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A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol! |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!"
Why does she think you were checking her phone? |
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if its her in the wrong...I would hold your ground, never let it go and keep harping on about it when you do eventually start talking again...women love that  |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!"
Hold your ground x |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!
Why does she think you were checking her phone?"
She has become very protective of the phone. Not sure why |
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"Mmmm,I value the friendship a lot, but this is the third time she has done this over the phone, so I think thats why got so pissed of.
Stop looking?"
At no time have I ever looked, last time I put her phone on the charger knowing she would need it, she accused me of looking then too?? |
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These mobile phones are such a touchy subject I seen a story in fb once a girl swallow her phone so her be couldn't search it she ended up in the hospital |
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"If you have done nothing wrong you have nothing to say sorry for.
Hold your ground
My thoughts too, but I hate it when we are not talking"
But if you say sorry now she will think it is because you look at her phone and will not trust you anyway |
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"If you have done nothing wrong you have nothing to say sorry for.
Hold your ground
My thoughts too, but I hate it when we are not talking"
This is all a bit circular. We have no idea why you cannot convince her that you did not look at her phone.
Actually, if you charged it for her, you did technically look at her phone, if not the content in it.
We have no idea about your relationship with her. We have no idea about your or her history, present or future hopes. How on earth can we answer? How can you prove a negative? Oh, no, I didn't. Oh, yes, you did.
What's her number, by the way? |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!"
You chat and be open about how you feel and she will say how she feel too and you can sort it out . |
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ok. bit more info changes my advice a teeny bit.
right tell her you miss her, but also tell her you wasn't in her phone and don't know why she keeps accusing you of this. (it's possible she looks in your phone without your knowledge so is paranoid you're doing it to her).
leave it at that.
if someone accuses me of doing something i haven't done it usually is because they're doing it themselves and are paranoid. |
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"say sorry if you value her friendship more than your ego.
read that on facebook."
Yup, the quote I saw was 'Sorry doesn't have to mean you are wrong, just that you value your relationship more than your ego.'
You don't have to apologize for looking on her phone if you did not, you apologize for getting angry or saying harsh words, and you express your desire to restore things and put it behind you because her friendship means a lot to you. Just be honest about your feelings now.  |
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Please stand your ground. Us women hate to be wrong. But on the odd occasion we are, do apologise eventually.!!!!! 
But friendships are very important. And trust is an important thing in a friendship.
Have a chat with her see if she's insecure about something or maybe she's just hiding something.
But Defo stand your ground xx |
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"Personally I think it just comes down to the fact she doesn't trust you. The phone today, something else tomorrow.
Mmmm you could be wright there. Any words of wisdom?"
I would send a message saying I can't change whether or not you think I looked at the phone. I think it shows you don't trust me and that hurts. I think the world of you and your friendship is really important to me. I trust you enough to show my vulnerable side, can you do the same for me?
Either way you approach it you are opening yourself up for rejection.
But if she keeps hurting you, is it worth investing time and effort into this friendship? |
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"Personally I think it just comes down to the fact she doesn't trust you. The phone today, something else tomorrow.
Mmmm you could be wright there. Any words of wisdom?
I would send a message saying I can't change whether or not you think I looked at the phone. I think it shows you don't trust me and that hurts. I think the world of you and your friendship is really important to me. I trust you enough to show my vulnerable side, can you do the same for me?
Either way you approach it you are opening yourself up for rejection.
But if she keeps hurting you, is it worth investing time and effort into this friendship?"
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"Personally I think it just comes down to the fact she doesn't trust you. The phone today, something else tomorrow.
Mmmm you could be wright there. Any words of wisdom?
I would send a message saying I can't change whether or not you think I looked at the phone. I think it shows you don't trust me and that hurts. I think the world of you and your friendship is really important to me. I trust you enough to show my vulnerable side, can you do the same for me?
Either way you approach it you are opening yourself up for rejection.
But if she keeps hurting you, is it worth investing time and effort into this friendship?"
I was just going to say the same thing. Friends should trust you and make you feel good, she seems to do neither. |
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I wouldn't back down.
If the phone is password protected and there is no way of me knowing it and I have told them that I did not look but they think I am lying, then I'm not sure I want to be friends with someone who cannot trust me.
If they change their mind and want to apologise then they know where to find me. |
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"Personally I think it just comes down to the fact she doesn't trust you. The phone today, something else tomorrow.
Mmmm you could be wright there. Any words of wisdom?
