a dating site?"

It can be whatever people want it to be. The key is finding the people who want the same as you.

Too many people on here think their idea of the site and they way they want to use it is how everybody else should do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want it to be a place where redheads flourish on the end of my pole

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By *lintessential1Man over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look the long and short of it is some people are rude because that's who they are ,stay clear of them or label them ,we do love labels here ,they can be labelled in red " warning rude bitches"

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake. "

I mean this site as a rare example of where men aren't automatically in control

It is a male dominated society and in almost all things, women come second to men. And you know it "cupcake".

And with an attitude like that, trying to be deliberately patronising and rude the second a woman says something that doesn't suit you, no wonder you aren't very successful.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Look the long and short of it is some people are rude because that's who they are ,stay clear of them or label them ,we do love labels here ,they can be labelled in red " warning rude bitches" "

Or rude wankers. There are plenty of both genders.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Blah blah blah women have the upper hand, women have all the cards, wah wah wah we can't get laid.

Women have the upper hand IF YOU LET THEM. If you let them, don't moan about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake.

I mean this site as a rare example of where men aren't automatically in control

It is a male dominated society and in almost all things, women come second to men. And you know it "cupcake".

And with an attitude like that, trying to be deliberately patronising and rude the second a woman says something that doesn't suit you, no wonder you aren't very successful."
you're making an assumption he isn't successful he told me he was he just doesn't like" rude bitches "no-one does even the rude bitches

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake. "

Aww.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake.

I mean this site as a rare example of where men aren't automatically in control

It is a male dominated society and in almost all things, women come second to men. And you know it "cupcake".

And with an attitude like that, trying to be deliberately patronising and rude the second a woman says something that doesn't suit you, no wonder you aren't very successful.

you're making an assumption he isn't successful he told me he was he just doesn't like" rude bitches "no-one does even the rude bitches "

No, read his comment, he says himself about how many messages he's had. And it's not in any way a shocker, given his attitude.

I'd say telling people to shut the fuck up makes him one of the rude ones he's whining about. Except apparently it's only a problem if it's women being rude to him. In his world.

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By *lintessential1Man over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

Thanks for blocking me, saved me the click

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake.

I mean this site as a rare example of where men aren't automatically in control

It is a male dominated society and in almost all things, women come second to men. And you know it "cupcake".

And with an attitude like that, trying to be deliberately patronising and rude the second a woman says something that doesn't suit you, no wonder you aren't very successful.

you're making an assumption he isn't successful he told me he was he just doesn't like" rude bitches "no-one does even the rude bitches

No, read his comment, he says himself about how many messages he's had. And it's not in any way a shocker, given his attitude.

I'd say telling people to shut the fuck up makes him one of the rude ones he's whining about. Except apparently it's only a problem if it's women being rude to him. In his world.

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he's just making a comment its not a life and death situation, that woman he felt was rude maybe the next one will be polite many are

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By *lintessential1Man over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for blocking me, saved me the click

No worries. Thank you for displaying your misogyny so beautifully. Just a shame all guys on here aren't as open as you. Makes it alot easier to know who to add to the block list hey ladies! !

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment "

Er no, you've exposed your bitterness and disdain for women.

I pointed out that you don't have to comply with the expectations of women, just as we don't have to comply with yours. That kicked off a little tirade of insults and rudeness from you.

And yet, it is true. You have exactly the same rights on here as women do.

The bitterness and entitlement from men on here sometimes is absolutely astounding. And you think expecting a photo is bad?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment "

You really weren't, in the comment referred to you were directly insulting to one individual which is really rather unnecessary and unpleasant.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

You really weren't, in the comment referred to you were directly insulting to one individual which is really rather unnecessary and unpleasant. "

Some guys show their true colours quite spectacularly when they don't get everything all their own way.

And they wonder why women don't reply!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment "

Personally I feel the only thing you exposed was your own extremely dated chauvinist _iew of the world, and quite honestly you should be ashamed of yourself...I'm ashamed on your behalf. You kick up and immediately start being patronising and so blatantly sexist I thought to start it was a running joke between the two of you... Surely no-one can seriously behave like this....but apparently the neanderthal is still alive...wow... I'm gobsmacked, you really are a prize cock

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP, the example above ^ is what a lot of women here, from experience, expect when they say anything that a man doesn't like, such as "no thanks", "I don't want to meet you again", "I don't agree with you" or anything similar.

