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Marriage crisis and extra fun

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

I know we might overcome another crisis but this week I have a strong feel stronger than ever I missed out so many happy and relaxing days. I always tend to be more positive than negative but this situation makes me feel miserably negative at the moment, escape anyone similar?!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

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By *usie pTV/TS over a year ago

taunton

I would think you have a good case for marriage guidance and a hard look at your situation we really should not waste lives being unhappy but be sure you know what you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Not sure that marriage crisis and this aspect are compatible, yes a short term escape may ease the situation for one (or both if that's what is going on) but would think its only papering over the cracks..

sort the crisis out one way or the other then back to the fun this aspect may bring maybe..

either way good luck with the crisis..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing worse than not feeling comfortable on a day to day basis because of your marriage. You only get one life hun don't waste it. All the best Mrs A x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suspect extra fun will inky fuel the marriage crisis and not resolve it.

If you want to cheat, cheat. Your life, your morals, your choice, your consequences. Do you really need affirmation from strangers that it is okay?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nothing worse than not feeling comfortable on a day to day basis because of your marriage. You only get one life hun don't waste it. All the best Mrs A x"

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suspect extra fun will inky fuel the marriage crisis and not resolve it.

If you want to cheat, cheat. Your life, your morals, your choice, your consequences. Do you really need affirmation from strangers that it is okay?"

I never cheated nor my intention is cheating, I actually more than ever want to be happy finally!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change .."

Ok, I understand.

I can't help I'm afraid because my advice is always to talk to your partner, the answer to relationship problems is very rarely found outside the relationship. Any emotional support you find on fab will be transitory and very possibly false and looking for it here makes you very emotionally vulnerable.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect extra fun will inky fuel the marriage crisis and not resolve it.

If you want to cheat, cheat. Your life, your morals, your choice, your consequences. Do you really need affirmation from strangers that it is okay?

I never cheated nor my intention is cheating, I actually more than ever want to be happy finally!"

Sorry I'm confused then. What exactly are you asking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suspect extra fun will inky fuel the marriage crisis and not resolve it.

If you want to cheat, cheat. Your life, your morals, your choice, your consequences. Do you really need affirmation from strangers that it is okay?

I never cheated nor my intention is cheating, I actually more than ever want to be happy finally!

Sorry I'm confused then. What exactly are you asking?"

I feel marriage always have up side downs but more than ever I would Love to find somebody in my shoes first for talk and second yes maybe sex. And my husband knows it I would tell him so cheating excluded.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Good advice from Niceouple, OP i would ask for this thread to be deleted and hide your profile or delete it and try and get some professional help to sort your marriage out..

this is a distraction that neither of you need and it only serves to show a lack of respect for your Oh..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

When someone doesn't want to talk to you and you don't get a response back it's usually when they have given up. Make yourself happy and make your own choices and if your partner appreciates that and goes along great if not you have to make some tough decisions. I do feel tho as soon as the communication breaks down its hard to get it back or you find you will get everything out at once and everything that's annoyed them for the past 8 years x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Good advice from Niceouple, OP i would ask for this thread to be deleted and hide your profile or delete it and try and get some professional help to sort your marriage out..

this is a distraction that neither of you need and it only serves to show a lack of respect for your Oh.."

I just can not get why I have to delete it...well we all are just learning why pretend to be so perfect..lack of respect? I am talking to my husband and he knows I am here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good advice from Niceouple, OP i would ask for this thread to be deleted and hide your profile or delete it and try and get some professional help to sort your marriage out..

this is a distraction that neither of you need and it only serves to show a lack of respect for your Oh.."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

I feel close to your opinion...he does not want to make any decisions he always has wanted me to do it first like he says to me do what you want do ,,,I realized I do not want to make that decision first either so we are stuck and miserably unhappy for several days already at the moment.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net."

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

I actually realized I would selfishy go and find another man, feel I have given away everything and most of time never feel emotionally fulfilled I have realized I was giving more than receive, and feel now my own resentment but im not evil I just want to be happy finally and feel cared loved spoilt emotionally and physically Along the Way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

At the minute we are falling apart, the thing I never liked he is a type of holding in emotions but me expressing out, he is not giving away emotions and talks little and he tends all his life to be depressive type in thinking. I accepted him as he is, encouraged to express himself and basically I was crying please talk to me.. for us women we need a husband who emotionally cares and takes care of us vulnerable women."
nothing on your profile says you're married and playing with husbands permission...so either it's misleading or he doesn't know either way I can't help but this if a man posted this with your profile he would be given stick

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got - or something like that.

