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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This thread was sparked by another thread and I thought it could be a bit of fun. Love can creep up on us in the strangest places and turn out world inside out momentarily, for a while or for a lifetime. When and where it happens seems random, though some of us may try to be systematic about seeking connection, relationships and love.
When I thought about my experiences of 'love' finding me, there was a strangeness to all of them.
My first happened was at a bus stop.....meeting a girl, I'll never forget, that was my first love albeit only for a short while
The next time was at a convent .....
The next was in a University Chapel....
The next was at a house party....
And the final one was on an Internet forum.....
Only one of those has stood the test of time, but each deeply affected me emotionally, created an attachment to the other person for a period of time and had the possibility of blossoming into a long term relationship, but timing, circumstances and lots of other factors contributed to whether it flourished or not. Each of them I have very fond memories of, that will last a lifetime.
What weird and wonderful places has love found you? |
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I've never been in love. I've never looked for love. I've never been close to finding it or it finding me. I won't lie though, I do long for it. My heart feels like a very empty place at times.
I still hold out hope though. I'm of the firm belief it will hit me when I least expect it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've never been in love. I've never looked for love. I've never been close to finding it or it finding me. I won't lie though, I do long for it. My heart feels like a very empty place at times.
I still hold out hope though. I'm of the firm belief it will hit me when I least expect it."
I agree on not expecting it. In all of those cases above I was not expecting it, and three of them not really wanting the complication of it finding me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There is no such Love, but there is affection passion respect which form the word Love."
Perhaps. Love is a word that human beings have made up to describe a set of emotions and feelings that they found hard to describe any other way. My experience of love is no doubt different to yours, to the point that you deny it exists. Fair enough  |
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"This thread was sparked by another thread and I thought it could be a bit of fun. Love can creep up on us in the strangest places and turn out world inside out momentarily, for a while or for a lifetime. When and where it happens seems random, though some of us may try to be systematic about seeking connection, relationships and love.
When I thought about my experiences of 'love' finding me, there was a strangeness to all of them.
My first happened was at a bus stop.....meeting a girl, I'll never forget, that was my first love albeit only for a short while
The next time was at a convent .....
The next was in a University Chapel....
The next was at a house party....
And the final one was on an Internet forum.....
Only one of those has stood the test of time, but each deeply affected me emotionally, created an attachment to the other person for a period of time and had the possibility of blossoming into a long term relationship, but timing, circumstances and lots of other factors contributed to whether it flourished or not. Each of them I have very fond memories of, that will last a lifetime.
What weird and wonderful places has love found you?"
I fall in love freely, but I cannot think of any weird and wonderful places offhand - I have nearly always just formed new relationship from among a group of peers in whatever social group I was in, eg through college, or once or twice the internet.
One exception was a love affair that came about because I spotted a guy who looked like Robert Redford in a wine bar on New Years Eve, so I made sure I just 'happened' to be standing by him at midnight...   |
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This post resonates with me.
The first time was in army barracks. The blokes lived downstairs, the women above (Longcross Barracks, MVEE, Chertsey). I was 19 and fell for someone who couldn't reciprocate.
The second time was three months ago and it goes beyond love, I have had a pain near my heart since the day I saw him on an escalator, outside Starbucks of all places, the world really did stand still and my heart exploded.
We can't be together and that REALLY hurts. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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One exception was a love affair that came about because I spotted a guy who looked like Robert Redford in a wine bar on New Years Eve, so I made sure I just 'happened' to be standing by him at midnight... "
Haha resourceful as ever |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This post resonates with me.
The first time was in army barracks. The blokes lived downstairs, the women above (Longcross Barracks, MVEE, Chertsey). I was 19 and fell for someone who couldn't reciprocate.
The second time was three months ago and it goes beyond love, I have had a pain near my heart since the day I saw him on an escalator, outside Starbucks of all places, the world really did stand still and my heart exploded.