This is why women will delete and block or blank you rather than replying a lot of the time.

Maybe it makes a bit more sense now.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Incidentally, be prepared to be called a white knight now, and be told you're sucking up in the hope of a shag. That's the usual response when a man points out the unreasonable behaviour of another man on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Oh undoubtedly lol, although with several hundred miles distance I think my horse would be doa lol...

I just can't abide that sort of behaviour, I mean male dominated society? What are we? Still in the eighties? What happened to equality ffs? And don't get me started on insults just because he didn't like what you said...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a very unpleasant man. I hope nobody took his comments to heart. He obviously has some insecurity issues and possibly an anxiety problem. Nobody on this site needs to be insulted.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Oh undoubtedly lol, although with several hundred miles distance I think my horse would be doa lol...

I've got a thick skin. Women need them on here. That's why so many women leave shortly after joining. Then guys complain there are too few women on here and it's too difficult to get meets!

It might answer the OPs question though.

Hopefully guys can see why sometimes blocking or blanking can seem a safer bet than saying no. It's unfair on the guys who wouldn't be abusive but expecting women to have to tolerate threats, (see higher up the thread for mention of a woman being threatened with violence unless she had sex with a guy again), and abuse to be fair, is unrealistic at best.

I also find it amusing when people without the backbone to show what they look like call other people ugly

Gotta love this place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why oh why can't people be just polite and say it's was nice meeting, but don't think you're for me.

How many other guys on here have had the same?"

You're lucky to even get a meet. Most women simply delete messages without even a polite response. The most annoying is when they say they don't like one liners, they want you to put some effort in. So you craft a nice, interesting response that takes a bit of time, and ....delete lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Oh undoubtedly lol, although with several hundred miles distance I think my horse would be doa lol...

I've got a thick skin. Women need them on here. That's why so many women leave shortly after joining. Then guys complain there are too few women on here and it's too difficult to get meets!

It might answer the OPs question though.

I also find it amusing when people without the backbone to show what they look like call other people ugly

Gotta love this place

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you pick out isolated and rare incidents and make out they are the norm ,most people here are polite and do not make personal insults ,you however get personal I've seen it on many occassions ,that guy was out of order but he reacted negatively to your negativity and some unfortunately can't put it into words as well as others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a very unpleasant man. I hope nobody took his comments to heart. He obviously has some insecurity issues and possibly an anxiety problem. Nobody on this site needs to be insulted."

Unfortunately attitudes like his are all too common on here recently. Yes there are decent folk but the true knobs spoil it for many. Remember that when your carefully crafted message is deleted the woman you have messaged has probably received abuse for politely turning someone down in the past. It's easier to just delete and block. Sadly things won't change as sites like this attract nuckle dragging neanderthals.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a very unpleasant man. I hope nobody took his comments to heart. He obviously has some insecurity issues and possibly an anxiety problem. Nobody on this site needs to be insulted.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Oh undoubtedly lol, although with several hundred miles distance I think my horse would be doa lol...

I've got a thick skin. Women need them on here. That's why so many women leave shortly after joining. Then guys complain there are too few women on here and it's too difficult to get meets!

It might answer the OPs question though.

I also find it amusing when people without the backbone to show what they look like call other people ugly

Gotta love this place

you pick out isolated and rare incidents and make out they are the norm ,most people here are polite and do not make personal insults ,you however get personal I've seen it on many occassions ,that guy was out of order but he reacted negatively to your negativity and some unfortunately can't put it into words as well as others "

How do you know what it is normal for women to get in terms of messages and replies?

You don't.

Look at how many women just on this thread have said men can react badly and become abusive or even threatening. It's not as rare as you're claiming.

I didn't say anything insulting to mr. abusive, even though his first post was insulting to women. I pointed out he has the same rights as women on here, which he does. His response was instantly rude and patronising and he escalated when "shut the fuck up, cupcake" didn't put me in my place. His response isn't the norm but far from what you think, it's not uncommon.

The reason you agree with him is because you also feel bitter about how hard done by you are on here. I've seen you say similar plenty of times.

