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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What would you do, if anything about a neighbour who consistently refuses to strap their toddler into their car seat?
As a parent myself I think it fucking irresponsible not withstanding the illegality of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would you do, if anything about a neighbour who consistently refuses to strap their toddler into their car seat?
As a parent myself I think it fucking irresponsible not withstanding the illegality of it."
Its a hard one, I would have a small fit if any of my kids didnt have seat belts on and id expect the same of any responsible parent. But telling another parent to do it is inviting an argument |
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I'd have a quite word and mention if I saw it happening again I would contact someone that they would be prepared to listen to.
I would take the friendly approach first though and not be confrontational. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd have a quite word and mention if I saw it happening again I would contact someone that they would be prepared to listen to.
I would take the friendly approach first though and not be confrontational."
Tried that a year ago, no joy.
Well- they did for a while- but not any more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh I'd seriously consider reporting it. My concern would be for the childs welfare, not the adults. At the end of the day the child isn't in the position to protect themselves. Would also love to know if they had the car seat professionally fitted. Whats the point if you don't strap them in? Don't think I could live with myself if, god forbid, anything happened to the child and I could have helped prevent it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would you do, if anything about a neighbour who consistently refuses to strap their toddler into their car seat?
As a parent myself I think it fucking irresponsible not withstanding the illegality of it."
Is the child wearing a seatbelt at all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps print some news articles from the internet which provide graphic news reports about the tragic consequences of such inappropriate behaviour and anonymously pop them through her letter box...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh I'd seriously consider reporting it. My concern would be for the childs welfare, not the adults. At the end of the day the child isn't in the position to protect themselves. Would also love to know if they had the car seat professionally fitted. Whats the point if you don't strap them in? Don't think I could live with myself if, god forbid, anything happened to the child and I could have helped prevent it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Tbh I'd seriously consider reporting it. My concern would be for the childs welfare, not the adults. At the end of the day the child isn't in the position to protect themselves. Would also love to know if they had the car seat professionally fitted. Whats the point if you don't strap them in? Don't think I could live with myself if, god forbid, anything happened to the child and I could have helped prevent it. "
I couldn't give a toss about the parents but the idea of a 2 year old being caterpaulted through the windscreen because of their stupid parents doesn't sit well with me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What would you do, if anything about a neighbour who consistently refuses to strap their toddler into their car seat?
As a parent myself I think it fucking irresponsible not withstanding the illegality of it.
Is the child wearing a seatbelt at all?"
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No x |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've faced this problem when I was a taxi driver. The woman said I can't strap him in because he doesn't like it. My reply was then your going nowhere. The mother strapped him in and he screamed like.... well, a baby. I told the mother I can't possibly drive with your child screaming like that and distracting me, you'll have to either shut him up or get a bus. In the end they got out and was shocked when I said £5 please, then she stated screaming... you never took us anywhere. No I didn't but I turned up for you, £5 please. She wasn't happy but I got my fare.
Motto of this story, keep your kids under control and teach them manners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They could be letting the child play with knives and dog poo in their home. Or letting it walk downstairs with a glass in it's hand. You can't police other people's parenting skills. A policeman may spot the child in the car and fine them. That might make a difference. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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I normally mind my own business on how other people should or shouldn't be or do. Commenting to people how they should look after their own children is rarely ever a good move.
If it's grating you that much say something to them, maybe in jest. They'll either take it as it's meant or tell you to mind your own business. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
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I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've faced this problem when I was a taxi driver. The woman said I can't strap him in because he doesn't like it. My reply was then your going nowhere. The mother strapped him in and he screamed like.... well, a baby. I told the mother I can't possibly drive with your child screaming like that and distracting me, you'll have to either shut him up or get a bus. In the end they got out and was shocked when I said £5 please, then she stated screaming... you never took us anywhere. No I didn't but I turned up for you, £5 please. She wasn't happy but I got my fare.
Motto of this story, keep your kids under control and teach them manners."
How old was the child? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people."
Excuse me?! 
You asked for opinions, that's mine. Don't like it, don't bloody well ask. 
Wasn't turning anything on you, talk about over reacting!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people.
Excuse me?!
You asked for opinions, that's mine. Don't like it, don't bloody well ask.
Wasn't turning anything on you, talk about over reacting! "
Yes you did- you tried to make me feel guilty.
And if you don't like it- I suggest you pick another thread.
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I've faced this problem when I was a taxi driver. The woman said I can't strap him in because he doesn't like it. My reply was then your going nowhere. The mother strapped him in and he screamed like.... well, a baby. I told the mother I can't possibly drive with your child screaming like that and distracting me, you'll have to either shut him up or get a bus. In the end they got out and was shocked when I said £5 please, then she stated screaming... you never took us anywhere. No I didn't but I turned up for you, £5 please. She wasn't happy but I got my fare.
Motto of this story, keep your kids under control and teach them manners.