I would send a message saying I can't change whether or not you think I looked at the phone. I think it shows you don't trust me and that hurts. I think the world of you and your friendship is really important to me. I trust you enough to show my vulnerable side, can you do the same for me?
Either way you approach it you are opening yourself up for rejection.
But if she keeps hurting you, is it worth investing time and effort into this friendship?
I was just going to say the same thing. Friends should trust you and make you feel good, she seems to do neither. "
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Are yous fuck buds or has she said she's only fucking you, maybe there's something she's not fully explained to you or missed out on telling you. cause to me a friend wouldn't do their nut if your just putting their phone on charge there's more to this than your letting on. |
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"She sounds like a nutjob, frankly. And what's she up to that she is so afraid of you finding out?"
Her husband doesn't know she is shagging someone else?
And thinks the OP will find out and grass her up?
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"She sounds like a nutjob, frankly. And what's she up to that she is so afraid of you finding out?
Her husband doesn't know she is shagging someone else?
And thinks the OP will find out and grass her up?
You may have a point there, but I have know intention on telling her hubby. Yes shes married but I made it clear that im not judging her as that part is now of my business
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A few years ago with my ex, I woke up one night, my ex was placing my fingers on my touch screen to open it  while I was sleeping
That was the final straw
Stop looking at her phone !!! |
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Sorry but this is just screaming DRAMA QUEEN!!!
Tell her to get over herself, there's nothing in her phone that could possibly be of interest to you.
And when she has finished feeling like she is the most important person on the planet, she will feel like the only person on the planet, because everyone else was tired of your shit. |
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"A few years ago with my ex, I woke up one night, my ex was placing my fingers on my touch screen to open it while I was sleeping
That was the final straw
Stop looking at her phone !!!"
Let me make it clear at no time have I looked though her phone, and if I had wanted to it would be impossible as it is pin code locked |
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"I should have also said her phone is pin locked, but she thinks that I somehow figured out the pin number?"
Wow! Tell her you're outta there as the FBI have recruited you to unlock a terrorist I Phone ...  |
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"say sorry if you value her friendship more than your ego.
read that on facebook."
Sorry for what ?? HER insecurities ? If you know you've not been checking it stick to your guns what's the point in having friends who don't trust you anyway ? |
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"A few years ago with my ex, I woke up one night, my ex was placing my fingers on my touch screen to open it while I was sleeping
That was the final straw
Stop looking at her phone !!!
Let me make it clear at no time have I looked though her phone, and if I had wanted to it would be impossible as it is pin code locked"
Ah so you have noticed it's pin locked, hmmmmm....maybe she's on a swing site or having an affair with someone you know... |
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"A few years ago with my ex, I woke up one night, my ex was placing my fingers on my touch screen to open it while I was sleeping
That was the final straw
Stop looking at her phone !!!
Let me make it clear at no time have I looked though her phone, and if I had wanted to it would be impossible as it is pin code locked
Ah so you have noticed it's pin locked, hmmmmm....maybe she's on a swing site or having an affair with someone you know..."
I don't own her, she is entitled to see who she wishes, but why all the Hostility |
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Eurgh. I can't stand drama. If she's a really good friend then you will find a way to sort it out. I personally wouldn't have time for someone like that in my life. |
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"A few years ago with my ex, I woke up one night, my ex was placing my fingers on my touch screen to open it while I was sleeping
That was the final straw
Stop looking at her phone !!!
Let me make it clear at no time have I looked though her phone, and if I had wanted to it would be impossible as it is pin code locked
Ah so you have noticed it's pin locked, hmmmmm....maybe she's on a swing site or having an affair with someone you know...
I don't own her, she is entitled to see who she wishes, but why all the Hostility"
Just stop seeing her for a while, obviously she's got something that's bugging her, give her some space and see if she comes bk to normal... |
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"A few years ago with my ex, I woke up one night, my ex was placing my fingers on my touch screen to open it while I was sleeping
That was the final straw
Stop looking at her phone !!!
Let me make it clear at no time have I looked though her phone, and if I had wanted to it would be impossible as it is pin code locked
Ah so you have noticed it's pin locked, hmmmmm....maybe she's on a swing site or having an affair with someone you know...
I don't own her, she is entitled to see who she wishes, but why all the Hostility"
No hostility. Just a strange question for you to ask.
You know the situation. We don't.
If you think she is a bunny-boiler then you know what to do. If she thinks you are a bunny-boiler, then she knows what to do. |
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If you like her & value the friendship then I would reiterate one more time quite firmly, what she means to you but you're not apologising as you've done nothing wrong.
