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Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't need to be into someone to have sex with them. I just enjoy different experiences...
People have sex for different reasons, however if I were into one on one intimate sex with other guys then, yes id need to be into them... But that's not what I like
Don't tarnish people as.desperate because there needs and outlook is different from yours |
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No.
I have to find them interesting ( part of attraction)
Otherwise it's just the same as wanking, except using someone's body for it.
Actualy wanking is better in that case; at least I am having sex with someone I like  |
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By *jj46Man
over a year ago
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
I've declined a few on here giving me there phone by 2nd message I prefer the challenge and rather have a connection with them |
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"No.
I have to find them interesting ( part of attraction)
Otherwise it's just the same as wanking, except using someone's body for it.
Actualy wanking is better in that case; at least I am having sex with someone I like "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's not for me and I wouldn't meet anyone that will 'go with' anyone but each to their own. I'd rather make friends and build up a trust and friendship with someone before hand too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's not for me and I wouldn't meet anyone that will 'go with' anyone but each to their own. I'd rather make friends and build up a trust and friendship with someone before hand too."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a definite no no for me. And often I'm judged on that. They tell me it's a sex site or you can't be too choosy. Well actually I can mate!!! If I wanted a quick shag I'd be doing it on a weekend after drinking my body weight in alcohopops!!!! Then waking up the next day wondering did I didn't I. Who is this next to me!!!!
We all have standards and as we all have a type I believe being attracted to someone's mind as well as their body is paramount.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes of course we have !
Different experiences , especially in clubs and no names etc.....
Our planned meets are more to do with establishing a connection though . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've dropped my standards when desperate but can't get rid of the guy after so stopped doing this.
I wouldn't fuck anything though.
Have an exclusion zone of around 200 miles and you'll be fine  "
it is mainly guys in my town doing this, had a couple from the next towns nearby as well.  |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
No, I wouldn't. Has to be some attraction or might as well just flick the bean |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never in my life had sex with someone I didn't fancy, I can't think why I'd change that now. Picky and proud of it. "
Some of us can't afford to be picky |
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"I've dropped my standards when desperate but can't get rid of the guy after so stopped doing this.
I wouldn't fuck anything though.
Have an exclusion zone of around 200 miles and you'll be fine
it is mainly guys in my town doing this, had a couple from the next towns nearby as well. "
That's sad, if a guy can't take the hint and move on then maybe immaturity springs to mind? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've dropped my standards when desperate but can't get rid of the guy after so stopped doing this.
I wouldn't fuck anything though.
Have an exclusion zone of around 200 miles and you'll be fine
it is mainly guys in my town doing this, had a couple from the next towns nearby as well.
That's sad, if a guy can't take the hint and move on then maybe immaturity springs to mind?"
i think they just think that because i'm local then i'm convenient, so it does kind of make sense to want to meet regular.
i'd love a fwb as close as possible to meet up with regularly myself and did have a few a while back. now i'm looking for something more specific it's harder. |
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"I've dropped my standards when desperate but can't get rid of the guy after so stopped doing this.
I wouldn't fuck anything though.
Have an exclusion zone of around 200 miles and you'll be fine
it is mainly guys in my town doing this, had a couple from the next towns nearby as well.
That's sad, if a guy can't take the hint and move on then maybe immaturity springs to mind?
i think they just think that because i'm local then i'm convenient, so it does kind of make sense to want to meet regular.
i'd love a fwb as close as possible to meet up with regularly myself and did have a few a while back. now i'm looking for something more specific it's harder."
The more specific you are looking for, the harder it will be as well you probably realise. No doubt you've tried alternative sites, but I'm sure there are still plenty of decent blokes out there to fulfill your particular needs.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
I definitely wouldnt meet anyone im not physically attracted to, ive had debates on here with other women who say its just sex and not dating but im sorry i could never do it id rather go with out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No .. I have to find someone attractive .... I dont mean drop dead gorgeous ...but someone who interests me ....
Personality is very attractive. .... I have to have some sort of connection"
Good thing I have neither of those haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've dropped my standards when desperate but can't get rid of the guy after so stopped doing this.
I wouldn't fuck anything though.
Have an exclusion zone of around 200 miles and you'll be fine
it is mainly guys in my town doing this, had a couple from the next towns nearby as well.
That's sad, if a guy can't take the hint and move on then maybe immaturity springs to mind?
i think they just think that because i'm local then i'm convenient, so it does kind of make sense to want to meet regular.
i'd love a fwb as close as possible to meet up with regularly myself and did have a few a while back. now i'm looking for something more specific it's harder.
