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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since I've been on here I've had a bit of cirtisicm regarding my hair. Yes, it's long. Not untidy, but long. I don't know why this should be a selling point. Most guys my age are losing their hair if they haven't already. Where this a strength for the bilical character Sampson, for me on Fab this appears to be a weakness. I have so much more offer than the length of my hair.  |
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over a year ago
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"Since I've been on here I've had a bit of cirtisicm regarding my hair. Yes, it's long. Not untidy, but long. I don't know why this should be a selling point. Most guys my age are losing their hair if they haven't already. Where this a strength for the bilical character Sampson, for me on Fab this appears to be a weakness. I have so much more offer than the length of my hair. "
Some folk like long hair and some folk don't.
Would you have sex with someone you didn't fancy? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people"
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly. "
Not totally butt ugly is as much a preference as anything else and is a physical influence
You don't want butt ugly but they could be so much more than their butt ugliness
Some people don't want men with long hair,nothing you can do about it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly.
Not totally butt ugly is as much a preference as anything else and is a physical influence
You don't want butt ugly but they could be so much more than their butt ugliness
Some people don't want men with long hair,nothing you can do about it "
Not really, everyone has a line they won't cross. I've slept with many women in wasn't physically attracted to but they've ended being some of my better relationships.
If I said I didn't want be with someone coz their tits are too small or too much cellulite and stretch marks (both of which are not turn offs) then I get the feeling that would make shallow in many people's eyes. A few hours spend with a guy with long hair is no different than anything else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love long hair on a guy, it depends on the guy though and if he can pull it off, the hair alone won't make me attracted to him but on the right look I love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly.
Not totally butt ugly is as much a preference as anything else and is a physical influence
You don't want butt ugly but they could be so much more than their butt ugliness
Some people don't want men with long hair,nothing you can do about it
Not really, everyone has a line they won't cross. I've slept with many women in wasn't physically attracted to but they've ended being some of my better relationships.
If I said I didn't want be with someone coz their tits are too small or too much cellulite and stretch marks (both of which are not turn offs) then I get the feeling that would make shallow in many people's eyes. A few hours spend with a guy with long hair is no different than anything else "
You are attracted by older women. Some are attracted by long hair. Some aren't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly.
Not totally butt ugly is as much a preference as anything else and is a physical influence
You don't want butt ugly but they could be so much more than their butt ugliness
Some people don't want men with long hair,nothing you can do about it
Not really, everyone has a line they won't cross. I've slept with many women in wasn't physically attracted to but they've ended being some of my better relationships.
If I said I didn't want be with someone coz their tits are too small or too much cellulite and stretch marks (both of which are not turn offs) then I get the feeling that would make shallow in many people's eyes. A few hours spend with a guy with long hair is no different than anything else "
Lots of men turn women down due to body size etc it's not shallow its sexual attraction, why would you have sex with somebody your not attracted to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What I mean is I go deeper than physical attraction. This is getting way off topic now "
So do I, but I find long hair on men to be a total turn-off, can't be bothered "seeing beyond it". Long hair, by the way, is your choice, unlike scars, height, cock size, saggy tits, post-pregnancy stretch marks.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can talk all day long about attraction being deeper than physical but,on here,people can be shallow. If you can't accept that you can make yourself more appealing by conforming,or go. You won't make anyone think differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What I mean is I go deeper than physical attraction. This is getting way off topic now "
Me too for a relationship, if your spending your life with somebody they need to be more than good looking, in my opinion anyway
If I'm just meeting them off here for a shag then, call me shallow, looks matter and I'm not shagging anybody off a sex site don't fancy
I'm only meeting them for a shag, what's in their heart don't really matter a few hours later I'll be gone and never see them again |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Since I've been on here I've had a bit of cirtisicm regarding my hair. Yes, it's long. Not untidy, but long. I don't know why this should be a selling point. Most guys my age are losing their hair if they haven't already. Where this a strength for the bilical character Sampson, for me on Fab this appears to be a weakness. I have so much more offer jthan the length of my hair. "
Most people have preferences of some kind of other. Not finding long hair on a man attractive is a preference. Just as some woman don't find bald men attractive.
*shrugs* Nobody will appeal to everyone. You seem to complain about this a fair bit OP, you'll be much happier when you just accept it and concentrate on those who do like it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What I mean is I go deeper than physical attraction. This is getting way off topic now
Me too for a relationship, if your spending your life with somebody they need to be more than good looking, in my opinion anyway
If I'm just meeting them off here for a shag then, call me shallow, looks matter and I'm not shagging anybody off a sex site don't fancy
I'm only meeting them for a shag, what's in their heart don't really matter a few hours later I'll be gone and never see them again "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Since I've been on here I've had a bit of cirtisicm regarding my hair. Yes, it's long. Not untidy, but long. I don't know why this should be a selling point. Most guys my age are losing their hair if they haven't already. Where this a strength for the bilical character Sampson, for me on Fab this appears to be a weakness. I have so much more offer than the length of my hair. "
They don't want to meet you.