We can't be together and that REALLY hurts."
unrequited love is shit  |
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"This post resonates with me.
The first time was in army barracks. The blokes lived downstairs, the women above (Longcross Barracks, MVEE, Chertsey). I was 19 and fell for someone who couldn't reciprocate.
The second time was three months ago and it goes beyond love, I have had a pain near my heart since the day I saw him on an escalator, outside Starbucks of all places, the world really did stand still and my heart exploded.
We can't be together and that REALLY hurts. unrequited love is shit "
It fucking is, I don't know what hurts more. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It occurred to me the other day that I've never actually been in love, despite having had a seven year relationship in the past. Hah. "
So how did the relationship happen? What caused it to last seven years? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This post resonates with me.
The first time was in army barracks. The blokes lived downstairs, the women above (Longcross Barracks, MVEE, Chertsey). I was 19 and fell for someone who couldn't reciprocate.
The second time was three months ago and it goes beyond love, I have had a pain near my heart since the day I saw him on an escalator, outside Starbucks of all places, the world really did stand still and my heart exploded.
We can't be together and that REALLY hurts. unrequited love is shit
It fucking is, I don't know what hurts more."
Nor do I, it messes with the whole of you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I found love at a funeral. It was always awkward when people asked how we met! Not exactly a romantic setting!"
Oh I don't know, I think there's something romantic about the idea that as one person who was loved dies, another love is born. Endings and beginnings seems appropriate to me - but I am weird  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I found love in a DJ podium in a local bar in the North East eighteen years ago, the sexiest most beautiful girl I'd ever seen walked in with a tiny denim skirt on, legs all the way to heaven asked me to play "Barbie girl" I told her to fuck off and we've been together ever since |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never been in love. I've never looked for love. I've never been close to finding it or it finding me. I won't lie though, I do long for it. My heart feels like a very empty place at times.
I still hold out hope though. I'm of the firm belief it will hit me when I least expect it."
I remember listening to a radio show with listeners sharing their stories. Many didn't find love until their 40's up to their 80's.
I once found love at the vets. With a person I hasten to add!
Sarah
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've never been in love. I've never looked for love. I've never been close to finding it or it finding me. I won't lie though, I do long for it. My heart feels like a very empty place at times.
I still hold out hope though. I'm of the firm belief it will hit me when I least expect it.
I remember listening to a radio show with listeners sharing their stories. Many didn't find love until their 40's up to their 80's.
I once found love at the vets. With a person I hasten to add!
Sarah
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Hey don't knock it, your soulmate could be a dog or a cat if you believe in reincarnation
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I found love in a DJ podium in a local bar in the North East eighteen years ago, the sexiest most beautiful girl I'd ever seen walked in with a tiny denim skirt on, legs all the way to heaven asked me to play "Barbie girl" I told her to fuck off and we've been together ever since
I love your chat up line "
It doesn't work as well on her these days though haha , she's likely to get a paddle out and beat my arse for it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I found love in a DJ podium in a local bar in the North East eighteen years ago, the sexiest most beautiful girl I'd ever seen walked in with a tiny denim skirt on, legs all the way to heaven asked me to play "Barbie girl" I told her to fuck off and we've been together ever since
I love your chat up line
It doesn't work as well on her these days though haha , she's likely to get a paddle out and beat my arse for it "
hmmm love hurts |
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"I've never been in love. I've never looked for love. I've never been close to finding it or it finding me. I won't lie though, I do long for it. My heart feels like a very empty place at times.
I still hold out hope though. I'm of the firm belief it will hit me when I least expect it.
I remember listening to a radio show with listeners sharing their stories. Many didn't find love until their 40's up to their 80's.
I once found love at the vets. With a person I hasten to add!