How old was the child?"
Not sure around 3ish I'd guess. No way was I moving without him strapped in. If I'd have got caught, I'd have faced the rap and a fine. No way am I or would I pay for someone else's stupidity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people.
Excuse me?!
You asked for opinions, that's mine. Don't like it, don't bloody well ask.
Wasn't turning anything on you, talk about over reacting!
Yes you did- you tried to make me feel guilty.
And if you don't like it- I suggest you pick another thread.
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No I did not. I said that I would report them and gave a reason why but from the perspective of your position. 
No need to be rude. As for pick another thread? Sorry I thought that on a public forum I could comment on a post from someone who is usually polite and friendly, (nocturnal roll call) without getting bitched at. |
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Right op, its over a year since you spoke to them. Your obviously concerned. Have a word with social services or health visitor or something then you can put your mind at rest that you've done what you can. If they don't take note there is nothing more you can do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've faced this problem when I was a taxi driver. The woman said I can't strap him in because he doesn't like it. My reply was then your going nowhere. The mother strapped him in and he screamed like.... well, a baby. I told the mother I can't possibly drive with your child screaming like that and distracting me, you'll have to either shut him up or get a bus. In the end they got out and was shocked when I said £5 please, then she stated screaming... you never took us anywhere. No I didn't but I turned up for you, £5 please. She wasn't happy but I got my fare.
Motto of this story, keep your kids under control and teach them manners.
How old was the child?
Not sure around 3ish I'd guess. No way was I moving without him strapped in. If I'd have got caught, I'd have faced the rap and a fine. No way am I or would I pay for someone else's stupidity."
Well funnily enough I looked in to the laws surrounding this and it might be legal for emergency journeys and unplanned taxi rides.
Which doesn't make it ethical, of course x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Right op, its over a year since you spoke to them. Your obviously concerned. Have a word with social services or health visitor or something then you can put your mind at rest that you've done what you can. If they don't take note there is nothing more you can do."
Oops good suggestion, I never considered social services x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people."
Some people are nutters and don't deserve to be parents. Probably best to say and do nothing. Ignore the weirdo types. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people.
Some people are nutters and don't deserve to be parents. Probably best to say and do nothing. Ignore the weirdo types. "
Yep- Christmas Eve she slashed his front tyres and he had her by the throat over the bonnet of their car. |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales |
"I've faced this problem when I was a taxi driver. The woman said I can't strap him in because he doesn't like it. My reply was then your going nowhere. The mother strapped him in and he screamed like.... well, a baby. I told the mother I can't possibly drive with your child screaming like that and distracting me, you'll have to either shut him up or get a bus. In the end they got out and was shocked when I said £5 please, then she stated screaming... you never took us anywhere. No I didn't but I turned up for you, £5 please. She wasn't happy but I got my fare.
Motto of this story, keep your kids under control and teach them manners.
How old was the child?
Not sure around 3ish I'd guess. No way was I moving without him strapped in. If I'd have got caught, I'd have faced the rap and a fine. No way am I or would I pay for someone else's stupidity.
Well funnily enough I looked in to the laws surrounding this and it might be legal for emergency journeys and unplanned taxi rides.
Which doesn't make it ethical, of course x"
That's quite true but he was just a spoilt kid with a mother that didn't care. I did, for her, her son and my livelihood.
I had another guy that I was taking to hospital and he told me to drive through red lights. My reply was if you wanna drive through red lights you should have rang an ambulance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people."
Very tough one because I understand where you're coming from. Working with the public its easy to see those who just don't give a damn, or just don't have the common sense to look after their kids properly. My workplace is seen as a creche to leave their kids at while the parents bugger off shopping for a bit. One little lad was left standing playing at the video games section for 45 minutes!! I just kept making sure he was okay every 5 minutes. Turns out his Dad had buggered off to the bookies!! I was so angry that he'd left him on his own in the middle of the city centre for that length of time that I had a quiet word that it was out of order and got nothing but abuse and threatened, after making sure his kid was alright all that time. |
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"Then I'd report them. All very well people saying mind your own business, bit if they have an accident and the child is hurt, or worse, how are you going to feel knowing you could've done something?
I don't appreciate you turning this on me!
I am not the one playing fast and loose with my childs' safety.
If I report them, I could well become the subject of their hate, it being obvious that I have tried to discuss it with them previously.
They are not particularly reasonable people.
Some people are nutters and don't deserve to be parents. Probably best to say and do nothing. Ignore the weirdo types.
Yep- Christmas Eve she slashed his front tyres and he had her by the throat over the bonnet of their car."
oh my suggestion was going to be having a young child yourself you would be in touch with health care workers anyway for developments and assessments. I was going to say mention it and ask their advice. From what you've said must now I'd let them get on with it as no seatbelt isn't the only thing that's causing the child harm and if that's now they behave I'm sure social services will all ready be involved
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