However much you have to offer, they aren't interested. That's entirely up to them.
Telling them they are wrong and complaining about it won't change anything and doesn't show you in the best light.
Not everyone will be attracted to you and there's no reason at all that you should expect them to meet you anyway because of all the other things you have to offer.
People looking for a relationship may be interested in everything else you have to offer. People looking for sex are more likely to be looking for physical attraction as a priority.
Saying "but I'll meet almost anyone, so anyone I want to meet should meet me", sounds a bit petulant, desperate and entitled to me.
Your way is not the right way or the only way and everybody here is free to choose a way that suits them. |
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"What I mean is I go deeper than physical attraction. This is getting way off topic now "
But you don't because you said you won't go with someone who is butt ugly. Perhaps those who don't like long hair think that makes someone butt ugly.
You seem very two faced about this and also a little desperate if you sleep with people you don't find attractive. |
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly.
Not totally butt ugly is as much a preference as anything else and is a physical influence
You don't want butt ugly but they could be so much more than their butt ugliness
Some people don't want men with long hair,nothing you can do about it
Not really, everyone has a line they won't cross. I've slept with many women in wasn't physically attracted to but they've ended being some of my better relationships.
If I said I didn't want be with someone coz their tits are too small or too much cellulite and stretch marks (both of which are not turn offs) then I get the feeling that would make shallow in many people's eyes. A few hours spend with a guy with long hair is no different than anything else "
This is casual sex for me why on earth would I have casual sex with someone I didn't find attractive  ? Are you saying that people who prefer a man with short hair are shallow? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You'd look so much better with that lobbed off. You'd feel like a new man! Go and get it done! Snip Snip meet meet. You can thank me after you've been to the barbers tomorrow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You'd look so much better with that lobbed off. You'd feel like a new man! Go and get it done! Snip Snip meet meet. You can thank me after you've been to the barbers tomorrow!"
Yeah cause all short haired men are inundated with offers on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You'd look so much better with that lobbed off. You'd feel like a new man! Go and get it done! Snip Snip meet meet. You can thank me after you've been to the barbers tomorrow!
Yeah cause all short haired men are inundated with offers on here "
You know what they say? The shorter the hair the bigger the (blank). Cometh the barber, cometh the man. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"In my case they meet my hair not me  can't win there "
Can't see your hair to comment but if it's well looked after, long hair is great but I like short too and I know this isn't a beard thread but they aren't for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my case they meet my hair not me can't win there
Can't see your hair to comment but if it's well looked after, long hair is great but I like short too and I know this isn't a beard thread but they aren't for me "
Let the beard, see the shaver. No likey to shitey! |
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Keep the long hair!
If you like it; stuff what anybody thinks:
Personally I think the really short hair/ shaved head on a man looks dreadful; but I am not going to be shagging men, so it doesn't matter .
Conversely, though; I do think women with short hair can look extremely sexy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Keep the long hair!
If you like it; stuff what anybody thinks:
Personally I think the really short hair/ shaved head on a man looks dreadful; but I am not going to be shagging men, so it doesn't matter .
Conversely, though; I do think women with short hair can look extremely sexy.
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Soz dude he's getting a 0.1 back and sides tomorrow with a couple of inches from top. He's getting a trendy new do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my case they meet my hair not me can't win there
Do you stay at home?  "
Yes, have to shave my beard regurlaly and send it to a girl in Northampton haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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keep the long hair,,,but ffs,,do something with it.
I'm thinking highlights,,n a cutesy updo style,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my case they meet my hair not me can't win there
Do you stay at home?
Yes, have to shave my beard regurlaly and send it to a girl in Northampton haha "
Oh next time you shave i'll swap it for a pair of warn knickers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"keep the long hair,,,but ffs,,do something with it.
I'm thinking highlights,,n a cutesy updo style,, "
What's a cutesy updo? |
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If it was a single random comment then ignore.
if it is a matter that keeps on popping up, then start to take notice and listen to what they are trying to tell you.
A smart clean haircut and a clean shave would make you more attractive to some people! You have a choice to remove the objections to meeting you.
And you would look 10 years younger without the long hair and ponytail.
Move with the times, as you are no longer 19 years of age.
Or stay as you are and get no meets!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"keep the long hair,,,but ffs,,do something with it.
I'm thinking highlights,,n a cutesy updo style,,
What's a cutesy updo? "
Dare you to Google it |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think the OP should change to get meets. If he does, they may not be the meets he wants.
I don't think people should tell him to change to get meets. We should all be true to ourselves.
That said, we all have to realise we won't be everyone's type.
Everyone has the option to make changes, if they want, but should do it because they want to. If it's done for any other reason, such as to get more meets, the results may be disappointing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a single random comment then ignore.
if it is a matter that keeps on popping up, then start to take notice and listen to what they are trying to tell you.
A smart clean haircut and a clean shave would make you more attractive to some people! You have a choice to remove the objections to meeting you.
And you would look 10 years younger without the long hair and ponytail.
Move with the times, as you are no longer 19 years of age.