You're not above stirring, being negative and trying to cause trouble yourself, so you really don't have grounds to criticise anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Oh undoubtedly lol, although with several hundred miles distance I think my horse would be doa lol...

I've got a thick skin. Women need them on here. That's why so many women leave shortly after joining. Then guys complain there are too few women on here and it's too difficult to get meets!

It might answer the OPs question though.

I also find it amusing when people without the backbone to show what they look like call other people ugly

Gotta love this place

How do you know what it is normal for women to get in terms of messages and replies?

You don't.

Look at how many women just on this thread have said men can react badly and become abusive or even threatening. It's not as rare as you're claiming.

The reason you agree with him is because you also feel bitter about how hard done by you are on here. I've seen you say similar plenty of times.

You're not above stirring, being negative and trying to cause trouble yourself, so you really don't have grounds to criticise anyone else."

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men and women are rude on here. A man posts a thread and it ends up in a slanging match,with him having to justify his feelings. A woman posts the same and gets comforting hugs,tissues and a rallying around of the sisterhood and men who want to fuck her. This is what is wrong with the forums for me. I don't want to be treated differently to men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well this thread turned out great lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men and women are rude on here. A man posts a thread and it ends up in a slanging match,with him having to justify his feelings. A woman posts the same and gets comforting hugs,tissues and a rallying around of the sisterhood and men who want to fuck her. This is what is wrong with the forums for me. I don't want to be treated differently to men."

It's pathetic isn't it?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oooh that was a bit of a hijack! !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I post the same regardless of sex, but what I do notice is that on a woman's post my comment ~ that they might not want to hear ~ gets picked up way more quickly than on a mans thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake. "

If women have the upper hand its because some men let them in a hope of getting sex, any sex with any woman.

I've seen lots of women's profiles, ranty & demanding imo, which is their choice. I wouldn't go anywhere near them, yet they have a long list of veri's ~ which tells me some men will jump through the hoop like a performing seal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake.

If women have the upper hand its because some men let them in a hope of getting sex, any sex with any woman.

I can balance a ball on my nose !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What an unpleasant man!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The 'rare occasions' women have the upper hand?!

Shut the fuck up! Women have always had the upper hand and you know it.

I've been a member of this site for 2 years, and have had FOUR messages...you're proving my point cupcake.

If women have the upper hand its because some men let them in a hope of getting sex, any sex with any woman.

I can balance a ball on my nose !"

Clap your flippers,bark & you have the gig

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS I wasn't talking about expectation! I was talking about women who expect photos then refuse to send their own!

Interesting how I inadvertently exposed your disdain for men though..this is quite the experiment

We'd never exchanged so much as a word before.

I hope it serves as an example to explain to the OP why the woman/women he's referring to may not reply.

Oh undoubtedly lol, although with several hundred miles distance I think my horse would be doa lol...

I've got a thick skin. Women need them on here. That's why so many women leave shortly after joining. Then guys complain there are too few women on here and it's too difficult to get meets!

It might answer the OPs question though.

I also find it amusing when people without the backbone to show what they look like call other people ugly

Gotta love this place

How do you know what it is normal for women to get in terms of messages and replies?

You don't.

Look at how many women just on this thread have said men can react badly and become abusive or even threatening. It's not as rare as you're claiming.

The reason you agree with him is because you also feel bitter about how hard done by you are on here. I've seen you say similar plenty of times.

You're not above stirring, being negative and trying to cause trouble yourself, so you really don't have grounds to criticise anyone else."
hehe I'm not hard done by or bitter but I am sick of your negativity ,constantly attacking people ,you don't know statistics either all of what you say is supposition ,ok you can have opinions on your own experiences but having seen how negative you are can only imagine many are brought on by you ,I don't condone how that guy reacted but you wound him up to so a certain amount of the blame for how he reacted is on your shoulders ,I personally hate being negative and you have the ability to draw it out of me ,lighten up have an opinion by all means but stop reducing everything to a brawl ,we are in the forums to debate a point not reduce things to animosity ,peace man ,chill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What an unpleasant man!"

I think unpleasantness stems from tsome having a sense of entitlement which isn't met by the women they deem to be unworthy.

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