Sarah
Hey don't knock it, your soulmate could be a dog or a cat if you believe in reincarnation
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You don't have to believe in reincarnation - I was deeply in love with the horse I bred from the moment I saw his heartbeat on the mare's 21 day scan! We were really bonded and close his whole life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've never been in love. I've never looked for love. I've never been close to finding it or it finding me. I won't lie though, I do long for it. My heart feels like a very empty place at times.
I still hold out hope though. I'm of the firm belief it will hit me when I least expect it.
I remember listening to a radio show with listeners sharing their stories. Many didn't find love until their 40's up to their 80's.
I once found love at the vets. With a person I hasten to add!
Sarah
Hey don't knock it, your soulmate could be a dog or a cat if you believe in reincarnation
You don't have to believe in reincarnation - I was deeply in love with the horse I bred from the moment I saw his heartbeat on the mare's 21 day scan! We were really bonded and close his whole life."
I'm sure you are not alone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Daniel Bedingfield- If you're not the one https://youtu.be/j6nevGNYTkA"
Love that song but had kind of forgotten about it, despite posting a link to one of his sister's. Just getting old and forgetful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I found love in a DJ podium in a local bar in the North East eighteen years ago, the sexiest most beautiful girl I'd ever seen walked in with a tiny denim skirt on, legs all the way to heaven asked me to play "Barbie girl" I told her to fuck off and we've been together ever since "
haha... Love this. xx |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
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"Someone once told me that if you truly love someone then you're prepared to sacrifice your own life to save there's...going by that definition I can safely say that I've never been in love! "
Ops...theirs! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Someone once told me that if you truly love someone then you're prepared to sacrifice your own life to save there's...going by that definition I can safely say that I've never been in love! "
You don't have to be in love to be willing to sacrifice your life for others, but it is a good criterion in my mind for love. |
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The first time was with my then boyfriends best mate, we ended up being married for nearly 30 years. It took 20 years for my ex to forgive us. The second time was through the internet, when we met my knees almost gave way and my world turned upside down - sadly it was not reciprocated and i have never known physical pain like it. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ive only been in love once. That came about on an internet chat room. We only chatted for a day or 2 before we met and have been together ever since "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The first time was with my then boyfriends best mate, we ended up being married for nearly 30 years. It took 20 years for my ex to forgive us. The second time was through the internet, when we met my knees almost gave way and my world turned upside down - sadly it was not reciprocated and i have never known physical pain like it. Xx"
As Topsy and I said above unrequited love is shit. It buggers everything up
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
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"Someone once told me that if you truly love someone then you're prepared to sacrifice your own life to save there's...going by that definition I can safely say that I've never been in love!
You don't have to be in love to be willing to sacrifice your life for others, but it is a good criterion in my mind for love."
Oh I totally agree. I would make that sacrifice for certain family members and had the need arisen when I was serving in the armed forces then I wouldn't be here today. |
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"I had a romance with a guy I met in a homeless shelter.
I ought to point out he was a volunteer and I was a local district nurse popping in to check on the clients. "
Awweee I love this ....are you still together ...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I found love each time I gave birth. Hits you like a train and never goes.
Now for romantic love here's hoping "
Yep being there at birth of my son was most definitely, for me what I would describe as, the most powerful feeling of love I have ever experienced and as you say, it never goes away. I can't even imagine how powerful that feeling might be for a mother |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"This thread was sparked by another thread and I thought it could be a bit of fun. Love can creep up on us in the strangest places and turn out world inside out momentarily, for a while or for a lifetime. When and where it happens seems random, though some of us may try to be systematic about seeking connection, relationships and love.
When I thought about my experiences of 'love' finding me, there was a strangeness to all of them.
My first happened was at a bus stop.....meeting a girl, I'll never forget, that was my first love albeit only for a short while
The next time was at a convent .....
The next was in a University Chapel....
The next was at a house party....
And the final one was on an Internet forum.....