Only you can decide whether to stay or go. Many stay - have their cake and eat it at the same time. That's never been my kind of thing, but it works for some.

Talk to your husband about how you feel and be honest.

Sarah

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

You sound as if you're at the end of your tether but we're only hearing your side and that isn't fair. Seek some help in a place that won't make either of you vulnerable and stop being disrespectful to your husband to strangers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good advice from Niceouple, OP i would ask for this thread to be deleted and hide your profile or delete it and try and get some professional help to sort your marriage out..

this is a distraction that neither of you need and it only serves to show a lack of respect for your Oh.."

top advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

At the minute we are falling apart, the thing I never liked he is a type of holding in emotions but me expressing out, he is not giving away emotions and talks little and he tends all his life to be depressive type in thinking. I accepted him as he is, encouraged to express himself and basically I was crying please talk to me.. for us women we need a husband who emotionally cares and takes care of us vulnerable women. nothing on your profile says you're married and playing with husbands permission...so either it's misleading or he doesn't know either way I can't help but this if a man posted this with your profile he would be given stick "

Now I have not posted it out but its true, anyway he knows this profile here. its just my choice to shout about it and I do not mislead anyone as most men do not care anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I had posted this I don't think I would of received the same response. It would of been we all feel sorry for the wife

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I had posted this I don't think I would of received the same response. It would of been we all feel sorry for the wife"

Really? Have not seen a man yet in my shoes..sorry for you...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct."

You don't find it disrespectful? Well,of course not, you see only your own side, it seems.

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By *ormalguy71Man over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Its a vey hard one I agree.

I used to be similar to your OH and would never talk or show emotions.

Last year I changed, I now wear my heart on my sleeve and show emotions when they are needed, that resulted in me splitting from my ex as she refused point blank to show any form of emotion and I could not live like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I had posted this I don't think I would of received the same response. It would of been we all feel sorry for the wife"

I think it often depends on how a post is worded and who replies to you first. Whether everyone follows that pattern or makes their own mind up.

Sarah

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct."

To be fair, the only thing similar is we are all on here to swing. As much as you can ask for what you want on here ( within reason )you are asking people who know very little about your situation so can't really give you too much advice other than to talk to your husband.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct.

You don't find it disrespectful? Well,of course not, you see only your own side, it seems."

No I see his side always thats why I believe we are 17 years together but now I feel stronger than ever I am done, totally exhausted emotionally.he looks the same way but he does not want to try to please me, I encouraged him to try to please me with positive little things like we need to go out for date etc.but he is not interested he said.hes been depressed all his life there are different other reasons going Along as well.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct."

Fine. I try to be as consistent as possible in my replies and I recently said something similar to a man who had a relationship problem. If you don't find it disrespectful to discuss a person in a quite intimate way who has no right of reply we will need to agree to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Its a vey hard one I agree.

I used to be similar to your OH and would never talk or show emotions.

I exactly feel like that for years with happy intervals between but now feel so done with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct.

I understand and accept where people coming from trying to sort out somebody'S Condition I appreciate everybody.

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By *ormalguy71Man over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"Its a vey hard one I agree.

I used to be similar to your OH and would never talk or show emotions.

I exactly feel like that for years with happy intervals between but now feel so done with it."

It is very easy for people to judge but until you have been in this position you do not really know what it is like. Your a passionate expressive person and your partner is not, its easy to say talk or see relate but if the OH does not want to all it does is end up dragging you down.

My advice would be simple, if you truly believe this is the end of the road then just make the clean break now, prolonging it just causes more hurt and pain to both parties

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else being in middle of marriage crisis and crying for quality outside socialising and fun?

Sorry I don't really understand what you're saying. Is it that you would feel better if you met someone other than your husband?

I have realized after 17 years marriage that I hate marriage, I never recieved back enough emotionally but was always hoping for change ..

Ok, I understand.

Talk to your husband and if he's unwilling or unable to understand and you can't reach a compromise you have a decision to make.

Good luck.

Relate or similar. Don't expose his perceived failings to strangers on the net.

Not my intention as might sound difficult.

I do not find it disrespectful, I am here to talk to similar and i do not name his name or other wise so I can not see your blame correct.

All situations are individual, that has always been my belief and never been wrong as it s true we can not compare our situations, they might seem similar but always individual. I am talking here and to my husband as well,he is actually working now but he sent a text so my hope is he is worried.I am afraid he again wont compromise as he only loves his Way and that is continuing receiving more not willing to make change just Live and suffer like previously..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Its a vey hard one I agree.

I used to be similar to your OH and would never talk or show emotions.

I exactly feel like that for years with happy intervals between but now feel so done with it.