The more specific you are looking for, the harder it will be as well you probably realise. No doubt you've tried alternative sites, but I'm sure there are still plenty of decent blokes out there to fulfill your particular needs.
Good luck "
Yeah someone out there must want kinky ol' me.
Thanks. |
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"I've dropped my standards when desperate but can't get rid of the guy after so stopped doing this.
I wouldn't fuck anything though.
Have an exclusion zone of around 200 miles and you'll be fine
it is mainly guys in my town doing this, had a couple from the next towns nearby as well.
That's sad, if a guy can't take the hint and move on then maybe immaturity springs to mind?
i think they just think that because i'm local then i'm convenient, so it does kind of make sense to want to meet regular.
i'd love a fwb as close as possible to meet up with regularly myself and did have a few a while back. now i'm looking for something more specific it's harder.
The more specific you are looking for, the harder it will be as well you probably realise. No doubt you've tried alternative sites, but I'm sure there are still plenty of decent blokes out there to fulfill your particular needs.
Good luck
Yeah someone out there must want kinky ol' me.
Thanks."
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
Same here
I'd never lower my standards for a quick fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
Must take you a while then to find people then ? as I see your looking for 2 subs .
So will you chat to them for ages and get to know them personally ? Their likes and dislikes and so on ? Personally I've had subs in the passed and I'd have no regards for any of that.
Or are you talking just about looks alone ?? |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
No. I'm certainly not desperate and I have minimum standards that I won't compromise on. I'd much rather be a connoisseur than a bulk feeder that screws anything with a pulse. |
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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago
Goole |
"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
I'll take one for the team |
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Couldn't do it. I did it once at university and that was a disaster(I blame the drink, and the fact that she was a good kisser).
Saying that I somehow kind of envy the blokes/women who can do that, (sex)life would probably be easier(and god knows my balls are near on bursting at the minute).
There HAS to be a connection surely: you gt off on the looks AND the personality in order to enjoy the anticipation and the actual sex as well.No point if it's not explosive.
So to speak. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"There has to be something attractive but that could be looks or character or personality. All of the above is a massive bonus of course.  "
This
We're certainly not desperate and there has to be some kind of attraction but what that is, varies from person to person.
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No I wouldn't I have to be attracted to someome and that isn't necessarily looks but something about that person and I certainly wouldn't be shagging someone who said they would sleep with someome regardless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
Never. I have an exceptionally high sex drive but would never meet anyone im not attracted to ni matter how horny I am. There still has to be a spark |
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My faith in Fabswingers has been restored after reading the majority of the responses. I agree MUST have a physical attraction. Some guys on here are just any hole mentality. I would rather just have a wank and be done with it than live with a regret. I'm glad most of you feel the same. |
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"Would you just meet anyone regardless if you fancied them or not?
After speaking with quite a few people off here and being nosey I ask questions one being previous meets. Some people have admitted to meeting people they didn't like but it was because they just wanted sex and will never meet that person again.
I won't meet unless I'm fully into that person. Regrets are the worst."
depends what you mean by like?
I have had sex with a few people that have not really been my type looks wise not because i'm desperate but because at times it pays to look past what's on the outside
if you mean just don't like full stop then no |
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What is attractive to the op just may not do it for others.
But it's a narrow viewpoint that would assume that difference equals desperation.
Even for long term relationships the person who others may judge as unattractive may be solid gold to another, because their needs and values are unique. Don't write people off nor think that you know best.
Be content if you're getting what you want from your life and wish for others to live as they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely attraction takes many forms! As in just because someone is not physically attractive does not mean that they are not mentally.
It's like not all of us are oil paintings LoL so if that was just the looks that urns you in there would be a lot of horney non satisfied people.
I for one would far more want to fuck someone with the same dirty mind as me rather than someone who has model looks perfect skin e.c.t
I have had quite a few what most would call sexy woman in looks but have been a total waste of time sexually.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't call it desperation at all.
Just because you don't fancy someone doesn't mean you wouldn't have sex with them...
You could easily be attracted to their body and just want that. Or if you have a connection with them and get on well, you may still want to sleep with them.
It's a complex question really but branding someone desperate is unfair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's a definite no no for me. And often I'm judged on that. They tell me it's a sex site or you can't be too choosy. Well actually I can mate!!! If I wanted a quick shag I'd be doing it on a weekend after drinking my body weight in alcohopops!!!! Then waking up the next day wondering did I didn't I. Who is this next to me!!!!
We all have standards and as we all have a type I believe being attracted to someone's mind as well as their body is paramount.
Xx"
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