Only one of those has stood the test of time, but each deeply affected me emotionally, created an attachment to the other person for a period of time and had the possibility of blossoming into a long term relationship, but timing, circumstances and lots of other factors contributed to whether it flourished or not. Each of them I have very fond memories of, that will last a lifetime.
What weird and wonderful places has love found you?"
The top of a hill in a raging thunderstorm.
Behind the sound desk at a gig.
Most recently? The entrance to Temple Meads train station. I smile every time I go through there now despite all the numpties with no spatial awareness getting in my way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This thread was sparked by another thread and I thought it could be a bit of fun. Love can creep up on us in the strangest places and turn out world inside out momentarily, for a while or for a lifetime. When and where it happens seems random, though some of us may try to be systematic about seeking connection, relationships and love.
When I thought about my experiences of 'love' finding me, there was a strangeness to all of them.
My first happened was at a bus stop.....meeting a girl, I'll never forget, that was my first love albeit only for a short while
The next time was at a convent .....
The next was in a University Chapel....
The next was at a house party....
And the final one was on an Internet forum.....
Only one of those has stood the test of time, but each deeply affected me emotionally, created an attachment to the other person for a period of time and had the possibility of blossoming into a long term relationship, but timing, circumstances and lots of other factors contributed to whether it flourished or not. Each of them I have very fond memories of, that will last a lifetime.
What weird and wonderful places has love found you?
The top of a hill in a raging thunderstorm.
Behind the sound desk at a gig.
Most recently? The entrance to Temple Meads train station. I smile every time I go through there now despite all the numpties with no spatial awareness getting in my way."
How very Brief Encounter like! |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"This thread was sparked by another thread and I thought it could be a bit of fun. Love can creep up on us in the strangest places and turn out world inside out momentarily, for a while or for a lifetime. When and where it happens seems random, though some of us may try to be systematic about seeking connection, relationships and love.
When I thought about my experiences of 'love' finding me, there was a strangeness to all of them.
My first happened was at a bus stop.....meeting a girl, I'll never forget, that was my first love albeit only for a short while
The next time was at a convent .....
The next was in a University Chapel....
The next was at a house party....
And the final one was on an Internet forum.....
Only one of those has stood the test of time, but each deeply affected me emotionally, created an attachment to the other person for a period of time and had the possibility of blossoming into a long term relationship, but timing, circumstances and lots of other factors contributed to whether it flourished or not. Each of them I have very fond memories of, that will last a lifetime.
What weird and wonderful places has love found you?
The top of a hill in a raging thunderstorm.
Behind the sound desk at a gig.
Most recently? The entrance to Temple Meads train station. I smile every time I go through there now despite all the numpties with no spatial awareness getting in my way. How very Brief Encounter like! "
Oh, it's been maintained for nearly two years now. So not that brief an encounter. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This thread was sparked by another thread and I thought it could be a bit of fun. Love can creep up on us in the strangest places and turn out world inside out momentarily, for a while or for a lifetime. When and where it happens seems random, though some of us may try to be systematic about seeking connection, relationships and love.
When I thought about my experiences of 'love' finding me, there was a strangeness to all of them.
My first happened was at a bus stop.....meeting a girl, I'll never forget, that was my first love albeit only for a short while
The next time was at a convent .....
The next was in a University Chapel....
The next was at a house party....
And the final one was on an Internet forum.....
Only one of those has stood the test of time, but each deeply affected me emotionally, created an attachment to the other person for a period of time and had the possibility of blossoming into a long term relationship, but timing, circumstances and lots of other factors contributed to whether it flourished or not. Each of them I have very fond memories of, that will last a lifetime.
What weird and wonderful places has love found you?
The top of a hill in a raging thunderstorm.
Behind the sound desk at a gig.
Most recently? The entrance to Temple Meads train station. I smile every time I go through there now despite all the numpties with no spatial awareness getting in my way. How very Brief Encounter like!
Oh, it's been maintained for nearly two years now. So not that brief an encounter. "
oh how lovely! |
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