My advice would be simple, if you truly believe this is the end of the road then just make the clean break now, prolonging it just causes more hurt and pain to both parties"

You got me it is really what you are saying,,, the pain is terrible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've walked in your shoes. Well my shoes but you know what I mean.

I spent many years in a one way relationship with me open and honest, her closed and cold.

I've covered what turned it around do dramatically in here several times so I won't bore you with details again.

The biggest rescuing factor was we dropped our barriers and openly talked. We had both realised we wanted to find a way through and other people weren't the answer. Talking was. Lots of talking.

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By *ormalguy71Man over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"Its a vey hard one I agree.

I used to be similar to your OH and would never talk or show emotions.

I exactly feel like that for years with happy intervals between but now feel so done with it.

My advice would be simple, if you truly believe this is the end of the road then just make the clean break now, prolonging it just causes more hurt and pain to both parties

You got me it is really what you are saying,,, the pain is terrible."

The only thing I would say is be very careful you have opened yourself up here and are clearly in a vulnerable position, be wary that that does not get played on by others

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Its a vey hard one I agree.

I used to be similar to your OH and would never talk or show emotions.

I exactly feel like that for years with happy intervals between but now feel so done with it.

My advice would be simple, if you truly believe this is the end of the road then just make the clean break now, prolonging it just causes more hurt and pain to both parties

You got me it is really what you are saying,,, the pain is terrible.

The only thing I would say is be very careful you have opened yourself up here and are clearly in a vulnerable position, be wary that that does not get played on by others "

Hey thanks for looking after...

Nobody is trying to play and Im kind a woman who is not a twistable, I f-K off most men anyway knowing their score.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Leave him,come back with a burden off your back and try to get what you didn't get from your husband.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are plenty of men who will give you good sex;not so many who will make you feel loved.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect extra fun will inky fuel the marriage crisis and not resolve it.

If you want to cheat, cheat. Your life, your morals, your choice, your consequences. Do you really need affirmation from strangers that it is okay?"

Yes, this.

If you're asking strangers if it's ok to cheat on your partner, then your relationship is already so far broken that it might well be irrecoverable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've walked in your shoes. Well my shoes but you know what I mean.

I spent many years in a one way relationship with me open and honest, her closed and cold.

I've covered what turned it around do dramatically in here several times so I won't bore you with details again.

The biggest rescuing factor was we dropped our barriers and openly talked. We had both realised we wanted to find a way through and other people weren't the answer. Talking was. Lots of talking. "

with the caveat that it only works if both are also willing to listen....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couples therapy, sounds like you both have some issues you need to address and couples therapy can really help with that. it can help you to get on better day to day and to deal with your individual and combined issues.

But if you aren't both committed to it, there is no point so decision time for both of you, remain unhappy and do nothing, try to fix it and hope it works and work hard for it or leave each other and try to be good to each other during the process.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are plenty of men who will give you good sex;not so many who will make you feel loved."

Good sex no problem in this case I prefer vibe than plenty of men, but Making feel loved its another story of lifetime.. Which I truly Miss! I am still giving away to husband not receiving it in exchange..... It took ten years when I was treated my first cup of coffee in bed and squezzed out words, never been appreciated but he hands me out to other man if I want... Is That Love?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP if a man posted this he would get a very different view from people here on fab not a lot would feel sorry or care ........ Only you can sort this out and escaping here on fab with men who offer nothing but fast lane sex will not help it will just mess your head up ........Be true to yourself and do what is right for you and that takes guts . Only you can make your life happy don't look back and think if only .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've walked in your shoes. Well my shoes but you know what I mean.

I spent many years in a one way relationship with me open and honest, her closed and cold.

I've covered what turned it around do dramatically in here several times so I won't bore you with details again.

The biggest rescuing factor was we dropped our barriers and openly talked. We had both realised we wanted to find a way through and other people weren't the answer. Talking was. Lots of talking.

with the caveat that it only works if both are also willing to listen...."

Like I said; both. You have both got to drop the barriers and open up. If not then the best you can do it split without destroying each other.

I don't judge people who turn to others for comfort or simply sex when it's shit at home. It was shit at home for me for more years than I care to remember. Fucking a 21 year old wasn't the way to fix it. It did act as a wake up call though.

Talking and listening fixed it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've walked in your shoes. Well my shoes but you know what I mean.

I spent many years in a one way relationship with me open and honest, her closed and cold.

I've covered what turned it around do dramatically in here several times so I won't bore you with details again.

The biggest rescuing factor was we dropped our barriers and openly talked. We had both realised we wanted to find a way through and other people weren't the answer. Talking was. Lots of talking. "

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