Or stay as you are and get no meets! "
Oh what rubbish advice
Never change who you are for a random shag off here that's just silly
Also smacks desperation to me
Besides some women like long hair and beards
I mean I wouldn't kick Zakk Wylde out of bed for giving me a Dutch oven |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a single random comment then ignore.
if it is a matter that keeps on popping up, then start to take notice and listen to what they are trying to tell you.
A smart clean haircut and a clean shave would make you more attractive to some people! You have a choice to remove the objections to meeting you.
And you would look 10 years younger without the long hair and ponytail.
Move with the times, as you are no longer 19 years of age.
Or stay as you are and get no meets!
Oh what rubbish advice
Never change who you are for a random shag off here that's just silly
Also smacks desperation to me
Besides some women like long hair and beards
I mean I wouldn't kick Zakk Wylde out of bed for giving me a Dutch oven "
He's a bugger for it that one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think the OP should change to get meets. If he does, they may not be the meets he wants.
I don't think people should tell him to change to get meets. We should all be true to ourselves.
That said, we all have to realise we won't be everyone's type.
Everyone has the option to make changes, if they want, but should do it because they want to. If it's done for any other reason, such as to get more meets, the results may be disappointing. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Didn't read everything, scrolled down to the bottom in a panic when i saw mention of cutting your hair off.
Noooo. Don't cut your hair to get meets!!
Most guys struggle on here anyway, look like what you wanna look like. It's only sex with people who don't care about anything much more than themselves and getting the sex they want, why would you wanna change yourself for them? They don't have your best interests at heart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh what rubbish advice
Never change who you are for a random shag off here that's just silly
Also smacks desperation to me
Besides some women like long hair and beards
I mean I wouldn't kick Zakk Wylde out of bed for giving me a Dutch oven "
Should i or shoulnt i ask about the dutch oven? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I didn't day anything about cutting hair. Holy shit no. I just wanted to know what people's deal was with long. On here I can get idea of what people think, compared to the real world where people look at the ground rather than make an connection |
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"I didn't day anything about cutting hair. Holy shit no. I just wanted to know what people's deal was with long. On here I can get idea of what people think, compared to the real world where people look at the ground rather than make an connection "
I was a teenager in the seventies there were loads of my male peers with long hair it isn't something that bothers me on a day to day basis. |
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By *jj46Man
over a year ago
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"I love long hair on a guy, it depends on the guy though and if he can pull it off, the hair alone won't make me attracted to him but on the right look I love it "
I used to have long hair before it all fell out |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"If it was a single random comment then ignore.
if it is a matter that keeps on popping up, then start to take notice and listen to what they are trying to tell you.
A smart clean haircut and a clean shave would make you more attractive to some people! You have a choice to remove the objections to meeting you.
And you would look 10 years younger without the long hair and ponytail.
Move with the times, as you are no longer 19 years of age.
Or stay as you are and get no meets!
Oh what rubbish advice
Never change who you are for a random shag off here that's just silly
Also smacks desperation to me
Besides some women like long hair and beards"
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"If I was a women (debatable some times) I would like a guy with longer hair than myself. Again that's just me being hypothetical.
Wouldn't*"
Doesn't bother me. Mr B's hair is often longer than mine.
But I do put my foot down and dont like sharing my hair straighteners and products. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love long hair on a guy, it depends on the guy though and if he can pull it off, the hair alone won't make me attracted to him but on the right look I love it I used to have long hair before it all fell out "
Just comb your eyebrows back |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"If I was a women (debatable some times) I would like a guy with longer hair than myself. Again that's just me being hypothetical.
Wouldn't*
Doesn't bother me. Mr B's hair is often longer than mine.
But I do put my foot down and dont like sharing my hair straighteners and products. "
You both have great hair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose hair is part of someone's overall look, which is part of their attraction or otherwise.
Longer hair on men doesn't do much for me - I mainly like baldies at the moment |
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"What I mean is I go deeper than physical attraction. This is getting way off topic now "
I go way beyond what's on the outside too but I'm not a fan of long hair on a bloke. Mainly because I have enough issues with removing my own hair from the plug hole, the thought of having to do that with someone else's hair makes me want to gag. 
It's not particularly rational but there it is. |
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"I suppose hair is part of someone's overall look, which is part of their attraction or otherwise.
Longer hair on men doesn't do much for me - I mainly like baldies at the moment "
*coughs* good evening. ..you called? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My hair comes down to my back and ive grown it for over 13 years .. Its maintained and tied up. Never has it caused me an issue. Ive met women who dont like it and have changed opinions after.. But ive also had women who dont like it but still dont mind.. It can be fun, and it does make one stand out i think.. Whats the point of being clean shaved and short haired its the expected these days.. Id prefere being diffrent even if it ment no meets tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I expect you have your own preferences about what you want as well
Long hair/short hair/bald is a preference for some people
Not really. I've been with women who are thinning on top. I'm an all shapes and sizes kind of guy, try not let the physical be the influence. As long as not totally butt ugly and smelly. "
For me its about attraction, im not attracted to guys with long hair |
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