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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been trying to contact my ex all day, she was suppose to come get our son for a sleep over, at 10 this morning, her phone is switched off, but she did manage to post pics on face book of her and her friend hammered, I know Thursday is rant day, but I just had to get it off my chest.
Luckily, he's having a good day playing with his friend next door, but I know its going to be tears before bedtime, when he realises he's been let down again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been trying to contact my ex all day, she was suppose to come get our son for a sleep over, at 10 this morning, her phone is switched off, but she did manage to post pics on face book of her and her friend hammered, I know Thursday is rant day, but I just had to get it off my chest.
Luckily, he's having a good day playing with his friend next door, but I know its going to be tears before bedtime, when he realises he's been let down again "
its always bad when the one person that lets them down is the one other person that they should be looking up to...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been trying to contact my ex all day, she was suppose to come get our son for a sleep over, at 10 this morning, her phone is switched off, but she did manage to post pics on face book of her and her friend hammered, I know Thursday is rant day, but I just had to get it off my chest.
Luckily, he's having a good day playing with his friend next door, but I know its going to be tears before bedtime, when he realises he's been let down again "
awww rotten sod that she is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't ever tell the kid she's coming, that way she's only pissing you off and the kid won't feel let down. If someone's flaky and can't be trusted it's your job to protect your kid from that. |
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All you can do is be there for him. To reassure him that its her not him who is the issue. Though I'm sure you already do that. I couldn't imagine either myself or my children's Dad not being there for my children when I've arranged to be (we're separated).
I feel for you both. Xx |
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By *arksMan
over a year ago
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"There should be nothing more important than your kids. There certainly isn't for me...."
Sadly thats not the case for some , I would cancel anything for my kids and they dont seem to be able to comprehend that as their mum puts everything and everyone before them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel for you - nothing worse than when a parent can't out feeling for their ex to one side and be a parent. It's the most natural thing in the world for a kid to look up to their parents and devastating for them when the parent shatters that for them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't ever tell the kid she's coming, that way she's only pissing you off and the kid won't feel let down. If someone's flaky and can't be trusted it's your job to protect your kid from that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't ever tell the kid she's coming, that way she's only pissing you off and the kid won't feel let down. If someone's flaky and can't be trusted it's your job to protect your kid from that. "
I was going to say this. If you don't tell him he won't feel let down and when she turns up it's a nice surprise for him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats a shame. Maybe you could suggest a sleep over with the wee friend he's playing with. Not the same but he might enjoy a boys night."
This sounds like a good wee plan for him |
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I feel for you I went through this for a long time with my ex. He just wasn't interested anymore but he's the one that's lost out. I've got a beautiful, confident and clever 15 year old daughter and he's got nothing as she's chosen not to see him. I've for a long while pushed her to maintain that relationship as I feel it's important but she's now old enough to make her own decisions.
Have a special fun night with your boy instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's shite when it happens. I'd not bother trying to contact her any more, as she's the one in the wrong. Unfortunately, some people have no idea of the ramifications of their actions.
Is it better to tell him earlier that plans have changed and he's staying with you, no need to say why. Then he's less tired when you tell him and hopefully will have a cry, but then enjoy the rest of the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with others never say whens she's coming that way he doesn't suffer with feelings of rejection Sadly kids blame themselves when parents don't show them the love they deserve. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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She insisted on telling him she was comming, but I've just told him she's not coming, and he just said "what, again" no tears, no tantrums, she's going to lose him if she's not careful, there will come a time when he won't go with her, and then its her own fault, still, pizza for tea, and probably star wars, or frozen on dvd, but I did say we can go get his sister tomorrow and go for lunch, that made him smile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She insisted on telling him she was comming, but I've just told him she's not coming, and he just said "what, again" no tears, no tantrums, she's going to lose him if she's not careful, there will come a time when he won't go with her, and then its her own fault, still, pizza for tea, and probably star wars, or frozen on dvd, but I did say we can go get his sister tomorrow and go for lunch, that made him smile"
Sounds like he'll have a great evening. Children see more than we realise and there comes a time when they will say - enough is enough. Then he will see his mum, on his terms, if at all.
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