If she won't let it drop after that then i wouldnt bother any more. You tried & you can't say fairer than that. |
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"Thanks everyone for your thoughts, I think its time her and I went our separate ways, and as much as I do like her, I can't be bothered with crap that comes with friendship."
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!"
If she accused you without any evidence and still insists then she is not worth having as a friend, just fuck her now n' then, kick her out after you cum |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol! If she accused you without any evidence and still insists then she is not worth having as a friend, just fuck her now n' then, kick her out after you cum "
As much as id like to do that, I think a clean break is best |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!
Why does she think you were checking her phone?
She has become very protective of the phone. Not sure why"
Because it is private !! |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!"
She is Not your friend. |
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"A lady im very friendly with wont speak to me cos she thinks I was checking her phone, and as I wasnt I wont back down, so we fell out. So do I say sorry or hold my ground.
Think I might regret this one lol!
Why does she think you were checking her phone?
She has become very protective of the phone. Not sure why
Because it is private !! "
You might want to read the entire thread |
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"She's on here  ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again."
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings |
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"She's on here ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again.
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings"
Oh? Has she started back thread in which people call you a nut job and allowed it to go unchallenged? |
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"She's on here ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again.
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings
Oh? Has she started back thread in which people call you a nut job and allowed it to go unchallenged?"
Well isn't it a good job that no where on here I have named her or gave a hint as to who she is |
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"She's on here ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again.
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings
Oh? Has she started back thread in which people call you a nut job and allowed it to go unchallenged?
Well isn't it a good job that no where on here I have named her or gave a hint as to who she is"
Lets wait & see if she turns up in the thread, that has happened before & sparks have flown! |
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"She's on here ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again.
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings
Oh? Has she started back thread in which people call you a nut job and allowed it to go unchallenged?
Well isn't it a good job that no where on here I have named her or gave a hint as to who she is"
That doesn't make it ok in my opinion. |
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"She's on here ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again.
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings
Oh? Has she started back thread in which people call you a nut job and allowed it to go unchallenged?
Well isn't it a good job that no where on here I have named her or gave a hint as to who she is
Lets wait & see if she turns up in the thread, that has happened before & sparks have flown!"
I would guess they would, but everything I have said is the truth, so I guess sometimes the truth does hurt |
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"She's on here ? Bloomin eck
Yep she is
How do you think she might feel reading this? I don't think you need to resolve the row if I was her I'd never speak to you again.
Not sure, but I doubt she gave much thought for my feelings
Oh? Has she started back thread in which people call you a nut job and allowed it to go unchallenged?
Well isn't it a good job that no where on here I have named her or gave a hint as to who she is
That doesn't make it ok in my opinion. "
And I respect your opinion |
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"Try telling her to calm down. Pronounce it thus: Caaaaaaalllm down. It's not worked for anyone else in a row, but there is always a first time. Let us know how you get on "
Do you say that twice in a liverpudly in accent |
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"Personally I think it just comes down to the fact she doesn't trust you. The phone today, something else tomorrow.
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this is probley the truth,but stop touching the bloody phone.If the battery goes flat thats her prob |
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"Personally I think it just comes down to the fact she doesn't trust you. The phone today, something else tomorrow.
this is probley the truth,but stop touching the bloody phone.If the battery goes flat thats her prob "
Just thought I was being helpful, but that back fire |
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Trust
Insecurity
Protection
Understanding
So my opinion .....
I'm sorry you are upset
I'm sorry it's effected our friendship
I suggest Sweet you put a passcode on your phone so if i move it / charge it / it won't cause an issue
Darling if u r concerned ....just ensure ur messages don't come up on the screen - change the settings
Or
I won't touch ur phone
Don't worry about it after that and thus no false apology xx
Just a suggestion X
Mwah
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"Trust
Insecurity
Protection
Understanding
So my opinion .....
I'm sorry you are upset
I'm sorry it's effected our friendship
I suggest Sweet you put a passcode on your phone so if i move it / charge it / it won't cause an issue
Darling if u r concerned ....just ensure ur messages don't come up on the screen - change the settings
Or
I won't touch ur phone
Don't worry about it after that and thus no false apology xx
Just a suggestion X
Mwah
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Thankyou, I think lol! |
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My theory is that she's secretly in love with you and has been writing love notes to you on her phone, your picture is her background etc. and she's been accusing you of looking at her phone to make you actually go and look at it to discover this dark secret, then because you claim you haven't actually looked at it she's gotten all upset and embarrassed and now doesn't want anything to do with you!
Mystery solved |
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